I always find things on your site (your posts, the Oracle, or daily horoscopes) that are completely relevant to whatever is happening in my life at the time. This is why I’ve been a loyal subscriber for so many years now! But I’m also old and wise enough to recognize when I’m hurtling down an astrologically-influenced rabbit hole and on the verge of possibly doing something stupid.
So I’ve been reading about this Venus-Pluto opposition in your Daily Mystic missives and my daily horoscopes. All keep talking about “a stealth sensuality/steady growth of an attraction or affinity with Venus-Pluto.” Oh, and I’m a Gemini, Moon in Virgo, Aqua ascendant.
This is all coinciding with a sudden intensification of a work flirtation I’m having with a Scorpio – it’s a little scary how on-point the timing of it all is with the Venus-Pluto stuff. I’m newish at the job where I met him….as always when I meet Scorpios of the male persuasion, there was an instant “something” between us.
He’s got some weird ascetic diet thing and is ex-military, so he swans around the office is tight clothes (though it’s basically the same uniform everyday), all bulging muscles and a bag of protein powder that he seems to utilize in place of meals. Hardcore self-discipline…so naturally that was the first thing I started teasing him about.That, and the fact that he completely didn’t remember meeting me, and reintroduced himself to me the very next day. When I said “yeah, we met yesterday” he acted embarrassed and proceeded to avoid me/act awkward for weeks afterwards.
Then I ended up seated across from him at a company social event and laughingly called him out on all of this. It broke the ice in a big way…and after that I was added to his rotation of desks he would stop by to have a chat. With each conversation, we seemed to discover random things we had in common or interests. An affinity for speaking Spanish, for instance. Then, just this week, he asked me to go for coffee with him. Solo. I was surprised and also quite pleased as I had firmly moved into “harmless work crush territory with him.
You see, I have a history of indulging in the (mostly) harmless work crush. It keeps my restless mind occupied and I feel happier about going into the office everyday, especially when my day-to-day tasks bore me (as they do now). So, win-win, right? As a Gemini, I am absolutely fine with keeping crushes in the realm of fantasy because I know that what plays out in my head is much better than any messy reality would be. Especially because neither of us are available! I, at least, am very much unavailable. Although not married, I have a baby with my Libra soulmate and although our relationship has been troubled lately, we are also very much committed to working on it and it’s getting better and better.
Still…probably also explains why I’m vulnerable at this moment to crushes. Grass is greener, and all that.
But, something feels very heightened about all this. When the Scorpio asked me to coffee, I dropped a tidbit of info about myself that seemed to rivet his attention right quick. To the point where we walked past our office building so we could keep talking about it. Now I find myself wondering when and how our next conversation will happen. I am keenly aware of his physical presence in the office (it’s a small one).
I always know when he’s nearby and I get all the same vibes from him. I know he’s dating around, but don’t know how involved he is. My babydaddy and I have talked rather seriously before about the logic of being in a somewhat “open” relationship so I am telling myself it might even be ok were this to get a little physical. And now that’s all I can think about. 8th house of sex and all that.
So….my question is…am I being a total Love Zombie? I recognize the perfect storm that could result from fixating on a work crush (even one with a legitimate and rather smouldering two-way attraction) as a way to distract myself from being unhappy with my job (I work for a control freak Capp from hell who is currently under investigation with HR), and the issues I’m having at home.
Do I fight like hell to get ahold of my maybe-not-so-harmless-or-whimsical Gemini fantasy life? Or do I let myself enjoy the “stealth sensuality” of it all and get to know this Scorp better? Or run like hell in the other direction?
When is it actually OK to just go with where a transit is leading you?
Not Sure I can Think My Way Out of This One,
Gemini (Lightning Butterfly)
Hi Gemini Lightning Butterfly,
Ah yes – The (mostly harmless) Work Crush. Many an otherwise tedious office or job environment has been thus enlivened. But this sounds a bit beyond the usual W.C. So no doubt the situation with you and Military Scorpio IS heightened or charged with some sort of extra-to-work chemistry.
BUT has it occurred to you that Saturn in your opposite sign of Sagittarius is a bit of a player here, if not the protagonist? That the responsibilities of working ‘under’ a Control Freak Capricorn, caring for a new baby AND a relationship that – soulmate or not – you are having to also ‘work on’ could be onerous? So it would be absolutely understandable for your mind to be straying in the zone of something that feels enticing, flattering and – yes – actual fun.
And yes, a massive proportion of people DO meet via their work while others do fall in love while still in an existing relationship. However – and this is the cold shower sector of the Lecture Rant – think this through.
As one Aquarius Rising to another, do you really want to clutter up your life with a second relationship? Regardless of whether or not you are in an open relationship, you can’t really have a casual fling with someone you work with. Or, arguably, with Military Scorpio.
Transits don’t lead you anywhere, although anything with Pluto involved can certainly feel compelling. You lead yourself. Transits arouse energies and dimensions within yourself – if they are an aspect of yourself that you have neglected or which needs to come alive at this point, a person does often walk in to your life who reminds you of that.
But really, has it occurred to you that quite apart from his muscles and intriguing persona, Military Scorpio is really just a chimera for you to fall back into love with your self?
This may be too much Mercury in Aries frankness but I think an affair with Military Scorpio whom you also work with and a baby at home IS too much to handle. It would be setting yourself up for s**t on multiple fronts if even one factor of this were to go awry. And my god, your Control Freak Capricorn boss would probably relish the opportunity to divert H.R. attention to you, right?
Yes to ‘stealth sensuality’ or recreational fantasizing – no to getting to know Scorpio better or going down any rabbit holes. Also, are open relationships that work really well with raising a young child really a thing? Thoughts from everyone totally welcome. Am I being too harsh? And wow, what was the “tidbit of info” you dropped to the Military Scorpio that riveted his attention?
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