Feng Shui Bad Neighbor Hell? What can you do when you can’t move, but your neighbor is an Energy Vampire? Thankfully, there are techniques. If you’re speed reading this and looking for a solution, here is the short version. Put a line of salt along your threshold. It’s old school, but it works. It is like the castor oil pack of House Witchery.
I had a massive falling-out with an (ex) friend before Xmas. Unfortunately, she lives next door to me: Our front doors face each other, and our doormats are less than one foot apart. She leaves her door open all the time. I love my qi flow too, but also like my privacy and like to respect others. I am doing my best to avoid, be zen, ignore the pass-aggro acts, and not react, but it is internalizing and driving me mental.
I am a pretty intuitive Cancerian, and she is a scary-psychic Pisces. We are both mega sensitive and reactive with lots of fire and water in our charts. We both smudge and use crystals etc.
My gut feeling and intellect tell me this person is mega-needy, manipulative, and plays games if things don’t go her way. She seems to get what she wants after tons of drama.
Cutting to the chase: I am a bit scared of doing a “Get fuq’d and stay fuq’d” type chant as I don’t want to wish her ill-will or create a lousy karma situation for myself. I want her out of my (previously) peaceful life and home environment, out of the flat next door, off my doorstep, and out of my head. A friend suggests I need to be okay with her being there. I’ve tried, but it’s hard. Any advice?
In other situations, I would cut my losses, pack my bags, call the removalist, and find another place, but I don’t have the luxury or the energy. And I was here first; this apartment is one of the best things that has happened in my life after years of moving frequently and not having my own space. I’m also recovering from significant health problems, to which stress was a contributing factor, and don’t have any more energy to waste on this situation. That said, I have learned some MASSIVE lessons through this drama (with the help of my psychologist) and am working on gratitude.
Cancerian In An Eclipse
Dear Cancerian In An Eclipse,
I understand the stress of this and how frustrating to have found a place you like but now this! It would perturb anyone, but your Power-Lair is extra-vital as a Cancerian, and it seems to be threatened. Or is it. Let’s look at some of the better facets of your dilemma.
You are in a place you love. Imagine if you loathed it but, for practical reasons, could not move.
Additionally, it is better to have a powerful woman living next door to you than a skeevy gentleman or a person you knew was mean to their children or pets.
So don’t put up anything that says “dispelling dark energy” – like a gargoyle or even ba gua mirror. They can reverberate in bizarre ways if you are not completely sure of what you’re doing or if you’re regaining your vitality after an illness, as you are!
This scenario you are conjuring makes me think of two potent witches living side by side or Bette Davis and Joan Crawford in Whatever Happened To Baby Jane. Not that either of you is decrepit or bitter, more the concept of two powerful females at loggerheads but with, deep down, an affinity.
Strategically, to be Machiavellian about it, being the person reaching out to resolve this eloquently puts YOU in the power position. You’re playing to your worst Cancerian tendencies by holding the grudge, and you could inadvertently feed the situation.
Have you considered visiting her on a day with a diplomatic Moon or fabulous astrology in general and tinkling around some charm? Don’t linger – have someplace to go – but arrive with flowers, chocolate, or fancy incense and simply be light. If there is an actual rift due to a particular reason, acknowledge it but signal that you’re moving on.
You can maintain diplomatic relations with a person/country without necessarily approving of everything about them/it. And you can limit your engagement to a level you are comfortable with. Or are you saying that this person is one of those All or Nothing people?
Magic-wise put a discreet line of salt across your threshold and a small deity statue or image representing the ruler of your Home sector in the birth chart. So if your 4th House is – say – Taurus, make it a Venusian vibe.
You could also look at the Flying Stars Feng Shui for the year? Is it possible that a harmonious entry star has been affected by a yearly influence? You could get a Feng Shui consult or figure it out via a flying star calculator online.
Rather than concentrating on your Piscean neighbor’s perfidy or poxy personality, elevate your vibe – you, the house, everything. And, if she does harbor horrible intentions toward you or is an etheric grifter, the line of salt should flush her out!
What does everyone else think?