I don’t remember when i first came across the term “Twin Flames” but I know I had been drinking. It was a long time ago, back when Neptune was still in Aquarius and I was a Love Zombie. The very concept of Twin Flames blew my mind. Everything was a fit. Meeting through a weird coincidence? Yes! Number 11 everywhere all the damn time? Yes! It is always 11.11. in the Love Zombie alternative galaxy. The mysterious other half of your self like Plato said? Yes!
Fuq reading any more of Plato other than that bit about being in a wondrous blur of amazement when you meet the person. What else? White feathers? No. But does a bird flying past and actually shitting on one’s head count? The same day he emailed? Yes! Clearly a strong omen of impending Twin Flame-Out rather than any sort of an avian commentary on one’s hair.
So are there astrological indicators of a “karmic connection”? Yes, of course.
For example? The strong synergy between inner planets and the other person’s South Node. And vice versa. Pluto-Venus links. Strong activation of any of these at the time of the meeting. Eclipses specialize in springing karmic connections upon us. Eros & Psyche, the so-called Soul-Mating asteroids. I did a book about those two in 2003 and it is still my most ripped-off content. Not a month goes by where i do not receive notice of yet another “Twin Flame” site having cut and pasted the whole thing. I literally do not have the time to run DMCA actions on them all.
The Twin Flame sites often have little animations of flames and nouveau naff new-age art to illustrate their fervent tales of time crossed loves. Plato is a fave. (For a more nuanced take on what Plato actually said and wrote about the “other half” see here.) Wuthering Heights is also a perennial hit in the Twin Flame genre. If we ran Heathcliff through any sort of contemporary diagnostic criteria, he would come off undateable, at the very least.
So if you have been hanging around here for a while, you will know that i think “it’s karmic” is the current “it’s complicated.” The concept of ‘karma’ is used to excuse the most non-desirable of relationship and Love Zombie dynamics. “I know that Twin Flame relationships are always riddled with obstacles and that’s the karma. But my Twin Flame owes me $9000 and now he is sleeping with my sister.”
There is a distinct cross over with the sort of scene where your heartburn, headaches, and flatulence – anything really – are blamed on Ascension symptoms.
Maybe it’s my Mars in Virgo but I believe there has to be a solid, Saturnine grounding in basic stoic philosophical principles before we try to layer on the magic. If you’re solvent and hard-working but the other person with whom you might be in a relationship prefers to grift and manipulate to avoid work, is this viable? Obviously not. Even if you can picture your once-upon-a-time-villa in Pompeii so vividly. It’s important to not confuse the tedious deja-vu of crap patriarchal dynamics with anything profound.
Is there really such a thing as a divinely ordained ‘other half’ who is our absolute lover-twin consort? A person we encounter and re-encounter life afterlife? I think not. I do believe in reincarnation. It has always seemed perfectly obvious to me. And of course, we would re-meet souls we had known before.
Just as you can sometimes be going about your business and encounter someone you literally spent a lot of time with a decade ago. And if there is strong synastry between people, there is always a super-relevant ping of Source Vibe between them.
But the actual concept of the “other half” itself seems rooted in the fantasies of historic males, wanting someone just like them. She (they were assuming opposite sex, it seems) would be intellectually nodding and going along with their every utterance.
She would presumably know exactly what they wanted sexually because they were, you know, the other half. There would be no arguments or unpleasant will to do something other than what they wanted. And it was kind of God’s will or whatever. It does not wash in this contemporary era. Why would you even want someone ‘just like you’ anyway?
Obviously, I am skeptical about the concept of the “Twin Flame” as it seems kind of vintage and patriarchal at base. And people can behave appallingly but it is all put down to “karmic consequences.” I don’t see why any modern person living in a democratic country needs to put up with it.
The old “My Twin Flame cannot handle the intensity of our connection so he is taking some space” crap. Or perhaps he just decided to spend more time with his wife and kids because he doesn’t want to fund a divorce.
Having said all that, I wrote most of this post before I went to bed last night and then returned to finish it on Sunday morning. I had a dream!!
This was the weirdest and most intense dream. In my dream, I was flying around the place, landing on roofs or branches. I LOVE flying dreams. And I met a man. He said his name was Michael Venus. We got along immediately. Or, more accurately, I knew him instantly. This was more recognition than a meeting. It was the most beautiful simpatico energy vibe.
He asked me to look at his birth chart, saying I will know who he is once I look. So I asked his birthdate and he said “September 8 – 18 eighty-something.” And I was like “What do you mean?” He said “I can’t recall my exact last birth year. It’s been a while. We only meet on the dream-scape at the moment.”
So I woke up #SHOOK – as the Pluto in Sagittarius kids say. So what of soulmates and astrology?
I now think that there are soulmating links but that the actual concept of a soulmate as the ideal partner is flawed.
Image: Patrick Nagel