Many of the mating and dating “complaints” I receive are to do with Libran guys.
“Passive-aggressive” and “manipulative” seem to be the most bandied about critiques, along with the obligatory acknowledgment of how charming and attractive these Venus-ruled people can be. Anecdotally, the women seem less problematic.
One of the main things people get wrong about Libra is to assume that they’re all mad for pair bonding. I mean, they are good at relationships and working in tandem with others but they’re not necessarily keen on monogamy. Libra IS the free love champion of the zodiac. Sure Gemini and Aquarius talk a good game about it but Geminis often like to have a key partner at home to “manage” things and Aquarius often prefers intense but non-existent affairs.
Whereas many a Libra is genuinely, at the base of their psyche, polyamorous. They’re rationalists and logically, why should their undoubted charm and grace be limited to just one person? As the Libran journalist Helen Rowland wrote, “marriage means giving up the attention of many men for the inattention of one.”
Add the Libra appreciation of aesthetic stimulus and their disdain for tedious details for an idea of how difficult dating a Libra can be. They are, however, relatively easy to wow: they’re scent addicts – yes, they will notice if you layer a high-concept fine fragrance – and they dislike fanatical-seeming opinions. Of course, anything outside of calm, measured, balanced and informed is potentially ‘fanatical.’
They’re also huge flirts and if you’re their partner, you can’t mind. It’s a Venusian thing and is usually not even sexual: they like to be liked and they love that exchange of mutual “wow factor.”
There is an array of first-hand Libra mating/dating tips in the comments that you may find helpful!
LavenderQueen is all for dating the Libra.
‘I am a Libra married to a Libra and I love my Libra man. I think we “balance” each other out well. He isn’t manipulative and you just have to point out that his passive aggressiveness is BS and he fixes it. The one thing he never does is make decisions.’
‘Ummm I’ve dates two Libras and I can’t disagree. One of them I consider a soulmate to this day but we couldn’t get it together because of life choices…even so I would still say he’s a total slut. Next dude broke my heart so hard I have romantic PTSD!’
Thoughts on Libra and dating?
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