At her Uranus Opposition, Hormonal Sea-Goat asks a poignant question. At what age or during what transit should you stop factoring in great sex?
Dear Mystic and Mystic Followers,
At what age, stage, or transit should you take “great sex” out of an equation? I ask because i am closer to Uranus Opposition than Saturn Return and i am about to have Saturn roll over my multiple Capricorn Sun, Moon and planets. I know enough to understand that this is going to demand maturity on my part and yes I have read every single post on Saturn here. Seriously, I am on board with Saturn values.
However, after a hiatus between relationships, I have recently taken up with someone who probably does not fit the Saturn template. He IS sane and solvent but we have nothing in common, no conversation that does not bore me and presumably him as well, completely different political values and well, he is like a Luddite with computers – he opens his snail mail with a hunting knife, and i am a vegetarian who works in mechatronics. You get the idea.
Uranus Opposition And Life-Affirming Great Sex
But the sex is life-affirmingly beyond belief incredible. I am reasonably sure that this copulation experience is worth ten thousand times every single treatment or healing I have ever had. I have a new hormone system operating thanks to this man or it sure as fuq feels like it. My doctor asked me what I was doing as my cholesterol and blood sugars were WAY down, and all the good things way up. I no longer need to wear make-up, my shitty knee fixed itself, i have a fantastic sleep.
But i am i living in a fool’s paradise? I can introduce this person to none of my friends – they are left-wing, and he is like a right-wing conspiracy nut. I would never live with him – he is a hoarder and collects technological relics. Should I get out of this before Saturn gets to Capricorn and think about someone more suitable? Or as he is Taurus (I know, I know) can i assume that Uranus into Taurus might make him different? Can you change a Taurus?
Hormonal Sea Goat.
Uranus Opposition Often Equals An Unconventional – For You – Affair And Well, He’s Perfect!
Dear Hormonal Sea-Goat,
Factoring it out of the equation entirely? Never. Saturn does have a lusty angle to it, you know – think of Pan and Dionysus. They’re an aspect of Saturn. And Capricorn IS an Earth sign. It’s not all cerebral. There is a Saturnine tone to the idea of just pragmatically prioritizing your real physical needs and spreading the other desires around your broader friendship circles.
It brings up an age-old question that is probably perfectly evident in ancient scrolls excavated from old temples and so on; can you have it all? Can you get it all in one relationship? Or is that Madonna-Whore schism just hard-wired into humanity, regardless of the gender or the relationship themes? The psychotherapist Esther Perel explores this theme brilliantly in Mating In Captivity.
Can Mars-Venus Hormonal Heat Last The Distance?
Also, what is the Taurus Luddite’s opinion of this? Does he think you are Ishtar reincarnated and he is already secretly studying treatises from your side of the cultural-political spectrum to find more common cognitive ground with you? Or is he compartmentalizing you/this thing as a “great root,” as we say in Australia?
The Conventional wisdom is that a Mars-Venus sex-based affinity cannot last the distance. If you want a significant, enduring relationship, there need to be other factors in play – strong Mercurial rapport, shared values (which is very Jupiter), comfort and ease together when not hard-at-it generating new forms of alien pheromones. Could this be wrong? Could Uranus in Taurus help to bring about new arrangements?
But with Saturn influencing a heap of your natal astral energies, yes you will no doubt desire a growth alliance. Can this deliver it? If great sex is ALL this is going to be, and there is no joining together to form a greater-than-your-parts whole, will it satisfy you under the steely lilac rays of Saturn? Or was it more of a Uranus Opposition blow out?
Now i have raised more questions than i have answered – what does everyone else think?