I have a soulmating report dilemma. I’ve been in love with my best friend for almost a year now, and I made the terrible mistake of doing a soulmating report for us (such a fabulous report by the way, such cool details!). We have 14 connections, North Node conjunctions and trines galore. My friend is already partnered though, and since they are unavailable, I started dating someone a few months ago.
I made the second terrible mistake of downloading a soulmating report for my new partner and myself. But to my surprise, we only have two links, and one of them is Venus Square Saturn, which is as much a warning as anything. I was surprised because I didn’t realise that perhaps it’s unusual to have as many links as I do with my best friend. Now I’m in a love pickle. Should I ignore the friend report and pretend it never happened and hope things work out with the new partner despite all the stars that seem to suggest I have the deepest connections with my unavailable bestie?
Dear Sad Moon,
You are so ahead of the Venus in Gemini curve! That is classically Love Triangles galore! So, these are not “terrible mistakes” and nothing bad is really happening here. And, the Soulmating Links are not necessarily compatibility indicators. There are people who have heaps of them and practically palpable fate lines pulsing between them like neon geomancy spells. But they’re not together. And other couples have three or less and are clocking up their umpteenth anniversary.
Fourteen is a lot though. I think the most I could find was between Paul Newman and Joanne Woodward.
So leaving aside the Soulmating report and its results, how are you going with your new partner? Do you lie awake at night watching the stars and wondering if your ‘best friend’ is too? Was the new lover meant to be the cure? Does your 14-link person know how you feel? Ultimately, if a whole sector of your heart is walled off and reserved for someone else, your new partnership won’t work out as such. Or it will, but it would be hollow.
Reports like soulmating illuminate and inform, but YOU are the best judge of you. It’s one thing if your regard for your official partner is simply more grounded in real-life than the crush on the friend but there is a connection there. But if you’re trying to build structure into a lie, fool yourself or pique the jealousy of another – pull up. And, anticipate plot twists with Venus into Gemini for months and Retrograde!
What does everyone else think?
Image: Konstantin Somov – Enchantment