Ask Mystic: I Have A Hair Vampire

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Hi Mystic,

Since you created the phrase “Love Zombie” and give advice on dealing with Qi Vamps I thought you may have some advice on my hair vampire situation. I am a Virgo-Rising, Virgo-Sun, Virgo-Venus and Leo Moon. I have a Sagittarius colleague who keeps copying my hair. Grow it long, so does she and when I cut it short, so does she. And then I add bangs, so does she. I change the color, she shows up within days with the same color. And I don’t know if she is doing it consciously. But I am wondering what powers I can summon to make her stop. I fret my next trip to the hair stylist for fear I get some amazing cut that ends up on her head and I have to – yet again – abandon the style. And even abandoning the style is no safety.
This person has shown herself to be a Qi Vamp in other ways. I am keeping my distance. To make it worse, many people at the office call me by her name. Can I do any house or office witchery to get some space from this person? Any tips appreciated. For various reasons, I’m not able to switch jobs at the moment.
Certainly not asking for free advice, but I am wondering if perhaps your sage readers have encountered this phenomenon before and if it has a name.
Thank you,
12th House Virgo

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Hi 12th House Virgo,

Has this phenomenon got a name? Hell no! It’s just a subset of Qi Vampire with potential Love Zombie involvement. I feel like we need a lab to study this behavior. There seems to be a bit of it around lately.

So firstly, I have never encountered a Moon in Leo person who did not have fabulous hair. And that you are also a Triple Virgo, well, she is probably aspiring to be more, you know, YOU.  Or perhaps this hair vampire has Bad Hair Karma?

But that does not help with what is clearly frustrating and frankly, weird. As an anti-idea, you could get really weird hair, like a wig that looks like your hair but you do something strange with it? And then, when Ms. Vamp copies your leopardskin print acrylic hair extensions, she will realize the oddity of her conduct? She is probably sapping her own vital energies as well.

On the other hand go full Jupiter-in-Sagittarius candor and bring it up with her directly. For example, ‘I notice that you seem to have very similar taste in hair aesthetic to mine. Do we have the same hairstylist?’

Alternatively, if this hair vampire is just too hideous for you to bring your flair to bear on the situation, you need Office Witchery. Go into work on a Sunday or when nobody else is there and sage your desk and here if possible. Sage smells like Dream-Weed and the smoke can set off fire alarms so be careful with this approach. The more office-friendly approach is to mist the place and yourself with Himalayan Salt in triple-distilled water.

Get a talismanic protective mini-statue for your desk or similar work-zone; A Bast statue perhaps? Or the little Feng Shui guardian dragons? And, wear Metal. Crystals are grounding but they’re Earth and we are moving into a more Earth-centric era. Metal is connected to Saturn Vibe which is the ultimate in Qi Vampire deflection.

What does everyone else think?

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RainygemsMM Member
Rainygems

(no offense BUT) Sagittarius are the worst, weird, vamp-your-style/look/habits/interests/passions type of zombies! Swear to God their personalities are just stolen bits they thought were cool from other people. Their ‘radical Sag candor’ just seems to always be an attempt to brazenly flaunt and own these vamped concepts in an attempt to cover their deeeeeep mutable insecurities, instead of dealing with them head on to self actualize.

When Sag actually can do their own thing it’s incredible, but I’ve only seen it happen once.

Melissa MelitaMM Member
Melissa Melita

Hair Vampirism aside, I think this could be the old feud between Virgos and Saggitarians. Virgos seem to hate Saggis, and vice versa. Wasnt there an ask Mystic here once, where a pregnant Virgo wondered if it was ok to abort her Saggitarius baby? These two seem to have irreconcilable differences.

WizarDoraMM Member
WizarDora

On point Mystic.

First thing an ex-work Qi-vamp colleague was hair style similarity, then lipstick, accessories and finally hobbies and online persona stalking. Put up your walls, have zero curiosity in this person and shut it the hell down, as best you can, Queen of Hair.

I’d probably be a little more crabby cryptic and say to her, “because you are worth it huh?” then I’d flick her the rods.

x

WizarDoraMM Member
WizarDora

On point Mystic. First thing an ex-work Qi-vamp colleague was hair style similarity, then lipstick, accessories and finally hobbies and online persona stalking. Put up your walls, have zero curiosity in this person and shut it the hell down, as best you can, Queen of Hair x

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

What exactly causes a woman to copy/steal another woman’s style? Not a celebrity but someone at the same workplace or city? Is it insecurity? flattery? or something much more sinister? I have friends admire my new sunglasses or hairstyle and get something similar, but not the exact same but they aren’t acting as if I copied them, they have acknowledged that I inspired them, that doesn’t bother me. But, there’s a far more sinister version of copying/stealing someone’s style to steal their identity…I had one person who I caught copying my FB posts verbatim but would adamantly deny it then… Read more »

SalamanderMM Member
Salamander

Yes, I agree that there’s some particular Qi vampy stuff going on here. Leo hair is power. And by stealing your hairstyle, she’s trying to steal your power. Think Samson and Delilah. And by forcing you to change it, she is succeeding. Choose a style you think you’ll be happy with for awhile, then keep it for a good long time. It’s likely she will move on and find another target to fixate upon for Qi juice and inspiration if you are not providing it to her. If a salt spray would be beneficial for your hair style and type,… Read more »

Jokerman
Jokerman

To steal from one person is plagiarism
To steal from many is research.

Lux Interior Is My Co-PilotMM Member
Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot

Avoid avoid avoid. Watch out for any stalkery behaviour. Its creepy to say the least…AND i noticed my stalker started copying my hair styles too.

kittyMM Member
kitty

Could you complement her on her own style choices? Also encourage her into a hairstyle of her own. Sometimes people don’t know their own look and need help finding it. Reinforce desired style choices (not copied) with further complements.

PiMM Member
Pi

It surprises me as Sadges are generally dgaf about other ppls styles (aren’t they? Or the ones I know are)
I wonder if she has some low-functioning Scorpio in her chart. Or Cap, for that matter?
Given they are neighbouring signs.
I had a similar experience with the Libran Scorpio. Except it was my look and friends she was vampireing. ugh. Long time ago though.
Physical and social separation was the only way I could manage it, plus some psychic protection /separation practices. Also, doing things that were very uniquely Me. Venus in Aries helped with the push-back.

12th House Virgo
12th House Virgo

She is Cancer rising. ‍♀️

PegasusMM Member
Pegasus

L’Oreal ‘Silver Rush’ a Feria metallic could look quite exotic on your brunette locks or silver/violet streak(s). LIke have something so unique and individual that it is impossible to copy. If a DIY it’s easy to bleach a streak or 2/3 in the front or middle of head.Wrap in foil then apply violet mebbe magic silver white drops after so you can control the depth of colour. As you are a Creative play with it yourself. How about talking to her about hair styles….lol, take some hair mags to work, leave on your desk, hand them to her ‘as you… Read more »

Year of the Phoenix
Year of the Phoenix

Hi 12th House am a Virgo Sun conj Pluto /Virgo rising with Venus in Leo and I have experienced and also witnessed in a work setting. Always a signature of poor self esteem or taste or both. They see your fabulous self being all effortlessly stylish and try a take over of whatever the look you nail. Worked in local fashion house and there was a co worker who would copy her subordinates hair/clothes and I watched the look change as the *also Virgo assistant left a new team of blondes arrived and her look change from severe black straight… Read more »

Leo-Scorp GrrrlMM Member
Leo-Scorp Grrrl

I like the salt spray and Celtic Freeze spell ideas. I do love a good salt spray. We don’t wish her ill will- just want her to stop creeping on you.

I think I’ll try the freeze spell this weekend. I have a former dishonorable love interest that I swear emotionally creeps me. He pops into my mind at odd times – and not favorably. I truly do. it want to see him again.

Leo-Scorp GrrrlMM Member
Leo-Scorp Grrrl

Thank you to Mystic for the salt spray and to Taurus Vixen for the frozen water spell. I’m off to look for the perfect freezer bottle….

12th House Virgo
12th House Virgo

Thanks for the thoughtful comments. Things have improved since I first wrote Mystic so it feels a bit petty now. Really what bothers me is being called her name.she never calls me by her name so it’s a larger office identity issue. I’m not mad at her. I empathize with her. I don’t want to confront her about my possible projections. If she is influenced by me I’m sure it’s not conscious or intentional. Now we each have new roles and I don’t even know what her hair is doing. I’ve got a new stylist who is growing me into… Read more »

12th House Virgo
12th House Virgo

*say not day

SoVeryGeminiMM Member
SoVeryGemini

Don’t know what kind of office you have, but a passive-aggressive name tag worn every day might get the point across . . . Also, Florida Water sprayed on/around your desk will help keep the creep-o’s away.

12th House Virgo
12th House Virgo

Haha! I should have my name embroidered on my shirts!

Suddenly LeoMM Member
Suddenly Leo

This is the plot of a super famous children’s book! Stephanie’s Ponytail by Robert Munsch. Please read/watch it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1qR6_Px9aGs -Former librarian

12th House Virgo
12th House Virgo

Haha! That didn’t end the way I thought it would. I love it!

ElectroMM Member
Electro

I thought of that book too! Hooray for librarians!

Taurus VixenMM Member
Taurus Vixen

Immediately thought of a Celtic frozen water spell I was taught last year. You write the person’s name on a piece of paper and put it in a bottle of water. Then put the bottle of water in the freezer. As it was explained to me it freezes the person’s energy in regards to me. Definitely worked with a good friend that was jealous about how well my life was going.

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

Thanks for passing this on, I have a couple of energy vamps at work I need to tackle in such a way

Taurus VixenMM Member
Taurus Vixen

I was surprised just how quickly and how well it works!

SheRatMM Member
SheRat

Yes, yes because the latest culprit of this is visiting me for her birthday in a couple weeks and I’ve deffo been feeling l’ll need to protect my space!

ElectroMM Member
Electro

After a few years with two SWF types, one at work and one dating a family member, it is really nice not dealing with it for a change. It drove me absolutely nuts but of course one has to look at the life lesson. My two SWF differed as they tried to do and then outdo whatever I had going on. I love the idea of wigs, get several! She most likely feels the energy you give off each time she copies you and basks in it, no matter what flavor it is. So the less energy flow you can… Read more »

VirgonatorMM Member
Virgonator

I imagine every time you change your hair because of her, she feels she’s won. Knockoffs are never as great as the original – just keep doing you.

SheRatMM Member
SheRat

Just as confirmation: I have noticed a spate of idea-stealing lately to the point that I mentioned to a friend that I might actually stop sharing my work with my group. We’re supposed to be workshopping/giving each other feedback, but then I find ideas nicked. Kinda disheartening. I had been blaming on my Pluto Rising…

SMM Member
S

I’ve noticed this too. I had cards I’d made in therapy and a fresh out of the block psychology student wanted to borrow them. I know that she just took my idea and colour copied them. Nothing beats the lived experience and someone who knows their own benchmark for success.

I have to believe that one day the reality will dawn on them when the ideas do dry up. A fresh pair of eyes don’t have to be a particular age bracket either.

Stella PolarisMM Member
Stella Polaris

The reality will dawn when someone approaches them for original ideas and they don’t have the flair to produce them. You may only ever learn of this informally, if at all.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Perhaps it’s a Pluto-rising thing. Pluto is within 10 degrees of my AC

SheRatMM Member
SheRat

Pluto is 2* away from Acs. in Libra.

Stella PolarisMM Member
Stella Polaris

Are others in the group sharing fresh ideas or are they just musing/wining about challenges they are facing but no ideas?
If you are an ideas person, it is frustrating to not speak about what you are doing. But it is doubly frustrating to see some Noddy just reproduce your idea with no ackowledgement and just brazen theft. In part this problem is open sourcing that is based on common not proprietary ownership. But it is also recognising that open sourcing does not apply everywhere.

SheRatMM Member
SheRat

Um….we were not really doing a “brainstorming” dynamic, as such. We’re not about into rewriting each others shit, more it’s more just, like, feedback. Presumably our instructors would be the ones with the heavier directorial hand. I told the one guy my predictions for the economy and the future of creative labor (these plans actually inform my real-life ten-year plan) and now his next book is going to be using those ideas the basis for the book. I think I might even be a character. The other two have suddenly decided–at very late hours in the program, to experiment with… Read more »

SMM Member
S

I’ve found my life appearing as a muse in short story, songs and film. My hairdresser and I discussed this and as a Saggo she taught me to laugh about this. I’m learning to find ways to be ok with this. It’s most frustrating because the content is so deeply personal and the lack of acknowledgement causes further distress to me. I’m trying to trust myself and my decisions and accept the truth of my past. Therapeutic harmony and ownership of my mind and body are my goals for this life and as the Oracle advised “Don’t Give Up.”

SheRatMM Member
SheRat

I am absolutely against people appropriating others’ traumatic events without permission/acknowledgement. I think it is even worse when the person from whom the experience is being appropriated is an artist themselves. However, I suspect that there is already a lot of psych/socio literature about the parasitic (and misogynist) nature of the artist/muse dynamic. For fiction, Heroines by Kate Zambreno (which is kind of a weird bougie romp through the mania of an acdemic) still speaks to this concept of the “muses” having been ripped off, used and ultimately destroyed. As an example, Marianne Faithfull started out with her OWN career… Read more »

SMM Member
S

Is there an option to discuss this with this person?
Taking a light approach as suggested. It does seem like this person has a self esteem and image issue.

I’d like to support the idea of different hair extensions or wigs is a great option.

I like to wear Tourmaline as it offers a protective shield around the body. It aids in understanding oneself and others promoting self confidence and diminishing fears. It banishes feelings of victimisation and attracts inspiration, tolerance and prosperity.

Wish Upon a Star
Wish Upon a Star

Well it is said that Imitation is the best form of flattery. You have to feel sorry for her, it sounds like she might have a borderline personality disorder. So you might have to tread lightly. I’m beginning to feel that the best way to treat people of this ilk is to just live your life and not worry about it. Try and look at the big picture and have a sense of humour. People who are worth their salt will realise what is going on and probably give you a knowing look, and the others: well, they are probably… Read more »

amazonalisonMM Member
amazonalison

I like the idea of confronting her about having the same stylist…sometimes you just have to let them know you know, you know? Also, I read this little tidbit the other day, and I am keeping it in my back pocket just in case. But, a very simple and harmless banishment spell: write their name on a tiny piece of paper, wad it up, and put in the back corner of your freezer. I liked how simple and non-invasive it was. Can’t hurt!

Jokerman
Jokerman

Hi to all the Aquarians out there with effortlessly great hair.

Saturnine
Saturnine

Since the copycat has already shown herself to be a Qi vamp in other ways, I’m thinking she might be little more concious than a mere admirer and does this on purpose just to get a reaction (hairstyle change) from 12th House Virgo. I’d suggest going in full defense mode energy-wise and actually keeping the same hair for a while in order to cut off Ms. Vamp. Also, do not answer when people call you her name or correct them immediately. One last tip I learned from my parents: carry a small amount of sulfur near your body when outside… Read more »

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

I agree, if you find a style you like stick with it, don’t let her bully you anymore and yes, do not respond when others call you by the wrong name… good advice.

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

Being inspired by a celebrity or someone’s style in another city is ok, but copying altogether especially a co-worker, kinda stepping on your toes. With groups of friends with similar tastes, this kinda occurs but with some level of acknowledgment and acceptance but a co-worker you’re not tight with no. It’s trouble. Obviously, she admires you even though it feels awful and annoying. Been there and felt that. It feels like they are trying to steal your identity or hope others will confuse you with them which is icky very vampiric energy. Especially if they are trying to take credit… Read more »

Stella PolarisMM Member
Stella Polaris

Yes to Bitch Be Gone spray. Would pay for this.
Sage spray may also work in lieu of smudge stick as it avoids smoke alarm issues.

rachellionMM Member
rachellion

I sympathize. Whether it’s intentional or not it’s annoying/unsettling and feels “Single White Female”-ish. As a moon in leo I’ve dealt with some copy cats (hee) as well …once by my former MIL, who got her hair permed to look like my curly bob. She was actually pretty loving and kind for the most part, though def a little qi vampirish and jealous like this at times, but mostly kept that stuff in check. It also happened with my current MIL, who chopped off her hair after she saw my pixie cut…complementing me on it was I think the first… Read more »

libraquarian
libraquarian

not sure if we can link here, but the question reminded me so much of this video by Vedic astrologer Claire Nakti https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lcqPsIIODos

ÁNLEIFRMM Member
ÁNLEIFR

Mysitc, you have met one now! LOL I am bald and a Leo Moon!

“I have never encountered a Moon in Leo person who did not have fabulous hair.”

HellaHekaMM Member
HellaHeka

I was going to also suggest a fake-out wig that looks like your real hair and then once she has copied it, stop wearing the wig. That might also draw attention to what she is doing and be embarrassing enough for her to stop. (bonus points– if after she shows up having copied your wig hair, pull the wig off in front of everyone, including her) I had this happen to me once as a teenager, not with hair, but with wardrobe. I know people saying imitation is a compliment (or whatever) but that’s also kinda like saying street harassment… Read more »

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

Boom! Yes!
Buy a new wig and take lots of photos on Instagram/FB (whenever she follows you) over the weekend before you go to work to give her time to copy the new style then when she does say can I take a selfie with you?
“It looks like you’re my twin?” Smile. Take a photo then point out you have a new twin in the office.
Maybe, too bitchy?
She obviously looks up to up for her to copy you but still crazymaking none-the-less.
Good luck!

Redlipstick VirgoMM Member
Redlipstick Virgo

Wow I understand how you feel. I once had a person like this at my workplace in my early 20s we worked in the same team it was creepy. Copied my hair, work shirts – even same colour shirts, same lipstick anc make up style and then tried to copy my fragrance – luckily I told her the wrong thing the at least 5 times she asked me what it was, this girl was also a liar and just ugly / as in just an ugly person with ugly needy vibes. Still makes me shudder when I think of her… Read more »

CarrieMM Member
Carrie

What I’m about to say comes from a multi- libra, moon Taurus and Venus sagg-and, oh god – DO I LOVE HAIR!!!! I offer what MY reaction would be, only for the purpose of offering a different vantage point, and perhaps a way to side-step a perspective that leads to distress (I told you I was libra- lol): as I read this I felt into this scenario in a way that made me smile. It feels, to me, delightfully sweet and tender. Maybe the dear cub looks up to your lioness-ness, or at least your hair. Maybe she thinks your… Read more »

EarthWindFireMM Member
EarthWindFire

Virgo Sun/Virgo Moon/ Leo (HELLO MANE) Rising here: I totally understand feelings about hair. I cling to mine and it has so many emotions around it. Yesterday I got my hair cut and changed the color yet again and I can’t even imagine if there was some vampire with a clipboard taking notes, and then copying it. Totally sympathize. As a Virgo Sun/Moon, I will share something tho. I just discovered yesterday after a revealing week that people think I have my shit together all the time, that I never need anything or that I rarely even have feelings. And… Read more »

RisingWater
RisingWater

Replying as someone who has also been copied (and who later copied someone else), chances are, this person thinks you’ve got it all together, admires your style, and is not especially creative herself. I’m a fan of the direct (but friendly) confrontation method, but you could also try letting her know, in passing, that you are also human – as a triple Virgo, you can bet that you give the outward appearance of having everything under super-control, and plenty of people wish they did.

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