Ask Mystic: Share-House-Witchery

Dear Mystic Medusa,

I’m not sure if you’ve gotten this question before, but I’m wondering if you have any insights for house witchery in shared living situations? I just moved in with a roommate after living alone for seven years. I’ve listened to your House Witchery mp3 and I loved it, especially as someone who LOVES to clean and live in a clean space and also just take part in rituals, especially in my home space. The person I just moved in with is witchy like me, but unlike me, they live comfortably in a cluttered space.

Dust, things crammed into every drawer and closet so you can’t open them, dead plants everywhere, enough kitchenware for a family of thirty (things I didn’t notice when I came to look at the space before moving in because I needed it to be perfect). I’m trying to find a balance between bringing in some organization/cleanliness and being pushy/imposing my will on someone whose space I just moved into. Is it okay for me to secretly sweep dust out from under the rugs when she’s not home? (I already did). Can I transform the energy of the space to inspire some de-cluttering? Or is this a lesson in building tolerance for not having everything how I want it when I want it? 

Sincerely,

Aries with a Pisces roommate 

Dear Aries with a Pisces roommate,

You are asking this question of a Mars in Virgo person. Can you transform the energy of the space to inspire some de-cluttering? Hell yes.  But okay, tactics. First of all – this is a really good question and I ought to have covered it in the House Witchery Mp3. So apologies for that.

But here are my thoughts. House Mates run the gamut from frenemy you hideously live with to actual civilized and sane, pleasant domestic companions. I once shared a house with someone so unobtrusive that nobody I knew believed in his existence. Other housemates have become too enmeshed, with the arrangement devolving into psycho-dramatic, quasi-lover cryptic crap real fast. Narky notes on the fridge, not wanting to go home in case they’re there and in the mood to talk – shitty vibe central.

So you’re right to be very careful in how you handle this, lest you blow what could be a comfortable and mutually beneficial haven. Obviously, you cannot hire a skip bin and start texting Pisces every second minute over whether or not they want something donated or straight in the skip bin.

So, I know others will have interesting suggestions but these are mine. You have a huge advantage in that Pisces is interested in magic. So first, make your room an uncluttered space of beauty and clarity. Play the Schumann Resonance in there, just quietly and ensure that your bedroom smells divine. Optimally, Pisces will be wowed out by this and make a comment. You can then say that you’re really into the Kondo method or Karen Kingston or whatever. Say that your House Witchery practice begins with clear energy.

At the same time, of course, you can clean the place. Clutter is one thing and it would obviously be a dud move to throw her stuff out but dust? So start with your energetically immaculate showroom of a bedroom and the subtle thrill of a super-clean house. The rest will evolve from there and swiftly, I feel. The dead plants are really bugging me. Uranus in Taurus has made me plant mad, as you may recall from this post. 

I bought my chamomile back to life! Maybe you can do the same with these plants? What does everyone else think?

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kriblackMM Member
kriblack

I’m Pisces with Virgo Rising and all my friends and family call on me to de-hoarder their places. If I had a sack of money for every garbage bag I’ve filled I could feed a small country. I love it! It’s my favorite thing to do. I’ve been considering starting a de-cluttering business as I live in a place with a large population of seniors who downsize or for people who need to deal with their parent’s estates when they pass. On the flip side, while I also love living in a sparkling clean home, I hate house cleaning no… Read more »

Hellcat
Hellcat

This (and lacking blueprints of my last, v old home) is one reason why my Feng shui practice has yet to be totally worked to the fullest extent. My room mates were the insidious nodding and smiling yet seemingly not listening type–
I am moving though! And have faith in my new space. Started acupuncture in August.

Suddenly LeoMM Member
Suddenly Leo

YES – esp the part MM said about COMMUNICATING with your roommate. She might be relieved by the convo. After all, Fate brought you together.

amaranthismeMM Member
amaranthisme

Also has anyone else seen the ad for the vacumn cleaner that freakin fracking mops y the same time?
I think that will be a christmas present.

PegasusMM Member
Pegasus

I LIVE SOLO with ma Mut. Bliss.
Seems like the Pisces appreciate others doing some dust busting and tidying around their abode. How easy, how lovely that is to a clean freek, aka a Mars-Virgo link for oder in a disordered world.
So perhaps an Astro Cleaning Service run by Sun and Mars Virgos run by Goddess Sweepa she with 6 arms, a feather duster in every one. Especially for Pisces. They can write and do their art even while all being regenerated around them.

amaranthismeMM Member
amaranthisme

I really want to love MY house pisces but she’s just invited 6 people over on a week night for dinner and using the lounge room and not told me. She leaves her shit everywhere. Her and her parter. Practically their house. My room is awesome and she always sort of admires it when I’ve cleaned it but I’ve had enough when it comes to the rest of the house. I live with 4 other people though so there’s that. She’s always too sick or tired or out clubbing to bother with the house. Ahhhhhh. I hope your pisces works… Read more »

Hellaheka
Hellaheka

As a triple pisces who notices when things are out of place, I will say that cleaning up actual dirt is always welcome. As long as you don’t throw sh*t out without permission. We notice. Our organization is there underneath the disorganization of it all.

VirgoStellium
VirgoStellium

I’m very clean. And neat and tidy. My closet is organized by color and everything in my pantry is labeled with a label maker. I have never had a roommate (intentionally), nor would I ever want to. Living with my mom when I was a teen was absolute torture for me because she’s very messy. I still cringe when I visit home. My dad, (a Virgo) used to have the neatest closet, cabinets. His stuff on his desk (PC, stapler, phone) was always kept just so. It was beautiful. He always smelled cool, crisp, clean. So I’ve always been attracted… Read more »

ElectroMM Member
Electro

I’m a big fan of subtle systems that are neat and efficient. Perhaps you can integrate some as you live there and see unobtrusive ways to save time and effort without spending on fancy stuff. Repurposing is another favorite, although it’s easier with one’s own belongings than someone else’s. Mystics bedroom idea is great, and I’d also have a self curated place outside of your living space to feel at home in (er, in charge of). I have a messy husband and young children and a dog that sheds tumbleweeds. But during the day I’m a teacher and my classroom… Read more »

Saoirse KirkeMM Member
Saoirse Kirke

Uranus in taurus plant related = 8th house taurus.
Fungi.
Mold everywhere. Gutting the basement, hurricane and flood vacation .
Humid autumn.

Apt how often “rot” comes up on the single tarot.

Aqua-cap-GeminiMM Member
Aqua-cap-Gemini

Marz in Virgo here too – I live with a 7yr old boy. I have had to learn to embrace the chaos that surrounds me. I used to be super clean everywhere, even when I house shared everything was dust free and spotless. Now I try to function in zones, and get by with some kind of quasi chaos-harmony. I think I’m happier, less choke on the reigns, more interesting thoughts, and little man learns that you have to tidy up if you want to do things/have things/etc. I often have moments of ‘I can’t live like this, arrrggghhh’ but… Read more »

AnastasiaMM Member
Anastasia

Cancerian messy person here that no matter how hard I try always manage to clutter my living space. I lived with a fellow Cancerian (but swear she must have had some serious Virgo in her chart) she used to spend most of her time at her boyfriends place but once a week I used to come home and she’d magically hoovered my room, tidyed up and cleaned the kitchen. You see my room was next to hers on the landing so while she was hoovering she couldn’t help but do my room too and then obviously she’d have to straighten… Read more »

SojMM Member
Soj

As a Pisces, I would be grateful for anyone who wants to and doesn’t mind cleaning/decluttering. I just don’t have that ability to rapidly declutter, that kind of activity I need to set aside a week for. I have an OCD relative who comes to visit who rerarranges a section of the house every time she visits and I don’t see it as an invasion at all, rather a desire to make things better, a gift of love. I currently don’t have time for that but if anyone else does, they can knock themselves out! I do love energy clearing… Read more »

Saoirse KirkeMM Member
Saoirse Kirke

I live with my dad.
And a brother.
And a sister.

Anyone need a new roommate?

DivineDMM Member
DivineD

As a Pisces I often struggle with keeping things clutter free and clean, but I LOVE it when they are and used to often wish I could just get someone to come in to help me get it all in shape. So I think it will be possible for you to establish the haven you crave over time. Most Pisces I know are not so great on a minimalist vibe so some clutter might always remain – but hopefully the clutter of comfort and charm – pictures, books, candles, cushions etc in a lovely clean space. I’d ask about throwing… Read more »

emgMM Member
emg

Hmmmmmm being a cancer stellium I’m not home unless I’m a bit surrounded by plush and plump and soft and numerous. Not fussed on dust and dirt. Happy medium in the commune areas but keep your sanctuary your sanctuary.

DoraD
DoraD

an invitation to re-set the intention of the house could also be a good move. I’m thinking low key, cup of something, a candle or two.. a few steps on from your low-key arrival, with super clear lux vibe and inviting her into this, with you? “what would your ideal space look like?” get the Pisces to dream their space, whilst you provide the perfect starter energy xx

amaranthismeMM Member
amaranthisme

On a new moon am I right ? Yes. This.

amazonalisonMM Member
amazonalison

I am all for making your space a clutter free sanctuary, and then, as I’ve dealt with this before, slowly working on your roommate. This is bringing home a new plant to put in the pot of the dead one (if it can’t be revived) and calling her attention to it, like, “I saw you had a dead plant in here so I brought you home a new one to take it’s place!”. Make it seem like you are doing her a favor. The dusting under rugs while she’s not around is good, cleaning cupboards, etc. For reference, my old… Read more »

LaFemmaMM Member
LaFemma

I’m a Pisces (with Aries Mars and Venus). I clutter without meaning to but enjoy a lovely clear space, I have slightly better habits now in my 30’s. My advice is yes make the spaces you control extra lovely, throw out all garbage/dead things (ask about the plants though and maybe suggest some hardier ones to replace them), feel free to dust. See if you can clear a few key areas like the counters, your part of the bathroom, the entryway without making a big deal about it. You might inspire her. My boyfriend is so bad with cleaning and… Read more »

SophieMM Member
Sophie

Also, the perfect number of people to share a house with is 3. You and 2 others. Don’t ask me why this is but it is wholly true in every situation.

Wish Upon a Star
Wish Upon a Star

I do agree. These days I just couldn’t imagine sharing house. I am way too territorial. Must be my Taurus Moon

But when I was in my early 20’s I did share a house with 2 intelligent, thoughtful men.
Remember having a lot of interesting conversation’s especially with the Virgo guy. I miss that dude, he had a very fine mind.

PiMM Member
Pi

Sigh
I have psyche in virgo. Love me a smart man.

emgMM Member
emg

Oh yes First thing they have to have is an intellect and ability to communicate said intellect Or just be dead cute !!

Wish Upon a Star
Wish Upon a Star

I just thought it was my Gemini Sun. By the way it was just plutonic, I found men’s point of view interesting, still do. But sadly I did learn as I got older that not all men understand plutonic, mainly the less evolved men. But that’s their problem not mine. I will look up my Psyche, thanks for that. PS. I typed in Psyche in my extended chart on astro.com and it said not available. Am I doing something wrong? pps. I just found out I have Lilith in Aries: Whoa it makes so much sense, will look up Juno… Read more »

Aphra
Aphra

Plutonic or platonic? Just curious as we’re on an astro site and either could work.

Wish Upon a Star
Wish Upon a Star

Ha ha, I meant Platonic. But on some level it probably was Plutonic, because to this day I miss the depth of that relationship.

SophieMM Member
Sophie

The key is to get along well with this person. Once you have established rapport and come to understand eachother’s values and aesthetic, I find it is easy to blend and compromise housemate styles. I speak from 10 years experience sharing in over 7 sharehouses. Ask your housemate about their values and interests, find out about why they live the way they do, and what their vision is for how they want to improve their space/lifestyle. I find asking clearly and communicating clearly in a way that genuinely respects the other person’s needs and is open to hearing them is… Read more »

milleunanotteMM Member
milleunanotte

Also, hello! to your chamomile. I can see you went with a good Uranus in Taurus and seasonal changing flow. My own plantings have been responding to something more than me, and also me – it’s weird and organically intriguing.

milleunanotteMM Member
milleunanotte

You are Aries. (Take with a grain of Piscean salt because my Aries and Mars is strong, and i adore Aries, but) you can MODEL SWEET FRESH HOME PRACTICES. Best case, you will inspire this sluggish Piscean. Worst, maybe you will cause just enough friction in her psyche to keep her clutterdust in her own room. In between, don’t be too dominant just be smiley-fresh-buddha-like during in Lo-Pisces moments, in case she reclaims the decay under your freshly cleaned and heavenly organised Fresh. Not dominating, but freshly inspiring is the best you! Once you freshen up space Aries will be… Read more »

JRSyd51MM Member
JRSyd51

As a Pisces, this comment is just everything. I actually cried reading this line – ‘She is clearly not this type of Pisces; she is the old school type you read about and has a witchy purpose of her own.’ YES. You’ve nailed it exactly. Yes, please love and look after the plants and replace them with live ones and YES, please clean and de clutter. Obviously not in a judgemental way but with love and respect – I think (I’d love to hear back) that she’s love this as I know I would if it were done right; as… Read more »

PiMM Member
Pi

Lovely words, Mille. X

PiMM Member
Pi

I am not the tidiest person but when my progressed moon was in Aries I lived with a cancerian who lived out the cancerian MO. When she was away I’d go a bit cleaning-mad (don’t tell anyone or it’ll ruin my reputation) but honestly it did make me a more rounded and tolerant human being – learning to peacefully accept and coexist with genuinely harmless differences is what keeps the world turning.

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