What Is A Love Zombie?

What Is A Love Zombie?

Dear Mystic – What Is A Love Zombie and how do I know if I am one?”  That was all the email said. But I sensed an element of concern in the message, a faint whiff of wisteria and mobile phone wallpaper with an “Old Souls Love Differently” slogan on it.  Love Zombies all express differently, but there are two main modes: Yearning passivity with religious fervor and Wile E Coyote style antics to attract the attention of the beloved. The Love Zombie replaces actual engagement with the person with divination and chart examination. You know you’re a Love Zombie when you’re trying to parse your progressed composite chart, but you haven’t spoken to the person in four months.

To answer the question succinctly, a Love Zombie is a person fixating on a person who is not interested in them. They generate an enormous amount of energy and feel that they are in a relationship with this person. Only it is a phantom relationship. The Love Zombie affair is not a celebrity crush scenario. It is not even an obsessive relationship. It is a construct.  There are such things as fated relationships and people whom synchronicity brings together.  The upcoming Venus Retro in Scorpio is a karmic relationship zone for sure. I always hesitate to delineate these sorts of astro-passages for fear of inadvertently triggering a Love Zombie episode.

You know you’re a Love Zombie when you’re trying to parse your progressed composite chart, but you haven’t spoken to the person in four months.

Below is a list of several of the Love Zombie posts from the archives as an FYI.

But my thinking on Love Zombies and the targets of their affections has evolved over the years. Yes, people with a strong Neptune influence in their birth energies or who are having a Neptune transit are highly prone to morph into being Love Zombies. Nothing ‘real’ will suffice and what better way to transcend tedious normality than by having what is essentially a paranormal affair? Speculation on a long-shot love affair that could, maybe, come off. Fantasies of reincarnated romance beat bickering in the parking lot at Ikea. Or ending phone calls feeling nebulously judged and controlled. They’re ultimately safe.

However, Love Zombies do not become so in isolation. They are not fixating on desirable people without any ‘come hither’ signal whatsoever.  The Love Zombie may mistake a flickering alert lamp – like those that warn drivers of landslides in the dark – for a green light. But there is a signal. Future Fakers – a term coined by Baggage Reclaim’s Natalie Lue – specialize in generating instant intimacy on demand. Their goal is to coax out enough desire and flattery from someone to feed their voracious ego.

Behind nearly every Love Zombie is a Narcissistic Qi Sucking Vampire Sociopath.

Think back upon your own Love Zombie episodes and ask yourself if this were not true to some extent?

Love Zombie Links FYI

High Functioning & Low Functioning Love Zombies

Non-Recommended Reading For Love Zombies 

How To Vanquish A Neptunian Love Zombie

The Experimental Love Zombie Vaccine 

Could A Leo Policeman Trigger The Dormant Love Zombie Virus?

Requiem For A Love Zombie 

The Upside Of Being A Love Zombie

Pornography For Love Zombies

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ÁNLEIFR
ÁNLEIFR

“a Love Zombie is a person fixating on a person who is not interested in them.” ..you mean like someone you talked to everyday for 2 months, synchronicity and compatibility through the charts but you only met once in the middle of all that (because of them not you, you tried as hard as you could to try to meet), and then they all of a sudden disappeared only for you to find out they unfriended you on FB and got back with their EX, and with absolutely no closure whatsoever, seriously like just one day they decided you were… Read more »

ÁNLEIFR
ÁNLEIFR

Gawd if this doesn’t sum it all up in one sentence! ..”Yearning passivity with religious fervor and Wile E Coyote style antics to attract the attention of the beloved.”

Jokerman
Jokerman

Another LZ situ avoided. As l just said to a friend, it’d had me in an ’emotional’ fetal position even in the recent past. I just get up and prepare myself for the next rejection.

Why the fuck do l bother. I’ve done so much self-reflection, self-awareness, self-help l could’ve built a new continent.

dotty
dotty

Just saw ‘Asako 1+2’ at MIFF. The most perfectly sustained filmic meditation on the topic of Love Zombiedom ever seen!

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

For anyone struggling right now, i saw a chewing gum pack at the bookstore i went to with Cap today, labelled:

I Really Hate You!
8 Delicious Pieces

Cap pointed out the “Assholes Everywhere” gum packet, complete with a flash note: Spoiler Alert!

You gotta have buddies 🙂

MissDee
MissDee

Thank you for this post. I am a Neptune conjunct my IC person so yes, Love Zombie, I have been one. Thank you because you said “it’s safer”. It was and by connecting it to my IC I have had the insight of the origin of this being my family. I am undergoing EMDR (on a break for the summer, we will start the real deal in September) and I truly believe that Love Zombie always pairs the warriors we develop inside of us. We Fight, we become stronger than the average peeps but then we need and long for… Read more »

Kimisme
Kimisme

I see i am in syncwith my realisations per

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

One thing is that not all intimacy avoiders are sociopaths. They may have issues but if they were real people while present, candid and honest, it does you no good to write off good people who could not bring it at your level: you will avoid sadness by blame and anger where it need not be. You can feel rightly disrespected by a lack of lasting commitment and transparent break up, but it may not have been intentional disrespect. Of course, if you are willing to think about both yourselves as real people honestly, you are not so much a… Read more »

Wish Upon a Star
Wish Upon a Star

Kudos for finding the Gift, it takes a lot of insight to find that. x

dark star
dark star

Hahaha. Flickering alert lamp.
My pre sat sq speciality was indulging inner delusion about relationships while consciously keeping the other person at a distance to control my feelings / image. Fun times

***RLP***
***RLP***

Has anyone here enjoyed the hilarious opening EPS of The Bachelor Aus with Honey Badger?

Well Cass is Love Zombie personified….. !!

And if you read James Weir’s hilarious post Ep commentary he ads what wveryone’s thinking – and some!! (News.com.au)

Unicorn Sparkles
Unicorn Sparkles

It was the first thing I thought of when I saw the topic heading LOL. I don’t watch the show strangely enough. Just read JW’s take on it. It’s so much funnier and much less time consuming

Pi
Pi

<3

rachel cap scorp
rachel cap scorp

Oh wow! My love zombie episode occurred when Neptune was transiting my natal Venus. It must have gotten the hooks in me, and it took a couple years (sigh) to get free.

Howdyhihi
Howdyhihi

Love zombies not to be confused with those trying to make sense of relationships with Mr Unavailables. Although there probably is some kind of Venn diagrammable crossover. I honestly didn’t even know the phenomenon was a thing until a year into dating the Aquarian body builder. In my disarray, I discovered Baggage Reclaim, which is pure gold. Love it! And yes, you really do need to do “no contact” with these people.

babysinclair
babysinclair

Thanks for laying it all out there. I’m definitely a recovering love zombie.

emg
emg

You can relapse or even have a whole new dose. There isn’t a proven vaccine

Saoirse Kirke
Saoirse Kirke

If I one day write about my 16 year lz episode I will get my photo on the future love zombie Wikipedia page.

It’s.a.doozy.

Balsamicmoon
Balsamicmoon

Yep. 100%. Every damn time, the object of fixation was yet another hungry narcissist. Now, a subtle vile warning appears like a waft of cheap perfume.

Jokerman
Jokerman

Of course nothing like this has happened to me. Ha ha ha ha ha.

10 Ptolemaic aspects hang off my Neptune inc cj the IC and it is a SD and the Focaliser T-squaring the Sun n Moon. I’ve had delusions based on delusions accented by delusions powered by delusions built on delusions turboed by delusions highlighted by delusions. All because l jumped to delusions.

emg
emg

You are a 41 For sure I’ve known quite a number of them. It’s a wild ride for sure

Jokerman
Jokerman

41?

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Sorry, PF, should have nested my reply under yours, as that is what it’s about.

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

I need to understand this number too. What does it mean? Or was it a typo? Maybe you mean a numerology 4?? Crikey, put us out of our misery, Emg, so we can have at least a laugh if there’s a late Merc Retro bug, and at best we might get a grip on your wise thoughts! Love you both, PF and Emg xx Oh funnily enough i got a couple of texts from a little Cancerian. Prolix Sag Rising Sag Jups me got told early on not to leave her a VM as it costs her money to listen… Read more »

Jokerman
Jokerman

Maybe EMG meant “you are 14 sure”.

When l first found l was so super Neptunian l, metaphorically, shook my own hand and said to myself, “So you’re the bastard who has caused me so much anguish?!?”

Plus it is super Water (Pisces’ ruler, in Scorp, -4 cj the IC; Cancer’s haus. Tho rented by Libra, Scorpio kicked em out)

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Cannot imagine the plethora of Water. Pisces is the only Water in my chart and it is a blessing and a real nuisance. Or maybe that would be the 12th Neptune stuff if it weren’t trined and sextiled all sorts. I sometimes feel i’m only actually alive because of 12th Sag Rising with Antares warrior on Moon Rising. Steampunk ain’t got nothing on me… that shit is stagnation and form above substance and i know it does bullshit for our oceans, for example. Better raise myself to that Sea Shepherd logo as sharky but lesser best as i can. There’s… Read more »

emg
emg

I have a very big 14 !! How did you know ?
Check out Jovian archive .com Put in your date time place of birth and see if you’ve a 41 ?

emg
emg

No typo no merc retro. Put your details into Jovian archive.com and see what appears

Jokerman
Jokerman

Manifesting Generator
Profile: 2 / 4
Definition: Single Definition
Inner Authority: Sacral
Strategy: To Respond
Not-Self Theme: Frustration

What does it mean? The planets don’t line up in value of importance as in my natal chart!

bird
bird

Mine is the same! What does it all mean…?

gogengo
gogengo

UHHHH

Ok thanks again for the reminder Mystic I needed this

At least I’m high functioning lol

crembert
crembert

Yes!!! I am (maybe?) coming out of an epic 16-month love zombie bender. In my case it was all true— the flickering signal, the ever-present fantasy on my part, the hours spent comparing our charts or reading tarot cards and whatnot. In my case it was a workplace flirtation that sent me wild— both of us married of course. Epic delusion on my part. But it was also an interesting time of growth. I fell really hard (in my deluded way) for this dude whose sun is on my NN (and his Saturn/juno conj my sun) and the flirtation and… Read more »

VenusRules
VenusRules

Pluto exactly on my moon (pass #2) is bringing all my love zombie episodes up for review. Spoke with my high school sweetheart for two hours the other night, a man I haven’t seen in 30 years; I realized I’ve been holding space for that man for decades, and all his “someday when the time is right” was b.s. And in his eyes I was a victim of his rejection, whereas in my eyes it was all about my own attachment issues, my inability for intimacy or understanding of what love was, and I was fully responsible for throwing up… Read more »

Laura
Laura

As someone’s who went through that transit 18 months ago, it’s rough. But so worth it. I found exploring the Persephone myth and the idea of giving and taking power was a very helpful lens, personally, for that time.

VenusRules
VenusRules

Thank you! In my lifetime Pluto has transited everything except Uranus – this is the last planetary conjunction (then there’s the midheaven). Through pass #1 I thought “this isn’t so bad, I can handle this” — then, per Mystic’s recent post, the second pass is a different story. Work totally went south in a very abrupt way (9th house/publishing moon) and now this LZ situation with roots in 1972. Yikes. I appreciate the Persephone guidance.

Silvers
Silvers

I didn’t realise how under I was.
I’m doing it now. Horrific.
I don’t understand how his Sun in Aries conjunct my Mars-Venus-DC-Vesta can be one sided. He looks like he gets struck by lightning when I appear. Why on Earth am I losing it solo? With Chiron on top.

I firmly believe Chiron heals.

I smell an extraordinarily afflicted moon.

Time will tell what all the lessons are. I think I’m getting there. I think it’s true, it’s about self expression and self knowing. He’s a living demo of the lost bits. That’s all.

Silvers
Silvers

If anyone has had a similar experience, please lemme know.

Pi
Pi

Is this a situ you are able to act on? It sounds a bit mutual, is that right? Afflicted moon can trash many things. Not a show stopper though.. It might be a low-rent suggestion for this site but can you guys hit a bar and work on reducing any inhibitions ..? Part of what I have learnt (might be just a pi lesson) is that just because someone happens to zap our astro gaps, and our hearts are spinning in our chests, doesn’t mean that we have to sit alone in a cave until the idea is assimilated and… Read more »

Silvers
Silvers

AHHH THANKS very much for saying all of that, Pi. Made me laugh. It’s true.
think I need to huff off for a little bit for Mars to ignite. But I’m pissed off enough anyway. Maybe I can be a paragon of self reliance and get the rest too.

PlutoMoon
PlutoMoon

MARS IS STILL RETRO… so is Mercury until this weekend, so give it time, Aries people (ruled by Mars). You may not get anywhere with this Aries guy until Mars is past its shadow. Of course, then Venus will be going retro in Scorpio (the other Mars ruled sign). But definitely wait until September.

Jokerman
Jokerman

I had an unrequited obsession with a girl in my teen years. It lasted 4 years. Her Sun was cj my 1st Decan Virgo cluster of Mars, Pluto, Vesta and Venus. I simply could not think of anyone else. Her Mercury cjd my Merc / Uran. Bla bl bla. It is the person who has the multitude of planets, which cjs the other’s Sun, who gets enthralled. I knew zilch about the astro then but l know her birth-timeless chart because l still feel her decades later. Yes, l lamented what could’ve been. You should try being a Dbl Cancer… Read more »

Pi
Pi

I guess the sun would completely illuminate / manifest all of those other planetary energies.

Jokerman
Jokerman

When ppl ask me about a synastry with someone it is the first, the first, thing l look for. If the 3 majors light up a stellium it means powerful attraction. Sometimes a bit unbalanced but powerful.

Pi
Pi

It’s an interesting scenario. Sometimes denying the feelings is almost damaging. Like not letting yourself love or grieve. Bad things happen. Circulation gets cut off. It’s how you choose to act on them that is important… With the help of astrology, pop psychology, Actual Psychology, and psycho therapeutic methods, not to mention various spiritual pathways to self awareness, and occasionally losing my mind, my LZ experiences have become progressively more profound learning experiences about my SELF. Which I guess ultimately helps to make me a better person in relationships? I have Venus, Chiron and south node conjunct in my aries… Read more »

Pi
Pi

I’m gonna confrss though, the Oracle has some crazy making LZ answers. If I get the “someone is a clandestine crush on you” I roll my eyes , how am I supposed to know or care who that person is? 😉
I’m almost cured, I tell you.
Just have to get through a spot of Saturn square venus and then Pluto square venus , yikes

LotusFlower
LotusFlower

Pluto sq Venus, hehee. (Cackles ruefully) This is in the name of a heads-up. That transit coincided with my last (ever? hopefully!) LZ episode in the lurid throes of the ZZ esp c 2014 as it activated my natal t-sq before it sobered (painfully) w the dreambusting realities of 2015&16. Don’t ever want to get that drunk again. It was oc a Plutonic type that got me and yes there was the flickering light signal. I do have a natal pluto-venus conjunct (a la 6 degrees loose), though, if that could be something that made me ‘susceptible’ to that particular… Read more »

PlutoMoon
PlutoMoon

Lol – yes, the Oracle is insanely pro-LZ and also pro-relationship focused at times. Looking forward to the new Oracle questions (and answers) that Mystic is releasing soon!

Pi
Pi

I mean, the rship focus is handy for rship questions. So that’s awesome (thanks mm 😉 )
I think when I’m being a hardass and trying to stay above it all that i huff off and go and tinker in the shed or something unemotional lol

scorpiodawn
scorpiodawn

im a kinda love zombie for someone…same b day….good merc aspects…etc…he in diff country…got a girlfriend….but he keeps e mailing ME!!!! its always him that initiates stuff…I know I cud ignore…but hey, I’ve given up alcohol…..gotta hav a vice right? wrong…….

RitaTocta
RitaTocta

You need to disapear for that guy for two weeks. Seriously. Light will come from that!

Ariel
Ariel

Yes. How chilling is that – the LZ is essentially the long-distance sacrificial surrogate for someone else’s insecurity & self-abandonment. Sometimes even being alone takes two! Needed the reminder, cheers. x

VirgoProtocol
VirgoProtocol

Omg this IS me … it’s been 20 months, 8 months apart…
I feel this hard.
Strings are all being swiftly scissored.
I thank the eclipses…

Sweet Sanity
Sweet Sanity

All I can say is…. thank the Goddesses you exist, Mystic.

Jacqui
Jacqui

I’ve been a love zombie, I must “do” my transits for that time. Man! did I do good art back then…wow Jupiter on natal sun 4th H, chiron on natal Jup, Pluto on Neptune 10th, Uranus and Saturn conjunct in 11th. N Node on parts fortune. Interesting

Jacqui
Jacqui

Holyyyyy the 12 card tarots are so accurate its exciting!

kriblack
kriblack

Paranormal affairs are the only kind I partake in these days. Purely fantasy, though. Saturn Square Neptune (transiting my loaded 7th house) officially inoculated me against Narcissistic Qi Vampires. Not sure that it cured me of being one though. Ooh, I just realized that. Hello, transiting Neptune conjunct 7th house Sun, opposite my ascendant. Delusions of how I am perceived by others. Sh*t. Good to know.

BLISS WITCH
BLISS WITCH

I think at least I qualify as a high functioning love zombie. I’m way more fit than I have been in years and I gave up alcohol, sugar and red meat.

Mentally I am living in a highrise in Neptune City, gazing out on the cloudscape lost in a dream.

redondo.bleach
redondo.bleach

Love Zombie-ing is the ultimate drug, isn’t it?

Congrats on your sobriety. Cheers w a club soda in your honour

kriblack
kriblack

Me too. We must be neighbours.

ScorpintheSky
ScorpintheSky

For my money the “generating instant intimacy on demand” skill is explained circuitously via Esther Perel: “Male desire needs to be looked at through a lens that incorporates relational and emotional factors. Sex is the language through which men have license to ask for love, tenderness, surrender, sensuality, affection and more. Often sex is the only keyhole he has to fulfill these emotional needs.” https://estherperel.com/blog/men-women-and-sexuality-more-similar-than-different But as Dan Savage says men need to start taking on their share of emotional work. I think the dance steps are – Future Faker disavows longterm emotional work for a short term “tenderness/surrender/affection” fix… Read more »

Houdini
Houdini

I love both Esther Perrel and Dan Savage so much. Such a breath of fresh air in the sex/relationship conversation. Original thinkers who are articulate and razor sharp with a wicked sense of humor.

quintile
quintile

Love Zombie disavows self-esteem work via a phantom relationship with someone they esteem.
gee spot on Scorpinthesky!

Alouetta
Alouetta

Spot on and thank you for introducing me to both of those people!
Also I think some of this stuff can be explained by attachment theory. And it’s a lot easier these days to love people at a distance.

Wish Upon a Star
Wish Upon a Star

Just read Dan Savage. I agree. Beautiful sex is when both are emotionally open. If a man trusts you in that space he can be so vulnerable, Its so touching. Sometimes you think you are seeing it for the first time and that’s even more endearing.

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