Sagittarius and the Eclipses. Online dating during Mars Retrograde and during the Eclipse Zone is a pain for all – but especially this Saggo.
I’ve never written to you before. I am a long time subscriber and generally happy Saggo! I am hoping you can provide some insight.
Saturn left. I felt it. I was excited. It’s been years of professional ups and downs. I purchased my own business through some very rocky negotiations. Then a huge flub in the sole proprietorship/incorporation realm cost mega bucks I didn’t have. I got it mansplained to the hilt by several people and it was frustrating. Over the last six months, however, my (also) Saggo mother and I have gotten our act together and it’s being ironed out with a sage guru of an accountant/business adviser. Thank Saturn! Phew, glad that’s kind of over.
For that whole time, I convinced myself that I was too busy for a relationship. Yet I still managed to entangle myself briefly yet sexually with a slippery Taurus womanizer and bang my blonde Saggo head against the wall of the abyss that is online dating.
Does Sagittarius And The Eclipses Have To = Strange Dating?
Several comically cringe-worthy dates later and a Gemini emerged. He excited me (we knew of each other during high school) yet never materialized. After six weeks I (PMS fueled) cut the communication. Patience is not a Saggo virtue. But the frustration over us being almost in the same social circles and 5 minutes away from each other yet never meeting was crushing. Enter horribly mismatched alcoholic Capricorn. I had my fun and blocked his number after he started some light stalking behavior.
The last eclipse I took your sage advice and wrote the letter. Sayonara to the three R’s; resentment, rumination, and regret. I burned that thing with pure joy and eager hope. I even treated myself to one of those hokey foot detox baths to help with the cleansing.
I’ve asked my dreams. I asked the universe. I’ve seen the birds and read the meanings, kept the dream diary, smudged, purged, feng shui-ed, and tried not to small-town zombie over seeing surnames, hearing of or indirectly seeing those ghost men or their ilk. These days, I don’t even get excited at the 11:11’s. I don’t even listen when the literal tens of people say ‘I don’t understand why you are single?’ Hard sigh, big shrug.
Last night my dream was centered around a type of hospice center, my relatives who have passed were there, but healthy and almost assisting the goings on. I felt I knew some of the patients on a very small level however they weren’t the people I want to purge.
I am wondering if the current astro territory is cleaning out all these unknown ghosts and sludge for a reason? And if there is anything I can do to make this process more comfortable? Shall I just twiddle my thumbs, keep my head down and meditate until Jupiter graces my sign? My biological clock is ticking and I have never been more confused.
Anxious but hopeful but lonely Saggo
Future Fakers & Ghost Bolters Are A Universal Online Dating Experience
Dear Anxious But Hopeful But Lonely Saggo,
Well, it’s witty and broadly pertinent enough to be an Ask Mystic, for sure. And my consults are booked out regardless! So first of all, congrats on the successful Saturnine emergence. That’s seriously brilliant.
If it helps, i think the experience of finding Future Fakers & Ghost Bolters via online dating is just SO universal. You should see some of the comments in the Dating The Zodiac series. And yes, absolutely the Mars Retrograde during Eclipse Zone is a unique combo. It’s not prime dating territory – apart from (yes) this epic weekend.
What if you just turned PURE Sagittarius and took the whole “abyss” – as you put it – so far as a learning experience? You would literally write down what you’ve learned so far. Maybe with the Gemini, you weren’t being rejected – you were being protected? The smudging did work! And good call with dodging the “light-stalking” Capricorn.
July And August Is A Gigantic Tactics Reset
In love, art, and commerce, this whole July-August phase IS a gigantic tactic re-set. It’s a retreat where you check out your wounds and assess the armory. Regroup and devise fresh strategies. You would seem to be doing just that so well done!
You could also try the Virgo Dating Efficiency method. Summary: She hit it hard, not wasting time online chatting and only giving energy to people who wanted to meet. Then she met heaps in a row, with breath-taking honesty.
With your hospice dream, I’m not quite getting it but it seems ancestor spirited to me and that maybe you have some post-business-stress angst happening. Why not love your self through this Mars Retro/Eclipse Zone and then reassess the terrain in September? It’s not like next-leveling your health/serenity will do anything but good for future biological clock styled endeavors.
What does everyone else think?
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