Ask Mystic: A Taurus With Aquarius Man Issues

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A Taurus With Aquarius Man Issues? She’s come to the right place.

Hey Mystic,

I am a Taurus with Uranian Love Blues. I don’t usually go too weepy and wallowy –  not since my Venus Pluto transit. But I got broken up with two weeks ago and it’s really got me down.  I am a Taurus Sun and I know Uranus in Taurus is supposed to be upping my mojo. But since the Aquarius man I was seeing broke up with me just after the last new Uranian moon, I’ve been struggling a lot.  It was just after my birthday and he did quite the about-face. He went cold and broke up with me with me on the phone after about half a year of seeing each other.  

First he got me some epically gorgeous and personalized birthday present and then wham, one week later, it was BYE.  Big effing surprise… or was it?  I guess we didn’t survive the Transition Zone.   After talking everyday for the first half of the year, I miss him.  It’s hard to move on since he evaporated after giving me every available excuse in the break up excuse dictionary but I still feel zero understanding as to why.  

Uranus in Taurus Is Supposed To Be Upping My Mojo.

I handled it as stoically as I could with no anger or clinging and haven’t made any contact.  I’ve been journaling, reading about grief, healing, unconditional love and doing my best.  Shamanic de-cording meditation, sage, ritual bathing etc.  But my issue – is I keep feeling like this MF is going to cryptically reappear, since he disappeared so cryptically as well.  I want to be able to move on.  It’s been a struggle.  Any suggestions?  Ritual suggestions?  Aquarian Wisdom?

Uranus in Taurus to be quite frank has been a bit of a wet blanket for me.  I’ll get over it and get back to my creative zeitgeist as you might say.  But damn, I am a bit heartbroken.

Jennie the Taurus

Dear Jennie the Taurus,

Of COURSE he is going to cryptically reappear. If I had the digital infrastructure, i would run sweepstakes on this. This break-up occurred within the Mars Retro zone. Homie will be re-activating during the actual Retrograde phase from late June to late August. In fact, fuq it. Do not make any contact whatsoever and i betcha he will be hunky door-stopping you within 24 hours of Mars turning literally Retrograde. That is, June 26/27. Aquarius men think that they are ludicrously unpredictable but they run on schedule, always.

Recall that this is Mars in Aquarius until mid-November. It’s the longest stay of the Warrior God in Aquarius since the early Seventies. It’s like the Matrix Reloaded out there. Or unplugged. Whatever.  So your Aquarius Man is probably restless beyond belief and viscerally feeling the potential entrapment of a relationship, any relationship. This won’t be personal. It would be experienced more as existential dread evoked by the prospect of being in a conventional pair bond. Like when you’re walking through the compulsory Ikea maze and viscerally experience your conformity. Or browsing the Daily Mail’s sidebar of shame like a mass tabloid lab experiment.

The ritual for getting an Aquarius Man back is to literally not give a fuq

Reset your brain so that you literally shut down whatever synapse is triggered by this character and he will come back. The ritual for getting an Aquarius Man back is to literally not give a fuq. Picture him on an alien tundra in another galaxy. That unapproachable. That distant. Or like a conspiracy theory that you read once but dismissed.  But the real question here is, apart from missing him and his spooky little Uranian brain, do you want him back?  Uranus in Taurus IS going to be rad. Maybe he cleared off for good reasons? It wasn’t meant to be?

But personally, i think he freaked and that if you retain Stealth Mode, he will be back.  What does everyone else think?

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i think leaving abruptly is true aqua/uranian trait, not saying haute ura/aqua, but, i do it, when im done and i wont tolerate shit no more, u wont even get an owl from me, its smoke-time. But i only do it to people who repeatedly treated me poorly or narcissistic/psycho characters, that won’t even handle adult conversation. Also, we leave when we have things to ponder, wee need alone time like no one. strong emotions sometimes also make us take a step back, till we KNOW what s going on inside us, ♥s&mind. so, he could come back, yes. Now,… Read more »

dark star
dark star

Yes, be what you wish to attract detached individuated and rad but in your own awesome Taurus way! Worked for my tauri mom and Aqua dad 😉

damons
damons

What we Aquarian men don’t want is that clingy, needy, gushing love sentiment; it gives us the creeps. Scorp ex ditched me via text. Took nine months for wound to heal. I’d never do that, ever. Agree with M regarding not giving a fuq. I have my eye on a strawberry blond virgo. She replies to my communiques anywhere from three hours to one month and at the most weirdest of moments. Arrives for lunch and breakfast “non-dates’ up to an hour late. Tardy a f, and couldn’t give a, but I love her for it. When we do face-time… Read more »

Damons
Damons

Actually, post reading this week’s astro, I’m abandoning all ideas of the aforementioned Virgo. Gotta get real.

Sagitaurean
Sagitaurean

Well, that’s great. I love loyalty, authentic expression and people who show up

Wormhole and romance don’t belong in the same sentence for me

Sagitaurean
Sagitaurean

and for the record that Aquarian man mentioned in above post was the most codependent and clingy and sentimental man I’ve ever met until he got real scared

damons
damons

I could change-out the word, wormhole, for mind-meld void of any period of calibrated time.

Re Gushing sentiment: I feel that actions are all that’s required – true loving ones – rather than some ott Hollywood bs cliché.

TripleL
TripleL

Breaking up over the phone after a 6 mo relationship is just plain chickenshit spineless & thoughtless.

If something scared him off once, it will happen again. When people treat you badly the first time, believe them. Be kind to yourself, do you, & it will get easier. Sending love, light & peace thru the ethers. xx

Redlipstick Virgo
Redlipstick Virgo

I totally agree with this – don’t ever make excuses for someone else’s bad behaviour

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true.everytime. adding to it, aquas do leave. and its okey to just be over it. its like sagg sense of adventure, they do it great or… but yes, NO excuse to poor human behaviour.

Invicta
Invicta

Gotta say, I agree with TrippleL
He’s showing you who he is
Believe him for your sake.
xx

Redlipstick Virgo
Redlipstick Virgo

Was total love Zombie for Aquarius guy for a number of years. I totally being bread crumbed but for some reason I thought it was fate and we would be together I was obsessed with him. He is seriously obsese – had been to jail in his youth and had cheated on his wife previously and didn’t tell me that he was married – nice but I actually thought I was going to make a life with this lying pig of a man – I was so weirdly hooked in. I came up with an analogy about this for a… Read more »

antsusu
antsusu

Love your analogy of bleeding out and him being an emotional leech. I absolutely went through the same Love zombie scenario as a Scorpio with a very unavailable Aries when I went through my divorce 4 years ago. We are the best of friends now, which is funny – but only after a ton of emotional ups and downs, and cord cutting of our odd co-dependent but never-romantic relationship. So glad things never went beyond friendship (despite my desperation for it at the time!) Phew! That would’ve been the end of me.

Redlipstick Virgo
Redlipstick Virgo

Yes it’s amazing how once love zombie goggles are off we see how bad these situations would be for us if they actually came to fruition.

Invicta
Invicta

yup
I was a total LZ for years over a Taurus guy with a moon in Aqua.
total waste of time.

Invicta
Invicta

not that I listened to reason but in retrospect..oh dear

Pi
Pi

You’re the best, Mystic <3

Irenna
Irenna

Jennie the Taurus, I completely empathize. As a May 16th Taurus, I was broken up with yesterday after dating someone exclusively for two years via email. To say I was blindsided is an understatement. I also received an utterly gorgeous, personalized birthday gift a little less than a month before. The person in question is a Cap Sun/Cap Moon but he does have an Aqua Venus at 1* degree, which is now being squared by Uranus. I’ve also been reading about the stages of grief and doing everything in my power to avoid the dreaded and pathetic “bargaining” phase. Just… Read more »

Sagitaurean
Sagitaurean

Nah I’m opening myself to divine love and feeling good.

Redlipstick Virgo
Redlipstick Virgo

That is just shitty behaviour – stay strong and remember you are fabulous and this is an expression of your ex’s lack of worth not yours!!!

Irenna
Irenna

Thank you, you’re very kind 🙂

Rubent
Rubent

Baaah, I feel like this is somehow not relatable enough, but it’ll feel good to get it out of me. My ex aqua rising conjunct merc, pisces sun, sag moon contacted me out of the blue with (this is a first) a specific request to talk because he was feeling insecure and bored and really wanted a friend to be able to air it too. This email request came in the middle of my last session in a 9 month women’s group around relational therapy and I barked out a laugh when I saw it. Think I even had a… Read more »

Miss Leo
Miss Leo

I am dying over this story. Next time he tells you he’s milking his rooster, you should send him a pulled pork recipe and see if he gets it.

Rubent
Rubent

OMG yaaaass!!

Weirdly I am super friends with his younger brother (btw this aqua ex is 29 years old n telling me his rub jobs like they’re news, ugh) who is an aqua sun-leo rising and he told me how a woman schooled him so hard by suggesting he go read The Little Hen because he was constantly trying to connect with her by asking about homework, and what is due/when etc
He squirmed but he took it to heart thankfully..

Pi
Pi

LOL !! Love your work

Sagitaurean
Sagitaurean

Hey it’s Jennie – You guys are dope af and it seems I’ve turned a corner the past few days and my spiritual/meditation/queendom/decording ritual is sinking in and I am not giving this any more energy. Long hair don’t care. The gift of this break up has been realizing for the first time in my entire life that I truly believe I’m worthy of love and for the first time after a rejection/break up I actually feel sorry for the MF because I’m that happy and that amazing. Thanks for all that info Mystic, you are the queen of everything… Read more »

LibraRising
LibraRising

Uh Aquarius men.. I recently had a situation that started off with a nice friendship where an Aqua man was flirting with me, texting me for months and then blossomed into a mutual thing- he even told me he wanted to sleep with me! Then, as soon as I returned from an overseas trip & broke up with my failing relationship, he literally disappeared haha! I thought I was a live Zombie but actually he was said love zombie, only interested in the fantasy. Not ONE text or effort to see me, also curved me at his usual hangouts plus… Read more »

Lizzie G
Lizzie G

Dear Sister Taurus woman. Speaking from 23 years experience with an Aquarius…. MOVE ON! Run away. Fast. Don’t look back. Don’t go back. You’ve got the get out of jail card…. USE IT! Do what I say. Not what I did. Seriously. In 23 years I really cannot remember one moment of truly genuine love from the guy. There was always an agenda. An excuse. Suspects of other women. Blame. Dredging up of the past. Unacknowledged special dates. On and on and on. Etc etc. Why did I stay? Stubborn. Set in my ways. Hoped for him to change. Never… Read more »

nush ciel
nush ciel

Dear Taurus woman, I also am a seriously witchy psychicTaurus woman: Toro Sun, Gemini Moon and Pisces asc And a Merc gemini retro..but thats something else Once upon a time I encountered an Aquarius man, he was sent to be the father of my child. I dreamed him before I met him. I should have heeded those dreams, and left the country. Universe offered me another opportunity to leave the country with a lovely sane chap before it got too serious with Mister Aquarius.. Silly Moi. Past life stuff, I thought I can handle this…. Well it turned out to… Read more »

TruthIsStrangerThanFiction
TruthIsStrangerThanFiction

Drop kicked a Scorpio/Toro Rising / Toro Moon / earthy Venus, Mars, Eros, Psyche out of my life. At least yours remembered your birthday – mine ignored my birthday invitation, lol. Like literally acted like he never even heard of it. He would have made a spectacular Aquarius, his disinterest in anything not related to himself was epic. I suspect he was a narcissist as he reminded me of an ex from 9 years back who was clinically diagnosed with NPD. Uranus in Taurus has been underwhelming. The last 2 months were horrible but this Taurus said f**k this dead… Read more »

Sweet Sanity
Sweet Sanity

I’m an Aqua sun/asc/mars/, going through a very painful break up with a Virgo. I’m heartbroken confused, and I miss him like mad even though he cheated/lied/was on Tinder/gaslighted.

Aquas are very sensitive really, in a cryptic way. We don’t express it well or like to appear vulnerable. Everyone can feel heartbreak. I’m sorry this guy acted this way to you, I think moving on is the best thing to do and really mean it. Self respect feel amazing. That’s what I’m trying to do.

SheRat
SheRat

i had a really bad Virgo experience too….the fifth anniversary of meeting him was yesterday. Somewhere on here, MM says Virgo and Aqua never really get over each other.

TheNakedEye
TheNakedEye

I’m a Virgo who broke up her Aqua a little less than a year ago and it makes me really sad to know I probably hurt him a lot. Especially since I (still) love him so much.
The soulvibe of Virgo/Aqua is AMAZING. Wishing you ladies lots of love.

Sweet Sanity
Sweet Sanity

Please MM say this isn’t true!!!!

Rubent
Rubent

We don’t express it well in context of the easily visible cues and ways that many others do and that come naturally to others. I heard someone make an analogy regarding how her perceptions of aquarians changed after she watched a doc about a deaf child in an african village. he was 13 and was kind of the kook/person no one could really play with/ask to do anything because he wasn’t able to hear. Then some people come in and they teach this kid less than 5 words in sign language and it’s like he had his true birth. He’s… Read more »

PlutoMoon
PlutoMoon

Heard of Medea (Tyler Perry)? Watch this video please:

Let. Him. Go.

<3

Sweet Sanity
Sweet Sanity

Love this!

kriblack
kriblack

So great. Thanks for sharing. 🙂

pearl
pearl

GOLD. Wish every human in the world could be born with this knowledge in their dna…

LotusFlower
LotusFlower

Wow. I love it – so much truth!

dizzarina
dizzarina

Fantastic.

peapods
peapods

Awesome.
Thanks so much for sharing.

Invicta
Invicta

Beautiful!!!!
x

Jokerman
Jokerman

So why don’t you go for a guy who is more Yin. I don’t just mean their Sun, Moon or Asc.

Like what is ya Mars, Asc / Dsc?

Suddenly Leo
Suddenly Leo

Dear Jennie,

FUQ THAT SH*T.

You are so much better than this guy. I’m glad he broke up with you in such a lame way so that you’ll always remember it and never take him back. I’m sorry about your heartbreak, but you’re self-actualizing and dope as sh*t, so I’m glad because homeboy was just going to bring you down long-term. Why did he break up with you? I’ll tell you why.

Because he’s an idiot.

YOU ARE A BAD*SS AND YOU WON’T RELAPSE BECAUSE OF THAT BAD*SSNESS.

XO

Sagitaurean
Sagitaurean

Yas Queen – thanks for this – agreed

Sagitaurean
Sagitaurean

(I’m Jennie)

emg
emg

I’m a big cancer stellium and I now live with an Aqua man. The local hero Aqua man for being into his 50’s and still single. (They’re a bit backward up here regarding relationships). Anyhow every day I tell him he’s a pain in my ass and that I’d happily give him away. And like MM says, I don’t give a fuq. He cannot get enough. I seem to have tamed him and this is after 9 years of it and plenty of on and off. The other thing is just send love out into the universe, remember it’s his… Read more »

MissDee
MissDee

My heart got broken just reading your words.
I don’t agree with “ways to getting him back” ever.
If he wants to return he will. Power plays are always wrong IMHO.
And can you even get yourself to “not giving a fuq”? I know I wouldn’t.
Moon in Taurus, Venus in Kataka and a Neptuian.
Don’t giving a fuq would be the most impossible thing to do.
Unless if it was only for me: not to having him return, but out of self love.
Then I could impose myself with the discipline (Virgo rising) to pursue that.

Chrysalis
Chrysalis

First – sorry to hear you are hurting, Jennie, Your pain sounds raw and you are handling it with courage and dignity. It would be interesting to know more about your chart and his to know what points are being hit by Saturn, where your moon is, the Mars-Venus links between you etc. Do you have Cap Venus and was Pluto just on it? That would have been a trip, for sure. As a Venus in Aqua gal – conj Dsc and Ceres, so a strong placement – I can tell you that it seems to be just how Aqua… Read more »

Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot
Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot

I think he will reappear the moment you hock/toss/give away the gorgeous personalised gift.

TripleL
TripleL

Yes. Use witty, lighthearted language to describe item on Ebay & sell that fukker.

TripleL
TripleL

Donate proceeds to a worthy charity, perhaps SAHA, for Pluto et al.?

Howdyhihi
Howdyhihi

I’m an Aquarius who has previously wound up with Aqua or Toros. (What is it with that Aqua-toro thing?! It’s under recognised as a phenomenon. This should be researched. Flow charted. Hell, Venn diagrammed, even.) Anyway, I’ve found the trick with Aqua dude fuqwittery is to analyse how they actually treated you throughout what they are probably privately referring to as your “not a relationship.” Odds are good, if you think about it, they were distant? Vague about their whereabouts at times? Told you whatever fresh version of Mr. Unavailable chatter lowered your expectations of a pair bond? (I may… Read more »

SheRat
SheRat

I recognise it! I think it has to do with us liking fixed-sign qualities.

TruthIsStrangerThanFiction
TruthIsStrangerThanFiction

Fixed Signs have good chemistry in some way. If not sexual, it will be intellectual or creative but it will be ‘something’

LotusFlower
LotusFlower

Good Aquarius advice

nush ciel
nush ciel

YESSSSS
You get Aqua dudes exactly
Not a relationship..its all in the semantics
And they’ll argue the hind leg off a dead donkey to insist they’re right and you are wrong
Should come with a health hazard warning
never again, I don’t care if he’sa silver fox, got 6 wolfhounds ten wineries and an island in somewhere…just NO

dizzarina
dizzarina

Aquarians are my kyryptonite— can confirm all of the above! Great description!

dizzarina
dizzarina

(To be fair, my partner is Aqua, also, but he’s an exception. Sag rising and Leo moon seems to mitigate the more unfortunate side of Aqua)

dark star
dark star

Lol that’s exactly what my dad is

dizzarina
dizzarina

Wow! Is he a more fiery kind of Aqua?

dark star
dark star

Dead on dizz

dark star
dark star

Yeah that’s a good description…the whole Aqua thing tempered by fire is a fascinating combination.

dark star
dark star

How does it work for you?

dizzarina
dizzarina

(Sorry for that incredibly long single-column reply!)

dizzarina
dizzarina

Well, he’s a very warm person, full of heart and integrity, but has the ability to switch into pure-cerebral mode, and is a clear-thinking, broad-minded genius. The best part of the combo, and what really works for me, is that he loves passionately, is very romantic, BUT gives me all the space I need, and needs his own space as well. I have Aqua on the DC (his sun conjunct) so I absolutely need this. I”ve been single most of my life until him and I just cannot abide someone up in my space all the time or feeling guilty… Read more »

Veronica
Veronica

I have always gotten along well with Aquas, have a fab Aqua ex. and lots of Aqua friends of both sexes. They are interesting folk.

But Aries and Aqua do have that rapport. As an Aries, I love that Aquas never get shocked or judgy either

dizzarina
dizzarina

Yes, exactly! The rapport is based on a certain expansiveness and permission to be yourselves. (Aries here)

Pi
Pi

that is one thing that I do very much like about Aquas. Yes.

Kat
Kat

Does the same strategy apply to Gemini men? But going cold and distant after Jupiter went into Scorpio. I am Taurus sun.

Kat
Kat

I am also not feeling the promise of Uranus in Taurus YET.

SheRat
SheRat

I have not read anything but the title and seen the photo. That shizz ain’t gonna help.

SheRat
SheRat

I’m an Aqua who has the lovesick blues for a Scorpio (with Aries and Saturn Rising…how good is that for me?). I have actually sorrowfully listened to Bob freakin’ Dylan–but he’s a Gem who doesn’t mean shit he says. Maybe I should keep it to Bowie. I am sympathetic, no matter what the sign or sign of the times, actually. And this incident is actually good news especially if he’s a Muggle…because it is abso clear his feelings freaked him out. MM is right though. It’s not that us Aquas like being ignored..it’s that we like knowing what’s going on… Read more »

Jokerman
Jokerman

You lookn for a fight?

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Omg you are so Mars Retro Man 😀

Except without a chorus of menny men flanking you to underscore their own go-to fallback positions of old school strength…or is that Bob? Heheh. Just noticed something about Mars Retro for Men. Thnx PF…it goes with a lil feelin i got for no apparent reason about someone. I worked on it already, Babylon Energy comes in to rescue. Boys you think you got Ols Skool backing you? Heheh xx Watch those ladies in yr life, PF. 🙂

Jokerman
Jokerman

I just luv a laff. Throw in a bomb, or two, and enjoy.

Jokerman
Jokerman

I gave the Scorp lady some space; no kidding, l did. And l’m seeing her again. The 2 Caps disappeared and the Pisces is on her wafting- warp trajectory.

Jokerman
Jokerman

I’ve been in some discussion about Aqua energy re space in relationships. I don’t need space but l do understand other ppl’s needs. But for someone so Uranian l don’t seek it myself. On the Skywriter tests I’m more Neptunian and Plutonic.

How Uranian, to claim ya not Uranian.

SheRat
SheRat

LOL. Yes, but only with you. 😉

Jacqui
Jacqui

He would love the “mental” space of stealth mode. I grew up with dad n bro as Aquarius men and my aqua rising meant we always needed emotional and social timeout just to digest our life. We were happy when we sorted the unconscious vibes out and could return to tolerate each other’s minor quirks.

Jacqui
Jacqui

Ps I’m a Taurus too

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Hey i was wondering about yr astro. That’s great study/ obsv stuff for many things under these stars.

Have been reading yr posts with interest.

Thanks, Jacqui.

SheRat
SheRat

Space is also good. My whole family is air…so my dad and I (Aquas) and mom and bro (Libras) all retreat and then come down to the table to argue. Ahem discuss. Except we’re agreeing with each other. LOL.

LotusFlower
LotusFlower

Recognise this so much!! Retreat to rooms to read /social media, come down at mealtimes, or shared activities, refreshed and ready for more ‘debate’ lol

Kat
Kat

So air signs need this space then?

LotusFlower
LotusFlower

I’d say so, the better to return and breezily reconnect, if that makes sense?

LotusFlower
LotusFlower

“Needing emotional and social time just to digest our (life) lives” – this is such a thing though. I feel I need this and negotiating it without hurting feelings or seeming too cray-cray is the everything. A partner who gives me space is all. (Sagg rising, Venus & Mars in Libra in 9th)

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