Manifesting Love Sounds Good But What If It Malfunctions?
I have an extra weird current with someone and I just don’t know what’s going on here.
I had this on and off thing with an older guy in my early twenties and around the same time got really into manifesting love. And I thought I was consciously choosing to have this no expectations, no strings attached, purely physical thing with him. He didn’t seem like “dating material” to me. But over time, of course, I developed feelings for him. Maybe as I had low self-worth at the time, I took his ghosting style of random hangout-hookups as a challenge to my ability to manifest one of these calls/texts/random encounters when I wanted to see him but didn’t want to initiate too eagerly.
Anyway – for some reason, I was really good at it. Like better than I wanted to be. I had all kinds of ways but basically, I’d just vividly think of him, his bicep, his crooked nose, olive skin or tattoo or whatever and hours later he’d pass by me on the street, at a party or in traffic. We lived in a city, not too big but not too small either.
After love zombie-ing to the max about it, I got over it and moved on. In fact, one of the days I felt fully moved on and was talking to my friend about it, I said out loud: “if I bumped into him today I would be totally fine with it.” I walked back towards my school alone and two blocks later he drove by me in his truck. He pulls over at a light and tells me to hop in. I think this is too weird/funny so I do we and we talk for an awkward minute or two and I tell him to let me out at my school. Spooked.
Manifesting Love? Or A Douchelord?
It’s been years. I have mixed feelings about manifesting, esp in this way as it always felt like the “universe” or forces at play were trying to take my request too literally to teach me that people could be manifested right in front of you. But their will could not be affected. So I could manifest crossing paths but not the type of reciprocal feelings & healthy relationship that I wanted. This felt like a smart sarcastic gesture from the forces at work.
Now, ten years later, I have been reintroduced to the concept of manifesting love from a new more psychological-subconscious angle and it just brought back up all my experiences with this guy. Two days later he contacted me with a cryptic text. Typical. I engaged back but neutrally as I don’t really have any interest left for him. I felt I needed to ghost this convo. Petty, maybe, but I didn’t want the pattern to continue. Maybe say no to the universe or something.
Then, maybe a month later I’m giving a guy friend of mine advice about a girl and it happens to make me tell a story about the guy. It was a happy memory, he is a goofy guy and it was a good story for the moment. I got excited about telling it. Maybe 4 hours later he texts me. So, may I ask, wtf with this energy?
I’ve had psyche connections/phone call synchronicity with best friends and boyfriends before and so much so that it’s not too surprising when it happens with deep connections. But I always wonder why certain people have this residual thread of energy to me or me to them. Especially since I’ve been over him and through other relationships since that became far more meaningful.
I guess I just want to see behind the curtain to know if there’s some reason I can magnetize situations so strongly with this particular person? Karma? Can I redirect this energy towards things I actually want in my life?
Any ideas / similar experiences / Astro influences / out there theories? I welcome any of it –
Triple Air Gemini
Ghosting? He Needs Exorcising!
Dear Triple Air Gemini,
Out there theories? First, an “in here” theory. “Manifesting” men is super-easy in your early 20s. You just have to exist. And, he sounds like a douchelord. They’re also easy to manifest. In fact, the real challenge with these guys is banishing them. He would probably keep on showing up if you dedicated your life to Cat Worship and strode around with a “fuq off men” t-shirt on, trailed by your familiars.
He also sounds like a fuqwit muggle. Random hangout hookups? I am not a huge fan of manifesting, as such, but if you are going to do it, only try with your self-regard at a high vibe. It will repel these types of characters. And never try to manifest love when you’re feeling needy or must-have.
Only Try Manifesting When Your Self-Regard Is High
Or maybe, horrifyingly, he re-appears whenever your self-worth drops below a critical level. You mention the concept of ghosting a few times with this gentleman. I say exorcise him properly. Shun people who aren’t offering you what you want. Literally refusing them a moment of your focus or proximity to you sends a more powerful signal than any amount of intention.