Karma Or Just Drama?
Maybe this is an obvious vibe-y question as I accept the concept that we do intermingle our energies when flinging ourselves together – flirtatiously, physically, psychically whatever! But I have an extra weird current with someone and I just don’t know what’s going on there.
I had this on and off thing with an older guy in my early twenties and around the same time got really into manifesting. I thought I was consciously choosing to have a no expectations no strings attached, purely physical thing with him. He didn’t seem like “dating material” to me. But over time of course, I developed feelings for him. Maybe bc I had low self worth at the time, I took his ghosting style of random hangout-hookups as a challenge to my ability to manifest one of these calls/texts/bump-intos when I wanted to see him but didn’t want to initiate too eagerly.
Anyway – for some reason, I was really good at it. Like better than I wanted to be. I had all kinds of ways but basically I’d just vividly think of him, his bicep, his crooked nose, olive skin or tattoo or whatever and hours later he’d pass by me on the street, at a party, in traffic ( he had a recognizable car). We lived in a city, not too big but not too small either.
After love zombie-ing to the max about it, I got over it and moved on. In fact one of the days I felt fully moved on and was talking to my friend about it, I said out loud: “if I bumped into him today I would be totally fine with it.” We parted ways I walked back towards my school alone and 2 blocks later he drove by me in his truck. He pulls over at a light and tells me to hop in. I think this is too weird/funny so I do we and we talk for an awkward minute or two and I tell him to let me out at my school. Spooked.
Ghost This Convo
It’s been years. I have mixed feelings about manifesting, esp in this way bc it always felt like the “universe” or forces at play were trying to take my request too literally to teach me that people could be manifested right in front of you. But their will could not be affected. So I could manifest crossing paths but not the type of reciprocal feelings & healthy relationship that I wanted. This felt like a smart sarcastic gesture from the forces at work but I liked it & learned to dream better, not wish for anything specific from specific people I already knew.
Now, years later (10) I’d been reintroduced to the concept of manifesting from a new more psychological-subconscious angle and it just brought back up all my manifesting experiences with him (and other things) and I just kind of smirked to myself at how intense and kind of funny yet effective that was for me. 2 days later he contacted me with a cryptic text. Typical. I engaged back but neutrally bc I don’t really have any interest left for him. I let the conversation drop off and, bc he’s ghosted conversations so often, I felt I needed to ghost this convo. Petty, maybe, but I didn’t want the pattern to continue. Maybe say no to the universe or something.
Then, maybe a month later I’m giving a guy friend of mine advice about a girl and it happens to make me tell a story about the guy. It was a happy memory, he is a goofy guy and it was a good story for the moment. I got excited telling it. Maybe 4 hours later he texts me. So, may I ask, wtf with this energy?
I’ve had psyche connections / phone call synchronicity with best friends and boyfriends before and so much so that it’s not too surprising when it happens with deep connections. But I always wonder why certain people have this residual thread of energy to me or me to them. Especially since I’ve been over him and through other relationships since that became far more meaningful.
I guess I just want to see behind the curtain to know if there’s some reason I can magnetize situations so strongly with this particular person? Karma ? Can I redirect this energy towards things I actually want in my life?
Any ideas / similar experiences / Astro influences / out there theories? I welcome any of it –
Triple Air Gemini
Dear Triple Air Gemini,
Out there? It’s Venus Opposite Saturn at the moment. So when it comes to Astrology Love Questions, I am going to be very much in there. To be perfectly frank, if you are no-doubt charming young thing (you mention school), it does not take much “manifesting” genius to conjure up a certain style of male. You just have to…I don’t know…exist. He would probably have kept showing up if you’d committed your life to Bast, read only the Egyptian Book of the Dead and strode around the place with “fuq off all men” on a t-shirt. Perhaps trailed by cats, bats and other familiars.
He also – as you obviously realised for yourself – is a bit of a Fuqwit Muggle. “Ghosting Random Hangout Hookups.?” There is a high chance all the women in his age group got sick of him and his cryptic texts, recognisable car, bicep and what not. BUT you came to your senses and yes, high self worth is an effective antidote to this sort of character. They hate it. It’s like peppermint oil to fruit flies.
But your question is real – what IS that strange connection with particular people. Often it’s pheromones, super-strong Mars-Venus synastry. Good sex that can keep you energetically attached at some level. It is probably something to do with orgones. It can also be on Node connection, the Moon & Mercury mixed up with the Nodes can translate into situations where people lurk on the outskirts of your life, era after era. They’re like strange talismans in a way.
Ghosting? Send Him Toward The Light
Or maybe, horrifyingly, he re-appears whenever your self-worth drops below a critical level. You mention the concept of ghosting a few times with this gentleman. I say exorcise him properly. Do a little ritual this new Full Moon ( in radically candid Sagittarius) and send him toward the light. Even if, as he is still on this plain, just the pink neon light of the nearest bar with strippers and a half-price happy hour.
And, lets just say your manifesting skills are paranormally just stunning. You’ve already got it – play with dream interpretation, Feng Shui, meditation, therapy, poetry, money witching. Anything but Fuqwit Muggles.D Driving by and telling you to “hop in” after he ignored you and tried to impose his culture of random bullshit on you? To me this guy vibes like he constructed his entire identity and persona off some character in a movie, Patrick Swayze or one of Channing Tatum’s D-Listers perhaps. Ghosting? He can go and haunt some boring back alley.
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