Astrology And Relationship Break-Ups
Astrology and break-ups are not automatically connected. It’s not like all – say – Librans decide to end relationships one week. But tumultuous times pressure fragile bonds. People are more aware of their raw, core selves and which of their aspirations are aligned with that. Projections dissipate at Warp Speed. You can’t maintain pretenses without damage. As societal ground shifts beneath us and we experience the daily w.t.f media flow, only the rock-solid relationships, friendships, and business alliances make it through. The others are reforming or disintegrating.
Some of the most poignant communiques here at Gorgon H.Q. are from people wanting “clarification” that the Tarot, Oracle, their Pluto transit, instincts, dreams, and Horoscopes are all incorrect. That their “complicated” or “strong despite it all” relationship can be saved.
This is not a Love Zombie situation. That’s when a person over-infuses a tonne of energy, erotic vibe, and soul into an attraction or projection that can’t hold it. That’s a crush masquerading as a “kind of” relationship. I am talking about actual relationships with red flags, rather than rose petals, strewn everywhere. Romances where a creative mind has been subverted to explain and excuse crappy conduct.
The Devil card keeps showing in the Tarot. Dreams are nightmares of dirty swimming pools on abandoned resorts or gigantic waves that threaten to overwhelm fragility. Saturn or Pluto are applying hard. Friends shrug and change the subject when you bring up the latest plot twist in your long-running soap opera. Or stage doomed-to-fail interventions. One moment you’re out, that’s it. The next, something – a gesture, a ghost of familiarity, a surge of sentiment – means you’re back in.
The “Stay or Go?” Stage Is Worse Than The Actual Break-Up
But the stage where you are contemplating whether to Stay or Go is far worse than the actual break-up. There is an eerie phase where you are with someone but withdrawing your psychic energy from the relationship. You’re doing whatever alchemy has to happen for the “us” to become a “me” again. It’s depleting.
At the same time, there are practical concerns – maybe children to consider, animal companions, indeed joint accounts and passwords, a whole heap of stuff. Your psyche says, “flee to the mountains.” The accountant thinks it will take months to disentangle the shared $$$ scenarios. Existential concerns spike between 1 am, and 5 am, the time in Traditional Chinese Medicine when anger or grief are processed. What if this is your best shot? Does stepping out of the relationship means you’re failing at society-life? Could this mean you become a desert crone, prowling around the outskirts of town grazing on gorse and nettle, communing only with sky and spirit? Or an out-of-control lush, a Mickey Rourke character trapped in a David Lynch dystopia?
A Subliminal Script Stars Running, Spouting Patriarchal Shit
When you contemplate initiating a break-up – especially of something long-standing and woven into a vestige of tribe or community – a subliminal script starts running, spouting patriarchal shit and spewing out random bits of code that don’t make sense. This is often when you turn to Jupiter or Neptune for a good time. Jupiter Vibe says the Path of Excess (shopping, boozing, heaps of holidays) really can lead to the Palace of Wisdom. Neptune Vibe can inspire a segue to pure fantasy; A Rescue Romance perhaps. Or the sudden winning of an astronomical amount of money that enables you to move into a secret pad somewhere by the sea. From there, you would use your wealth to hire people – therapists, goons, lawyers – to do everything else. It would be a clean break.
But most break-ups are dirty. Feelings and theories repressed for the sake of civilized coupling get weaponized. Forensic accounting uncovers flimsy constructs. The reclaiming of your personal psychic space is not the joyous exercise in authentication that it would be if you were stronger, cashed up and rested.
But the hardest bit is the not-knowing. Once you click out of denial and into transition mode, you can deploy your Saturn energies: patience, strong friendships, wisdom, and planning genius. And then, as you free up all the energy trapped in lying to yourself or trying to prop up a fake facade, you rebirth. Always.