Do you ever notice yourself caught in attracting the same astro signatures in your love interests and/or relationships? For instance, I have a penchant for being attracted to Mars-Venus men.
My first boyfriend had Mars in Libra, not quite Mars-Venus in aspect but after all Venus rules Libra. His Mars was also conjunct my Venus. He was pathological and literally mentally ill but I still fell for him. Our relationship was a dreamy lie. My second boyfriend, like the first a long term relationship, had Mars opposite Venus. His Mars in Gemini was trine my Venus, and yes it’s true what they say about Mars-Venus synastry. The sexual chemistry!
So much sex and goo goo eyes over him- it took me more than three years for my brain to wake up after being scrambled by the endorphins oozing from me- to realise he was a “Puer” aka self obsessed man-child. A Sagittarius. A real nasty person who left good friends and family members in the lurch and ghosted any responsibility for his actions.
Enter my current relationship and predicament. This one has no Mars-Venus going on in his chart but Mars square Saturn. Saturn has caused my man much pain, frustration and disappointment to him sexually and to his masculinity. In the bedroom Mars-Saturn has been bitter. The pain and difficulty of a partner who feels like a cold wall, when you are an easy breezy Air Venus who loves her sensual pleasures.
We are such a harmonious match on all other levels. I feel I can be completely myself and comfortable in the relationship, something I haven’t felt before. Our Moons are *exactly* conjunct.
Due to the sex difficulties, I have found myself lured by two other men over the time we have been together. And what do you know? Both Venus-Mars men, this time with both men having a conjunction of these planets in their chart.
The first man who came along I felt a compulsive attraction to, as he was a personality I would usually shun as he is a dick. Sure enough when I lurked on his astrology to figure out what was wrong with me for being lured by such a chauvinistic arse, yep. Mars-Venus strikes again.
So here begs the question, am I only capable of being attracted to Mars-Venus men? My Moon is happy with my current relationship but hanging out on the opposite side of my chart my Venus begs for attention and adoration. She does not want the Mars-Saturn man. She wants a Mars that is free to play.
Maybe I am not owning my own Venus and Mars energy enough and am seeking it from another? What is it about Mars-Venus men anyway? Perhaps if I know what the appeal is I will break its spell on me!
A Mars-Venus Lover
Dear Mars-Venus Lover,
Yes we ALL have runs of the same sign, archetypes or astro-signatures. I call it Astral Repetition Mating Syndrome. But your situation does not seem quite like that. It is almost like a version of the Madonna-Whore complex, yes?
That if you feel emotionally ‘safe’ with someone or as if you could build a healthy/cool set-up together on whatever terms work for each of you, that you’re not aroused by them. And that you’re physically drawn to people who are less “safe.”
The Mars-Venus Vibe You Are Attracted To Is Within You
My thoughts are that you have answered your own question – this Mars-Venus vibe you’re being drawn to is IN you – they’re just reflecting it back at you. And, if you are post Saturn Return, you will know that often the people who have very little to offer in the realm of quality relationship/friendship etc really ramp up the charm and sexiness. It turns into this over the top Voodoo vibe to (at best) distract from how little else there is on offer or (at worst) as part of a predatory, manipulative, narcissist arsenal.
Obviously i am feeling a bit sorry for Mr Mars-Saturn here – could this situation be helped? If you bought your Venusian wiles back home? Or is the bedroom situation literally unable to evolve. “Cold” and “Bitter” does not exactly sound promising. But you don’t need to pull a Madame Bovary trip in the 21st Century, surely?
What does everyone else think?
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