Scorpio Swamp Studs

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Hi Mystic,

I am a long-term subscriber and follower of your work. Enjoy the wit and color immensely.

I have to be honest and say 99% of the time your ‘scopes do not resonate. Bare with me – I’m not saying what you think I may be saying. I have led a pretty isolated life these past how many years, so it’s pretty damn impossible to be living the relationship heavy life the scopes outline when I have no relationships in my realm. This has been the reason for a myriad of reasons – not only circumstantial (moving to a new country and not really “fitting” with the culture) – I also made the choice 8 years ago to NEVER settle for non-reciprocal relating ever again.

Recently I met a Scorpio (let’s call him Scorpio Swamp Stud) through a possible work scenario. Sure, he’s “nice” but from day one, he’s been off-loading me. I got to the point where I put him in check letting him know it’s not his place to offload on me – it’s his place to handle his business, not mine. He told me he really dug my strength, my talents etc But g’damn, talk, talk, talk! No – no Gemini rising (that’s me!) but I’m at the stage in my evolution where I’m all about walk, not talk.

He suggested we go out for drinks. I kinda nudged it off. However, the horny bull in me began to buck and I felt the urge to take him out on an “Artists Date”. I suggested, he was game, we went out, we had a good time. But as soon as I was in the car – offloading. It’s all about him. There was a bit of affection (I’m mega Taurus). I know when I’m sexually compatible with someone just from a touch and his was a good one. Just some hand holding and snuggling while enjoying modern art. Well, two nights ago I FLIPPED. I’m mega 12th housy to boot, and all the wounds came up – mine being in one-way relationships where I am offloaded on. Next morning, I was like fuck it, took myself out on a date, had the best synchonicity ever and felt good. I accepted I cannot build something with a guy like this and I felt empowered. But than I felt the disappointment that once again, the depressed / mentally ill man has come into my life where all they do is offload. I made the choice to never be in a one-way lane again and was disappointed once again, that’s what turned up.

Last night I decided fuck it – let’s just DO stuff. Let’s create. He hesitated. Hearing he’s been in his funk, I was like cool, you do you, I’ll do me. He exploded. He felt judged, condescended to etc I told him repeatedly what he meant but he could not, would not let it go. Tonight, he contacts me in the middle of a work conversation. I hit him back, and he starts again about the same BS from last night. When he said I was gas lighting him oh boy, did I flip. I asked him – do you realize you never ask about me? Do you realize we only talk about you? Do you realize you offload on me from the jump every time we interact? How dare you – and men like you – treat women like we are therapists, mothers with no regard for our own wellbeing?I told him I have boundaries and we need to part. He tried to keep talking but I said “No – no more talk.” And he finally said okay.

I feel relieved. I read your monthly scopes and it’s spot on. Because for the first time in a long time I had someone enter my life. It played out to the tee. The long Saturn sojourn opposite my Sun a few years back. Saturn in Sagg opposite Gemini – my rising I have felt as well PLUS Saturn finally wrapping his ride through my 7th house has been dense, intense and immense 5 year period of just cutting all non-essential. Foundationing like a fucker, I have. I feel so HAPPY that I walked my walk and set a standard – no more one way sway. And feel good and believe that the future brings healthy, reciprocal relationships where give and take is the dance, not a qi vamp mental mind-fuck wanna-be tango discordant fandango.

No doubt when the harvest comes the scopes will be in sync as they were this month

Thank you for your words.

Stay Rad,

A fellow traveller,

Taurantula

WOW okay. SO i get this. I think. And yes, that pull for connection can be such a strong tug, like a tide.  And I think in so many of our psyches there is a part of us happy to play whatever role is required to get a certain hit of regard, affection, intimacy, admiration…She (or he) is already pulling on the costume and getting set to simper the lines when WHAM…hello Saturn and the healthy boundaries/authentic dynamics only pre-requisites.

So aside from everything else, this is worth it for the term Scorpio Swamp Stud right?

 

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Taurantula
Taurantula

Def a shifting of the relationship tides for so many… 🙂 For the record, Scorpio Swamp Stud really is a lovely man. A seriously beautiful but anxious soul. Some of just can’t carry anymore man-child’s on our hip hereon in our journey. If / when he climbs the mountain in his anxious forest thicket and learns not to drown in his dar knights – aka Persephone – he’s gonna be a hell of a diamond to the right lady. Bless him and his future evolution and happiness. What hands, lips, thighs and playfulness. Just wasn’t for me at this point… Read more »

Clavdia C
Clavdia C

It’s kind of the worst when you realize you’re doing all the hard lifting, shaping the clay for the next lady but yeah c’est la vie. Good for you!

As a Cancer I’m always wanting to care take. Until I get pissed off, want my own attention and Leo Moon/Mars my way off the stage.

night_owl13
night_owl13

It’s just better to be alone.

sphinx
sphinx

We are never alone! That is the take away I got from my first Vipassana course. We are multiple beings having multiple experiences across time and space and connected to the very hum of life that is our source and Creatrix.
Some lives are about connecting to Source while separate to other bodies in our living situation but many are bunny rabbits, or mushrooms and or bees by nature and a healthy hive mind suits some incarnations.

Clavdia C
Clavdia C

Vipassana? Buddhism? Hmm. I get the idea of what you’re saying but I’ve never heard that take on vipassana, which is what we talk about when we talk about “mindfulness meditation.”

Not critiquing but curious, as a student of Buddhism.

Centaurus
Centaurus

I recently had a 7th house transit now progressing through the 8th…. I really want to be succinct and clean in the way I wrap a few things up this week with the shifting landscape. The dark moon was a bit whack but I really worked it for all it could offer and the new moon energy is really quite sparkly after a big smudge and clearing though I still felt the pull of an undertow that wasn’t giving itself over to me very clearly. Such a sense of last days of Saturn Sun sign and the permanence or impermanence… Read more »

sphinx
sphinx

Really I need a pdf on antidotes to males and females of the various signs! Perhaps it involves a ritual order a la: “Do you realise you never ask about me? Do you realize we only talk about you? Do you realize you offload on me from the jump every time we interact? How dare you – and men like you – treat women like we are therapists, mothers with no regard for our own wellbeing?” (Awesome!) along with: Begone! And do NOT return without my permission! Then a herbal remedy: “the antidote involves heavy doses of chamomile and coriander… Read more »

FireTryin'
FireTryin'

When will you be publishing this? 🙂

sphinx
sphinx

Oh ok, I was hoping MM would though!

Lili
Lili

Dark Moon- find the treasure… in yourself.

Pi
Pi

It must invite some odd experiences, being a 12th Houser. The energy is fundamentally that of ‘priest’ or ‘priestess’ , like a confessional, irrespective of whether you have chosen that… To have seen this pattern and now consciously called it out with people who disrespect your boundaries is amazing work! I hope from here you have opened a wonderful path to people (partners) who perceive your receptivity in a peaceful and respectful way and not as a dumping ground so you can “absolve” their sins and problems… They say doing the opposite house to where the energy (stellium, transit etc)… Read more »

scorpiodawn
scorpiodawn

thankyou for this pi!

thelovelyduckling
thelovelyduckling

“Qi vamp mental mind-fuck wanna-be tango discordant fandango”…oh boy…THAT type…completely apt description of someone I have known too. Good for you for setting standards that YOU are worthy of and keeping to them.

thelovelyduckling
thelovelyduckling

I always enjoy reading both, but I have found that my rising sign horoscopes feel way more applicable than my sun sign ‘scopes. Anyone else? Why might that be, MM?

Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot
Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot

Well done~!

dark star
dark star

I had a life long pattern of attracting offloading romantic partners. I realized i saw caretaking as love from being enmeshed as a child- the pattern continues unless you do the work to change it. Great job recognizing and setting the boundary <3

Pi
Pi

Yes. My Capricorn moon snapped into place after two relationships with emotionally dysfunctional men. These days if his house isn’t in order in fundamentally important ways, I ain’t the lady for him. Slippery boundary crap is not my game to play.

dark star
dark star

Exactly! Saturn is my final dispositor so i mean business now w boundaries. It feels great. Cap moon I’m sure Embodies this

Pi
Pi

It’s always interesting to get to the origins of this stuff!

Pi
Pi

Naturally, it takes two to tango, so there was a lot of “take a good hard look at yourself” happening after this time in order to feel fine about taking a healthy step back and engage critical faculties at the first whiff of loose inner-life-management. His pre existing problems are not for me to “fix”, or even deal with, if I feel (know) that I can’t or don’t want to. Noooo way.

Elizabeth Morgan
Elizabeth Morgan

I too just had a resurge Scorpio relationship this year. He is sun/merc/venus/neptune Scorpio, moon is sag and gem rising. We met when we were 19. the romance didnt work out then due to location. We reconnected 25 years later. He is single with daughter. I am single with a son. Smart sensitive man, but a wee bit controlling, VERY sensitive, self absorbed, with a mountain of addiction issues that he claimed to have a handle on. But come to find, he didn’t. The love was there, but I finally had to reinstate my boundaries and gracefully bow out due… Read more »

scorpiodawn
scorpiodawn

this new moon is mega harsh..nice to have it validated by mystics daily e mail…#pmt
any pmt remedies ladies…i must get magnesium…spent the past two days crying.lSTILL havent turned to alcohol tho…

flowerchild
flowerchild

Yes, it has been harsh, I had a rough night, emotionally, last night… sorry to hear you’ve been having a rough go, too.
MM’s daily just made me feel a lot better knowing it’s a pile-up of astro crap right now that’s contributing to making me feel like, well, crap…

Looking forward to the tide turning…and I hope it turns better for you soon, too, scorpiodawn! Good job not going for the alcohol, and magnesium does really help with pmt! I’ve been doing a lot of belly-breathing to ground myself and it takes the edge off my emotional state, too.

scorpiodawn
scorpiodawn

thankyou floerchild…im in a tizz abt christmas too…ive ordered magnesium, should b here before christmas…nice to know someone else feels it, hope it shifts soon for both of us x

flowerchild
flowerchild

I feel a bit better since the New Moon has passed, do you? Now we’re just waiting on Saturn, just a little more than 24 hours to go! Hang in there!

Christmas – always kind of a shit show, I’m trying to spend some grounding time alone because I can feel the frenzied energy of everyone else out in public, and it throws me off. Spending a lot of time on my couch with nice things around me, tea, candles, nice music or a helpful podcast… Do self-care if you can! The magnesium will help!

flowerchild
flowerchild

You did a great job setting boundaries and getting rid of this guy and realizing the pattern! Great work! I’m about to have Saturn transit my 7th (Pluto is already there transiting and has been for quite awhile now), and I’m hoping I exhibit these same iron clad boundaries and realize my patterns, too, as you have done. I’m already feeling it, my approach to dating has been SO different recently, not anywhere near as reckless, than when I first got back into it four years ago. I’ve learned a lot, though it has been mostly painful learning.. One thing… Read more »

flowerchild
flowerchild

About the ‘off-loading’ thing, too — No matter what anyone’s sign is, there is a society-wide issue where women seem to do most if not all of the emotional labor in relationships and it’s so ingrained in society that it seems tacit to everyone that women will be doing this, and it’s not right and it’s not fair. There are TONS of articles about this online right now as I think this is part of the rooting out of effed up sexist stuff in the world right now. It’s good it’s coming up and out to be healed and set… Read more »

GreenWitch
GreenWitch

Absolutely spot on and the reason I left my last long-term relationship.

Scorpio_Rising
Scorpio_Rising

It is exhausting! Somehow all my friends male and female see me as a psychologist or counselor they can offload on. I got exhausted and just stopped being a free therapist! It’s not like they used any good advice I had given them anyways. lol!

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Yeah that’s what really shits me, they go ‘oh yes you’re right I should do X’ and then they keep on making a rod for their own back by *not* taking my good advice. Sheesh

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Hell yeah. Probs why I’ve been single pretty much my whole life. Looking after someone else’s emotional needs, mothering someone who’s not taking responsibility for their own sh*t? NAH

GreenWitch
GreenWitch

The only thing I know is that I do not know – to paraphrase some old Greek bloke – but experiential knowledge tells me that anytime I make a decision out of fear, (and sometimes it’s so deeply buried, I only get a pale reflection of it in consciousness) I am f”c***.
And not in a good way!

HelioTropical
HelioTropical

That’s an awesome term. I have a similar story except that in my case it dragged on for years for reasons too embarrassing to get into… after setting me aside for daring to at last exhibit any degree of testings so re: blatant non-reciprocity, then apparently deciding to fish around for another opportunity to hook up, I got sooooo flippant with him, and hilariously he couldn’t recall ever having shared with me the upcoming trip I wished him good on (i mean, to be fair, the contents of that much mindless unloading are pretty difficult to track). Broadly and thematically… Read more »

HelioTropical
HelioTropical

Ohmygod, effing autocorrect : testing so = testiness.
Like so.

fishgirl
fishgirl

Haha, I hear you re: mutability and the power of nonchalance.

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

You know what i find hilarious, though? That a Swamp Scorp couldn’t keep track of information given (if yours WAS a Scorp) but that Gemini could without even thinking. That is the great data-download that Gemini is capable of, making multi-connections and references that they bring into conversation, keeping it flowing.

HelioTropical
HelioTropical

Ahhh, thank you for that! Indeed this is a Scorp Swamp reference. ..so, people who know me comment on my memory with something approaching awe, so I know this is maybe not the most commonly-encountered level of retention, but: there was essentially zero continuity with him in terms of the conversational flow. It took really far too long to understand why that was!

VSLR
VSLR

I don’t know what decision to make about this attraction with Pisces. I feel deeply for him, i have hurt him in small ways too sometimes – nothing serious though. I don’t know whether to move on or not. I want to leave this uncertainty behind in 2017, but scopes keep saying things wont be resolved until Jan. I know he cares for me too, but the timing isn’t right for him (whatever that means). So much left unsaid, so much unspoken!

Arienaquancer
Arienaquancer

Oh yes, I have a Scorpio Swamp Stud in my past. That is the perfect term.

Scorpio_Rising
Scorpio_Rising

The two Scorpios I dated were all about themselves, there was zero room or anyone else in their life.
Strange, I went through a cycle of attracting Libras, then Scorpios.
Then I dated a Virgo and that was a better match for me.

louiedoom
louiedoom

I’ve always noticed cycles too in who I attract. For a while it was all Geminis, then Cancers, now Libras. I wonder why this is? I’m an Aries with a Cancer rising. I still love Gemini energy, but just don’t want to date them anymore.

Scorpio_Rising
Scorpio_Rising

Not sure but it was a bizarre time for me. I couldn’t meet a guy who wasn’t a Libra then one day it switched to Scorpios then Double Scorpios.
Needless, to say I attracted one low Libra and two low Scorpios, but c’est la vie!
I learned my lessons well. It’s all part of becoming wise.

Christine
Christine

I’m an Aries rising/Cancer sun and I seem to only attract Earth signs lately and they are the only ones who stay. Libra and Gemini men talk a good game but it’s usually hot air, IMO.

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Wow… I also had a relationship resurge. Met a Capricorn in September, He was unavailable but as the story started to unfold he had been wanting to change his relationship status. He unfortunately was not in tune with his psyche so I believe that he was done. We started a connection that moved very quickly. We were definitely on the same page. It was fun. He made plans to visit with me for a weekend. It was an eye opener, fun but I sensed something was missing. We continued on. He made plans to visit me at home to help… Read more »

Chrysalis
Chrysalis

What a wonderful and erudite letter. Yes, Scorpio Swamp Stud is brilliant. I wonder if there is Pluto as well as Saturn in this mix, when suddenly all one can see is power imbalances in interactions that once upon a time might have been (mis)read as something else. ‘Walk not talk’ is defo Saturn – opposite Taurus would no doubt have been a punish. I find myself wondering about the event eight years ago that triggered the ‘never again’ decision. A lit-up 12th house would possibly be the recipient of a great deal of confessional /offloading as people find their… Read more »

S
S

I recently had an incident of a potential relationship resurgence…oh hell to the no.
Heis a Sun Scorpio and I didn’t take kindly to his stalker vibe message.
As I remember him from one full moon induced Samhain, he has crap taste in music, doesn’t believe in astrology because he is into astronomy.

I have since gauged he is still self medicating and running in the jungle for that female. After our moment he impregnated someone else, think he is up to two current child support assessments.

I suspect this is all Much A Do Mercury Retrograde, just need to weather storm.

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