Dear Mystic and Mystic Followers,
At what age, stage or transit should “great sex” be factored out of an equation? I ask because i am closer to Uranus Opposition than Saturn Return and i am about to have Saturn roll over my multiple Capricorn Sun, Moon and planets. I know enough to understand that this is going to demand maturity on my part and yes i have read every single post on Saturn here. Seriously, I am on on board with Saturn values.
However…after a hiatus between relationships i have recently taken up with someone who probably does not fit the Saturn template. He IS sane and solvent but we have nothing in common, no conversation that does not bore me and probably him as well, completely different political values and well, he is like a Luddite with computers – he opens his snail mail with a hunting knife and i am a vegetarian who works in mechatronics. You get the idea.
But the sex is life-affirmingly beyond belief incredible. I am fairly sure that this copulation experience is worth ten thousand times every single treatment or healing i have ever had. I have a new hormone system operating thanks to this man or it sure as fuq feels like it. My doctor asked me what on earth i was doing as my cholesterol, blood sugars etc were WAY down and all the good things way up. I know longer need to wear make-up, my shitty knee fixed itself, i have fantastic sleep.
But i am i living in a fools paradise? I can introduce this person to none of my friends – they are left wing and he is like a right wing conspiracy nut – I would loathe to ever live with him – he is a hoarder and collects technological relics. Should i get out of this before Saturn gets to Capricorn and think about someone more suitable? Or as he is Taurus (I know, i know) can i assume that Uranus into Taurus might make him…different? Can you change a Taurus?
Hormonal Sea Goat.
Dear Hormonal Sea Goat,
Factoring it out of the equation completely? Never. Saturn does have a lusty angle to it you know – think of Pan and Dionysus. They’re an aspect of Saturn. And Capricorn IS an Earth sign. It’s not all cerebral. There is a terribly Saturnine tone to the idea of just pragmatically prioritizing your true physical needs and spreading the other desires around your broader friendship circles, right?
This brings up an age-old question that is probably perfectly evident in ancient scrolls excavated from old temples and so on; can you have it all? Can you get it all in one relationship? Or is that Madonna-Whore schism just hard-wired into humanity, regardless of the gender or the relationship themes? The psycho-therapist Esther Perel explores this sort of stuff brilliantly in Mating In Captivity.
Also, what is the Taurus Luddite’s opinion of this? Does he think you are Ishtar reincarnated and he is already secretly studying treatises from your side of the cultural-political spectrum to find more common cognitive ground with you? Or is he compartmentalizing you/this thing as a “great root”, as we say in Australia?
Conventional wisdom is that a Mars-Venus sex-based affinity cannot last the distance, that if you want a significant, enduring relationship that there need to be other factors in play – strong Mercurial rapport, shared values (which is very Jupiter), comfort and ease together when not hard-at-it generating new forms of alien pheromones and so on. But could this be wrong? Could Uranus in Taurus help to bring about new arrangements?
But with Saturn influencing a heap of your natal astral energies, yes you will no doubt desire the whole package, a growth alliance. Can this deliver it? If great sex is ALL this is going to be and there is no joining-together to form a greater-than-your-parts whole, will it satisfy you under the steely lilac rays of Saturn?
Now i have raised more questions than i have answered – what does everyone else think?
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