Ask Mystic: What Does My Eclipse Hook-Up With Taurus Ex Mean?

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Hi Mystic,

Thank you for everything that you do. I hope this finds you well. I’m not sure if this is a viable question for the site, but just in case…

I have Sun, Venus, Mercury and Mars in Leo and an Aquarius moon. My ex is a full-on Taurus and Leo Moon guy. He is amazingly sensual, strong, sensitive, thoughtful.

I’ve been o/s for a few months (living monk-like, celibate and channeling everything into my art practice) and came back a 3 days ago. This afternoon- at the time of the solar eclipse new moon- we met up at a cafe, which turned into watching the sunset on top of a hill and then into my bed for an intense, tender and playful non-penetrative extended cuddle-wrestle session followed by delicious pumpkin soup.

Since we broke up for about the fifth time 6 months ago I had been committed to NOT reconnecting with him (even though I still fantasise about him sometimes). Why now? Is their any correspondence astrologically? Or I am just very weak willed? (We broke up for legitimate reasons, and I don’t see him as being a potential father of my child, not that I am ready to have one).

I’m feeling confused, nervous and very turned on.. Isn’t this time all about letting go?!

Thank you xxx
H

Hi H,

Well in the genre of unscheduled hook-ups with your (five times) ex, this sounds very wholesome, don’t you think? Pumpkin soup, sunsets etc. And in the canon of male behavior, HIS sounds like he is trying to win you back. This is not DoucheCore conduct.  I would say that the Solar Eclipse is about letting go of the past but also about starting something.

And if you start something with the Solar Eclipse, it’s going to be big.  Maybe it is just because you mention ‘father of your child’ but quite apart from anything astrological, I feel like this is ALL about children/babies. Also, it is totally two-fixed-signs-together to find it very hard to move on even if you can’t commit. And it’s very Aqua-Moon to flip between monastic celibacy on remote island temple doing art and drifting around all goo-goo endorphin.

You are also describing this Taurus as “sensual, strong, sensitive and thoughtful.”  I am ALL for letting go and moving on when apt but this does not seem like that situation. Your core question is “why now?” and you are a multiple Leo – there is a huge array of energy in Leo at the moment and i think something major has been sparked. I also don’t think he thinks he is your ‘ex’. #Taurus

Am i missing something? What does everyone else think?

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ArielMM Member
Ariel

GIRL, what do you want? Can he give it to you? The five-times break-up suggests maybe not. The re-hooking up also suggests that you’re not over him; you might have channelled your energies elsewhere, but did you process it? It’s ok, I have a Taurus Venus, it takes me a REALLY long time to get over people I have loved. (& no time at all if I didn’t, I’m still a triple Gemini 😉 ) Sounds like you need to get clear on what you really want FIRST & try talking to him about his intentions & where he’s at… Read more »

KelMM Member
Kel

I’m sorry to whale on this like a lead balloon, but this is totally typical Taurean wooing an old flame into bed behaviour. They turn on the heightened charm of the sacred mundane with their pumpkin soups and attention to sunsets with great ease, it just ain’t no thang. While you were away, were there other girls enjoying these wholesome sensual nights while your arted and meditated in celibacy? Also… What were the reasons you broke it off five times? Erghh I don’t like being the stick in the mud but we all use what comes easy to us when… Read more »

WOOHOO
WOOHOO

I’m gonna play devils advocate as I’ve done the five time break up thing and the loving a Taurus thing. If you’re breaking and making up over and over then things weren’t improving then and probably won’t now – good ol fixed signs. Rose tinted glasses make every Taurus seem sensual and thoughtful and blah blah blah. Forget all the their shitty traits they have that will come back. I know, hiss, boo, go away WOOHOO. But, I believe if you have to ask the question then you intuitively know something is wrong. Otherwise you would just be right in… Read more »

S
S

I was thinking the same. If you have to go back and forth and you are questioning your own responses, then there is doubt.
So when in doubt, DON’T.

I think in matters of the heart you know right away what is right.

davidlMM Member
davidl

Gawd I wish it was that easy 😉

S
S

@davidl – It’s not been easy, been a very long process.

I am talking from a deep cellular level. Being that trauma is stored in the body at the cellular level. Once you have processed all your past relationships (I have even processed the most recent past life). Because that life pre-imprinted my relationship style and struggles. You become aware of this sequence running in your emotional self.

emgMM Member
emg

I’m with you David. I’m very much suck it and see.

milleunanotteMM Member
milleunanotte

In matters of the heart i only know right away what is best for the HEART. Not the stability, the security of that heart, the things that create continuity, the ways that match desire to life. Only the LOVE, the living love. This will never be undone. But as i get older and wiser, im less adventurous, which really let’s face it is less loving of the other and more protective of my loving self. Yet i have not only survived heartache but lived! I think, like this letter writer’s subtext, that i do not want my heart’s decisions to… Read more »

JokermanMM Member
Jokerman

That’s, partly, because your heart has neurons that are emotionally receptive.

ArielMM Member
Ariel

I love this comment & the hard-earned Taurus dating wisdom behind it. Props to your realness WOOHOO.

But on behalf of the Geminis, I think if we’re NOT doubting it we’re not in it?! I have never been in a relationship without questioning it, even when I loved the person.

SheriMM Member
Sheri

I’m not sure if this is relevant, but on the night of the eclipse .. 21st.. I really needed some human contact (it’s been almost 9 months) and I asked my neighbour if he would provide that for me.. which he did in a similar fashion to what Taurus Ex provided (minus the pumpkin soup;) This guy is Cap.. but it’s me who’s the Taurus x 4 with Leo rising, Aqua moon. Perhaps Taureans this day were feeling extra needy for cuddles?? I love affection more than anything, but i’m normally way too shy / scared to acually ASK for… Read more »

WOOHOO
WOOHOO

True. My Taurus friend banged her male friend out of a need for human touch. Now she couldn’t care less about him.

lisa guestMM Member
lisa guest

I agree with the others. Utter bliss isn’t a bad way to spend the day. And your delightful day is a wonderful description. I’m a Sag, my ex is a Taurus who is married to a Leo. She seems to be losing the end of the stick of a 30 year liver problem and is in pain all the time. She took me to court in 2014 (months after their wedding) because I sent a congratulations gift on their getting married… the judge told her she wasn’t a normal person and ushered them out of the court building. Now there… Read more »

AlouettaMM Member
Alouetta

What’s his number?

AlouettaMM Member
Alouetta

No really. I don’t hear anything that’s not to want in that description of him.

WOOHOO
WOOHOO

Is everyone on the blue devil hoochie juice??? There is literally no description of him: strong, sensual, sensitive, thoughtful, eats pumpkin soup.

He could be a 4 foot midget man child (not a suitable father?) with buck teeth who hasn’t washed his nutsack in the last 12 months (why no penetration?), and $50k worth of debt living with his mum (why not back to his house?).

IDK. IDK. But let’s not all go cray cray.

Hard to see red flags when you’re wearing rose tinted glasses is my new relationship motto.

emgMM Member
emg

But surely if he’s a 4 foot soap phobic she’d not be writing? Unless she likes 4 foot soap phobics. Granted there is a sense here that only she can know her true instinct on this but sometimes it just takes a while and a few through the bed to figure all that out and each was then worth the ride, as such.

PiMM Member
Pi

yes, just because there are fun times doesn’t mean there are no giant fundamental show-stopping red flags in the (former) relationship. I took the perspective of a past r’ship (with a toro, ironically but also thinking of another guy) – mind-melting sensual bed chemistry but there were life issues outside this that were just not within my capacity to handle in a love relationship at that point. so I guess it was relatable

milleunanotteMM Member
milleunanotte

Red flag is when the person is being disrespected so hard and stockholming but usu writing in because a gut instinct sits uncomfortably with the deepest levels of disrespect. Not a term to be cheapened. This letter is a questioning, a need for clarification, a call for understanding. The man in question may or may not be a longer term love for LW, but has shown a sensual care and sensual boundary in a way that is delightfully open and loving, no matter what limits him or them both from fully getting it on down thru the ages of man.… Read more »

WOOHOO
WOOHOO

The response of mine above in this chain was more of a response to alouetta’s comment of wanting this guy’s number based on zero information. But also a general reminder that it’s easy to see what we want to see. Even as commenters the responses are based on a very bereft description of this Taurus. Technically I’m not cheapening the term red flag – a red flag is, at it’s simplest, a warning of a problem requiring attention. (Given it’s actual derivation from wartimes I find your narrow usage in connection to love and romance more of a cheapening that… Read more »

S
S

“This is not DoucheCore conduct.”
Thank you MM for adding to my vocabulary, you are a treasure.

emgMM Member
emg

Sounds like you need to get out of your own way. What is so hard in being up front and telling him and yourself that you really enjoy this aspect but that currently you can’t take it any further nor will you commit to doing so in the future? Then experience what sounds utterly blissful for what it is, utter bliss. If he starts to get heavy or wants more from you then say again, not just now. or hang on things may have changed for me. Who knows what will happen in the future, but adore him and what… Read more »

emgMM Member
emg

When I first met my now fiancee he was absolute that he was a single man and wanted nothing other than a fun friend to play with. So I simply added him to the four I already had and he became the fifth! He didn’t know he was the fifth, he is Leo rising so has a lovely big ego I didn’t feel like shattering but gradually over time and a few bust ups we are now engaged. People grow, people move on in their needs and as long as we can do this with love.

Pi
Pi

I don’t think it’s about being weak willed btw. Should a connection be all or nothing? Maybe your multi Leo self kinda also likes the yummy adoration (nothing wrong with that)? What if a sometime-rumble-in-the-jungle was not a bad way to mediate what is obviously a pleasant sensual connection? What’s his take on this? If he really is genuinely not compatible with you outside the sack, remind yourself of this if the taurus gravitational pull gets too strong, e.g. change his name in your phone to “unresolved mother issues” or “gambling addict” or “mispronounces my name” or “anger management” or… Read more »

Pi
Pi

also, you as multi Leo and him with Leo moon, i can see how he’d have an ongoing weakness for you.

GwendolynMM Member
Gwendolyn

Thank you Pi…
What a Fn GREAT idea
I am changing his name now on my phone
My therapist will love it!
New patterns, new titles
Have to get the “title” correct

Goddess why are we so chemically addicted to ‘love’?

Rhetorical only

But a fitting new title will help the brain stop associating that piece of excrement with the pleasure induced by Love Bombing!

PiMM Member
Pi

fwiw I have personally become fascinated by the particular interpersonal vibe and dynamic that can ensnare my heart and mind in someone. In the aftermath, ish, I love to disassemble it like an engine or a gun or a toaster maybe – mainly when it’s dysfunctional and such a process becomes a therapeutic depth-learning relationship exercise. once I can identify the particular set of energies / arrangements that got me stuck to the flypaper of (perceived) Love, then … well , I guess that helps me spot it next time. Sometimes though, sheesh, there’s no getting to the bottom of… Read more »

PiMM Member
Pi

(in the interests of accuracy – I don’t ‘love’ to disassemble it, it’s more of a compulsion, but anyway)

glad it might be a useful option anyway 😉

PiMM Member
Pi

Also – i know you clearly said ‘rhetorical’ btw so this is probably more for me than you – the love thing – Dopamine – the delicious “just one fix” neurochemical reward cycle. I reached new levels of insight about a torrid Toro r’ship breakdown by reading about Addiction, rather than Love. (fwiw it was a toxic love zombie drawn out breakup with major personal astro transits, but it is all in the mix – every morsel of data counts imho)

PiMM Member
Pi

I’m sorry to keep going on – it’s mercury i swear – and a burning desire for… a clear and truthful expression of the concept I had in mind I wanted to add that this particular approach is not about reducing a complex human being (or someone dealing with complex issues) down to those issues and some harsh adjectives, as though that is all they are. It’s a self-protective function so that the other person can find a way out of an unhealthy dynamic in the short term and get back to a better place themselves. If that means temporarily… Read more »

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

I did that with my ex hub during peak nastiness of the divorce. I changed his name in my phone to Pompous Wanker. It made all the difference during what was a very stressy time 🙂

lalalozengeMM Member
lalalozenge

DouchCore. Love it. You got tha gab gift Mystic.

kriblackMM Member
kriblack

Were your legitimate reasons for breaking up real deal breakers? Do they still apply? Because other than you mentioning those, Mystic is right, this all seems very wholesome and nice. I had a several times ex I kept going back to but the situation was anything but wholesome and nice. Major chemistry yes, but fraught with drama, unrealistic expectations and delusions of fate would better describe my experience. It took several times for me to face the reality that things were never going to change or grow between us no matter how great the reunion sex and endorphins were. I’d… Read more »

PiMM Member
Pi

#taurus

LOL MM

baristagemMM Member
baristagem

Hehehe

davidlMM Member
davidl

Everything sounds pretty pure here. Just carry on as you were. Anyone who has experienced that special taurean bliss will always be able to return there in mind body and spirit. It’s just a return. Returning somewhere doesn’t mean you’ll stay there. In the I Ching return is the first light returning after winter solstice. It’s just the beginning of a new round. Returning to such a pleasant place to start fresh after a journey is a very intelligent approach in my books.
A return is not a repeat necessarily.

Kristen Brotemarkle
Kristen Brotemarkle

I had an erriely similar situation 4 days pre eclipse – Taurus rising ex tho and I’m a leo sun … I had been celibate for 8 months and we made plans to hang out when I was in town, and when I went over (every time in the past this meant high chemistry book up) we ended up catching up and mainly just cuddling. It was weird – for me I feel like it’s about learning what from the past can last and seeing my own growth since, more of a learning opportunity of wow okay I could have… Read more »

Lux Interior Is My Co-PilotMM Member
Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot

When you describe him as such, rather than “lying cheating cad”…I think…what’s stopping you? Is he hideously unattractive or carrier of some terrible genetic disorder?

It sounds great and pumpkin soup? SO TAURUS.

Alouetta
Alouetta

Funny.. it really is.

cynthiaMM Member
cynthia

My view – and experience – is that this could be about up-leveling your relationship – to what is how you work it out. Esoterically there are other levels to the Sun (aka solar eclipse in Leo). There’s everything about warmth and light that we take on the physical level; then there’s heart warmth and light on the soul level; and then there is an amazing core thread level of super electric, super magnetic and super vibrational energy from the Central Spiritual Sun. I say super to those fields cos they also have a physical aspect and counterpart. As above,… Read more »

jjt4732MM Member
jjt4732

So apt. I’m a Cap sun / Aqua moon / Kataka rising with a thing for a Taurus sun / Leo moon who can’t commit, and I also find it impossible to change the channel, so I choose thee monastic-channeling-Sex-into-Art life with the occasional fling, but never anything more. I’m very frustrated, to say the least.

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