I trust you are having a wonderful weekend.
I am seeking your opinion from an astro point of view regarding my Venus sign. My strong fire-vibe generally speaking, serves me well in my career and academic pursuits, so no real complaints there. However, from my observations, my Venus sitting in Pisces has been a sore point to say the least.
All ex partners have been water signs. The men I seem to attract have had issues with alcohol, or diagnosed with a mental disorder, or can only offer an affair in secret. From what I have read up on, it would appear that these characteristics tend to be related to Pisceans. I understand that most people would ordinarily see these traits in men and run for the hills. But yet here I am attracting these types in droves!
Mystic, how do I rewrite my story? one that includes having a relationship with a healthy, stable man that doesn’t need rescuing or needs to be kept in secret. How do I WORK the positive aspects of Venus in Pisces?
Fed Up With Fishy Crap
Hello Fed Up With Fishy Crap!
Well, i too have Venus in Pisces so i may not be the objective source of wisdom on this that you desire. However, i am sure there will be some super erudite people in the comments.
My thoughts: SO Venus in Pisces is considered “exalted” in traditional astrology – that is, this Goddess Of Love, Art, Beauty and Charm is thought to function particularly well in Pisces. One of the explanations i got for this years ago was that it is because Venus in Pisces is capable of “unconditional love.”
This sounds nice but it is also a formula to be psychologically filleted by some Qi Vamp/Chaos Addict/Drama Magnet. In fact, if you are not starring in an Arthurian Romance or the bloody bible, unconditional love is probably quite dangerous. There are always ‘conditions’ or boundaries. And if not, why not? Is my Saturn-Venus transit showing?
So now to you. I don’t personally ascribe these traits to Pisces as such but it does kind of like what i would call Lower Neptune conduct – the darker manifestation of Neptune-Pisces-12th House energy. And there is probably some Jungian explanation for this – that you’re not in touch with the higher energy of your own Venus in Pisces so you are putting out dark or clogged up emanations – that subliminally, you don’t feel you are worthy of a person with their shit together, who you find attractive (and them you), who is available for a hot, healthy relationship.
And voila the queue of Lower Neptune types, complete with slimy trail behind them on the wet mossy concrete, goo-goo eyes and poetic yearning just god forbid you ask them to not get smashed for a couple of days or to make an actual time for anything.
But what is this giving you? Sometimes going “out” with those sorts of people can give you a heap of space for work, friends, family, art, enterprise, spiritual development and the pursuit of your Awesome. It can mean you feel (sort of) vaguely like you’ve got something going on but without all the tedium of having to turn up for them. We all know the fantasy affair – which these people are fantastic at, give them credit – is more fulfilling in a way than the real one.
And, the killer-app, these people tend to be sexually very appealing. They realize that they are never going to be the support person at the vet or some hospital and that you would have to be actually stark slobbering insane to ever blend finances with them – so they just get real good at seduction and so forth.
In fact, i would be willing to bet that you have been sort of fine with your Venus in Pisces love life until the Saturn Uranus trine began late last year – that has the dual advantage of both stimulating your Aries self (assuming you are Aries as your Venus is in Pisces and Venus is always near the Sun + you say…Fire) to want firmer life structures AND squaring your Venus from the Saturn side of things. Sometime in the last seven months you gazed around at the terrain of your Neptunian lovers and suddenly what was appealing (again, in that ‘sort of’ nebulous Neptune way) no longer was.
This is not your Venus in Pisces attracting desirable undesirables – it is a (deep breaths now) a Saturn Venus transit. If you think you are having one of these (and i know i am) count back in seven year cycles for some fun realizations. Also, take solace in the fact that you are highly unlikely to do anything delusional or erratic when Saturn is
in control square your Venus.
You are already re-scripting this narrative. Awareness of this dynamic will in itself provide the outline for the next chapter. Venus in Pisces – anything in Pisces – does respond really well to visualization and cognitive work, altering your consciousness and changing up your self talk: I used to be drawn to people like that – now I’m not. Or I am really looking forward to my relationship with a healthy stable man.
I don’t know the degree of your Venus but Saturn is getting out of Sagittarius soon and Jupiter will be in Pisces-loving Scorpio. The narrative tone is already shifting and this clarity on your part is like the prologue.
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