Leos without a proper creative channel or stage of their own can become Dark Sun Leos, narcissistic nutters with an insatiable appetite for ego gratification. They come on super-charming, attentive and cultured but cannot sustain it. So, they manufacture a drama.
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I just had the most bizarre love affair end this past weekend, after beginning on Venus Retrograde. The first few weeks were magical and surreal; we had a fast connection. He drew me into him like a magnetic wave. I thought I finally met my person. Giddy, we’d talk for hours on the phone at night; senses aroused, music took on a new level of listening with every song speaking to my soul. Sex was primal and deep with him extremely attentive to my needs. We felt the same about each other and vocalized it. There were no mind games or power plays. The relationship was moving fast, as if expedited and reduced to its pure essence.
He Revealed Himself To Be A Dark Sun Leo
Then around the eclipse in March, things started to turn. I used words like un-jaded, positive, open, honest, kind, compassionate, wisely mature, generous, humble, and sexy to describe him. But gradually, my perception of him changed to the exact opposite of all those words. It was like he became a shape-shifter. Even his look that I was so attracted to morphed into a different person, like iridescence. From one angle, he was beautiful and shiny and from another standpoint dull and sad.
He became arrogant, not confident, bitter and mean not kind and positive, a negative kvetch drama queen not an excitingly dynamic sexy beast, a stingy self-centered Mama’s boy not a generous self-less man with a healthy relationship to his Mother. He turned into a materialistic muggle-norm with no capacity to accept responsibility for his life choices coupled with zero self-awareness. I doubted my intuition and thought I was going crazy, sabotaging yet another potential relationship with my insecurity, doubt, and lack of trust. But it turns out that all his low-Leo attributes came to light somehow and I was able to detect and narrowly escape, after an explosive argument and him ending our relationship over the phone.
I am perplexed by something so intensely ripening then rapidly mutating to rotten fruit complete with maggots running through it. I know that there were some strong astrological forces at play here and I’m hoping you can eloquently and cleverly, like you always do, decipher wtf just happened here.
The Word Glamor Originally Meant Spell
This anecdote makes me think of how the word “glamor” originally meant “spell.” A glamor was something that you cast – not something that you were. Disillusion after an initial crush-lust phase is normal. But THIS sounds like the whole process on turbo, Venus Retrograde or not.
I think he was a Dark Sun Leo. Deprived of attention or the recognition that they feel worthy of, they seek it in lovers and sycophants. They are enormously doting and dazzling at first because it is a performance. The Dark Sun Leo wants to wow you. But they can’t sustain it, and so then they concoct a D-List drama to get out of it. Or maybe they can maintain it but choose not to. They like the “wow” gaze of adoration far more than mutual affection or intimacy.
Could it have been an exercise in self-knowing? To remind you of what you do value in a relationship? Lust Goggles? Was he a future faker? And then once he had “gotten” you, he could not sustain that level of charm? Dark Sun Leos -without a proper channel for their creativity or ego – can be manipulative and narcissistic. What was the inciting incident that turned him from Primal Adonis to Dysfunctional Muggle? And, if he comes back when Venus is Direct, rejuvenated with charm juice, would you have him?
What does everyone else think?