Thank you for your astro-wiseness, humor, style and presence. I do not start my day, week or make any important decisions until I consult your amazing website for insight. I am a long time listener and first time caller for your “Ask Mystic” postings, and maybe you will find my inquiry relevant for the masses of your dedicated readers.
I remember reading one of your blog posts about relationships that began when Venus went retro and if it would be doomed when the planet went direct, and well I am here to share my experience. Post Venus Retrograde reflection, I suppose the short question would be, would my ruling planet Venus in retrograde make my usual standards for mating/dating lax and submissive?
I just had the most bizarre love affair end this past weekend, after beginning on the day Venus, my ruling planet and hi, went retro. The first few weeks were magical and surreal, we had a fast connection and I was drawn into him like a magnetic wave. I thought I finally met my person. Giddy, we’d talk for hours on the phone at night; senses aroused, music took on a new level of listening with every song speaking to my soul. Sex was primal and deep with him extremely attentive to my needs. We felt the exact same about each other and even vocalized it. We got along so easily, no mind games or power-plays. The relationship was moving fast, as if expedited and reduced to its pure essence.
Then around the eclipse in March things started to turn. I used words like un-jaded, positive, open, honest, kind, compassionate, wisely mature, generous, humble, sexy… to describe him and gradually my perception of him totally changed to the exact opposite of all those words. It was like he became a shape-shifter. Even his look that I was so attracted to initially morphed into a different person, like iridescence… from one angle beautiful and shiny and from another angle dull and sad. He became arrogant not confident, bitter and mean not kind and positive, a negative kvetch drama queen not an excitingly dynamic sexy beast, a stingy self-centered Mama’s boy not a generous self-less man with a healthy relationship to his Mother. He turned into a materialistic muggle-norm with no capacity to accept responsibility for his life choices coupled with zero self-awareness. I doubted my intuition and thought I was going crazy, sabotaging yet another potential relationship with my insecurity, doubt and lack of trust. But it turns out that all his low-Leo attributes came to light somehow and I was able to detect and narrowly escape, after an explosive argument and him ending our relationship over the phone.
I am perplexed by something so intensely ripening then rapidly mutating to rotten fruit complete with maggots running through it. I know that there were some strong astrological forces at play here and I’m hoping you can eloquently and cleverly, like you always do, decipher wtf just happened here. My instincts point to the ruling/rising planet fuquery and realize that a lot of planets have gone or are still retrograde. The eclipse also seemed to be an indicator. Is there a correlation? I absolutely love astrology, have been studying it for years and would deeply appreciate your help in unwrapping this.
This anecdote makes me think of how the word “glamor” originally meant “spell.” A glamor was something that you cast – not something that you were. I mean a bit of disillusion around a lover once you get to know them and the humdrum sets in. I over heard someone in the street today complaining about someone with the memorable words “He consistently has skid marks in his pants and i think his family are really religious.” But THIS sounds like the whole process on turbo, Venus Retro or not.
To me it sounds like Neptune – key suspect in anything where there might have been a whole lot of projection transmitted onto someone who (sort of) fitted the bill. And maybe the retro-Venusian purpose behind it was to turn you onto what you do want in a romance OR to remind of what you value in your self. Like a catalyst-arousal situation. Or, some more prosaic suggestions: could you have had Lust Goggles on? Could he even have been playing you for sex/a conquest? Question: What was the inciting incident that made you withdraw from “primal sex Adonis of the deep whatever” to “grotesque Muggle with actual slimy shrink type issues”?
Other prospects – this could just be super strong Mars-Venus synastry, very appealing on one level but not enough to sustain anyone multi-faceted. Oh and also – Venus is not out of shadow zone yet – I am betting that by May 19 this is ON again and you’re rapidly back tracking on his vileness.
What does everyone else think?
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