All The Single Ladies – by Rebecca Traister – is an utterly brilliant read for Venus Retrograde in Aries. It’s a Venus phase when it is natural to re-think relationships and the role of women. The book is not just about “single ladies.” Rather, it is super readable lengthy reportage on how increasing female economic independence has influenced sex and relationships. Its scope is incredible, going from the newly female-run households of freed slaves after the Civil War to the impact of shows such as Mary Tyler Moore. It’s also hilarious. She skewers conservative columnists and their attacks on single mothers, women who “work too much”, women who are “selfish” and those who “break up the family unit.”
But it’s not a polemical rant – one of her key points is that relationships with gender equity work out way better for both parties. She makes a powerful case for how female economic empowerment (compared to – say – the lives of our grandmothers) has changed everything and that there are powerful forces working against that. It’s a rad read, whether you are single or not.
Venus Retrograde in Aries is broadly feminist, in that Aries is thrusting, self-defined energy whereas Venusian Vibe often seeks to relate. Or gains self-esteem through being desired. If you’re re-assessing romance and your identity, regardless of your gender, All The Single Ladies is a unique take on 21st Century mating and dating.