Feng Shui To Deflect A Vampire Neighbor

Feng Shui Bad Neighbor Hell? When you can’t move, but your neighbor is an Energy Vampire, what can you do? Thankfully, there are techniques. And if you’re speed reading this looking for a solution, here is the short version. Put a line of salt along your threshold. It’s old school, but it works. It is like the castor oil pack of House Witchery.

Dear Mystic,

I had a massive falling-out with an (ex) friend before Xmas. Unfortunately, she lives next door to me: Our front doors face each other, and our doormats are less than one foot apart. She leaves her door open all the time. I love my qi flow too, but also like my privacy and like to respect others. I am doing my best to avoid, be zen, ignore the pass-aggro acts and not react, but it is internalizing and driving me mental. 

I am a pretty intuitive Cancerian, and she is a scary-psychic Pisces. We are both mega sensitive and reactive with lots of fire and water in our charts. We both smudge and use crystals etc.

My gut feeling + intellect tells me this person is mega-needy, manipulative, and plays games if things don’t go her way. She seems to get what she wants after tons of drama.

Feng Shui For Bad Neighbor Rule 1 – Don’t Put Up Gargoyles or Ba Gua Mirrors

Cutting to the chase: I am a bit scared of doing a “Get fuq’d and stay fuq’d” type chant as I don’t want to wish her ill-will or create a lousy karma situation for myself. I want her out of my (previously) peaceful life and home environment, out of the flat next door, off my doorstep and out of my head. A friend suggests I need to be okay with her being there. I’ve tried but it’s hard. Any advice? 

In other situations, I would cut my losses, pack my bags, call the removalist, find another place, but I don’t have the luxury or the energy. And, I was here first, and this apartment is one of the best things that has happened in my life after years of moving frequently, and not having my own space. I’m also recovering from significant health problems, of which stress was a contributing factor, and don’t have any more energy to waste on this situation. That said, I have learned some MASSIVE lessons this through this drama (with the help of my psychologist) and am working on gratitude.

Cancerian In An Eclipse

Salt Across The Threshold Is The Castor Oil Hot Pack Of House Witchery

Dear Cancerian In An Eclipse,

I understand the stress of this, especially as a Crab Woman – this is your Power Lair under threat!  But is it? First of all, it is better to have a powerful woman living right next door to you than – say – a skeevy gentleman or a person whom you know for a fact was mean to their children or pets. So don’t put up anything that says “dispelling dark energy” – like a gargoyle or even ba gua mirror.

This scenario you are conjuring makes me think of two potent witches living side by side or Bette Davis and Joan Crawford in Whatever Happened To Baby Jane.  Not that either of you is decrepit or bitter but the concept of two powerful females at loggerheads but with, deep down, an affinity.

Launch A Diplomatic Mission With The Moon Jupiter Lunar Portal

Also, to be Machiavellian about it, being the person reaching out to resolve this in eloquent fashion puts YOU in the power position. Holding the grudge – a common Cancerian trait, unfortunately – keeps you in a sort of ‘resentful serf’ role. Why not go over on the Moon-Jupiter Lunar Portal with an appropriate gift and affable attitude?

Am I missing something?  You can maintain diplomatic relations with a person/country without necessarily approving of everything about them/it. And you can limit your engagement to a level you are comfortable with. Or are you saying that this person is one of those All or Nothing people?

Magic-wise; put a line of salt across your threshold and a small deity statue or image that represents the ruler of your Home sector in the birth chart. So if your 4th House is – say – Taurus, make it a Venusian vibe.

For the best Feng Shui for bad neighbor solution, look at the Flying Star energy at your door. Is it possible that a harmonious entry star has been affected by a yearly influence? You can get a Feng Shui consult or figure it out via a flying star calculator online. I think a proper consult is a fantastic investment, but if that’s not possible, work with the annual energy.

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@iris

Yo, I’m having neighbor trouble and here’s what waiting for me in the archive recommandation post slot (and since Mystic changed them to only one on mobile — this ish feel xxxxxtra magical!!)

I had sent this to MM as a review about a year ago but it really bears repeating :
« The MM Archive is like a black hole spitting out high-velocity, straight-from-the-Source Astro-relevant info at anyone who dares look at it. Powered by the Collective Unconscious and fast fiber, obvi. »

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BLISS WITCH

With all that Cancer I have to say this sounds like a Pluto transit to me. You are going to have to do a lot of shadow work and work with projections. It sounds compulsive to me which says Pluto to me. Rough. But you’ll learn at the end of it.

If you don’t already have it Mystic recommended Howard Sasportas Gods of Change in a prior article. Life changing read for me on the transits of the outer planets.

Good luck and solidarity, chica.

Joswan

Im a Virgo with Cancer Moon. It’s weird because it’s true to me too. I guess I can make a sure-fire assumption that for those having Cancer essence; privacy and property is EVERYTHING. We will pinch back to whoever try to disturb our lair.

Scott

Cancerians rely on friendships more than any other sign, and I have little doubt that we can accidentally smother people. I too have Cancer sun, moon and rising and the gift of giving people space has been a life long journey. Somehow, we place so much value on our relationships that we inevitably end up resenting that the other person doesn’t. And we do resentment better than anyone. It is indeed, a fine art. It destroys us, and makes us physically ill. Pisceans and Cancerians relate water to water. It’s initially easy. But Pisces is a slippery fish and her… Read more »

Boogeywookiie

“two potent witches living side by side or Bette Davis and Joan Crawford in Whatever Happened To Baby Jane …”
Oh, YES!

chronicgir1

Very respectfully, may I ask if, perhaps, this is more your issue, and that difficult, but fine practice of letting go may be more in line here? Again, I don’t know the situation completely, but I have found that when I attend more to MYself in my own space that others become less of an issue. I wish you peace. <3

hermes26

I’ve successfully “frozen out” many toxic people using a basic freezing spell (write their name on a piece of paper, place in ice cube tray with water, literally freeze in freezer, chant that they are out of your life and cannot affect/influence you in any way which is not for your greatest good etc) literally when I do this spell people begin to treat me like I don’t exist it’s FANTASTIC because you do no harm to them it’s just like you’ve been vaccinated against them. Secondly, read “The Work” of Byron Katie. Trains you in the ability to rise… Read more »

CleverUserID

i have to say feng shui is mad science beyond my comprehension, so i can’t speak to that. what i ~can~ speak to is qi vampires, and my own recent experience in banishing. i had an energetic attachment which doing deep comtemplative magic revealed i was drawing in as much as it was robbing me of my life force. two words: cord cutting. it can be painful, but clears your personal energy field of any attachments to the other entity (human or otherwise). after cutting cords, as has been mentioned, lots of clearing, sage, black salt. if she’s pisces and… Read more »

Jokerman

Reconcile or shift out. (I thought a lot more words in my brain but I distilled it that)

Ali

Lol. Succinct.

Aries mercury doesn’t have the time or patience for that. And Leo rising likes to have her say.

Rah, rah, rah, rah…

sphinx

Ooh, this is hard!! You are clearly very sensitive and I hope you are putting a big golden net around your home after every cleanse to keep the negativity away.. I have a situation with someone in a different but similar way and I don’t handle it well. Trying really hard to take note of my Gem’s attitude as he is super fluid when he wants. He has no expectations, lets go immediately and focuses on his own well being and happiness first. It is easier said than done. Maybe set up a visualisation board of hope? Build it in… Read more »

jojobiie

Whoa – & also any other roosters sleeping to the west? I have been for a few months & It’s not been great, lol

dizzarina

I am and I do. It’s the only arrangement that works in my bedroom.

Except for my perimenopausal hot flashes waking me up, it’s been fine.

subscriber

oh dear, I have a sort of conflict with my housemate and I just moved my desk where I spend quite a bit of time (the moving of the desk in some ways relates to the conflict). I am a year of the Rooster person and it is now facing North-West, should I be concerned?

Jamela

Hey, I hope my story might be of use to you: I moved into my dream flat (bought it, theres no moving out in a hurry) only to discover that my immediate neighbour has a domestic violence issue. At first I felt like I couldnt stand it, I was sensitive, felt like I could feel the awful through the walls. But what has worked for me is a growing sense that everything stops at my front door. My home is my refuge and now I feel like once that door is closed everything else stays outside. I have a lovely… Read more »

on to their ganes

All i know is its not always about mirror mirror. There are chi vamps out there thats for sure. I am still recovering from the latest solar eclipse cleaning out my 11th house. As saturn rules my 11th had couple of lower pluto type bitches who were always after what i have.to the point of causing me a breakdown. The iching confirmed it too. But she was a master at having such a friendly and caring mask. Meanwhile shes always rubbing it in type; put down comments; milking you for things ,eating your expensive organic food whilst only contributing old… Read more »

dizzarina

Ooh- flower essences are a great idea.

Ali

You’ve got to be careful that in manifesting what you want for yourself, you’re not interfering with her journey. I do hear your desperation and understand why you want her gone but perhaps it is not your right to demand that, or to use sacred practices to achieve it. Sometimes it doesn’t matter how much we visualise, cast, declare, smudge, journey…life is life and people are people. Like12th House Virgo pointed out, sometimes the discomfort is the lesson. I have my own version of this story and it’s been running in my life for 6 years. The only way I… Read more »

Ali

Ho’Oponopono!

emg

Oh that hopononono is very strong and swift acting if all my attempts can be considered. Amazing shifts within 24 hours. Peace and progression.

dizzarina

Good stuff Lioness!

LiberatingVenus

I must be missing something too, because to me it sounds like a simple personality conflict. Why are you giving this so much of your energy? Whenever I dislike someone, they’re basically dead to me – IDGAF where they are or what they do; I’ll walk right past ‘em as if they aren’t even there rather than dignify them with a nano-molecule of my annoyance or contempt. You would have to fuq me over *royally* in order for me to harbor any kind of resentment over the situation, and from what you have disclosed thus far it really doesn’t sound… Read more »

nush ciel

oh dear, you mirror each other. Stop focusing on her and look inside to see yourself. You are making this situation more strong by focusing on it. More energy you give it, the bigger it grows. Why you putting all your energy into her? Sounds like lots unresolved issues, and believe me I have been alive for a while, never met a better obsessor/grudge holder than Kataka. And you got a bit of snarky Kali Lilith killer Scorpio energy going that you are TOTALLY misusing.Scorpio can only use her sting once to defend then dies, you running round with your… Read more »

echo-echo

i like this, im kataka rising with scorpio saturn and pluto. Guilty as charged.

Electro

One of the first things I thought was to read up on the protection stuff from the archives, but it seems as though you have already searched out those options. I also have a weird former friend thing that I’ve been learning from and dealing with for, my god, about a year and a half now. Off and on super stressful, she is dating my brother in law and there’s super creepy elements of jealousy and power ‘struggles’ between her & I and the two brothers. I have been with my husband for 20 years, just to add perspective. So… Read more »

12th house virgo

You know, sometimes I think the discomfort is the lesson. You aren’t supposed to be or expected to be able to clean your environment of all challenges. No amount of mantras or forgiveness erases the often inconvenience and discomfort of living. You come to see you are strong enough to cope whether having to cope is just or not. But maybe that’s just my Chiron transit talking : – )

Sam

There is always an opening. Yes exactly this.

And Chiron coping and comprehension of limits too.
(Saving on comments by doing 2in 1 lol)

Sam

Chiron really is about pain and existential limits and – yes thank you 12 V – how we comprehend this and cope with the situation as it arrives with us. It is a burden and honestly it bows our backs even as it makes us stronger for bearing it.

Sam

(That might be a bit dramatic sounding but you know. It’s a growing-up planet.)

12th House Virgo

Speaking of Chiron, have you seen the movie Moonlight? The main character is named Chiron but in the movie its pronounce “Shy-rone.”

12th house virgo

Feng Shui is complicated. West is my “good” direction. Its hard to say what to do about the conflict without knowing the details. I am not one for fake apologies, especially when the other is batshit crazy. I had some conflicts at work over the past year – one with a Pisces male and one with a toxic female Pisces-rising Scorpio 8th house stellium – and it was extraordinarily uncomfortable but I decided to stay for various reasons. I never would have apologized to her crazy. I dealt by committing myself to do my best where there were openings (in… Read more »

rachellion

This is great. I’m very cancerian and hold grudges so easily and enjoy it (for a time), but lately instead of holding onto them I am trying to hold onto possibility of something else…

Sam

am clueless re feng shui and am sorry you’re in this situation. psycho-fire pisceans with jealousy issues would be the pits. (hey, maybe lucky no one has Leo rising or moon? otherwise there would be publicity campaigns launched to defend ones position and status?) (I’m probably not above-it-all enough to say I haven’t been this person (fire fish, not Leo publicity stunt, although that’s skills I truly wish I had), although I think an earth moon and mars in an air sign probably helps me Not Be Too Psycho when it comes to actual interpersonal conflict IRL) I am coming… Read more »

TripleL

And super beneficial, higher consciousness grist evoking volley, Pi … thank you.

Ali

Pi, you have the sweetest, wisest voice. How on earth do you write like that? You ring clear as a bell.

Your suggestion of a Piscean crisis of faith in self is true for me. I don’t have any crabs close by, but am certainly observing the poise and satisfaction with self in others that I feel is lacking in me.

And I laughed sheepishly when I read your comment about psycho-fire pisceans. I am a fishy with triple aries and leo rising and do have to restrain myself when it comes to public campaigning. *cringe*

Thanks. xo

on to their ganes

This is weird cause i have a slightly similar scenario. I scored this 60s holiday rental andlet my friend use it for 5 days as a office.
She loved the space so much tried to move in then kept visiting no time given to me to settle. I got grumpy with her next shes at the neighbors caravan trying to get my landlords number from hom to buy this caravan. She turns up yesterday acting like nothings wrong i am so pissed of. But not sure how to deal with it as she obviously is envious!

JacQui

Bless her and bless all people who are struggling with neighbours. Bless the entire neighbourhood. Suburb, City, State…..XxXx

Sam

This too.. when we get caught up, breathe and imagine radiation of peace, forgiveness, and cosmic love, imagine this completely filling up the airspace between you and the Pisces and over-writing the scattered , spiky animosity or whatever the sentiment is. If nothing else this is a quantum re-set or neutralizing of our own psyches, well-wishing on all levels.

Sam

And (I’m sorry , mercury must be in overdrive atm) if this is tricky, sometimes I work with something like just imagining blissful sunshine, or a cool, salty sea breeze, anything that is free of “I want” and is a uniform field of something clear/peaceful/refreshing.

Pegasus

Can sympathise with you Kataka as i had 8 years of neighbour conflict. Live in a large house divided into 2 apartments. Me facing east, he facing south if that counts. Tried to alleviate it with acts of courtesy and kindness but that was met with more aggression. As a sensitive it is so disturbing to your wellbeing to be around conflict as it seeps thro’ the walls being under the same roof. It creates severe anxiety, just hearing his voice even with much counselling from professionals. Alas it was only time that healed it. Also a fantastic house i… Read more »

12th house virgo

“The cliche ‘if it doesn’t kill you -it makes you stronger is real. You WILL look back on this. It won’t be a long time if you consider your entire life span.” Truth!

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