I have an Aries Sun, Cancer Rising, Venus in Pisces and the Moon in Aquarius. The only Earth in my chart is Mercury in Taurus. Unsurprisingly, sometimes the only way to ground myself is by writing, which I do often.
I have a problem with Virgo energy. My father was a Virgo and our relationship has always been strained. I have done my best over the years and we can now, at least, interact without yelling most of the time. The only other relationship I’ve ever had with a Virgo was, by all accounts, a complete disaster. (He was an alcoholic who concealed his addiction from me until we were married and then became emotionally and physically abusive.) As a result, I have a problem integrating Virgo energy into my life.
With the Full Moon in my house of family and home, I would really like to be able to heal this scenario in some way. Can you please provide some guidance on how I might go about this?
As always, your wisdom and insight will be greatly appreciated.
Aries In Need
Dear Aries In Need,
First of all, brilliant use of the Mercury in Taurus! And interesting use of tenses when you are talking of your Virgo father. He “was” or he “is”? So I am not a therapist but i don’t think it is helpful to conflate your difficult Virgo father with your dysfunctional Virgo Ex – although of course there may be a connection in that we all know archetypes tend to keep popping up in our lives.
So Virgo Ex is off the scene – thankfully – and you’re naturally feeling the current Sun-Uranus-Full-Moon Jupiter Vibe super-intensely. Uranus square the Sun and this Full Moon is blown out by Jupiter so very sensitive subjects – Cancerian energy is very family/ancestor/comfort zone/home stability in tone – feel urgent. Like you have to do shift the vibe – now. (There is a more nuanced sign by sign take on this in the Horoscopes, obviously).
And as an Aries, you naturally feel it falls upon you to heal, fix, solve or save any shit that needs it. And Crab Rising can also cleave strongly to whatever their ideals of family, regardless of circumstances or how people behave. But with this week’s astrology also being incredible for quick-acting liberating realizations, keep room for one of your options being to just let this go. Your family is not necessarily always the one that you were biologically born into.
If you can interact calmly with Virgo Dad in a way that is pleasant for both of you and does not breach boundaries or trigger a well-worn but non-productive neural groove of yours, then simply respect that Virgos do like the small, practical gestures.
Your way in would be via something micro but super-thoughtful. But with Saturn in sync to Uranus in Aries – you still know thy boundaries. If someone is treating you with disrespect or is unable to break out of a toxic dynamic, it does not matter what sign of the Zodiac they are – you eject.
You did not have a problem integrating “Virgo energy” into your life with your Ex – you were healthily unable to sustain an abusive relationship with an addict.
What does everyone else think?
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