A Triple Libra is having problems consciously uncoupling from a Scorpio man. Worse, she thinks she has become an Energy Vampire.
Like so many people whose words adorn your blog, I tend to turn to you when shit gets desperate and reality seems opaque.
As a Libra Sun, Rising and Moon, I’m really struggling to remain positive at the moment.
My beloved Scorpio man of eight years recently returned home from a stint in the motherland where his old friends are all living what sounds like an oddly impossible dream of loved up home ownership in London. They’re all suddenly breeding while juggling phenomenally successful careers (I’m talking topping iTunes charts, secret service, 33-year-old woman CEOs, etc.)
We parted with sad, confused civility. It seems very tricky to navigate a situation where both parties love one another and even like one another but can’t seem to get long term plans and love languages in sync. We’re attempting a healing separation (which makes me cringe in an oh-god-I’m-turning-Gwyneth kind of way, but we really do need space to become ourselves again). I have realized that I am an energy vampire- he feels drained. We have codependency and money issues.
Why Is The Scorpio Man Feeling “Drained” All Your Fault?
I’m just keeping my head down, powering through a brand new job that is exceptionally challenging.
I can feel the tendrils of depression sneaking up and around me- the music and art are harder to create. I feel like I was on schedule to change the world while clad in gold but somehow slipped into a parallel universe. I’m haunted by the ghosts of who I might have been.
In my deepest heart, I know that whatever the outcome, it will eventually be great and better than what we had. And I also secretly feel that we will get through this shitstorm but I’m not sure if I’m delusional/in denial about that.
In short, is there any chance you could give me a hint of advice? Do I cut and run? Do I retain hope? I know that I need to be focusing on my self-development- which I think I’m slowly mastering- but I would love a bit of wisdom. Many thanks.
Deep Peace to you,
Divorce Won’t Cure His Status Anxiety
My Dear Triple Libra,
Being Gwyneth in this regard is fine. Conscious Uncoupling as an ideal is better than an automatically toxic divorce. Shame and blame need not go with the end of a long relationship. And to think that it ought to is a hangover from a darker period. I
So your Scorpio Man returns from London with a bad case of Saturn Fever. The Time God has good effects – reading stoic philosophy instead of the Daily Mail, actually drinking lemon juice with hot water every morning, mature wisdom and so on. But it can also cause Status Anxiety. You compare your earnings, prestige, and fitness with those of your peers. Or, you’re ruthless with your self-judgment. But if that were the case, why didn’t he come back and enlist you in the success bender?
To be horribly cynical, could he have gone over there and racked up a tonne of Space Dust? He’s high on hubris and maybe a few flimsy promises or extra attention. He’ll zoom back to you when he sobers up. Or, the relationship has become moribund and though painful, this is necessary. But everything is mutual and it’s not fair to cast you as the energy vampire in this circumstance. What is his role?
But you said: I know that I need to be focusing on my self-development. So without this being a consult, the biggest influence on you as a Triple Libra right now IS Uranus. Uranus transits are warp-speed innovation. The astro is pushing for nothing less than a full-blown self-development revolution. Maybe the relationship was the Qi Vampire? Or maybe it wasn’t but you need a healing separation and then you reconcile down the track?
But the big deal is to obey your own instincts and focus (maniacally) on your self-dev now. Clean slate your everything. Sage everything. Journal. Work out. Or devote yourself to a creative project with such ferocity that your genius next levels. Self-pity is pointless but some compassion for yourself is a productivity tool. Hope is not a strategy. Give this Scorpio man and yourself all the space in the galaxy.
What does everyone else think?
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