How can I get this Sagittarius man back? Mystic advises a woman whose real question should be along the lines of how she can get herself back.
Further to your blog about the crazy eclipse edge around at the moment, I thought I’d share this with you.
I went out last night on my first date to meet a Sagittarius I’d stumbled upon online just before the previous eclipse. We had hit it off, and I find him incredibly attractive. It seemed that was mutual, but, for all that, he was a no show. I know this kind of thing is not unusual; I’m sure it happens all the time. Only this was a little different, actually quite different.
I was particularly keen to meet him because during our ‘chats’ I’d asked for his birth details and done his chart. The synastry is unlike anything I’ve ever seen in any of my relationships and more along the lines of seriously sexy soulmate-style stuff. His Mars conjunct my Venus/Mercury conjunction (in Scorpio) and opposite my Vesta. He has his Sun conjunct my Ascendant; his Eros conjunct my Psyche, Neptune and our composite Venus (also in Scorp); my Eros opposite his Psyche; his Moon opposite my Mars and trine my Venus; and, right now, our progressed and converse Moons are just about to conjunct smack bang on my North Node in Aries. There is a stack more, including progressed/converse hits. All the aspects I’ve listed here are within a 2-degree orb, many less than 1.
All Of The Soulmate Links But He Can’t Show The Hell Up
Could the problem stem from the fact that his Neptune is on my Moon and sextile my Venus? Lilac Wine anyone?
So I had high hopes. Perhaps that was the problem.
I’m freaking out thinking that for some godawful reason I may have just missed the sexiest soul mate of my life. I am hoping against hope that there’s a lot more to play out here. Watch this space, I guess. I know things are in flux, but this is, frankly, doing my head in. It’s crazy making.
We met on Tinder (I know, right!), but a mere two days after a friend of mine had alerted me to its existence (I live under a rock, apparently) and I’d signed up. I am a total novice on there. So we ‘matched.’ We had a scorching and heavy connection right from the get-go, it was mental, and he is just the most stunning looking man I have ever laid eyes on, ever!
So anyway it started up, went for two days and then fizzled out when I freaked and asked if he was for real. I knew how easy it was for people to invent personas online and I thought he was just too gorgeous, into tantra, which I’m so keen to explore and all sorts of other stuff that just made me go… ‘wait a minute.’
Do You Want A Paranormal Romance? Because He’s Ghosting You
So then he vanished down a rabbit hole for four days, no comms, then came back and said he’d thought long and hard about it. He said he wasn’t mad with me for being skeptical, promised me he was real and so on. He really wanted to explore the connection because he’d felt something that he’d not felt before and wanted to see what it was about.
Then said (I’m paraphrasing) ‘I want to explore what I feel, what we feel. Opportunities like this come along so rarely, and life is too short to waste this just because of social norms, etc.’ So then we had another hot and heavy session – this is crazy – and then agreed to meet up last night at a pub in Adelaide, where we both live.
He’s ex-army, got out early this year after three tours in Iraq and two in Afghanistan. He’s for real because I’ve seen his FaceBook page with pics of him in the army over there. He runs an army kit supply store in the outer burbs here.
There was no bailout, he didn’t show, and I’ve heard nothing. I walked home and just fell in a complete heap that lasted until about midday today. I’ve tried to reach him but… disappeared again. All I can do is wait. Fuqing eclipses!
How To Get A Sagittarius Man Back? You Never Had Him In The First Place
My Dear A,
How to get a Sagittarius man back? You never had him in the first place. It is more about how to get your self back. Okay, so my response is more 8th house than usual.
I have – for various reasons – spent hours this week at E.R. – not for me personally but with my son. He was in there TWICE in a row, one adverse reaction to a drug and one collision with a car. Just vile. My daughter’s stalker is also back. Being on first name terms with local police and E.R. staff is not quite the “broader role in the community” vibe I had in mind when Saturn entered my 11th house the other week.
In an adjoining cubicle at the emergency ward, I saw a woman who was literally a hundred years old this week, holding the hand of a paramedic who looked like a God. She said over and over again in absolutely beautiful enunciation and crystalline vowels, “I don’t want to go.” But she did. The machine called it with a series of beeps. The Apollo level stunning paramedic held her hand and maintained eye contact till the end. I think she had suffered some episode on the street and her family could not get there in time.
The super-reassuring constable charged with helping my daughter sort out the man who keeps ringing her with pervy questions says the problem is that (major telco) could tell with one keystroke who the person is but that they charge $200 a “search.” There are so many of them, and police budgets are limited because of cuts. Apollo Paramedic, who spends his dinner break helping this lady pass over in peace and Amazonian Cop trying to protect kids work around “budget cuts to save the nation” while other groups have their perks intact.
So I saw the unfailing professionalism of doctors, nurses, police, paramedics and other professionals working under immense pressures to deliver fantastic service, save (literally) life and limb while politicians quaff chardonnay and go on about “innovation.” Why not claw back some of the routinely evaded tax and pay it back into the pocket of the people who do the work that matters?
So, forgive my bluntness, but you need to get a grip. You know way too much about his chart for someone you have not met. You cannot understand your chemistry without meeting someone. He is a ghoster and a bullshit artist, possibly a con man. You say all you can do is wait, but that’s not true. You can get an ego. He did not stand you up because he was taking fire in Fallujah or putting out an orphanage fire.
Has it occurred you that his apparent interest in Tantric sex and military prowess are not accurate? You’re running deep astrological analytics on someone who has probably lied about his birth date as well.
You say it got “hot and heavy” before you met. That is not generally an indicator of a person who is seeking a date, let alone a relationship. See Virgo Dating Efficiency for a better way to work this. Mars on Mercury is epic synastry, but you have not met him, and he could not even cancel the date. Exfiltrate yourself from this hostile territory and deploy to a terrain where people show the fuq up.
What does everyone else think?
Image: Steven Klein