Mystic advises a Sagittarius who says she’s cynical and no longer putting up with crap. I’m cackling alone in my bed at night. Is it my Uranus opposite Pluto transit, age or am I turning into a witch?
I am a Sagittarius, loyal subscriber and previously more interesting person. I once featured here with a dilemma involving a swinger boyfriend and voodoo. Now? I am worried. Saturn in Sagittarius has done exactly what you said it would do in my horoscopes and my “cooperation” has been more like a surrender. I’ve cleared debt and gotten healthy. I am the most accountable I have ever been in my life. But it’s not only that. I’m having Uranus opposite Pluto, which for me, seems to entail depth solitude. I’m praying, writing in my diary and finding polite, passive-aggressive ways to tell men to go and fuq themselves- not me. Is it age? Uranus opposite Pluto? Sudden onset of witchcraft?
A Uranus Opposite Pluto Transit Dispels Shadow Selves
One of my aunts “turned” at the age of 40. She went fully individuated, traveling, getting cats and doing whatever she wanted. And I am certain she cackled. Could this be me? I have stopped having Claytons boyfriends – guys who are never going to be fully available but who feed my ego. I stopped doing social media research. I’m not scared of being alone. In fact, I am more worried about polluting my psyche with bullshit than I am about the single state. I also read Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse which nearly bought on early menopause.
Recently, I was at lunch with an “interested” man who paid more attention to the teenage waitress than me. Before that, I was out with a date who got snippy when I contradicted him on politics. By “contradicting” I mean asking him why he thought something. Then he opined for half an hour on something that I literally do for a living and which he had “read an article on” that I should read. I would rather be home in bed with my dogs, frankly.
Do I try to fight this as premature aging? Be sexier? Nicer? Or see it as part of a Uranus Opposite Pluto transformation?
Don’t Surrender To Phantom Deficit Syndrome
Dear Saturn’s Sagittarius,
Congratulations on doing Saturn so well – the debt clearing, the accountability and all. Okay yes, i am aware of that Tinder article – Dawn Of The Dating Apocalypse but your email reminds me more of the Atlantic article a few years ago that got massive traction: All The Single Ladies.
It also brings to mind the famous “Men Explain Things To Me” essay by Rebecca Solnit, a brilliant Sun-Mercury conjunct Cancerian. She coined the term “mansplaining.”
Yes, there are a lot of men out there – even really nice ones – who mansplain. I had lunch with one the other day. Memorable quote: “I’ll try not to make this too intellectual for you.”
So mansplaining is a thing. Online dating giving people (of both genders) the vibe of endless options for low investment hook-ups is a thing. Women emerging from break-ups determined to ferociously evolve but finding that their raised consciousness is not always a hot ticket in mating land is a thing.
Raised Consciousness Is Not Always A Hot Ticket In Mating & Dating Land
But Saturn making you too cynical? I don’t think so. Saturn can erect walls but usually, it is an area where you sense (thanks to Saturn Vision) that you have not been guarded enough in the past. So yes you put a wall up but it is almost like when a park gets fenced off to grow the grass long again. To replenish the soil.
My feeling is that maybe before Uranus opposite Pluto, you would have been happier to play the ingenue or morph cheerfully into whatever role seemed to be required of you in that situation/with that man. Now, now way? Uranus Opposite Pluto wakes up your Shadow Selves and sends them packing. But I think you may have phantom deficit syndrome. If you’re happy, who cares whether you have a current lover or not? Are you letting some artificial standard define your level of self-content?
Go full witch with this. If a person manifests who can handle a smart, busy and authenticated you, great. If not, well, you’re self-commanded and on your optimal psychic frequency. It’s the Age of Queens.
What does everyone else think?
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