Uranus Opposite Pluto, Age Or Witchcraft?

Guy Bourdin

Mystic advises a Sagittarius who says she’s cynical and no longer putting up with crap. I’m cackling alone in my bed at night. Is it my Uranus opposite Pluto transit, age or am I turning into a witch?

Dear Mystic,

I am a Sagittarius, loyal subscriber and previously more interesting person. I once featured here with a dilemma involving a swinger boyfriend and voodoo. Now? I am worried. Saturn in Sagittarius has done exactly what you said it would do in my horoscopes and my “cooperation” has been more like a surrender. I’ve cleared debt and gotten healthy.  I am the most accountable I have ever been in my life. But it’s not only that. I’m having Uranus opposite Pluto, which for me, seems to entail depth solitude. I’m praying, writing in my diary and finding polite, passive-aggressive ways to tell men to go and fuq themselves- not me. Is it age? Uranus opposite Pluto? Sudden onset of witchcraft?

A Uranus Opposite Pluto Transit Dispels Shadow Selves

One of my aunts “turned” at the age of 40. She went fully individuated, traveling, getting cats and doing whatever she wanted. And I am certain she cackled. Could this be me? I have stopped having Claytons boyfriends – guys who are never going to be fully available but who feed my ego. I stopped doing social media research. I’m not scared of being alone. In fact, I am more worried about polluting my psyche with bullshit than I am about the single state. I also read Dawn of the Dating Apocalypse which nearly bought on early menopause. 

Recently, I was at lunch with an “interested” man who paid more attention to the teenage waitress than me. Before that, I was out with a date who got snippy when I contradicted him on politics. By “contradicting” I mean asking him why he thought something. Then he opined for half an hour on something that I literally do for a living and which he had “read an article on” that I should read. I would rather be home in bed with my dogs, frankly. 

Do I try to fight this as premature aging? Be sexier? Nicer? Or see it as part of a Uranus Opposite Pluto transformation? 

Saturn’s Sagittarius.

Don’t Surrender To Phantom Deficit Syndrome

Dear Saturn’s Sagittarius,

Congratulations on doing Saturn so well – the debt clearing, the accountability and all. Okay yes, i am aware of that Tinder article – Dawn Of The Dating Apocalypse but your email reminds me more of the Atlantic article a few years ago that got massive traction: All The Single Ladies. 

It also brings to mind the famous “Men Explain Things To Me” essay by Rebecca Solnit, a brilliant Sun-Mercury conjunct Cancerian. She coined the term “mansplaining.”

Yes, there are a lot of men out there – even really nice ones – who mansplain. I had lunch with one the other day. Memorable quote: “I’ll try not to make this too intellectual for you.” 

So mansplaining is a thing. Online dating giving people (of both genders) the vibe of endless options for low investment hook-ups is a thing. Women emerging from break-ups determined to ferociously evolve but finding that their raised consciousness is not always a hot ticket in mating land is a thing.

Raised Consciousness Is Not Always A Hot Ticket In Mating & Dating Land

But Saturn making you too cynical? I don’t think so. Saturn can erect walls but usually, it is an area where you sense (thanks to Saturn Vision) that you have not been guarded enough in the past. So yes you put a wall up but it is almost like when a park gets fenced off to grow the grass long again. To replenish the soil.

My feeling is that maybe before Uranus opposite Pluto, you would have been happier to play the ingenue or morph cheerfully into whatever role seemed to be required of you in that situation/with that man. Now, now way? Uranus Opposite Pluto wakes up your Shadow Selves and sends them packing. But I think you may have phantom deficit syndrome. If you’re happy, who cares whether you have a current lover or not? Are you letting some artificial standard define your level of self-content?

Go full witch with this. If a person manifests who can handle a smart, busy and authenticated you, great. If not, well, you’re self-commanded and on your optimal psychic frequency. It’s the Age of Queens.

What does everyone else think?

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Libra Moon Conjunct PlutoMM Member
Libra Moon Conjunct Pluto

Wow, this is excellent! It definitely applies to me at this time of my life. I’m currently undergoing my Uranus opposition (natal in the 5th house, opposition in 11th). They say all bets are off with Uranus transits. I’ve found through online dating that many men don’t want experienced women because they are jaded. There was a time in my life when I approached relationships and men with puppy-like adoration until my heart and body got seared over and over again. After what seemed like endless pain, I gladly started drawing boundaries. I disappointed a lot of guys with the… Read more »

Lux Interior Is My Co-PilotMM Member
Lux Interior Is My Co-Pilot

Saturnine stability is GOLD.

So you have no time for losers and flakes?

Sounds AWESOME.

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

a powerful stance.

Della c CMM Member
Della c C

As a fellow sagitarian – I can empathise. I found a workable, fun solution many years ago, after years of Claytons and less ‘dating’ debacles. I simply decided, since, I had had my children, done the whole marraige, mortgage, grown up thang…that I needn’t try anymore to tick boxes like that. They were done, acheived…..next! so, at 35yoa, I decided that I was not remotely interested in having a ‘relationship’, co-habitating, or anything remotely close to ‘normal’…it seemed that all that could be expected of me in dating land, was more merde and a whole shiteload of “COMPROMISE”… fuq that!… Read more »

Della c CMM Member
Della c C

woops sent before finishing.

so, long story short, do you really need a relationship? Can you not just enjoy the hell out of male company, when it suits you, have your fill, and then go back to not having to compromise anything?

I love it, would not have it any other way.

Vi
Vi

and what sign are you?

i wish i could be like that but with venus in Libra I still yearn to be coupled despite being very happy in my solitude and independence

Corrina
Corrina

some people are just not cut out for that style of loving. Being a Sag I’m not surprised you enjoy the freedom of a broader concept of loving and enjoyment of the moment. I’d be interested to know other aspects of your chart – mars sign, sign in the 7th house, moon sign?

But try telling anyone with strong Cancer or Taurus placements that this might be the way forward and we will shudder in absolute horror. Not everybody’s style of loving and intimacy needs are fulfilled by the same strategy.

Thanks for your post though. Was interesting …

ArielMM Member
Ariel

Frankly, these men sound awful, you shouldn’t give them the time of day, & they are obviously completely antithetical to your Sagittarian spirit. If they can’t appreciate who you are, they shouldn’t get anywhere near your pants OR your dinner table, IMO. So, terrible but honest advice from someone who has had lots of hot partners, some of them good men too: STOP DATING. It is superficial & bullshit & I have never met anyone great that way. Even better, colder advice would be: stop looking, stop waiting. What do you love to do? Who do you hang out with?… Read more »

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

great advice.
Do what you love stay so busy you no longer care. That’s when the right people find you.

Astro Shrink
Astro Shrink

Dear Saturn’s Sagittarius, Astro Shrink jumping in here if that’s okay. I don’t think you’re being cynical at all. What you’re describing is classic post change stuff. You have just done loads of important inner and outer housework. Brilliant. You’ve totally amped up your self-love, self-worth and self-care. These new choices and regimes you’ve put in place will positively impact and enrich the quality of your entire future life. One of the gifts of rolling up your sleeves and doing Saturn is that it always pays off in the longer term. You can reap huge rewards. You’ve taken notice of… Read more »

Annica
Annica

I don’t believe in the once you’ve shifted on the inside someone turns up in your life. I think you are either just born with super peach blossom pussy powers or natal astro attributes that get you suitors or you aren’t. I know plenty of air headed, mean, not that pretty, stupid, trashy women who never have a shortage of men. They dont work on themselves at all! There is always a warm body for them if they want it, maybe even 2. And then i know attractive women who work hard on themselves spiritually, physically, fiscally, etc….and they go… Read more »

Alice
Alice

I SO agree with you Annica. I really do think it’s either an astro thing or peach blossom pussy powers like you said. And I certainly had the PBPP when i was in my 20’s and 30’s but after 40 – pfffft. I still look great for my age but I’m just not interested in 20-something guys who just to want to bang an older women. Guys my age are either married or chasing 20 yr olds. And maybe the type of guy that appeals to me are too chicken to ask me out (and I’m DONE chasing!!!!) or couldn’t… Read more »

Annica
Annica

Omg the apocalypse of the one-night stand even?! Is nothing sacred anymore? *old fuddy duddy coming thru* You make an excellent point though, as i have loved and loved well in my past and some people never get that. I was trading Libran sob stories with another. She lost her husband during her Saturn return, having only been married 6 months to a heart attack. 🙁 i have never been married and older than her…7th house Saturn is pretty much anti-PBPP… But also i see the older teenage children around me of Gen Z and they seem more down to… Read more »

Alice
Alice

aw, man that sucks. Never been married either but i have an empty 7th house. I thought Saturn in 7th was a positive. Like any house with Saturn – it’s difficult at first but then it becomes your shining star?

Annica
Annica

Lol. When is later i kid? I am going to die of old age before it ever becomes a shining star unless something magical happens. Srsly, going to be eligible for AARP in a few years.
But i always leave room for magic. 🙂

Powderfinger
Powderfinger

I agree. Same same for blokes too. I have only boring attributes like honesty and dependability but l look like the north end of a south bound camel with a mongrelised Yorky accent. Then today l heard about a woman committed suicide bcos she couldn’t get a partner. I was near tears over that (Kat Sun&Asc). Some ppl need to partner up; its just that simple. When some say tbey don’t need a partner, fine, its prob diagrammed into their chart. I know its a need l have but l am workn on it (2steps 4ward /1step retro) My chart… Read more »

Annica
Annica

I think you will find somebody. Kats always have an uncanny ability to find new sources. The Kats who have the most issues are the ones who get stuck on one person. So as long as you keep moving…yay! Do you really consider yourself boring? Women really don’t place a lot of emphasis on men’s physical appearance. I promise most women over 25 only look for a few key things that matter to them, and many of those are changeable. The only unchangeable attribute i can think of that many women usually fetishize is height. Wish it were the same… Read more »

venus lady
venus lady

that’s not true.

Not for this venus in Libra lady anyway. Shallow as they come when it comes to looks. It’s the only fly in my ointment.

Will happily overlook a lot of things but not looks. Otherwise I would be partnered up already. I need to be attracted to them physically. Can’t help it.

I’m not the type for love or people to grow on me either. I know pretty much straight away if it’s a possibility or not.

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

Americans are extremely superficial, and shallow as a whole unfortunately. I don’t subscribe to it but some of us are out numbered.
It’s crammed down our throat that youth, looks, money is all that matters but for anyone with intellect or substance is starving from lack of depth.
Never give up there’s others out there that had enough too.

FreogirlMM Member
Freogirl

No, darling, doing Saturn has not made you too cynical – a lot of men are just really insecure and feel scared of powerful women. I’ve been doing Saturn AND a bit of online dating too (having finally left my restrictive, moribund marriage mid last year – I’m Gem rising so have Saturn transiting my 7th – ouch). The guys I’ve met through online dating have been – for the most part – quite threatened by my attitude: I am very clear on my ‘profile’ as in – “I don’t want players and wannabes and guy who watch porn and… Read more »

Circe Baby
Circe Baby

There are a lot of very basic people out there of both genders. When you up your game, your dating pool diminishes vastly, because an equal becomes harder to find. I suggest you do the Vaginal Feng Shui a la Denise Linn (Mystic has written about it on the site) and focus on clearing out the negative vibes. For the record, my boyfriend loves to argue. He’s a strong Aries mega fire sign guy, and only likes women who are strong and have their own strong opinions that they would be prepared to defend to the death (Moon in Aries… Read more »

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

yep- nailed it! Not every guy wants a doormat. Many love a good debate and a feisty spirited woman. 😉

LoveNuy
LoveNuy

I think maybe you should work on upping your femenine energy before dates… as suggested by David Deida, Rori Raye, etc.

Alice
Alice

Why is it always the woman that has to do all the work????

Porkchop
Porkchop

+1 Alice.

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

…and why is it always the woman’s problem if something doesn’t go her way? And what is ‘feminine energy’ anyway?

syrynxMM Member
syrynx

That was a bit of a freudian misspell by LoveNuy Femenine, emphasis on men. I’m guessing that’s the energy required to dumb down enough for the douches. A bit like pithing a toad, only your doing it to yourself. Your ability to twirl your hair while laughing girlishly remains intact, but you may drool a little.

fem
fem

LOL. Yes, all those “feminine” things. Don’t have any opinions, be “NICE” yadda yadda yadda *eye roll*

Year of the Phoenix
Year of the Phoenix

Great articles Mystic, proving again this blog is one of the best finger on pulse reads on the planet

Lizard King
Lizard King

Although I am somewhat reticent about positive discrimination in all forms – a film industry friend of mine summed it up recently when in response to the Gender Matters Initiative announced by Screen Australia and the the current debate swirling around the lack of black representation in the Academy Award nominees, he quipped ‘ at the moment chopping your cock off and growing an afro is probably a good career move for men working in the film industry’ – I must admit after reading this article, I had a very uneasy sense that I may be just a tinsey weeny… Read more »

Lizard King
Lizard King

I meant to say ‘just me…need to do more lunches lol!

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Is it weird that my comment is awaiting moderation?

scorpio_rising
scorpio_rising

Good Advice: Don’t do online dating.

Jokerman
Jokerman

I havn’t been on for over a week now. I feel so much better. Ppl l deal with, IRL, are so much more truthful; and nicer. Morality and ethics are abandoned on online dating. And the posted word lacks nuance, syntax, cadence, inflection, emphasis and body language; things are even lost in phone conversations as recently discussed.

Dunno about other sites. Car n bike sites are easy, just mechanical izsues, little room for bs.

scorpio_rising
scorpio_rising

I think being able to meet someone in person and read their body language is important.
Call me old school I overhear too many complain about how unhappy they are after trying online dating. It seems like a total nightmare to me.

Annica
Annica

Same here. It is harder for people to lie to me irl. I mean i can still be duped by weird shit tho.

Scorpio_RisingMM Member
Scorpio_Rising

true.
I only hear horror stories of online dating I’m sure there has to be some success stories as well. But the horror stories just stand out.

Leo-Scorp grrrl
Leo-Scorp grrrl

Keep right on doing YOU. I don’t think you are cynnical. I think you are real. We all need companionship. You’re a Sag. Get out and do things you like and there will be some man with cohones (spelling?) and intellect enough to appreciate you. I have no time for low esteem fuqwits after Saturn in Scorp and now in my second house. Dumped one guy stuck in the 90s who always seemd to have a “poor me” attitude because I was more happy alone. I got a dog instead. Then the current lovely man worked really hard for my… Read more »

Maxene Schreck
Maxene Schreck

Mainsplaining and sexism give me RAGE. Since those fools obviously underestimate me, I have to just give them a middle finger and an exit. ‘Cause, you know, violence is not the answer.

I vowed many years ago that if I am unable to find someone who gives me all the respect I deserve, then I will happily die alone. It has worked for me in that all the right people were eventually drawn to me.

WWLD (what would Lilith do)

syrynxMM Member
syrynx

WWLD is awesome, I’m going to remember that.

Annica
Annica

WWLD? Brilliant! Is that an oracle question yet? It should be.

Annica
Annica

I totes get the feeling. Yes uranus opposition makes you desire and rock being your true self, which is not that big a deal if you are already Uranian and already doing that. But why does that have to be done alone? Other people get to go through it just fine with a partner or at the very least options. It is like there are NO options. AT ALL. It is like the only option is being by yourself or choosing to be by yourself because you are surrounded by crumbs. I mean let’s be honest, that is not a… Read more »

BelleMM Member
Belle

I’ve experienced exactly this toooo… I’m just at the brink I’ve vowing to never go on one of the sites and be objectified in the worst way.. “over 40”

Annica
Annica

It does depend a little. 40’s is def worse than 30’s or 20’s as far as abundance. It is like once you have the confidence situation worked out and you are comfortable with your own body, now there is nobody. In my 20’s i was a wreck. I am surprised so many men liked me as i was a raging demanding vegan asshat with out of control blood sugar. If you happen to be a “normal” white middle class female looking for a mate, i have seen decent things come out of Eharmony through watching my friends’s successes. not saying… Read more »

Sphinx
Sphinx

There are barely any good people in the world generally speaking – let alone good men.

Nothing has changed except you realising that.

This is Saturn’s ‘gold watch’ for all your years of hard work on yourself.
Welcome to the Gold Watch club.
And stop crying now you are here.
(Unless you are crying lubricant oil for clock and watch parts, in which case carry on)
😉

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

No self-improvement lasts if you expect some imaginary external approval from it. I don’t see the connection between being self-improved and a bad dating scene. I used to see that connection…but now? Whatever I do, I do this for me and the people in my life who already love me. I gave up dating in the US because it takes up too much time and generates wasted angst. I’m not going to blame men overall – I was hoping for as much of a fantasy as they were, frankly. Why else go meet Internet strangers if not for elevated expectations?… Read more »

Sphinx
Sphinx

That was so much nicer than what I said, but yes external results for inner work aren’t a simple linear equation!

Evolved Gem
Evolved Gem

Dear Saturn’s Sag – One lone sperm must fight/wade through approximately 235 million of his brethren to make it. This is what nature intends, this is what nature teaches us. The egg just sits there, going about her life/business until that one guy who finally reaches her knocks on her door. Does she let him in right away? Usually not. He has to ‘prove’ himself to her by knocking again – usually. So my post Saturn 7th house transit says, Stop Looking. Live your evolved life. This is what nature intended. If there is a guy who is worthy of… Read more »

Taurus VixenMM Member
Taurus Vixen

Oh I like “Team Haute”. So glad to read your posting, Mystic’s reply and others replies. I, too miss the attention from Team Low but just can not tolerant them anymore. As I sit there on the few times I’ve attempted, all I can see is my precious free time in Life slipping away. Having also grown so much, I just can not put up with that time suck in my life

Elizabeth
Elizabeth

Saturn has not been in Sagittarius *that* long—these changes, if made so recently, are so big and wonderful and deserve/need/demand time to root. The not “researching” on Facebook to me sounds like the most secret weapon high level item on a list of high mojo changes. You are basically “sober” from intrigue which is so huge–once you unplug from that drug, 99% of what passes for dating these days is intolerable. The guy looking at the waitress was an ass, his terrible gross behavior not your responsibility, the shame is on him, don’t let him surreptitiously dump it on you… Read more »

FireTryin'MM Member
FireTryin'

Knitting is a godsend for many situations. Including vacations with the family.

Also, love your perspective. Love the idea of giving it all time to root.

Veronica
Veronica

Love that term ‘mansplaining!” Had to laugh, It totally does happen, met a few of those in my time. But the Aries merc tongue will generally leap out of my mouth (of its own volition I swear) to cut through any pompous crap most of the time. And select men I have met actually rather like that quality, so those are the ones that are around me. And if the other person is mansplaining too long and loud (like my dear but sometimes insufferable SO with sun, merc and saturn in leo) the virgo mars steps in and writes a… Read more »

PiMM Member
Pi

Hi. Those two guys you made examples of sound tedious, and with egos as fragile as eggshells. It’s not you. Men who want pliable nymphs are not the men for a post saturn uranian rtn divorced sadge who is back in the game.

PiMM Member
Pi

Take them rock climbing *test of manhood*

cosmic fleece
cosmic fleece

Bonjourno Pi ! I was thinking along the same tracks, albeit, what about getting offline completely and shouting your self a lesson / course / amateur learning skills of something you’ve never done and would like to learn …sailing / rockclimbing / hangliding / or .. ARCHERY ! ..Have a kite in your car for a windy day, researc hwhere near you is the best kite flying place .. or where you know is the windiest..Get out there on a windy day…The wind will bring someone interesting out, and if not the first time, you’ll have fun…It’s a thrill…That’s a… Read more »

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

Interesting, but I have recently drawn up a bit of a plan, not to ‘find someone’ as such but widen my circle based on joint mutual interests. Joining the Lycra brigade is on my list 🙂

Annica
Annica

Rock climbing a test of manhood? Nope. Mostly boys. Little boys running away from life, abusing weed, living the mobile dirt-bagger lifestyle. So f*ing over it. I used to think this was a good place to find someone circa 2006 Now i think it is a clique-ish trash heap. I moved on.

While i don’t have a man, i think it is possible to find a good one anywhere. I just haven’t seen any.

PorkchopMM Member
Porkchop

I think ‘romantic’ relationships are overrated. I was in one for 10 years and feel a bit been-there-done-that. Yes, it ended badly so that may be part of it.

A lot of relationships end up stagnant or boring or people stay because of the kids or because they don’t want to be alone or it is too expensive or too hard to start over.

I like getting crushes and a bit of flirting but don’t know if I would ever want to live with someone again or get serious. We’ll see.

Love making new friends though.

PorkchopMM Member
Porkchop

I am a Sagittarius too, with Moon in Libra and Gemini Rising.

Willowwolf
Willowwolf

I so get this. Also doing Uranus opp. divorce among so many other things & transits.
Men – yeah well, hopeless really. Not that I’ve been really looking…then out of the blue, well under my radar – there he was. Not my usual ‘type’ but everything I’d been looking for – and yes I’d made a list & found it very cathartic at the time!
I’ve known him ( not well) for 5 years. So just keep looking and be open 🙂

Alouetta
Alouetta

I loooved that Rebecca Solnit piece. Hit the nail on the head. Re modern dating, it’s just not easy. But I take some comfort from another Solnit piece ‘Men explain Lolita to me’. She identifies how some people are never really challenged to develop empathy (and don’t challenge themselves), instead all the stories they engage with render the self ‘awesome and eternally justified and always right, living in a world in which other people only exist to help reinforce our magnificence’, resulting in a ‘privelobliviousness’. So when you know that these people exist you can identify the signs quicker and… Read more »

fallenangelMM Member
fallenangel

Dear Saturned Sagg, no, it’s not you, it’s them. But let me first acknowledge how the dating scene has since time immemorial really been and always will be filled with men whose desires go no further than artful geisha-ing, pert barely legal flesh and what is now one of the most requested services from the oldest profession in the world known as the “girlfriend experience”. Pretty nodding heads with hands folded and legs crossed or not upon demand. Therefore we cannot judge the awesomeness of the product that is the newly Saturned, post Uranus Opposition individuated YOU by the market’s… Read more »

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

This is genius, FA, thank you for posting. I have Pluto in my 5th (and on my moon-Lilith-Eros-Juno, no less) and this resonates deeply with me.

fallenangelMM Member
fallenangel

I miss posting but life’s been a bit of a blur! I think being so Plutonic pretty much means we love the depths non?

Still, wow, that is a lot of Pluto haha

R(Aqua/Tauri)
R(Aqua/Tauri)

I. Love. You. This is amazing. I turned 29 today and I have become the no-bullshit person in dating to the point where I didn’t date at all for the whole year while I got clear on some stuff… rebounded after heartbreak and then was like “okay, what am I actually doing?” Also I am Taurus moon and rising, I move SO SLOW whether it’s getting into or out of something. I am VERY dating handicapped in the age of the app. The reality is bleak especially where I live (as me and some other people were talking about in… Read more »

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

Happy solar return Rache 🙂 xxx

fallenangelMM Member
fallenangel

Happy Birthday R(Aqua/Tauri) and I adore you too! How lovely to turn 29 and had the wisdom to take the time to heal. Here’s the one thing I definitely know: No one really knows what they’re doing, whether it’s work or love. Sometimes the right thing to do is rebounding, even if it’s just to reconnect with the fun of dating, and sometimes it’s just having zero action. I’ve always thought you can only know what’s right by taking a step, even if you later find an adjustment is necessary. I’ve met men your age who’d say the same about… Read more »

Alice
Alice

“You won’t need to find that person, they’ll find you”

Really? I would love to believe that. I really would. Some people are easier to find – like peeps who throw themselves at others even when the other belongs to someone else. And sometimes it’s a case of what the Saggo said above that certain accomplishments don’t seem to be in demand… things like self respect, principles, morals, standards. You know… all the haute stuff.
Hmph.

fallenangelMM Member
fallenangel

Honestly, you don’t even have to believe it. I certainly didn’t for the longest time, though I thankfully chose to remain open ended about it despite despairing evidence. I certainly strove for it in different ways and exerted a lot of effort. In the end it really just came down to not wanting to be a person who was closed to that possibility. It’s hard to argue with how current circumstances are, whether its the state of the dating pool, people poaching other people’s partners etc. I even used to laugh at how some nutter in prison manages to get… Read more »

Alice
Alice

whats’ the longest time then? I love how people say they haven’t dated for ages and it’s only been 6-12months, LOL Try over a decade! And of course I’m still open. It would be really, really nice but I’m content all the same. I don’t date because I have better things to do and I feel the most attractive I’ve ever felt and I’m well past 40! It’s just like Annica said below some peeps either have a great astro set up or powerful pulling skills and we’re not all meant to be partnered up in this life anyway. Especially… Read more »

Jokerman
Jokerman

Upper part of the chart? (lesser need for a partner)

All but my Moon is 1-6 & that is 7th assuming a dominant x3 role.
I have no shame whatsoever in saying l need a partner. Plus my Virgoan Mars Pluto conjunct in very strong trine to my SatCap- a USS Nimitz of desire. Plus my Kat Asc & Sun in trine to my 4H Nep & Jup respectively. And respective sextiles.

Im like a 15yo trying a Porsche 930 as my learn car.

fallenangelMM Member
fallenangel

That’s funny, the qualifier of what the longest time is. Here’s a bit of my history to be a bit clear: I got out of a 5 yr relationship that was hmm, Oprah Bad. It was so bad it left me emotionally, financially and physically broken. I was 40 when I left that situation and I’m well past that age now. It would’ve been so easy just to swear off dating but at the time, I felt isolating myself would’ve just made me calcify into my fears. I was never afraid of being alone and I certainly didn’t expect (though… Read more »

Alice
Alice

“accomplishments do not seem to be in demand”

YUP… That just about sums it up

Jokerman
Jokerman

The Dark Moon prevents me fr saying anything but my posting this will be controversial of itself. (Sun n Uran 1H, Aqua Moon & Leonine Merc Uran conjunct). Yes to most (but not all) tbat was said.

jeniMM Member
jeni

lol, clap the controversial lords *applause*

ElectroMM Member
Electro

I’m a lunar Sagittarious, and am definitely feeling the “fence it in to let the grass grow” vibe. I’ve just been patient with what is going on within me and around me. Choosing what to spend my energy on and using my intuition to gage how much, how often, and when to let go. It’s like a liberating weight, the heaviness has forced me to pare down and separate.

LiberatingVenus
LiberatingVenus

You know those nice, dense sand bags they offer you in yoga to put on your belly during shavasana to give you that pleasant “rooted” sensation? Yeah, THAT – that’s what this Saturn + Neptune biz can be. Ballast, like in a hot air balloon or a ship’s hull; the correct adjustment of which keeps you properly afloat.

jeniMM Member
jeni

I’m too fluent candid with this Sagittarius moon, getting into WAY too much trouble uncovering rocks, like there wasn’t going to be a worm under it. why are worms so gross anyways? they’re awesome!

ChrysalisMM Member
Chrysalis

Defo don’t settle for crumbs. This was my experience with online dating also. A bunch of really average guys with zero self-awareness and a lot of smug illusions that a ‘better’ woman was instantly available to them if they didn’t like me. I am post-Chiron return and divorced. I have to say I’ve never experienced the kind of societal prejudice that I’m experiencing now. I am only just beginning to be aware of it as prejudice – but that’s exactly what it is. It’s like the world needs me to hurry up and find a partner or a place so… Read more »

The Venus FlyMM Member
The Venus Fly

I think the Haute folks inherently “know” that if they follow their bliss life unfolds at the right time better than expected. After my last experience with online dating (outlined above) I stopped and life HAS been better. True, the better men I’ve met are not available to be in a romantic relationship. But they are down to share friendship and creative collaboration and I’ll take THAT over mediocrity. I have to say, the ‘Twin Flame’ signs for me have been really heavy the last year and POURING in the last few weeks. Energy is DEF perculating – exciting energies… Read more »

Twin-geminiMM Member
Twin-gemini

I hear ya sista! I literary was thinking same thoughts another day. Same here- when I needed help, I was declaired ‘too needy’ ; when I stood on my two feet and firmly grabed the Mother Earth with all my might: there are no two balls out there to matched mine. I casually mentioned coming to say hello to my son’s male teacher, when we met – he said:”I was scared meeting you”. WTF? I never even seen him before around the school (Gr5 buildings are on the other side of the school). So men just ‘scared of me’ now?… Read more »

Jokerman
Jokerman

As a recently lapsed teacher, parents were usually scared to meet me. Maybe your kid talked you up a big game?

jeniMM Member
jeni

agreed on the Gemini fluent sarcasm… Valentine’s Day is AwFuLlLlLL 4rl *sad face* “why, why?” shouts at Sky

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sakthi astrology

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Twin-geminiMM Member
Twin-gemini

This is Mystics site – you shouldnt ‘blow your own horn’ dear here.
No advertising plz

Mm
Mm

Seriously that is so dodgy! Mystic doesn’t even allow paid adverts on her site, pretty unethical to go and put an ad for your services on a site which she has built up over a long period. Jeez Louise!

Redlipstick VirgoMM Member
Redlipstick Virgo

Meah off freaky advertising psycho … Psycock or what ever you are. Don’t pollute Mystic’s fab site.

Wait … I am getting a psychic vibe … You are a fuqwit!!!

jeniMM Member
jeni

ah, so professional u are mystic. I aspire! laid back and fluent. ilyy

The Venus FlyMM Member
The Venus Fly

I’ve stopped dating in Australia due to mansplaining. It is so strange to meet someone, for them to talk and talk and talk (about themselves, their ex, nebulous ish etc) but once you return some energy to take it deeper, higher, MATCH them the “social seizure” crops up – the contorted face, the twitching eye, the insecure snarkiness. THANK GODDESS for the ethnic (gay or married) men here in Sydney who actually “get” that interactions require active involvement, not endless “be a passive sounding board I like to look at while I only talk about me but when I’m done… Read more »

tw:leo
tw:leo

boom! <3

TripleLMM Member
TripleL

Aw, yeah, babes! I don’t even recognize my former put-up-with-endless-amounts-of-bullshit-before-finally-exiting-self.

Saturn sq Neptune is MY bi-atch!

The Venus FlyMM Member
The Venus Fly

Go on with your bad self/selves <3

jeniMM Member
jeni

omgod “masturbate myself using your body ???????????????????????? it’s so funny!!!!

LiberatingVenusMM Member
LiberatingVenus

Darlin’, I am *queen* of being mansplained to, LOL – I worked in a highly technical, virtually all-male industry for over a decade and it’s how I developed a *wicked* return serve, LMAO! Any man threatened by your intellect is a fuqwit who isn’t worth your time, straight up – you’re not going to get what you want in a partner by dumbing yourself down/dimming your Light to appease…fuq *that* noise! You sound like a very together lass – I think you probably just need to get outside of your normal fishing spots to connect with people who can meet… Read more »

The Venus FlyMM Member
The Venus Fly

Sing it to the babies, the children, the bees, the trees, hell, the yoghurt tubs. Just sing it! #TRILLSPILL <3