Relationship Astrology Advice – People Can Be Like Transits

Astrological Transits

Need relationship astrology advice? There are factors of compatibility and figuring out your Venusian Vibe,

Whenever you are relating to someone with powerful synastry between you, it’s like you’re having a permanent transit of whatever planet is involved.

Huh?

Synastry is the comparison of two charts. Let’s say you have a lover and their Saturn is right on your Moon. Whenever you’re with this character or they are in your life, you may as well be having a Saturn-Moon transit.

Alternatively, what if their Mars is on your Venus? That’s like you have a non-stop Mars-Venus transit: You’re operating in a haze of happy pheromones. Lust for life? Lust for damned well everything.

You tend to attract peeps into your life which reflect the transit you are having. If you need to brush up on your Saturn management skills, along comes an inspirational haute Capricorn. If you have a Pluto Transit, you meet Plutonians.

e.g., When Uranus was all over my Venus, I only met Aquarius. It got to the point where I knew if a man was interested in me,  he’d be like a triple Aquarian AND have his Moon conjunct Uranus.

Unless both people are evolving at the same rate and in similar directions, you often outgrow lovers & partners. It’s sad when you think of the pair-bonded forever ideal but perhaps perfectly natural? Just as transits represent phases in our lives, so too do people. A Mars-Venus high-chemistry relationship may be fantastic for a while but then, just like the Moon, you enter a new phase. You could desire a more Saturnine relationship, less intoxicating but more focussed on constructing a functional life together.

You can, in fact, be dating your planets.

And btw, that seven year itch thing? It’s a Uranian cycle. Or one quarter of a full Saturn cycle. Whenever you want some super-rad insights, assess your life in seven-year cycles. Flashback, btw, can help with retro-auditing.

 

Delphine Lebourgeois

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FireTrine
FireTrine

Do you really think we need to outgrow each other MM?
Surely within the seven year itch periods we can focus on ourselves for a while and be patient.. I want so much to believe in a ‘happily ever after’, I think people who stay together have a nice harmony as they get older, even if they had times when they have considered moving on when younger.

Maybe this is as good a use for astrology as any – working out why we feel so itchy… HMM!

FireTrine
FireTrine

Oh dear, I just learned my Saturn is on hubby’s Moon… but my Venus is too, I guess that evens things up?!

Pegasus
Pegasus

The 7 year Uranus itch? This explains my relationship to dwellings.
So wanting to move for the sheer CHANGE it entails. Roots getting too long
for my comfort.

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

PEg, YES! i agree – moving for te sake of moving… gathering no moss and all that…

Lark
Lark

Pluto conjunct venus with my SO and we hit is off instantly, I moved in 2 weeks later and we are attached at the hip almost two years later.

whatever
whatever

interesting – what house lark? 4th?

whatever
whatever

OK I’m having an epiphany astro bazza (thanks for putting him back on the list mystic, bless his pointed little head) sez this is the first time jupes and venus were in pisces (on my MC & opposite my sun uranus pluto and jupiter) since 1998 – when the lovely aqua and I hooked up – on the day of an eclipse and we officially formed the quorum of our mutual admiration society on the day of the next eclipse that year. It’s pretty crazy looking at those eclipse charts on top of the synastry. My vertex is conjunct his… Read more »

whatever
whatever

GRRR this is why I stopped coming here, astro is too interesting. This whole synastry thing is amazing with respect to me & aqua thank you so much for this mystic – I always knew people were a way a transit (my entire family being a brooding scorpions nest put me on to that pretty early in life) could manifest but it’s funny looking at when aqua & I got together – expansive Jupiter eclipse times – uranus conjunct moon and neptune being in on it is amazing, what I just read warns about accidents if aspected by mars –… Read more »

shell
shell

you know Whatever, sometimes I do that oh my god I waste so much time faffing about with this shit it’s ridiculous blahdy blah. and then other times i think about how maybe that faffing time has saved me a a whole heap of other moping/dwelling/being an idiot etc time.
Bet your future is just a tiny little bit different now that you’ve had that realisation about your past. Sounds like a fab one too. Happy trails to you too!

whatever
whatever

What if his lilith is conjunct your venus, moon & Mercury?

fallen angel
fallen angel

We-eeell… obviously Le Sewer came along as Pluto kicked my House of Love in the face. However, it has had the odd effect of Plutonizing me and bringing out latent transformational abilities I only used to formerly indulge via the wardrobe. Self-possession to the max, amazing grit and a very strong dislike for apologizing for really anything. Never complain, never explain etc… I now even carry the Scorpionic mark and have somehow waltzed into the Cappo Comedy Writer’s life frightening the poor boy to asking me gazillion times, “so how do you want to proceed with this?”… I do agree… Read more »

Uranian&Plutonic Virgo
Uranian&Plutonic Virgo

FA, so it’s going ok with Cappo com writer then? 🙂 Apart from Scorping him out, that is.

fallen angel
fallen angel

Oh dear. Actually, sort of? Yes, I apparently Lilith’d/Scorped him out to the extent that he is now having to “sort out my feelings” as he thinks I am “wise, amazing, super impressive, very sexy” and I am there thinking, “how hard can it be to take off your pants, really??” Didn’t say it of course… Soooo…it looks like it’s bad in a way that I’m not getting what I want right NOW, i.e. him, naked, making jokes and love to me at the same time (not AT hopefully). But it’s GOOD in the sense that he obviously correlates the… Read more »

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

definitely sounds like Mars retro AND Aqua weirding. I would just try and be patient until March. Lovely to hear that you REALLY like him. And he sent you a Valentine! What is there to worry about? Chill out. I’m trying to tell myself the same thing. Hehe…. let it slowly unfold.

You sound like you’re on fire! It’s good to have options but personally i would leave the Libran alone.

fallen angel
fallen angel

Oh Scorpalicious, I LOVE your input. The Cappo seems to have the vote of at least 3 very good friends. To be honest, post-Sewer intensity, taking and giving space is well, surprising. Refreshing in some ways, tormenting in others. Actually the Cappo credits me for making him think about things…as he could not immediately articulate his worries, and I probed him gently till he was able to fess that he was well, frightened of getting hurt. Not sure if I’m on fire..hmm, maybe I am. Our corporate stockbroker stopped by today, and I hadn’t seen him for like 5 years,… Read more »

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Hey fallen, what ya doin’ up so late? Gosh knows I should be in bed but watched the Olympics…

Aww, do know what your Cappy means about not wanting to get hurt. Still waters run deep. They certainly do…x

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

well, the fact that he confided in you is a good sign no?

YES, you ARE on fire! – corporate stockbrokers paying you compliments, a lovely Cappo hanging in the wings, a Libran pulling out the charm. Hmmm, yes, i think you are. I can feel the heat. 🙂

fallen angel
fallen angel

Ah Scorpalicious, trust me I am liking this kind of fire as opposed to the razing I got from the Sewer. Thanks, it’s nice to feel..well, admired for a change.

Now have a dinner date with the Libran Environmentalist… and the Cappy is nowhere to be found, sigh.. it’s just dinner, no worries. But can I just say I’m already feeling somewhat unfaithful??? Horrible.

I like his still waters though.. now if only if they would flow MY way.

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

wow, well. My Toro had the same effect on me as any number of transits… conjunct venus-es, my jupiter conj his sun, his moon on my Mars in 8th… aquarius … constant give and take (um, tug of war?) between space and intimacy.

FireTrine
FireTrine

Hi MM, thanks for bringing it down to my level! This is really helpful. Now to find two seconds to look at my circle’s charts..

bubble
bubble

wow uberv thats heavy nova indeed. but strangely glamourous ? in the scottish sense of the word ?
ok gotta go but am thinking that its galling to think that you are the leftbehind rather than the forward moving leaver of behinds behind !
also pomoscrop – i love that idea of ‘runners’ !

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

Its a good term – a friend used it too me once, and noted that they were often Angels as well. We have the most divine and intense connection with them, and the lessons are always life changing and life serving. Problem is for me? Those intense connections are usually amazing, and I mourn them for a very long time once complete….

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

So right on about transit people. I met my Plutonic ex during my Pluto conjunct Mars transit (way back when Pluto was in Scorp). He was Sagg, but had a Scorp stellium. His Pluto was conjunct my Venus and his Mars was conjunct my Mars and Neptune in Scorp. It was a dark and haunting affair as he was heavily involved in the underworld and ended up dead. The good news for any of you going through Saturn transits, is that Saturn in Virgo, particularly Saturn over my Venus and MC, delivered a couple of amazing professional mentors who helped… Read more »

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Well Ubs, one would never know from your posts that you knew someone inolved with the underworld but then again I suppose it makes one wise which does come through…

An ex once said “you’re in now” and he meant the Columbian drug cartel. Scared the hell outta me!

Damn double Cappy…. 🙂

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

Aw Sweets…ta. It’s Mars in Scorp. Covert operations and little fear of the dark.

Pegasus
Pegasus

Thannx, Sweetie & Uber for the Houses info.
Soo much to learn so little time. Many penny drops..Kachang!

Baristagem
Baristagem

Holy SHIT Uber! 😯
Hope everything is ok now…

Have just had Saturn return in Nov & have Saturn in Virgo 6th natal, it is true about mentors, have got some amazing people helping me out at the moment… present company included! 😀

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

Thanks barista, he died over a decade ago. We were no longer together and I was living overseas. It was a strange and difficult relationship. He was literally born into an underworld family and I don’t think he could escape it. I had to walk away from him. Recently, during a dark moon in Scorp (and Mars retro), I received some information that he’d been in deeper trouble than I thought.

Astro is scarily accurate at times. And bubble, I’m not sure what Scottish glamour is, (lol) (Ewan McGregor in TrainSpotting?) but I think I can do without it.

bubble
bubble

also dear blackstar aries, with the greatest of respect – and this i learnt the hard way – you have to look at how you are ‘dancing with them” rather than how they are dancing with u. i have been thro a whole big friends thingie recently. pluto in 11 th !

shell
shell

yes i agree with that. It’s somewhat similar to looking at the things that annoy you most in other people, as they are often behaviours that you also do.

SPMALR
SPMALR

Interesting synastry with my Leo ex.
His Saturn was on my Mars in Gemini.
His Sun in Leo was exact opposite my Venus in Aquarius.
His Moon in Leo was exact opposite my Mercury in Aquarius.
He was all over me- definitely restricting and confining every avenue of expression.

bubble
bubble

you know what this is very true amd it does cut both ways hey ? think there are people I’ve grown however i think theres quite a few people out there who’d say hand on heart they’ve outgrown me.

i guess its easy to say well i outgrew someone than it is to admit that maybe they outgrew me and all my crap. i used to have dark hair but over the past couple of years i’ve become blonde, you could say i’ve lightened up !

Spirit
Spirit

Good to know…many peeps have been purged…compliments of Pluto transit.

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Thats what I did when Pluto came upon my Dsc. @ 26 Sagg. opp. Mars 25 Gem.

No more old patterns with peeps that had not changed.

Spirit
Spirit

Pluto peep pattern purging……LOL

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Hee hee. I love playing with words…..

Purge those peeps, planets!

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Here, here!

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

I wonder if this is also a bit like what we refer to in our family as Runners? People who come into our lives for the learning of a lesson? That makes sense to me if I look at it along the transit lines….. Very cool.

dreaming cow
dreaming cow

beautiful dreamy neptune connect with my husband – my neptune is conjunct his sun and his jupiter and then my moon is conjunct his neptune – very deep soul chemistry – anyone got any thoughts beyond dreamy soul chemistry?

but also we fuel mad schemes – we are a house of dreamers (but that might also be my jupiter and his neptune in opposition?)

Sassy
Sassy

Have you seen the film Zeitgeist, william?
Expains the banking system, capitalist society and that money doesnt exist etc

Look up the Venus Project. Very interesting. Zeitgeist Movement.

Thnaks for the link.

william
william

omg, sorry about that, (oops) didn’t know it was that big…(nevermind)

whatever
whatever

priapus?

whatever
whatever

something weird is up with yours and pegs posts they won’t accept replies… – priapus was meant for you william.

How big?

william
william

lets see, hmmm, thats about 9×3 isn’t it? Mysty should take care of that… didnt mean to do that…

Pegasus
Pegasus

David Icke says the same things ’bout stuff as Stuart Wilde.

whatever
whatever

hmm 2nd reference to zeitgeist in the last few days – they have another film too. My enthusiastic leo friend tells me I should see it. I think he should stop telling me what to do.

William – David Icke = grain of salt.

william
william

david icke is nuts, I get that…. however… just interesting the way it came up…. as if…. well…. something…. Basically like a message of enlightenment hitting me just the right way at right moment… NOW HEAR THIS, (you dummy) MONEY ISN’T EVEN REAL… The spirit of the thing perhaps…. I’ve noticed stuff like this before… like the spiritual has really wild progressive political agenda you could almost swear it does or something… (guess it’s better than hitler stuff I guess…) I guess that would be another alternative… but of course God doesn’t wear jackboots (unless you WANT him too, he… Read more »

william
william

(excuse me, Her I mean, not Him) lets not confuse things…

whatever
whatever

O glad you’re on the straight and narrow re the nut – he thinks jews are a reptilian race and the reason bad things happen to them is that they don’t belong here. I’m paraphrasing but that was the gist when one of his wacky books came out years ago. Thing is I think everyone has a right to think what they want to think but david icke is charismatic and well informed in some ways & sometimes when peeps like that say stuff that’s sensible in one way their other less wholesome (for want of a better word) stuff… Read more »

william
william

yeah but it was just the gestalt of the moment…. money aint real, ah, I don’t know… just seemed,, well, I don’t know…. where’s that lsd, had it here some where, hm grm ,hum

whatever
whatever
Sassy
Sassy

I believe his ideas on vaccinations and how it is just for the companies and medical doctors $$$…..like medicalising the whole world. like nature didnt do enough, we have very strong immune systems to cope on planet earth…I havent been vaccinated (family doesnt believe)

Im very idealistic and i like most of what I have heard him say as I think it would be a lovely way to live, no money, people would bartar for produce, etc, peace just living life without war, greed, hunger

Yes and He is a multiple Aries with mars in scorp, make of that what you will.

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Okay MM you are psychic…. I have been thinking about both those two things intensely! It;s eerie! I was trying to ‘out a pattern for me with a certain type of friendship dynamic, and I had figured it out to be about 7 years give or take a year. I was just thinking where that would fit in my chart. If it is Uranus, then it makes sense because it aspects my saturn, and there is a lot of learning, and explosions…. My question about synastry. I keep meeting people who “steal my thunder” It feels like I’m not being… Read more »

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Sometimes people will appear to take our power or our thunder in order that we cultivate our own. I could have never known ahead of time how so and so’s such and such sittin’ on my astro position was going to play out except perhaps in general terms, so I don’t think even if I knew certain informations I would have not entered into a particular relationship because still, I didn’t have enough information and if there was an attraction there then I’d be curious to find out… Think astro can alert us to things, but much is too still… Read more »

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Looking at a chart, we also can’t see someone’s Soul nor how evolved they are and so how one can grow past “bad” synastry (if thats what it ends up feeling like ), is to make a positive out of a negative on some level…Lemonade from Lemons and in the process one usually grows, changes etc. and is a different person from whence they came….

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Yes, very true on all counts. Someones soul, is not necc in their chart. Maybe finding people who are “low” whatever is a way to get me to evolve. They ( I think it was Jeanne Avery , but don’t quote me) say Cap risings often have difficult births because they know they have a lot to do in this life and basically don’t want to come out. THat was so me- I broke my mothers tailbone before birth (I know- excrutiating!) But now, when we joke about it -I always say I was hanging on for dear life!! And… Read more »

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

hehe, me too BlackStarAries – very difficult birth for my mum and i didn’t want to come out either. I was well cooked at 9 pounds which is hard to believe if you were to see my petite stature now.
I have always known from an early age that I was an old soul and constantly get told that in readings. I hope i get it right in this lifetime. I don’t fancy coming back.

The good thing about Cap risings is they get better with age. 🙂

catfish
catfish

sheeesh, no wonder the last few years have been rough!!!
my sort of ex-partners saturn was on my merc, venus and mars of virgo (also saturn return)… and the last few years it felt a bit hard and emo and karmic in learning about the ways i communicate and go after what i want in love!!!
maybe?!? is this the gist of it?!?

dreaming cow
dreaming cow

Hi catfish xx was his saturn conjunct your merc, venus mars? so then he was ‘parenting’ your communication and flirty + assertive energy, a constraining influence perhaps, limiting your self expression? but if it was conjunct (as opposed to square or opposition) maybe he helped you grow up, gave you stability, helped to ground the energy of merc venus, mars – virgo is ruled by saturn (i think….) and so the grown up vibe would not have been disastrous? – all those planets in virgo – perhaps you already are quite self critical – so maybe you didn’t need any… Read more »

Baristagem
Baristagem

Ex Kataka had their Saturn on my Venus & Uranus on my Pluto… holy fuq… it was full on intense at the start & really awful at the end. I felt like I grew up pretty quick after that one. 😯

Dr.Aqua has Moon near my true node with Mars & Chiron next to my Asc, much lighter & breezier here…. we met through work.. 😀

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

People with Moon and Venus in Virgo nit pick at anything

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

Mercury in Virgo are the worst!

Mercury in Virgo
Mercury in Virgo

What do ya mean? We nitpick but it’s only to make sure the contract is set right. Otherwise, it might take years to fix what could have been set right in a few sentences…

Spirit
Spirit

…efficiency.

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Hmmmm, my Mom Virgo in Mercury and she’s darn sharp, I’ll give her that, but the nitpicking (never directed at me…) not always for constructive purposes as for example someone on the t.v. is dumb or this or that is ugly….It’s not often but it’s not a positive vibe to witness. One day I told her she’s going to go to hell if she doesn’t change now while physical. I think it scared her 🙂 The other day I got an email questionaire thing from her for fun. ….She had answered her part… #6… Where do you see yourself ten… Read more »

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

Too right. My sun and merc are conjunct in Virgo. We are nitpickers of consequence.

Sassy
Sassy

The energy usually is felt both ways with synastry. Does he make you feel accepted, like he really understands you, gets you and vice versa?

Tamberlaine
Tamberlaine

My partner has venus, moon and pluto in my sun sign virgo. I have leo in my venus. Does this mean he is totally into me and I’m not that into him ? He is Libra scorp cusp. Libra Merc.