I recently have begun a dating someone who is as he puts it “is emotionally available, but not physically available”. He is a Leo, I am a Pisces. We get along amazingly. Similar humor, moral principles, thought processes, respect, and loads of workaholic vibes. So naturally we get each other. He is super supportive and at the same time challenges me on shit I need to be challenged on. While I adore that he wants to spend time with me dating and snuggling sleepovers once a week, I am absolutely frustrated by the resistance he has to taking things more intimately.
IE; no sex. I have asked him straight up all the obvious questions. Do you have an std? Is there someone else? Are you actually into same sex relationships and not aware of it? He says no to all. It has been almost 2 months like this. I would love to be open to dating other people but I’m super loyal and can’t deal with dating a ton. Not sure if there is something in the stars here that could be putting his interest somewhere else? Or if I’m just a place keeper for the time being? I’m having a hard time having patience with this one. As it’s pulling up all sorts of insecurity scenarios in my mind.
My big question here, is it worth sticking it out to see if there is a romantic connection here? Or do I move on?
As always thanks for your brilliant input!
Dear Hecate Rising,
What a fascinating question! And i know the P.I.A.B.s here are going to be extra erudite and illuminating on this one.
Okay so if you really do have Hecate Rising, consider a spell? Dress up as his Venus sign? Mirrors on the ceiling? Power Hair? Okay i am jesting with the classic Leo cliches. This MUST be frustrating as fuq and humiliating as hell.
But let us look at the bright side here. He is honest and up front. He is not playing games. Could it be that he is just packing a super low sex drive? Like he is literally A-Sexual? Does he get aroused during the “snuggling.”?
As a Pisces, YOU Have Saturn square Neptune all over your fishy arse for the next two years so let’s not go there with the insecurity scenarios, natural as they may be in the circumstances.
So if he is truly not into sex than you will have to friend-zone him at some point, right? If he has some savagely hot strange Leo kink thing going down, he is bound to tell you at some point, yes?
I would give this dalliance until Mercury Direct, enjoy his company but – if sex is important to you in a relationship or potential relationship – start pulling your energy out of this. See if he comes to you with anything more.
I mean, seriously, Jupiter is in Leo and blasting toward Uranus in Aries – that’s got to shake out the HORN of even the most reluctant Leo.
The problem here is that Pisceans do so love a PROJECT – so you get could hooked into this and it becomes a kind of masochistic zombie scene, complete with him lying in bed reading Eckert Tolle to you whilst you writhe around in that week’s lure outfit – suspender belt, latex, whatever.
But what if he is just old-school chivalrous and genuinely wants to get to know you better before becoming more intimate? How cool would that be? Juno is on Jupiter – he may want to meet his Queen.
Remember, Saturn in Scorpio – still not done yet – is making a lot of people think more deeply re where they direct their sexual energies.
What does everyone else think?
Image: Falling In Love Magazine – August 1960
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