I have a problem. I only fall in love with Neptunian men. Grifters. Conspiracy theorists. Deluded hotties. Visionary seducers. Mystics.
I discovered this because my latest love is a Mars-Neptune man and I’m delighted that I can feel something again. Certainly doesn’t hurt that his natal Mars is opposite my Mars-Pluto, all in a square to his Neptune, no less.
I suppose it’s not my fault. My father has Neptune on his ascendent and I have had Neptune in my 7th house for over a decade. It gets out in 2021 and have vowed not to get married until 2022 at earliest, if at all. I also have my natal moon in Pisces in a square to Neptune.
But I am the Venus-Uranus woman. My natal Neptune is in the fifth house conjunct Jupiter and Mercury: Neptune energy brings me so much creativity and fun. It brings me alive.
I find these relationships give me a deep amount of inspiration and joy like nothing else. But they can turn very bad because I tend to get deluded. Nothing quite breaks your heart like Neptune. Being a Capricorn with a sun in the 6th house I don’t find myself getting caught up in the drugs and diversions but instead delight in it all vicariously. I have a good relationship with Saturn to the point of over-channeling Saturn. Perhaps I am simply looking for someone else to live out my Neptunian energy for me?
I have tried dating non-Neptunians but I am indifferent to them. I have tried very, very hard. Any advice for young players?
How might a person keep a Neptunian relationship from turning into a nightmare?
My actual nightmares are always about drowning in the ocean and I try to avoid recalling my dreams altogether to avoid the nightmare hangover. It’s becoming obvious that this is all connected and that I should step out of denial.
I don’t expect to be able to connect to the light of Neptune without having to withstand a lot of its darkness also, but YOU must know how to handle this with grace and conscious awareness? I don’t want to be a passive victim of the tides: I want to direct the tides, or at least surf them with some finesse.
Sincerely, Feline Foe x x
Dear Feline Foe,
I’ll tell you one thing woman – you can write. I also feel this dilemma – i only attract Uranians. It’s gotten to the stage where if a man even likes me, i can pretty much guarantee he’s got Uranus Rising or on his Moon or something. And with that Neptune transit of yours, you are clearly like catnip to Neptune men.
Oh and re Mars-Neptune men – you saw this, right? They’re exciting – they may send you mad but they are unlikely to ever bore you or insist that you come to some dull company function. And what does a Venus Uranus woman crave more than anything else in relationships? Electrifying rapport and shitloads of personal space.
It seems so simple from the outside – you channel YOUR Neptune via a creative career – never mind vicarious whatever via Neptunian men – Neptune as a Muse for writing, dance, cinema, art, music, acting – anything creative – is the most powerful Muse.
So you have your OWN Neptune scene going down, you already know how to inoculate yourself from the worst aspects of Neptunians – you say yourself you don’t get caught up any lower Neptune vortex – and you crank that Venus-Uranus up to high beam. Venus-Uranus is just BORED by anything soggy, let alone delusional or not really happening.
The more you do your own creative vibe and clearly you are eloquent as fuq, the more you attract a higher order of Neptunian guys into your life. It’s not mandatory to do darkness along with Neptune – be it when you love Neptunian men or if you’re having a Neptune transit. You just need to totally work your Saturn and Uranus to both set boundaries and alert you if anything delusional, toxic of Love Zombie-esque breaches your perimeter.
What does everyone else think?
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