How Can I Be Famous But No Men Approach?

Torkil Gudnason

Hello Love,

Firstly, let me thank you profoundly for your boundless positivity and banging creative booya we subscribers get to enjoy from you on the daily. What a gift you are.

If you post this, please keep my details private, as i am a little bit famous. Call me Luna.

 In the last five my career as a performer has become amazing.  I tour the World constantly getting standing ovations, critical praise and throngs of fans loving me up down and sideways on social media. I am so grateful and do my darndest to share as much sparkly love and genuine Universal ka-pow as I can at every opportunity.

And I am achingly lonely.

I am constantly called beautiful and powerful, yet no men approach. So I attempted the rock star-esque, leap from the stage, select an interesting gentlemen who shows some interest and ‘too bad I’m leaving first thing in the morning so what do you say we…just…?’ and get shut down. Constantly. I’ve tried, then tried NOT trying, all ending in frustrated tears and pillow punching.

The most frustrating part has been all my astro peeps and tarot readings all declare THE BIG ONE IS ALMOST HERE! For years now.

I believe in love and celebrate it in all it’s forms, even when it is not for me. But, Mystic, I’m starting to feel like it’s NOT for me. As my star has risen these last five years, my heart has been sinking.

So instead of becoming bitter, how can an unrequited Love Goddess, just…forget about it. Let it go, and just live joyfully in this fabulous life I’ve been granted, and just….NOT want love anymore? Please tell me it’s possible.

So much love and gratitude, 

Luna, 

Dear Luna,

WOW! This is going to provoke some beautiful wisdom from the peeps on here, i can tell. For my part, I did peek at your chart and two things spring immediately to mind – you are just ending up a transit of Pluto opposite your Cancerian Sun and Lilith.This is huge – so voila you emerging from the underworld furnace of Pluto, creatively fulfilled, celebrated and cashed up.

So hey the reason your astro etc goes on about BIG SCHIZZ going down is that Pluto will trine your Venus in a few years time at the same time that Uranus crosses into your House of Love.  That’s not a little love or a casual make-out scenario. This is once in a lifetime loving. 2016 is the Everything.

People often get disheartened that there is not some fabulous love transit just right around the corner – like “hey, wait till the next Full Moon and you won’t believe this.” But the fact is that the Big Love transits are relatively rare. Obviously, if you took more time from  your schedule and created some kind of mad business plan for “getting a mate”, you could definitely scratch someone up. You could feng the fuq out of your penthouse or mansion and confidently expect some action as well.

But my feeling is that you’ve been flat out doing the creativity and all that entails and only now that SATURN is opposing your Venus are you getting a more Saturnine paucity consciousness around the whole love thing. Saturn opposite Venus can feel harsh – you run a little audit on things and it can really cramp your style.

That plus you’ve got Pluto starting to activate your Taurean Venus big time, in a way that has not occurred since 1988.

I get that you’re seeking Unrequited Love Goddess tips and wanting to learn the art of graciously letting go of all that need for intimacy and all that but i would just accept that Saturn-Venus can cause you to focus on what’s missing, acknowledge this desire that now feels more urgent (Saturn is a taskmaster, we know it) and look forward to the Awesome that is Uranus crossing into your House of Love with Pluto & Jupiter trine Venus at the same time.

Talk to us about your love life THEN.

Of course, the other argument here would be the All The Single Ladies argument advanced by Kate Bolick in The Atlantic – it is a tremendously erudite article that says (amongst other things) that for various sociological reasons, there are a whole tribe of Alpha woman running around with expectations that their potential partners may not yet have evolved into.

What does everything one else think?

 

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Jill
Jill

Hey Luna I would ask your friends to set you up with some ‘blind dates’ not so that you can try to find “the one” but so that you can have some fun and find out what you like/want and don’t like/want in a mate. After my divorce I old-style dated with several men (not sleeping with most of them) which meant I had good company, great talks, nights out on the town and dinners. I made some great friends and met my darling future husband who is a bit older than me and if I was ‘screening’ as I… Read more »

prowlncrab
prowlncrab

Hey Jill … I think that’s a place you just arrive at. Not one that can be manufactured just by deciding it would be a good way to go. My thought is that relationships really are a journey into one’s own unconscious, with the other being a mirror. If Pluto is anywhere in the mix, then make that a big fuqing ginomormous theatre screen sized mirror. If there’s a lot of crap buried in there then … good luck!

Single TTD
Single TTD

I am in the same positionas Luna except I am not famous. How can I work out my chart to see if there is love coming? Mystic can you do a personal scope on this?

pi
pi

thats interesting 12v, to observe that with yourself. i sort of see it as giving people a chance to reveal themselves over time. when it comes to intimacy. like a striptease of the soul. 😀

Pegasus
Pegasus

Just read Myst’s reply. But of course, the Medusa knows.

Pegasus
Pegasus

And when they ask me if i am married or have been i just say ‘no i forgot’.
My man magnetism must be due to my nonchalance worn as disinterest, THAT pulls it seems.

The wrong partner can zap your creativity which you need all of for your career. The men all all still be there in 15 years probably in better shape and they are now. Think TIMELESSNESS. Or in your next incarnation.
Kismet darling Kismet.

Pegasus
Pegasus

Become a Tantric Instructor and have men looking at you with amazement in their eyes and all wanting to have sex with you.
Men are the least interesting creatures on the planet says this Maven.
I gave up one man for many, now i have a dog 🙂
which i prefer….lol.

prowlncrab
prowlncrab

they can be a bit disappointingly obvious can’t they Pegs? How is the new pup?

pi
pi

i don’t think men are the least interesting creatures. there are some excellent men out there. I am proud to say I know some of them. each generation becomes more self aware, that’s the key. imo. x

prowlncrab
prowlncrab

My take on it is thus …. as a fellow Cancerian, the universe appears to be asking something very difficult of us lot (especially ones of a certain age/generation). It seems to be along the lines of … forget using all that nurturing ability on a person or family and instead focus it on the planet. Make the planet your family. Now this is pretty much everything a typical Cancerian does not want any friggin part of thank-you-very-much. We know about the world. We know that at its core, society is rotten. The vast majority of the world’s population are… Read more »

sweetpea
sweetpea

I look at humanity as being in ignorance. But once upon a time, and to some great extent still, as I am part and parcel of that collective “slumber”…I cherish humanity. How could I not. I am often ignorant. Think I like what Seth said one time in that we are only disappointed by humanity because we sense the ideal…Something to that manner… I am an absolute idealist. In my idealistic nature I will not give up on that which is greater than we are and that we can manifest it individulaity and collectively. What would be there to live… Read more »

prowlncrab
prowlncrab

I hear you Sweetpea … yes the frustration of one’s own and the collective ignorance has been a bit of a theme lately. Sitting in the ambiguity of life and being comfortable with things being uncomfortable is another one. Higher understandings seem to involve leaving behind attachments that feel normal, but are really a bit of an illusion at the end of the day. Like I said above … these are all concepts that are quite challenging to this Cancerian’s natural point of view and very personalised way of attaching and caring for things. Doesn’t help that I also have… Read more »

Veronica
Veronica

Beautifully, eloquently spoken. I agree with so much of what you’ve said, and I can also see the Aquarian part coming through in the Universal Love bit. Re: the one is coming messages, I got them at the end of my over ten years single (though not celibate!) but what confirmed it was my dreams consistently indicating someone was coming (actually was a couple of guys, the universe brought in) and Jupiter and Uranus transit through my 7th house. I actually bought myself a wedding dress in while travelling in another country about 3 months before there was a relationship!… Read more »

prowlncrab
prowlncrab

Thanks Veronica. Yes I’ve recently tweaked my natal chart as astro transits weren’t quite making sense and my mum was always hazy about time of birth. I think I have pinpointed it now. The upshot being that I realised Pluto had actually been traipsing through my 7th house for the past eon … not the 8th as I had previously thought. It certainly explains a lot about my relationship journey over the past few years. I’ve been virtually single for the past 10 years too – have had a few relationships but all with the same short, intense Plutonic themes.

serenity
serenity

I resonate with this. You won’t settle for just anyone, and thank goodness for that! Imagine the misery of it and how it would impede on your success and creativity and most of all your identity and power. No way…. please….it has to be the right partner. It’s worth waiting for him. In the meantime, keep doing your awesome! As MM would say. I love this one from MM — keep your invisible crown on. It’s lonely at the top. Maybe your purpose is stronger than “that relationship.” Imagine if putting off your purpose for “that relationship.” Disastrous. The rest… Read more »

Jennifer
Jennifer

Luna, I feel ya. It’s a dilemma. But hey, 2016 isn’t as bad as my next big love transit…which should be in 2019 when I’m over 40. SIGH. And since it’s Uranus, I’ll probably get divorced a lot.

How down are you to date other famous people? Do you get to mingle with them much? There’s a reason why people date others on “their level,” after all.

Lux Interior is My Co-Pilot
Lux Interior is My Co-Pilot

Thanks for sharing! Don’t feel alone, there are tonnes of us, angsting and gnashing over our love lives, and yes I blame Saturn (better than saying “Jesus hasn’t sent me the One yet”)….just wait for better astro. I remember when Mystic Scopes kept saying it was my “Big Career” astro and then suddenly—BAM, dream job, after years of slaving away. I think it is sooo fabulous that famous peeps are subscribers. One of the good things about being famous, is everyone ASSUMES you’re getting heaps of awesome action, so it’s not like anyone will ever suspect otherwise. They’ll just think… Read more »

Lux Interior is My Co-Pilot
Lux Interior is My Co-Pilot

And yes Saturn schizz has always evoked plenty of time/status anxiety–wrinkle fear, why the hell aren’t I partnered up, comparing self to peers unfavorably etc etc. It’s just Saturn Schizz.

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

So much for my digital diet, less time online, more time with wind in hair thing. This is CATNIP to a Leo. My thoughts Luna… – this is the most perfect picture match to post that i have yet seen. The alps for lofty ambitions and standards. The stance, firm and rooted. The suggestion that one works on ones pelvic floor, hip flexors and t.a while waiting for Uranus to move into the house of love. – do NOT fuq your fans. I know people who are a little Lot famous and believe me this is a disaster. Do you… Read more »

sweetpea
sweetpea

dumpster dick eh? 🙂

Yes, those are quite practical solutions for someone with the means to explore that way. I mean come on girl, you just ain’t workin’ it proper.

sweetpea
sweetpea

ps, Speaking of Uranus Mystic…so, so craze. When trans Aries Venus was crossing my Sun/SN with Trans Uranus and the old THT (triple horned toro )w/his Venus in Aries conjunct all, can you believe that one morning, on the outskirts of town we crossed paths at a four way stop? Knew it just had to be the Venus in Aries-Uranus transit setting off the ol’ stuff again. Suprise stuff, but just a wave. Just some “other life” that we keep bumping into. Sorta like what davidl was saying about being parallel in some way. Kinda sweet really as Mr. Libran… Read more »

Pi
Pi

dumpster dick OMG HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH

BAHAHAHAHA

oh god

(sorry guys)

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

thank you. I am bisexual, five foot 11 and blonde. But Virgos terrify me. When i modelled i had a virgo booker who would say things like “that lipstick is the wrong color for you, it makes the whites of your eyes look yellow or do you actually have hep b?”

also is it just me or is the tarot deadset scary accurate for everyone?

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Hi TLS. I’m bisexual, 5’10”, & brunette. When I was at uni, I had a Virgo academic advisor who consistently snapped, “What are you asking me for? You should know this by now.”

Tarot weirds me out every time.

Lux Interior is My Co-Pilot
Lux Interior is My Co-Pilot

Hi, I’m bisexual, five foot 6 and bottle redhead. I once worked for a Virgo who used to tell sick staff members who wanted the day off: “I’ve got a cough and it’s worse than yours”

The tarot seems pretty spot-on for me.

Ms.
Ms.

LOL. Virgo bookers are hell if you want your confidence kept.

Pi
Pi

holy shit. am i the only person who sees Virgos as their Personal Saviours? i think they (ok, you, if you’re a virgo reading this) need to be charmed first. in a cerebral way. then they Care.

Aqua Ramette
Aqua Ramette

For me it depends on the type of Virgo. The hyper-critical, nit-picky type is not for me (I’m too messy, too bossy and too inclined to want to do things my own way). But the charming, clever, witty and hard-working type, who focus all that organisational energy on doing their own thing perfectly without being critical of others – they’re magnificent.

(I should declare my conflict here: my partner is a Virgo Sun and Mars with liberal dash of Gemini… and I’m quite smitten.)

Pi
Pi

i realised I have an affinity for virgo men with libra stelliums. Virgo intellect, Libra easy going talkiness. if they are comfortable with dissidence, it’s Friendship At First Sight. it’s fab.

leogroover
leogroover

DEF scary TLS.
On this point the tarot says DO NOT DOWN DATE and voila there was the post from last year. I re read it to remind me why its better to be single. i want to get used to it . I want to be proud to love me first the universe second. after many years of down dating i am sooo ready.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I can’t tell if the Tarot is accurate or not. I did a spread for my first date and its mixed messages. (5 of swords in 5th house, King of Cups in the 11th, etc, etc) Bottom line: I don’t know how to read it. Just like reality.

Ms.
Ms.

I love trash dick as a term. Yes, DON’T fuq your fans- it will be the thing to haunt you later with all the phones and tapes flinging around.

Also I think star-fuqing trash dick has to be the lowest form of bacteria. No loneliness is worth this.

Pi
Pi

I don’t know what she looks like either but i am fairly sure it is somewhere on the scale between Earlyish Lauren Hutton and Kali In Disguise As Hot Mama.

Lady Cool
Lady Cool

I guess it seems to be the nature of the beast to want what we dont have, and the nature of man to want it all…love, career & $$. At this stage id personally settle for just one of those! Lol. Seriously. Music is the food of my soul, so out of the 3 id be more than blissed with a boost in my career sector. I only wish that successful singers without slogging day jobs knew how truly blessed they are already… 🙂 and that the rest will come in good time.. love & light LC xoxo

Dark
Dark

I felt like that at one point… I work so hard, yada yada, where is my dream guy, my reward for all this doing the right thing.
But soon came to realize that my complaints were on par with rich people who don’t have enough money.

Domestic Triffid
Domestic Triffid

I’m gunna be brutally practical. Find a professional matchmaker. Not a dating site, or a sleazy two bit operation. I am *sure* that there are very exclusive, very high level matchmakers who can set you up on with dates with captains of industry, creatives, lawyers, whatever your thang is; who are financially and creatively independent enough not to be worried by your skills and status. OR Move to Paris. Its socially considered extremely rude to ask after someone’s profession. That way you can just blind someone with your wit and charm, rather than them knowing that you’re “Famous Ms X”.… Read more »

Wildwood
Wildwood

Oh I LOVE this! I always try and ask what people like spending their time on… so at least they have the option of telling me about something other than their job.

Leonora
Leonora

Lady gaga, I’ll marry you!

Centaurus
Centaurus

Is it the idea of unrequited love more attractive than a real warts and all man in front of you? Is the idea of love, unrequited or not more potent as thoughts and feelings than tangible realness. Is this a creative well that you tap that you fear may perhaps dry up if the sitch changes? Have you figured out what you’d love from a relationship and then excluded anything that doesn’t have an immediate sense off seeming to fit into the description? Can you identify any other definite ideas you might have on how it should/shouldn’t be? Are any… Read more »

gemyogi
gemyogi

Very good points Centaurus.

Anonymous
Anonymous

Gem-star… you rock!

Centaurus xo

Ms.
Ms.

I read your post on my phone at lunch and was not able to send my initial thoughts on this. Maybe I will reiterate what is said above by some of the amazing ladies and dudes here. Firstly, I think this answer is beyond astrology though I love MMs answer. Magic love transits are rare. As is actual partners. Do you know we are all really the first time for eons in the history of women that are able to really choose our partners? I think this is very relevant. We are brought up on disney and crap but in… Read more »

Pi
Pi

i utterly agree that there is no The One. agh! can you imagine!! if someone saw me like that. the pressure, their crushing pain if i didn’t meet their impossible expectations. no way, yeah yeah, nuh-huh, i’m an asshole, etc

Ms.
Ms.

Well, it’s an opinion and a choice. At every turn. How you want to live and love. It’s easy when you’re living the dream to think in fate and abstractions but it just adds more factors to consider. Objectively..

Aquakat
Aquakat

Peeps, are you forgetting Luna is a Crab? We usually dont just jump in. I had an unrequited affliction from 16-21. I had 4 girls like over those years who liked me but l was SSSSOOOO in love with Her. I couldn’t do a ‘thing’ with any other girl bcos of my devotion to Her. 2 were provocateurs, one showing me the grand canyon, or at least her version. 11/12ths of blokes would have gone, yahoo. I ran (I raq off) So l understand she wants more. We crabs love sex; just not by its self.

LiberatingVenus
LiberatingVenus

Dearest Luna, You may not realize it, but Saturn in Scorpio/Pluto in Capricorn are actually conspiring in your best Cancerian interests. Can you do sex without emo involvement? Maybe you can, but both of these would also have you, at the very least, looking at the repercussions for doing so. Maybe this means STD’s or a stain on your reputation, but I really think these guys are preventing you from any fallout from would-be hookups though this cosmic cock-block even if you don’t realize it. Funneling that energy/time into your work/career is actually an asset, whether or not you realize… Read more »

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

–What a great thought-provoking article! Thanks Mystic! I’d never heard of “trash dick” before! LOL! I just call those men sluts or disease spreaders. It’s not a display of masculine virtue to have casual sex with a large number of women when combined with cheating or manipulation. People think guys can’t be sluts and are too busy trying to reclaim the slut title as something positive for women. No, trying to emulate a male “virtue” that is not actually a “virtue” to begin with is just pathetic. Sometimes a word becomes too polluted to reclaim within a lifetime. –But don’t… Read more »

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

well it’s not quite out of range yet, but yeah i know what you mean. when it bang on conjunct many amazing career/job thingies/self dev happened, but no romance.

Pi
Pi

I hate the S word. there’s no reclaiming it, in my opinion. it’s a rubbish word. imo. the end.

DP
DP

Right there with you, although I heartily endorse its “reclaiming” to call out slut-shaming for the destructive force that it is.

david5379
david5379

That was a VERY interesting article linked. Maybe that is the trouble for us, the easiest way to get laid is to be part of a larger social system many people just are not a part of and don’t even want to be a part of, just by being a member of certain social groups means you will meet someone, but the more individuated one is the less likely you are to fit in or find your people. After a certain point you have to build your own social life from the ground up instead of blending in to another… Read more »

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Yah i agree. I feel like if Luna has male fans, perhaps she’s not vamping it up enough with them through stuff like social media or mail with a personal touch?

As a fan of certain male musician/artists, I send them lots of fan mail and gifts. (I’m a permanent natal LZ, what do you expect?) Some muscian/artists of course will never write you back, but plenty will ping you on social media or email personally and very flirtatiously. It’s good business for them!

david5379
david5379

ya that too, she can post a tasteful yet sexy photo and see if any guys comment how hot they think it is, she sees anyone she like she can chat them up, there should be plenty of guys all “oh my gosh your beautiful” or whatever

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

yesss! I think of it as “pre-seeding” before you come touring through a city! You can sort of identify early on, who might be a more willing target?

david5379
david5379

like male rock stars take girls backstage and definitely make a move, they probably don’t go, so… I’m leaving tomorrow morning that sucks, girls would assume they are not interested and probably be nervous. Probably they both get drunk or whatever, he makes a move. You got to make some kind of move, imagine how scared they might be to accidentally outrage someone they are a huge fan of, girls don’t have to worry about hitting on male rockstars backstage probably, but as a man with a female artist, you have the added fear you might offend this lady you… Read more »

Gemyogi
Gemyogi
Pi
Pi

What I love is that a ‘little bit famous’ person can drop in, with soul-searching questions, and earthbound nobodies from Earth’s back pocket can chime in, connecting souls across the ether via electrons and honesty and intent. Mystic this maybe is the hallmark of an aqua rising Pisces! I don’t know what to say. A mistaken autotext thing from my phone wants me to say “one room” so in the interests of communication I shall say that. Touring, on the road, it’s destabilising. Fixed signs are good at the long distance and loyalty thing. Aquas are up for random flights… Read more »

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Hey, who you calling ‘earthbound nobodies’ ?? Taking exception to that!! I’m no ‘nobody’ lol

pi
pi

Lol*! I suffer from the swirling vortexes (vortices I guess) of Pluto opp MC, eris om MC, Saturn in Leo, cap moon. Fame and adulation for a creative effort is like my secret dark dream that I nurture like Gollum and the Precious. Sigh

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

I’m famous in my own mind 😉

Invicta
Invicta

laughing out loud

gemyogi
gemyogi

😀

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

What she said. X 100

Catfish Moon
Catfish Moon

MYSTIC, what do you consider the BIG LOVE transits! Wondering….

TripleToro/Fish Rising
TripleToro/Fish Rising

CM,

Mystic covers a pretty good chunk of love transits in the last DIY Astro-Hack…#5 I believe. Great info.

Catfish Moon
Catfish Moon

Thank you. I haven’t gotten it. Just curious myself as I am not looking or hoping.

Emg
Emg

Luna some of us are unrequited lovers and continue to be. Your life style doesn’t add up for longevity and settling down just now and if I may step out and be rad again, it may never be that way. Truth is you simply have to know that you want for love, that is part of being human in most cases, although some are very happy and content to be singular in all ways, but sounds like you are not one of those. It may be that you have time and chance to experience lots of souls along the way… Read more »

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Love this emg!

Emg
Emg

Thanks Gemyogi.

davidl
davidl

I was one of those teenagers that fell hard in love at 18. Long story short, she absolutely broke my heart. The last scene was me leaving my parents house late at night and walking the 12ks to her place. Just one more attempt to get her back. I arrived there just as it started to rain really heavily. I knocked , she was ushered to the door by her dad and said exactly the opposite to what I had hoped. No more chances. I walked, ran the 12ks home in the rain. Im mid fifties now and I’m not… Read more »

Pi
Pi

🙂

Mel
Mel

This is such an awesome story David! I love it! All so true 🙂

scorpio_rising
scorpio_rising

exactly!

hdq
hdq

You just made me tear up. “Saturn does time both ways.” So beautiful, thank you.

Ms.
Ms.

so awesome david

toromojorising
toromojorising

Killer advice. Thanks for sharing!

Domestic Triffid
Domestic Triffid

I did this with Mr Triffid – we lived a parallel life from the time we were very young teenagers. Its possible that we actually met playing pool in a Youth Club in Augusta when we were both about 14, but don’t remember each other…..

But I don’t believe in fate, not really.

DP
DP

I, too, teared up. Thanks for sharing this David, so completely lovely.

PhoenixWolf
PhoenixWolf

Law of Attraction working as it should.
Watching, waiting, hoping = Vibration
LoA gives accordingly, and gives you more watching, waiting, hoping

Focusing on the lack of it all, gives you more of the lack.
Letting go, wanting without challenging: “set and forget” is the paradoxical challenge, but it’s working for career, but not love – because the universe cannot control those of us (everyone) with free-will. Be awesome, always, they will flock to you.

bull with sting in tail
bull with sting in tail

Attunement

Look here Luna

Defo something ringing like a bell

Grazie PW

PlutonicUranian
PlutonicUranian

Dear Luna,

The mate you are on the cusp of finding is YOURSELF.

Love,
Your Reflection

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

+1 !

sweetpea
sweetpea

Ultimately, absolutely.

Saggnpisces
Saggnpisces

Dear unrequited love goddess, if looking for short-term love amongst the fans – I believe how the boys do it is to not do the asking yourself but have talent scouts do the checking and booking.

Anonymous
Anonymous

Now that is what I call Practical Advice. consider getting a Virgo , with a spot of Scorp or 8th house perhaps, who knows you and loves you, to do that, if you can. I don’t mean this in a creepozoid way.

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Hell yeah!! :mrgreen:

Goes off to hire ‘talent scout’

scorpio_rising
scorpio_rising

You have your roadies pick ’em out to hang out after the show, or close friends that know your type.
Works like a charm. 😉

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Luna! Are you kinda me?! I hear you entirely, and I’ve just got home from a totally lame date, so even more so. Yes yes yes to all that mystic said, and we must all keep the faith and our personal brilliance in equal measure… However… I once had the most extraordinary conversation with a friend in a similar sitch / life pattern / fate, and we asked ourselves ‘well what if this is it? Single FOREVER. And that’s it? No ‘other half’ no codependency, just us, with ourselves, always…’ and we had to ask ourselves, can we be cool… Read more »

davidl
davidl

Hi Lex x
Such a good point. I believe in the power of renouncing long held dreams, it is a magical act if done with conviction. You free yourself of desire and hence make yourself available to it’s higher form, bliss. Desire has strict boundaries, true bliss has none.

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Amazing! Yes, totally.

Ms.
Ms.

yes. this.

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Yes to no codependency. I’ve never brlieved the whole ‘twin flames’ happy ever after bullcrap!!!

And anyone who tells me I’ll find ‘the one’ one day, or that I’m someone’s ‘better half’ will get a bitchslap upside the head quick smart. 😉

There’s no ‘one’ for me, there are several lovely men I could commit wholeheartedly to. And guess what, if it doesn’t last ‘until death us do part’ blessed be.

Invicta
Invicta

Like one of you has to die to get out of the relationship is a GOOD thing?
I’m so there!

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Yes!!! WTF??

I always think my odds of a good long term love/marriage are a actually getting better as I age… Now I’m nearly 50 I have less time left, and no possibility of the complications of childbearing!

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

And I disagree with current dating ‘theory ‘ that says as a woman is alone for x no. of years and ageing, she gets more desperate and has to lower her expectations… I’ve been getting more fussy because being single and independent is pretty damn good and I don’t need someone to rescue me from being a spinster. 😉

Veronica
Veronica

Right on sister 🙂

sweetpea
sweetpea

I know what you mean. Twice now Chrio doc has made the comment that “it’s hard for older women”. My feeling is he was talking about survival, but next time I’m going to ask him to expand on that theory. Said “I’m going down with the ship with flags flying”. He said he hadn’t thought of it that way before. Huh? Decided my reality is not his and will keep it that way. Beware others who project their fears. We simply cannot afford to listen…or if we do, believe it. Besides, who says you have to ‘go down’ at all?… Read more »

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

men have a lot of reason to project fears onto women because it is actually men who benefit the most from marriage. Men actually physically live longer and healthier lives when he has a wife. For women, there’s no noticeable life expectancy difference from being married.

sweetpea
sweetpea

Hey, good point in that as the geezer gets older she gotta take care of him 🙂

Kidding, but good point.

dilettantebeth
dilettantebeth

ha ha love it! Agree re the better half/find the one. Honestly some people!

Ms.
Ms.

Are we not the children of Pluto in Libra?

We are REDEFINING relationships, even if that means all the hot queer and colourful are drafting new T&Cs for us all

😉

massive hugs to you Beautiful

Baristagem
Baristagem

😯

Agree Ms.! Pluto in Libra gen = we are shaking things up! 😀

gemyogi
gemyogi

snap! simultaneous post BG! mwah

gemyogi
gemyogi

Pluto/Uranus in Virgo here… but on the ‘same page’ as they say in corporate speak 😉

Charles
Charles

No, I’m the last of the Pluto in Leo group. Long after Pluto in Virgo started, it went retrograde and dipped back into the last ten arc-seconds of Leo for a brief time. People like me are The Blank Generation, isolated from both generations that came before and after it. We’re from a little island of Pluto, stranded on a sand bar in the middle of the River Styx. Anyway.. the Pluto discussion by Mystic reminded me of something Mikey Lutin said recently: RAPE OF PERSEPHONE and her subsequent capture by whom many call Pluto and taken Underground. There is… Read more »

Jennifer
Jennifer

As a Persephone girl who’s way too enmeshed with Demeter, I totally buy that P&H were secretly sneaking around.

islandgirl
islandgirl

Oh Charles, love how you describe your Blank Generation…kinda melancholic and sweet. And yes, when I read the Mikey Lutin comments a few days ago, I have to say that it really made me have one of those A-HA! moments. I recognize quite a few Persephone types that fit that picture exactly.

sweetpea
sweetpea

Hey Charles, just saw this after I posted the other day. It caught my attention as I have Persephone 2 degrees Virgo conjunct Pluto 2 degrees on the IC….bi-quintile Cap Moon, Psyche, Lie, Achilles in 8h. Persephone and Pluto are a huge part of my integration as they are opposite Sun-Mn midpoint in Pisces on the MC. Neptune in 5th is trine to the MC, so much of what I share is about the divine child whether I am aware of it or not at the time. It is also why my lifetime has been blessed even if I am… Read more »

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Totally agree. We are yet to see the full scope of the paradigm shift around relationships that the Lib-Plutos are creating.
xx

S
S

Find the pleasure in the everyday. I’ve gone from bad to bad to WTF is this kinda relationships. I realise it’s just not going to happen for me. Sure I am disappointed that I never got to meet someone. Because I hear my biological clock and it just screams “Do like they do on the Discovery Channel”. Still nothing on the horizon in the romantic/love department. I always talk to myself because my loneliness is a companion to my suicidal tendencies. I’ve made the decision to have myself self admitted to hospital, so that I can create the best kind… Read more »

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Sweet S, love has found you in ways you don’t imagine. I’m sure I speak for many of us here in mystic land when I say I love your strength and your vulnerability, I love the way you expose your beautiful heart, I love your spirit and I’ve wept over your bravery. You are loved.

unconventional Gemini
unconventional Gemini

As I was spending a magnificent day with another alpha female at a sailing club yesterday, we noticed how many men were with very petite, very much younger, Asian ‘girls’. NOTHING against Asian girls and this post isn’t about ethnicity, it is about the propensity of men to seek out those who appear and perhaps are compliant. In every single case, the female was listening to the male as he expounded on something. My friend and I just looked at each other with a smile. Words were unnecessary.

Invicta
Invicta

Oh I see that everywhere I look these days!
WTF?

Veronica
Veronica

WTF indeed. So if an Asian woman is listening to a man, she is Obviously Compliant.

Not clear to me why you call yourself ‘unconventional’ as your stereotyping is very very ordinary.

LiberatingVenus
LiberatingVenus

Darlings, men are so feminized these days they virtually *have to* seek out submissive uber-mousy women of any/every ethnic stripe just to appear the Mars figure, LOL. This is an unfortunate by-product not only of political-correctness, but of the spiritual/New Age movement, and of men being raised en masse in single-mother households with no strong male figure as role model. I truly do think this is a global societal problem where we’ve gotten so far away from our primal hunter-gatherer roots that many simply cannot handle Genuine Mars Energy – this puts Mars-y gals fuq out of luck, unfortunately, unless… Read more »

hdq
hdq

I did not just read this.
I did not just read this.
I did not just read this.

Evolution may be tetchy, but it is not a losing proposition. Ewwwwww

LiberatingVenus
LiberatingVenus

HDQ, I don’t think I was clear in my explanation, sorry. This has nothing to do with evolution, and I *AM* one of the aforementioned Mars-y gals I was referencing, LOL. I have much experience with this topic, not only from a personal level, but with many other strong female friends who have a very healthy relationship with their own Mars. This is not about giving up or lowering yourself in order to satisfy traditional, antiquated gender norms. Fuq that! What I’m saying is it’s a losing proposition for an Alpha Woman to choose an Omega Man, because he’s projecting… Read more »

hdq
hdq

“A collective reexamination of Martian energy” – I like that very much. We do seem to be at a particularly awkward juncture at the moment. I do not think words like feminization and alpha serve us I’m this quest, but you’re right- ’tis noble and healing. 🙂

Veronica
Veronica

I have an extremely healthy Martian expression, MM actually defined me as ‘princess of Mars’ in a consult, because of about 5 placements in Aries (sun, Venus, merc, Erin’s, P.O.F) and in 7th house.

My partner rather enjoys my martial qualities without losing his masculinity at all (and I would define him as a very ‘yang’ Alpha type personality). But actually my strength gives him space to be vulnerable when he has needed it.

islandgirl
islandgirl

Oh dear, where did you pick up such underwhelming pshycological insights into sexual politics LV? Not to mention your hackneyd racist viewpoints. Speaking as a woman with natal Mars in Leo in the 10th House, not a shy woman, I have never had a problem with so called BALANCED Alpha men. And there are plenty out there. Just like there are plenty of deranged so called Alpha men and women. I think you should look at your own behaviour and stop making such out-dated and clichéd comments. You sound exactly like those men you deplore. And your bitterness should not… Read more »

LiberatingVenus
LiberatingVenus

Sweetie, you’re projecting an awful lot with that statement there, LOL – what I said was tongue-in-cheek. The fact that you’re attributing traits like racism and bitterness to my random musings says far more about your state of being than reflects upon mine. Nothing I said even *remotely* verged racist – I replied to the OP (unconventional Gemini) and said that I thought the phenomenon of men seeking submissive women WASN’T limited by race – I *did* say “any/every ethnic stripe”, didn’t I? I didn’t target any culture at all and said I though it was something happening across the… Read more »

Veronica
Veronica

I heard another woman crap on about ‘submissive’ Asian women other day and it is quite offensive actually. Even if you say ‘no offense.’ It is Racist, and Ignorant. I am part Asian, as are my cousins, aunts etc.who are also incidentally petite, And there aint NOTHIN” submissive about them, or myself. Nothing at all. If you haven’t noticed, there are also a lot more Anglo women with Asian, Indian etc. men. I read that as part of a more enlightened, contemporary multi cultural society in general. Not that “all the white men are so weak these days they have… Read more »

(-!-)v
(-!-)v

Thank-you.

WOOHOO
WOOHOO

Being that I am also half-Asian I am also quite offended. Yes, it exists no doubt about it, but until you are an Asian woman in a Western country you can’t know what it feels like to be reduced in that way. I have been out with my own father (who is the British side of my heritage) and had reductionist women pass comment on “our relationship”. It’s disgusting and embarrassing having spit in someone’s face that he was my father. I have been demoralised with my boyfriend’s in the past with the stares and comments from random women and… Read more »

Year of the Phoenix
Year of the Phoenix

I don’t think you need to apologise at all – I am Anglo Australian and I get annoyed by the casual racism….and the sexism

We are nearly there I think, we just need to stand up to it when it confronts us and maybe one day we will really be the country we are beginning to think we are – egalitarian and multicultural

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

part asian super mix breed right here! I love how asian females get singled out as the cause of other women’s problems. We are not the cause. Please direct blame to patriarchy and racism. Hate the game not the player would be appropriate to say here. If an asian woman is taking advantage of some false PR to get herself a man, I say more power to her. She is just working the system, a broken ass system, but she didn’t choose to be represented as submissive sex object. a lot of asian women are not submissive, but actually more… Read more »

WOOHOO
WOOHOO

Indeed. My mother is the scariest woman I know. Myself, I might be cushy sweet and petite but people don’t mess with me at work anymore. It’s a system that’s been going on forever and a day, man seems woman, woman seeks man. They might both be looking for something else mutually beneficial but they also have other options in their “fishing pond”. At some point, no matter the motivation, they have found something else in common and selected each other just like any other dating couple. I like how “she was listening to him” makes her compliant. Maybe he… Read more »

Veronica
Veronica

😀 the Leo says I’m one of the scariest women he knows

Have you seen all the different video clips about ‘my Asian (insert nationality) mother says’ ?
Made by their sons and daughters who are obviously more assimilated into western culture. Hilarious

Geminian
Geminian

I did Saturn opposition my Venus over a year ago. It’s a tough date for want of a better term. It really sorts out illusions or delusions for that matter when it comes to love, and finances for that matter. I found that it really brought up my programs as far as relationships were concerned. I am still processing it to be honest, I guess Saturn does that – a reckoning ready master that takes time. Right now I am into this notion of finding what I need inside of myself and not in a twee or trivial way, or… Read more »

unconventional Gemini
unconventional Gemini

Saturn did his thing opposite my Venus in autumn 2010. A breakup had occurred 6 months earlier and I had sailed through it mostly because I initiated it. Then BOOM. A few months of feeling my insides had fallen into a very deep dark hole of black, gnawing loneliness. I met my ex several months later quite by accident, when I was well past Saturn’s stark revelations about him. My stomach almost flipped with revulsion! Strange how life is.

Invicta
Invicta

I had a similar experience in 2010, then again in late 2012. Funny how things go.
It’s as if we just have to surrender.
Period.
I find surrender so difficult. I’m not wired that way.

Geminian
Geminian

I don’t think any of us are. But sometimes it’s the work we have to do. I figure love has its own reward and sometimes you have to start with yourself.

Aquakat
Aquakat

I understand Luna feeling like that. Devils Advocado: Could you be being a bit ‘Jennifer A’ about this? If ya landed on me I’d certainly have a coffee with you.

Gemyogi
Gemyogi

Devils avocado?! Lol

Kim
Kim

It looks like she not only has Saturn opposite Venus but also transit Venus conjunct natal Saturn, amplifying the Saturn/Venus theme.

LadyLeo
LadyLeo

I was thinking almost exactly the same thing today! And I wondered, what advice would MM give and then, volia! This blog post! I’m not remotely famous but I have been working like crazy and have only recently (last 12 months, has become even stronger last 6) have noticed how I am starting to feel lonely. I think I’m the kind of gal that likes to do things on her own and i’m very independent but now I feel like something has shifted and where I used to be all career go go go, now I just want someone special… Read more »

Invicta
Invicta

Ditto

toromojorising
toromojorising

I am with you on this… It’s challenging to stay open and not end up jaded and defeated. I’m pretty much running on pure blind hope these days, but I’d rather ‘hold the line’. Life has shown me time and time again, you never know what’s around the corner, anything could happen! x

toroqueen
toroqueen

Ditto here too. Single for 4 years. Focused on me, my career and my son. Happy. Independent. Responsible.and having fun! But, zero on the dating front. My horoscopes always say something is coming, and yet nothing ever does. I stay away from the bar scene and dating sites as well. I just figure if it happens, it will, and if it doesnt, then I still have a great life, and it wasn’t meant to be.

gemyogi
gemyogi

hey ladies checkout Quirkyalone… It saved my bacon years ago!

One does not have to be partnered to be a whole person… XX

Ladyleo
Ladyleo

Oh I did, and I did the quiz and I got “very quirky alone”, haha no surprises there! 🙂

How quirkyalone are you?
Your score was 99. Very quirkyalone:
Relatives may give you quizzical looks, and so may friends, but you know in your heart of hearts that you are following your inner voice. Though you may not be romancing a single person, you are romancing the world. Celebrate your freedom on National Quirkyalone Day, February 14th!

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

i got quirky together, but they don’t really tell you what that means.

Chris
Chris

Fortunately all you can do is keep living and loving, no matter what kind of crap you come across 🙂

Pegasus
Pegasus

Succulently succinct Chris.
Thats exact what we do.

Jumpin in
Jumpin in

Ahh I sympathise and I had the good fortune to ask the same question of dear Mystic and got a similar answer … And waited a similar amount of time and he is the awesome. Hang in there, be awesome and enjoy these times for the personal growth that the alone time brings, where you need not consider the other (admittedly awesome) person and simply be you. I had that aha moment one late night, alone again on my red couch – simply decided to love it and trust.

Ellie
Ellie

I liked that! 🙂

DP
DP

Love that story, and your advice. Perfect. 🙂

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Umm… yeah. Maybe because my chart is heavy on Neptune vibes, Distraction works a treat for me. And not frivolous distractions, but creating/realizing my Essential Mission in this life & putting my focus & energy there as much as I can (where I can experience fully expressing my heart vs experiencing myself in a “needy” existence, if that makes sense). Thanks to Jupiter conjunct my Pisces rising & my MC in Sagg, I think, I see that there is always room for expansion, so I have to distract myself from negativity with indulging in positivity– expand it does! To some… Read more »

Invicta
Invicta

Hey Scorpi
Hows you?
I love being an Alpha female.
I think to real get me a dude will have to be super evolved and very secure in himself and frankly I just don’t think I’m quite ready either.
Indulging in positivity works a treat for me too!
I had my first truly Haute Neptune experience (that I’m aware of on Friday night. Immersive theatre.
Blew me away. It felt like art therapy on steroids.
I want more!
Very EROTIC in the true sense of the word EROS

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Yes, your theatre experience sounds divine! I live for stuff like that. Art is so necessary! Power ups to you, Invictus x

Invicta
Invicta

Thanks Scorporation Inc
And to you!

Guest for this
Guest for this

Well. I have Uranus in natal house of love at the moment. Soon Uranus will be conjunct my natal Venus and Chiron IN my house of love (Aries). If Pluto moves into Sagg, and Jupiter moves into Leo, they could eventually be trine Uranus in Aries. Thanks for the heads up Mystic! All I can say is I can relate 100% to Unrequited Love Goddess. I feel that life sans romance leaves me more head space for the other magic things in life. I’ve always been happiest when NOT in a relationship, i.e. single and doing my own thing. Apart… Read more »

Ms. Leo Noir A
Ms. Leo Noir A

“I feel that life sans romance leaves me more head space for the other magic things in life. I’ve always been happiest when NOT in a relationship, i.e. single and doing my own thing. Apart from society taking every opportunity to remind me what I am supposedly missing (yeah, I don’t buy it), it’s not bothered me. I find it liberating. I don’t want to have kids, so no biological clock works. No love dramas, no routines, no endless compromise.” YES YES YES. Me, too!!! There is a huge schism between reality and expectation for many people (myself included). In… Read more »

Charles
Charles
Invicta
Invicta

I love this song 🙂

sweetpea
sweetpea

Jimeny Christ…I have a Donna’s cd…somewhere. Think there was like one good song on there that I liked

Charles
Charles

Well, you either get The Donnas, or you don’t. I think it depends on whether you think they’re being ironic or not. This song is from “The Donnas Turn 21” which is my current #1 favorite album, and their best work.

sweetpea
sweetpea

Honestly never got into their lyrics but guess it was just their rock style that wasn’t for me.

Sides, my Double Leo’s Mum’s name was Donna and she could be a pain in the ass…. 😉

DahliaMm
DahliaMm

I already know who it is just by googling. Maybe you should cut out the details like the book, oprah and etc.

Ms.
Ms.

How bitchy ..

Invicta
Invicta

Indeed!
Bit creepy too.
Why would you bother googling anyway?
The lady said call me Luna, she wants her deets kept private and sharing with us as a community of friends. I don’t think the point is to “know who it is” but rather “do I recognise any aspect of myself here?”
Meh.
stalkers gonna stalk

bull with sting in tail
bull with sting in tail

Havent scrolled down any further but seems this response is a good one early….. respect….. missing so often that it is almost a cliche…. almost

bull with sting in tail
bull with sting in tail

Also, “banging creative booya ”

THAT is OUR MM

New T shirt BCB

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Ms, you are forever amazing. Master of the brevity poetry. x

Ms.
Ms.

Thank you Lex

Great to see your lovely hooves here

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