Strange synchronicity, high vibe chemistry, and a first date that goes on for 13 hours. But then, nothing. Is the Leo Policeman a Future Faker Or Destined Mate?
Firstly, thank god for your horoscopes, i have been drinking them up like zap zone juice for advice during all the weirding. I was feeling SO STRONG because I’ve quit sugar, am eating paleo, doing 90 minutes of training at the gym every day and plugging away at my good projects in Saturn Girl mode, but a Leo policeman has sent me bonkers, triggering all my stuff!
And he hasn’t even done anything wrong; he’s just been ‘busy’!
So – please can you help me. I have worked hard and long to eradicate all of my Love Zombie tendencies. But I fear that this Leo policeman is retriggering them! I met him a month ago – via online dating, and we had a 13-hour date that was meant to be just coffee but evolved. It was hands down the best “mating” experience of my life. It felt fated. We arrived for the date both wearing ouroboros – me a necklace, him a tattoo. He had all these attributes similar to the policeman (!) character in the novel i am writing.
Future Fakers Are Big On Amazing Coincidences
And he also says he preferred cats to dogs (like me!) because dogs are ‘like toddlers’! I’ve only ever thought that but always afraid to say it out loud! I had this spooky thing where when he sat on my couch and patted my cat (yes I slept with him on the 1st date) it looked like he’d been here before, or had happened already. Very odd/fated.
Then I don’t hear from him for a week or more. I saw him a fortnight after the first date. He came after work to a comedy gig but was late because he was arresting someone. He seemed stressed and busy. We had a couple of drinks, and he drove me home. That date was a mere 3 hours.
I’m so scared of getting attached. I think I already am, though. The only thing scarier than not being attracted to anyone for four years is being insanely Zombie about someone who may not feel the same way back.
Mars In Taurus Takes Everything Slow And Venus In Virgo Over-Analyzes
Now, after sending what i thought was a flippant and lighthearted message saying, “I’ve forgotten what you look like.” he has asked me out on Friday night. But I feel like I’ve dragged it out of him. I have invited him to three things in 3 weeks he has been ‘too busy’ to come to. I’m scared I’m going to say something on Friday like “why do you wait two weeks between dates? Are you married…?”
I wish i didn’t like him so much, and I can’t believe how much headspace he is taking, but i think the synchronicities are too astounding. It’s so hard when it feels like you like someone so much more than they’re interested in you. He is a Leo, with Moon in Pisces, Mars in Taurus and Venus in Virgo. Maybe the earth is slowing him down.
Of course, his unavailability makes him more appealing to me, so I’ve got to examine what THAT’s all about…
The Trying To Be Cool Pisces
Get A Crush On Yourself
Dear Cool But Not Zapped Pisces,
Okay, several points here. I shall list them for clarity.
Thank you for the image of a Leo Policeman. I can see him checking out his profile in the side mirror of his police van. But I think it is time to get a crush on yourself. Obsess over your astrology, not some guy who is not taking any trouble with you. True Story: I once went psycho-obsessive over a man who was a total Future Faker. By the time I’d worked out that even his birth data was a lie, I’d done synastry, soulmate links, composite charts, progressed composite charts and funky Arabic Parts. I know.
MARS IS RETROGRADE. So Mars = Men and arguably police officers in particular. In classic astrology, they retreat. Do you go in hot pursuit when Mars is Retrograde? No. You do the metaphorical equivalent of resting your army & polishing your swords. And I am sorry but three invitations? That is “pursuit.”
Of COURSE, his unavailability makes him more appealing to you – you’re Pisces, the sign of the Paranormal Romancer. And you like a challenge. If he’d been calling you right away, you would have felt crowded.
You spent 13 hours together on the first date so it is massive chemistry that could be freaking him out a bit or he was doing a slow-loving Mars in Taurus thing.
I am not sure if “arresting someone” is excuse enough to be late. Don’t police people knock off at the end of their shift and someone else takes over or do you think he was pinned down in a firefight? Is he a cop or is that just a suitable identity for Future Faking and womanizing? The ouroboros and good sex would have flipped me over the edge.
But say he is legit. Mars in Taurus takes everything so slow. Think glacier. And Venus in Virgo people over-analyze. Every time you want to call him, go to yoga or research something fascinating but non-related online. Exfoliate, declutter, goo-goo your cat, whatever it takes. Why? Because you want him to come after you on his own devices. And if he does not, well then why would you wish to go the effort of trying to suggest cool things to do with him on a date?
What does everyone else think?
UPDATE FROM THE FRIDAY NIGHT DATE: He had to cancel last night. I was pretty disappointed but relieved in a way as it was weirdly making me anxious, I’d built it up so much. We chatted for half an hour on the phone instead, so that was nice. He has severe concussion & can’t keep food down. I called him to check he’d been to the doctor, but that was all.
And now I shall leave him be until Mars goes direct? I don’t think he’s married; I think he works awful hours. If he finishes at 4, sometimes he doesn’t get out till 8. Police do a tough job. I have 20,000 words of my novel to write by Monday so I will do that instead.
Later Update: He did not call again, but I met a Salsa Dancer and Mechanic; a Capricorn.
Image: Sequential Crush
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