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Dear Mystic,

I have a question about the current astro. There’s a difficult issue I want to raise with a recent ex- specifically that I know he was cheating on me at the time we broke up. I’ve been holding off confronting him about it because we were still in a team organising a big event for the hobby we’re both involved in, but now that’s over and I really want to get rid of the elephant in the room.

He’s Gemini. She’s Aries. Should I wait until Mars has gone direct to do this? Or is April the right time? I’m still pretty new to astro-study but finding it fascinating and helpful.

Feel free to point me at one of the DIY Astro Hacks if that’s the best place, I just thought I would ask.

Best wishes,

The Virgo Rising Taurus.

Dear Virgo Rising Taurus,

Actually the most recent D.I.Y. Astro Hacks – Number Four does have some useful schizz in it regarding the intensity of April. But i always like to run astro-queries when i think that they will be of general interest.

And people, we can all learn from all this.

Okay so obviously we would all like to reach this point a.s.a.p.  Resentment is a toxin. It has probably been scientifically proven to make the bod pump out disgusting amounts of some awful stress hormone. Like our brain is still paleo in some parts and gets the idea that we are sharing our cave with a sabre tooth tiger…JUST because of all the brooding and stress.

But i also can completely understand why you or anyone would find it hard to move on from the infidelity of a recent Ex.

But i think NO.  Shut up, look hot, engage Distraction Therapy and move on pronto. The elephant is in HIS room – not yours. There is an old wives tale that says when you “marry” the mistress, you create a vacancy.  Also: you lose them how you find them. Let him worry about elephants in rooms.

Unless you have children together and so HAVE to see him, why bother?

The point about Zap Zone/Grand Cardinal Cross drama is that you SHUN it when it has to do with your past or something you are trying to make part of your past.  You save your Z.Z. drama for your drastic makeover, upscaling the yoga practice and/or pulling off an immense business coup. Just examples but you get the idea. You don’t back-zap.

Also,  it may be part of some twisted Sultan fantasy he’s got that women are fighting over him, that he has a harem, whatever. IF there is even a nano-unit of possibility that he might be aroused by your caring re this matter, why give him that?

You either move on graciously with Taurean dignity (and not letting your Virgo Rising go ape in “analysis” mode) OR you maybe consider a minor mind-fuq.

Also Venus in Taurus in June is special…you are going to love it. I will be talking more about it in coming weeks.

What does everyone else think? Brace yourself Ms Taurus, there is some serious expertise here.

 

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Miss Virgo Rising Taurus
Miss Virgo Rising Taurus

I just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU to all of you, MM included, for the awesome advice. Mystic, you were right! Serious expertise and plenty of food for thought. You are all amazing, and the outpouring of supportiveness just feels so good. I’m sending love and good thoughts back towards all of you. I’ve decided to rise above, swan expansively (love that) and move on with my life. The night I decided that, my dreams involved my removing something damaging from inside myself…so, yes. Feeling even better about the decision after that sign of support from the Universe.… Read more »

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

If you have any acting talent now is the time to unleash it. Consider lessons. Wait until you are chatting with a mutual friend or just someone who knows you both and they mention the break up. Maybe someone through this “hobby” you are all involved in. WHO HAS HOBBIES THESE DAYS? Sorry. Anyway wait until this recent break up is bought up and then laugh like you think it is all genuinely funny, lean in conspiratorially and confide that you were really getting over it all anyway but it’s hysterical because you found out he was sleeping with Aries.… Read more »

Ampersand
Ampersand

Totally agree with Mystic here. If a mind-fuq is what you’re after then the best way you can do it is appear not to care and swan around looking composed and expensive (I’m a Virgo Rising myself and we’re the best at this). I’m assuming Miss Aries knew of your relationship before she slept with the Gemini? What do Ariens love best? To win. If she’s into stealing men from people (because of her own fuqed-up dynamics) in order to win “the prize”, the best thing you can do to stick it to her is to act like her prize… Read more »

Quitelight
Quitelight

Beautifully put.

Caps with Virgo moons love expensively swanning, too! Now I have a great mental image to go with it.

doublekataka
doublekataka

**smile at him, with a knowing twinkle in your eye.**

mystic- this is a pearl! “The elephant is in HIS room – not yours.”

TripleHorn
TripleHorn

My granddad has a saying I love for these kind of situations. “if he thinks he’s got one over me, then let him think that”. He’s a libran. I’m a leo, it’s kind of hard to take the high ground like that. But by god he’s right, and he’s an absolute gold standard of grace.

S
S

Bless our Grandfathers!
Mine passed away in his 95th year. I am his “little darlin”, looking forward to visiting him birthplace Longreach, QLD. Paying homage to his love and my DNA. I’d tell people whom comment on my height (rude right?), that it’s because “my family are from Longreach.” “I’ve got a longreach.” My Grandfather taught me how to play pool and paid for swimming lessons. That’s why I adore Scorpios. x
Word up to the Scorps in MM land 🙂

Libra9
Libra9

Just. Walk. Away. Nurture your Awesome self. If you must say something write it in a journal that no one is allowed to read. Walk, exercise, learn a new skill, spend time with good people but do not speak of the ex. Your best friends will tell you that you’ve dodged a bullet. There is no elephant. It is an ant. MM is wise.

Charles
Charles

Oh come on, Taurus loves a good grudge.

Charles
Charles

If you have to deal with Miss Aries, I would do it while Mars is retrograde. Her ruler is in abeyance. Deal with her while she is at a disadvantage, rather than waiting for Mars to power her. But dealing with Mr. Gemini, I think it will all depend on which part of Mr. Gemini you confront. He has separate parts for you and Miss Aries. He will probably think that confronting him for having you AND Miss Aries is kind of like berating him for having both a left AND right arm. Hey Merc in Taurus in just about… Read more »

S
S

G’day Charles!
Thanks for this link: http://www.scoop.co.nz/stories/HL1108/S00356/the-desire-to-be-tricked-aelita-andre-and-the-art-world.htm
I checked it out thanks to a spambot for entering the MM compound.

Charles
Charles

LOL that link is from quite a while ago, isn’t it? That’s quite a piece of criticism.

LeoRoar
LeoRoar

give your bathroom mirror an uncensored double barrel blast and give it all you’ve got. get the frustration out. as my mum said “leave it on his conscience”. in time the rawness and intensity fades and you will then relish the fact that you’ve not fed his ego or contributed to his low vibe “harem” theory. raise your vibration and move on. all the best xxx

Quitelight
Quitelight

I’m in the “don’t do it!” camp. In my closest parallel situation, even my end was so freaking messy that I said nothing, so that it would all pass more quickly. We were all in the same tight social circle (ah, college), and the other woman was my excellent roommate (still real friends, extenuating circumstances). I kept my mouth shut out of self preservation. It had the totally delightful side effect of driving him out of his mind. Did I know? His ego demanded I know. Where was his big scene? How else would everyone know how many girls he… Read more »

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

I fuqing love this!

Elise
Elise

You’re amazing!!! Totally inspired.

Quitelight
Quitelight

Thanks, Saturnalien & Elise! I sure as hell didn’t think if it that way a the time, just trying to keep the drama off me & keep my roommate/friend. I beat myself up about it for a long time, thinking I let him off too easy.

But thanks to this awesome question (THANK YOU, Virgo Rising Taurus!) & the Zap Zone (Woohoo! Not all angst!! Rewards incoming!), I can finally see it all clearly!

K-Gem
K-Gem

One thing I found very helpful when breaking up with a guy is to get regular massages. And the gym or other kind of vigorous workout can really help burn off the energy.

But talking to him about what you already know – he was cheating on you prior to your relationship breaking up- I can’t see any real benefit coming to you from this.

As you can see from MM’s guidance, this astro is about moving on into new territory. Surf this wave to a happier life.

roadhouse41
roadhouse41

Well. Given the way things generally go with a Gemini male, and realizing that you did not ask *whether* you should confront Peter Pan but *how* to do it, I’d like to offer the practice conversation I most highly predict:

You: I know you had sex with that girl.
Him: No I didn’t.

S
S

His a Gemini…say no more.

Both male exfactor fwits had Sun Gem placements. Many years apart. NEVER again will I go that way. (Repeat to yourself S: was not love..it was manipulation). You want to put your dick elsewhere fine, but there is a code with me. Man up to your actions and move on. I’ll say it MM “that was cathartic.”

roadhouse41
roadhouse41

That’s what I think. Gemini boys are fun to play with and they have many many fine qualities but “truth” is relative to them and closure is not something they’re really able to do.

Finally all I wanted from the Gemini ex was *one* — ONE mind you, straight answer. I didn’t get it when we were still together and had exactly the same luck once we divorced.

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

WOW.. I always wondered about that = Gemini’s can they give you “one” answer. Like “I am not interested anymore”… sheesh.. 3 years of me playing with one and he got me good at the end. It was fun. But…

So, my question is “Who” in the astrology stream of men CAN say “I am sorry I am not interested to end a relationship”? Is there a blog for this question?

S
S

Ladies Good 2nd Morning.
Gemini (low man and female) = remember the twin aspect. Aka Jekyll and fuqed Hyde. End of Story.
Thank you to the MM community for your love and support during my recent trip down Crazy Town. x
Peace, love n mung beans for a brill day/night depending on your zone. xxx :p

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Oh I LIKE this.. “OR you maybe consider a minor mind-fuq.”.. the mind fuq road. I was driving to work saying to myself as though I was chatting with the Pisces as he tries to create drama for me to respond to: “don’t fuq with me”. Yikes.. I was getting all gitty about playing some games with him through Facebook.. but I am going to remain quiet and see what happens in 30 days. Something is brewing with my attachments. As.. being a Virgo Rising.. ummm.. I am sorry! Being a Virgo really sucks!!.. sometimes. Especially with romance. Got to… Read more »

Bendelirious
Bendelirious

Great advice, I especially have to agree with the overanalytical, Virgo rising thing. I am a Cap with Virgo rising and this happens to me a lot. Right now I even have migraines over worrying about things I can’t control.

earthkat
earthkat

keep having dreams with snakes and the ex….with other exes in the past the dream would involve the snakes trying to kill me. in this one, my ex is holding snakes in both hands, like awards or achievements/medals, and im in my own pool of snakes… :/ say whaaat?

S
S

I’d like to suggest looking on MM’s site re: Lilith – asteroid and black moon etc.
It’s time to leave a skin behind and reawaken the feminine within you. Good luck x

earthkat
earthkat

thanks S! going to look towards my Lilith…need to take charge/stock xxxxxx

nuevo bitch goddess
nuevo bitch goddess

Yah. The only way to move on from the this is to feel and experience every little nano ounce of pain and owchieness – cry, bitch scream shout, do it all, JUST NOT TO HIM, or any where near him (aka: his sister, neighbour, work mate). OK. thats the smart controlled advice i got from a friend. The same friend also told me when i said I felt replaced by the boring, uninspired not so new girl – “yes you have been replaced, but you were seriously over engineered for the role” This whole scenario is beneath you and your… Read more »

Ms.
Ms.

“loosing interest in dickheads is super empowering”

😀

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

“yes you have been replaced, but you were seriously over engineered for the role” – your friend is awesome!

Victoria
Victoria

I agree with Mystic. This is his cross to bear; don’t sully your pretty hands and heart with it. Channel your energy into fitness and becoming more Zen in your outlook. Maybe treat yourself to a weekend at a local spa hotel, and go out every night sparkling and looking fab. The worst thing you can do to a man is leave his sorry a$$ behind. No conversation works best. 🙂

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Speaking of elephants, is the grand cardinal cross happening now? Like, is it exact now? I woke from a dream with the shits this a.m. : was staying in a big hotel with my dogs & then suddenly my dogs were missing. I looked everywhere, asked everyone if they had seen them, & everyone feigned ignorance– but come to find out, people saw them get snatched up by some sadistic fuqers down the hall from me. When I charged to the room to rescue my pups, i found one dog dead & the other badly beaten, & I was too… Read more »

Sphinx
Sphinx

No like. Had a similar dream but it was my little Cap. 🙁 I had been rushed off to observe a surgery at a hotel in Asia somewhere. Cap was left with the staff, when I came back he was gone. I spent a day running through every slum, street, building, it went seemingly for hours & all I could think was, but he can’t talk enough to find me! I went through all the awful emotions u could imagine. Just horrifying. When I woke he was beside me and I hugged him like crazy!! What is up with this??… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Oh gawd, Sphinx: I *hate* that shiz!! Upon waking I thought, “Thank god it wasn’t one of those dreams wherein it’s my son…” Ugh. And yes, they haunt me the whole day, too 🙁 We are acknowledging vulnerabilities, I guess. So awful to touch that powerlessness, that we can’t protect them 100% of the time. Mother instincts in overdrive. Love love love to you, Sphinx.

Sphinx
Sphinx

Thank you Scorp Inc! Love, love, love to you too! Those fur babes are children of the heart too, so innocent. I hope this resonance has no significance whatsoever!

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Last Oct-Dec, I was having a lot of those dreams wherein my son & I were staying in a foreign city, and i’d go off to do some kind of work & then not find him when I got back to the hotel, or would be unable myself to get back to him… Lots of those. Just awful. And then in January, I got a job that required me spend a few days away, several hundred miles from him. And on the drive home at the end of this excursion, I got stuck in a snowstorm & had to pull… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

So to make a long story longer lol, yes I made it back to my boy safe & sound, both of us. He told me that he hid under his covers at grandma’s house & cried when I got held up another night by that snowstorm, but eventually he got some sleep & I was back by lunchtime when the roads were cleared. He cried with relief when I walked in the door, my sweet boy… We aren’t apart often, obviously. He hid to cry at grandma’s because he isn’t ok with showing emo around anyone but me, and even… Read more »

Sphinx
Sphinx

He sounds amazing! Aww, I don’t know how you do it, you are so strong being his universe and working and ..and. and!! I think my subconscious is trying to keep me aware of how much I love him and need him around, never to take him for granted. Life is short, childhood is short yet so memorable for us all. I had to change his clothes six times today (lipstick/nail varnish on him then me), two muddy puddles, two meals, then bed! But I couldn’t have gotten annoyed if I tried after that dream!! 🙂 Yep, just keep at… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Re this dog dream, i found it interesting that my dog that was not killed in it was my dog irl that passed away last Nov. In real life she died, but in my dream she was the one who survived. In real life I mourned her, but in the dream I mourned my still-alive dog. So now I feel like I’ve mourned them both. Happy to see my old girl in my dream, & to wake to the young one’s hot stank breath this a.m. 🙂

Pi
Pi

Dog breath never smelt so, er, good 😉

Sphinx
Sphinx

Ah, kind of great seeing the doggy friends in a dream! How wonderful. I have clients see pets who have passed in trance, it always makes me smile. The mind has to play out all the possibilities it’s a form of self-protection and preparation regardless of if it plays out I guess.

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

Sphinxy, this sounds horrible 🙁 I’ve got a couple of pages of info I can scan and email you that should help work out what it’s trying to tell you (It’s too long and complex to summarise, and you kind of need to work through the info to see what applies to you in order to interpret it, otherwise I’d do a cliff notes version here). x

Sphinx
Sphinx

If it is alright I would say yes! I really hope it negates my feelings on the this dream. I woke up feeling as if, as much as my sunny little Cap with Aqua Moon & Scorp Rising depends on me for EVERY thing, I actually depend on him much, much more. Spiritually he is my complete food, the coconut of my soul!
Love, love, love to you too Saturnalien. Really. Xx.

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

No probs my dear! I will get onto it later in the day. I’m fairly positive it’s nowhere near as horrific as you’re feeling it to be right now – sometimes the subconscious has to horrify us like this in order for us to pay attention to deeper things going on. x

Scorpbot
Scorpbot

“coconut of my soul”

aww, that’s so cute 😀

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Yes, “coconut of my soul” is Wonderful!

Scorpbot
Scorpbot

yes, It is right now. Not sure exact time but def today,

I love What Michael Lutin wrote on Facebook today:

“It certainly is spiritually enriching to open your heart to love, growth and personal evolution.
Fact is, however, tempers are short, people are at the breaking point, and they could just as well whack each other”

Yep.

Then this a few hour later:

“Mark this day on your calendar. You will likely be returning to it soon” 😯

I think there’s one more zap at the end of the year?

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Wow. Ok: shields up! Thank you for this Scorpbot & blessings, babe. See you on the other side of the gcc 😉

Sphinx
Sphinx

Ha ha, yes see you both on the side.. 😀

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Hello! 😀

Scorpbot
Scorpbot

LOL. It’s not over yet! 😀

Pluto, Uranus, Jupes and Mars currently 13º exact!

My sun is 13º, Uranus conjunct Pluto 13º (not the cardinal zap zone I know but I’m feeling the ZAP!). Venus in Libra 7º

Pressure doesn’t ease until Friday. But I’m waiting until the New Moon to put my shield down.

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Gaa– I’m too early! Ok, shields going back up quick before the crazy sneaks in. See you Friday 😉

Sphinx
Sphinx

I think you are amazing to have held off confronting him as long as you did. Clearly you could take the path MM is wisely suggesting without ‘too’ much effort!. I suppose my question is what is it you think you will hear? What is it you want to hear? You could try having a bath and just relax, see him in your mind’s eye and ask him, why he did it? What does your mind say as an answer? If you have the answer you need, you won’t have to really contact him. But, I don’t know, if you… Read more »

Leo-on-the-Rise
Leo-on-the-Rise

Totes agree with Mystic on all things Ex.
She’s totally right on “Being Awesome” is the best revenge & not even giving a backwards glance over your shoulder at this snotbag…
Lose the number honey 🙂

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

I’m going to go with don’t contact him unless something serious happens like you had gotten an STD from his cheating, where he and she should be made aware so they don’t keep spreading it. just disappear and move on. if you feel like “explaining” to him, wad up a sheet of paper with his name. confront the sheet of paper and burn it to give you closure. Spend time with your friends! hopefully they’ve been taking you out for brunches and fun things! do an aka cord removal ! I did this a few months ago. It stops a… Read more »

earthcat
earthcat

this is amazing – thankyou for sharing! the ex/disappearance-act guy had his anxieties and worries soothed by me, like’ no other ever did’ . im gonna cut that cord!…ceremony -i can improvise or any good things to keep in mind? voodoo dolly tasting its own medicine of worry? muwaha. i want to vibe bright again!!

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Glad it was helpful! The one I used was sort of nuts, but I swear it worked Get a small smooth FLAT black stone like an onyx. Wait until you have your cycle and put it under your pad between the adhesive strips. You are not directly bleeding on the stone as there is the pad between you and the stone. Wait until you are done bleeding. Throw the rock into a place that has deep water like an ocean or lake. If you live in the desert, bury it deep somewhere remote where it’s not going to get dug… Read more »

earthkat
earthkat

thanks eel! xxx

earthkat
earthkat

shame i JUST finished my blood-cleanse, till next month it is!

S
S

I’d also recommend using “Bloodstone”, great to help purify the body too.
@ EEL totally loved the process you discussed. x

AriesLove
AriesLove

Thanks Electric Eel! I’m going to give this a shot as well.
Sounds like we’re going through the same process Earthcat. I just finished my monthly bleed. Aqua/toro ex also relied on me as a stress relief soothing crutch. Funny how draining that can be even post-break. I wonder to what extent I’m tacitly complying still.

Methinky
Methinky

I really like MM’s advice – what is to gain by taking it up really? I can’t see any winners from even going there, but I see you winning as you glide away with your head held high thinking ‘Thank Gawd I dodged a bullet there with that one!”. Isn’t it hard to not go there right now though? I have been tempted a million times today, but have just kept on moving – even the ranting confrontational emails between family members (a bit of bitter Cap cc all – cringe!) made me laugh in the end and then Give… Read more »

Kat
Kat

In time, he will cheat on her. And justify it.

Who said, ” Living well is the best revenge.”?

Brava to all the wisdom.

Gem=constant curiosity/on the move/many opportunities/extenuating/justifying/rationalizing/”I just.. “.

Echoing MM and company – stay haute. Speak well of him- and her. Smile mysteriously and shrug. Let people be amazed at how much better you look/act.

And go to a kick boxing class and kick the crap out of an air shield. Vent privately-

You will prevail!!!

Wishing you strength, healing and great joy to fill the new freedom.

Ms.
Ms.

Ah, tough one. I have no had the infidelity but I sympathize with the rest of your situation. Problem is, even if you have a great argument and you are right, he might just be a total fuck about it and lie, or worse, emotionally injure you in a cowardly protective fashion to make you feel like shit and possibly responsible. Naturally your ego wants to bitch slap him up the wall and have him apologize but most guys get quite twisted when cornered. Esp if they are in denial about owning anything. But it’s not the long game, the… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

I like this analogy: pull the cord. Yes. Let him plug into someone else’s energy source & suck their Qi like the tool he is. Yes.

Kia kaha, Ms. x

Ms.
Ms.

I think when it gets to this level, it really does feel like plugs and cords. Thanks Scorp Inc. Loved your advice on the above as well.

toromojorising
toromojorising

As a fellow Taurus all I can say is take all that energy and channel it into something productive and tangible – yoga, long walks in nature, volunteering, redecorating, meditating, baths, long lunches with friends that make you cackle with joy, updating your resume/linkedin profile/blog/website, body work, travel, reading, decluttering… all of this, bit by bit, piece by piece, will help, I promise.

Porkchop
Porkchop

Don’t confront him. It’s not worth it. He and his Aries are losers who just won’t get it. If you feel the urge to confront him – imagine them laughing about you and your rant after hot sex. Don’t give them anything! My ex cheated on me and I embarrassed myself by hanging on too long after. NEVER AGAIN!!! The only person who can give you closure on this is you. And it is totally okay to feel angry – don’t try and supress it and be all Zen like. We’re humans, not saints. It hurts like a motherf*cker, esp… Read more »

Bella
Bella

Great advice … Don’t try to be zen like… We’re human … Be angry

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

I hear you saying you want closure. If simply stating, “Hey, I know what you did last summer,” will give you closure, I say go for it. But if your closure depends on his response to your acknowledgment, like you want him to own or apologize for his douchebaggery, then save your breath! Clearly he’s not capable of giving you basic respect & decency, then or now. Expect nothing from him: it’s on you. x

S
S

How do I clap on this Smartphone. You rock Scorp Inc x

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Thanks for that, Agent S. *salutes*

I do need to clarify: there are a few things you can & should expect from him. More lies, back-stabbing, & disregard for your feelings. Irresponsibility. Selfishness. Manipulation. Expect that from him & you’ll be just fine, VRT.

Mitra
Mitra

I’m with you on the expect nothing from him, Scorporation. I have been going through the last stages of a similar scenario. If he was OK with hurting you by cheating on you, there is a high probability that he’ll respond to your declaration with hurtful words that you won’t be prepared for. E.g indifference; explosive anger. Think now about how best to protect yourself from further hurt. You don’t know everything and some information may be more painful than you anticipated. he may lie in his reactions, in which case you are just exposed and no better off… again… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

So true. Really, if you make up your mind that someone can’t hurt you anymore, then you’re good to go. Some lessons sting, & not because you need punished, but because you need to learn. Self-prez in the Zap Zone: follow your gut. Blessings on your journey, Mitra x

Mitra
Mitra

Thanks Scorporation. x Self-preservation with kindness is the way to go. And yes, I had things to learn. today was a turning point in healing and happiness, and the lovely person who has asked this question has helped to crystallise that.

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Ah fab synchronicity! The cosmos are colluding for your success 😉

Mitra
Mitra

…. just a revision… the X may still care about you enough to be part of your healing process. Cos that’s what the bigger picture is of what you are after here, how you pass through your pain ‘efficiently’ and the desire to make that pain go away. Whether you invite him into that process will depend on all sorts of things. It’s a risky process, but not necessarily a bad one if you are able to treat him with respect in any discussions you might have. Then at least no matter what his responses are, even if they immediately… Read more »

Ms.
Ms.

Beautifully written. So honest and heartfelt. I love this.

Ms.
Ms.

and very mature with respect to all parties

Mitra
Mitra

Oh, thank you Ms, I liked your response below too.

It took plenty of immaturity to reach this point and I am probably not done with yet 🙂 x

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Yes i agree that it is better he doesn’t know how you feel. It’s your journey now and it was since he made his decision apart from you.

Pi
Pi

Really well put… Pi Xx

Pi
Pi

good point… punching at thin air.

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Right? Get a bag! When I’m throwing punches, I need to feel that contact & see the reverb. This dude is hot air, nothing more.

Bella
Bella

Agree!!!! I was in a similar situation with a low aqua/toro type and I found out after break up during very raw times. And I am aries sun aries rising lord knows I wanted to rip him a new one. But I also knew his response would determine my ability to move on or get stuck again. Who needs that! I needed to move on and this wasn’t going to give me any closure AMEN YOU BROKE IT OFF AMEN YOU HAD THE GUTS TO DO IT If you feel the need to say something then do. I actually forgot… Read more »

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Re: pic…cameo with claws, looks a little Rouge Noir. Which reminds me of the nail colour Uma Thurman wore in Pulp Fiction. It just so happened to be the same colour as a former associates petrol tank on his Harley. Low Scorpio = low level dealer with an OLMC. He had the nerve to ask for the bottle…hmm Kataka Sun, Cap Moon (hells No).

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

I would go into a forest and scream while flinging myself around in martial arts moves. Or talk furiously to myself in the bathroom. Or have a dedicated dartboard or strips of paper for me to write sayings, which i later burn to ashes. I would emerge at some point smiling and burnt pure. Honesty is precious. Your gift to yourself not some mo-fo who cannot appreciate it. Do your work, keep it to your beautiful self, take your time and don’t waste a nanosecond on him. You won’t get “answers” from him – he will infuriate you further. Follow… Read more »

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I’ve done the first part Milleunanotte, it’s called “dissociation” = hospitalisation. In my experience, that is.
Agent S (recent Looney Tune, forever locked into the frequency).
Honesty is precious = so beautiful. x

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

oh dear! I’m not advocating hospitalisation, just some kind of primal raw expression. will look up dissociation a bit later (close to ground zero for moving house) so i can understand what you mean better in the context of what i wrote. However i know sometimes one has to hit some kind of primal rock bottom to come out. Glad you’re out of that.

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

Oooh, good luck with the house move! How exciting having your very own palace to dream in at long last! x

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@ Milleunanotte – Dissociation is commonly displayed on a continuum.In mild cases, dissociation can be regarded as a coping mechanism or defense mechanisms in seeking to master, minimize or tolerate stress – including boredom or conflict. At the nonpathological end of the continuum, dissociation describes common events such as daydreaming while driving a vehicle. Further along the continuum are non-pathological altered states of consciousness. More pathological dissociation involves dissociative disorders, including dissociative fugue. Which is French for your fuqed in the head. When I was first hospitalized 2009/2010. They thought I had Dissociative fugue state, which meant I was very… Read more »

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

I can relate to the dysfunctional dynamic with your mother – parallels with my own life there, I know that pain so well… (I was forced into hashing it out with my mommy dearest during my Pluto square, so it’s not so bad for me these days). Hugs beautiful x

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Fuq the elephant in the room. Put yourself in the frame. MM fab advice, as always. Myself I am hitching up the creative loose ends to say goodbye to a chapter. It’s attached to my soul, was never toxic. But still I was treated with the respect, I’ve now come to realise is vital to my survival. I’ll always love this person and the group his associated with, but lies and miscommunication can wound a person. Take a walk in the eyes of another and see life from their perspective. Take care and follow your bliss Virgo Rising Taurus. x… Read more »

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Damn typo will get in the way of a final comment. “Give ya the shits”

Pi
Pi

hmm. i agree with mystic (Rise Above) but i’d still want to stick it to him somehow. I rarely resort to spellcraftery maybe a spell involving mirrors to reflect his own cheating shizz back onto him. his life crumbles and his reputation in tatters for a while, you gleaming, smiling & high on the endorphins, fresh out of the steam room etc. still not quite “you cheating **** and throwing a cup of black coffee across his linen suit just before a meeting with the boss, but one might come across a tad psycho that way. what would make YOU… Read more »

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I’d love a good steam right about now. I <3 Pi x

Pi
Pi

steam is SO good

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