Dreaming of ex-lovers, for no apparent reason? It’s confusing as hell. You don’t want to be with them and would probably scream the house down if you woke up with them.
Or time-warped back to that era. So what is going on?
At the moment, the Neptunian Nights are making dreams more evocative and therapeutic. So, if this is occurring now, see at as a gentle astral cue to resolve some uncompleted narratives within your psyche.
You’ve moved on. You rebuilt your life and you’re confident that the romance was not meant to last longer. In some cases, it soured and no amount of saccharine gambits could sweeten it again. Or, you out-grew them and realized that to stay, you would need to bonsai yourself into a stunted sad shape of your potential. In some cases, it was worse. You lost them un-naturally, while still in love. Or, it was traumatic and they were abusive. You crawled out of that wreckage, like a Plutonic mercenary, vowing never again.
Dreaming of ex-lovers makes sense when you still love them or actively seek them back. If that’s the case, a simple Saturn-style action plan or some therapy can help you to assess the terrain. It’s cognitive. You either reunite or you comprehensively put this behind you. But when you don’t want to be in that relationship again and you are still having those dreams, it’s time for astral action.
You have a Shadow Self trapped somewhere in the basement of your psyche. That self is still fighting a war that’s over. They’re on a psychic loop, proving something to a phantom. Rescuing and reintegrating that self is the realm of shamans. But Neptune energy is shamanic. Try Binaural Beats, Reishi, dream-journal keeping, saging and working with the Moon-Neptune Lunar Portal for fabulous results with this.
Finally, you could also be dreaming of ex-lovers at times when you’re not certain about your present or future. It’s not so much that you want the person back or to complete an unfinished conversation, it’s harking back to an era when you thought you had things more sorted out. It was a more certain time, even if you were unhappy. And, if you’re currently single, it could be that though you don’t want to be in that relationship again, your psyche is saying you’re ready to share more with another person.
Keeping a dream diary will help you understand these vagaries, even if the dream notes do not make sense at the time. In fact, dream fragments can sound deranged but miraculously, when you read over them later, the narrative is entirely clear.
Image: Mark of the Vampire – 1935