A toxic relationship very quickly turns into an energy vampire. And the process is so insidious that you may not even notice it occurring. Those of you who are interested in Trad Chinese Medicine, Feng Shui and so on know that Qi is life force – most probably the mysterious Dark Matter/Dark Energy that scientists are trying to analyze. Other people can raise your Qi, drain your Qi or scatter your Qi. This is an entirely simplistic explanation but you get the point.
Obviously, in a good relationship, working relationship or friendship, each person elevates the other’s energy. Qi Vampire people are to be avoided at all costs. You grok what is going on and even if they’re really nice you are outta there. But what if you are in a toxic relationship that has so subtly poisoned your perceptions that you think it’s normal? Your so-called loyalty is more like Stockholm Syndrome.
In A Toxic Relationship, Your Loyalty Is More Like Stockholm Syndrome
Scarily, each person on their own could be fine but something about your dynamic generates a negativity loop. (See Soulmating for good synastry, btw.) If you can relate to any of these below, you may need to take drastic action to evacuate or morph the romance. If it is a toxic relationship, you either ditch or detox. There are no half measures.
You join, as Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind (2004) depicted so brilliantly, The Dining Dead. I was a waitress once and Valentine’s Day was the most loathed shift of all because of them. Visualize Zombie couples, mute & sullen across the gypsophila. It’s even talking to them because the male will either be hostile or pervy. The occasional live-wire electric snark enlivens the otherwise necrophiliac proceedings.
Nightmares that you are bed with the wrong person or a monster. When you awaken, it’s them, accusatory gaze, morning flatulence, and fuq knows what stupid observation ready to go.
You finish one another’s sentences and not in a cute way. Person One: Darling, I think… Person Two: God, don’t start with that again.
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Your energy and spirits lift when you’re away from them but plunge when you are together, particularly during the now mandatory Quality Time.
You have cute nicknames for the places where you tend to argue (the pits of Ikea, your kitchen a.k.a. domestic gulag) but have also a Pavlov’s dog type reaction to various stimuli. Only you don’t pant or drool – your jaw clamps in a peculiar pattern that later makes your chiropractor nod tactfully.
You don’t have to be totally drunk to enjoy his/her company but it definitely helps.
Top Image: Kaitlyn Reinhart – She Is A Creature Of The Moon
Middle Image: Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind
Bottom Image: Matt Helm