Do Venus in Capricorn People Like Older Lovers?

Daphne Groenvald angel

Are Venus in Capricorn relationships often with people who are much older? Traditionally, it’s a Venus sign that’s said to be drawn to age + wisdom. It was this query that made me think about it.

Hi Mystic,

I have Venus in Capricorn, as do a lot of the friends I went to school with. An unusually high proportion of us has ended up with much older men. My husband is 12 years older, and two other women I know with Venus in Cap have ended up with men approximately 30 years older (after being the catalyst for the breakup of each man’s marriage.) Is this attraction to older men a common experience for all women with Venus in Capricorn? Are we all doomed to be attracted to the security of middle-age over the danger of wild youth?

Love your work,

Saturn-ruled Aquarius

Venus In Capricorn Relationships Are By Nature, Secure And Grounded

Hi Saturn-ruled Aquarius,

You should have been around for the Chrono-Sex post.  That was more about Venus-Saturn aspects pre-disposing peeps to age gap relationships. But hey why not Venus in Capricorn? It’s similar. Twelve years age difference does not seem that much older to me but 30 is a whole Saturn cycle older.

There is an age-gap “rule” that I once read from the Scorpio Sexologist Tracey Cox.  She said that the younger of the duo should not have been born after the older person in the couple had lost their virginity. There is also a French rule that I think Colette wrote about: the younger person should be twice the age of the older one minus seven. But no wait, that can’t be it. Half the age plus seven years? Anyway, forgetting the rules, Venus in Capricorn people are drawn to maturity and self-assurance. 

Venus in Capricorn relationships are, by nature, secure and grounded. That whole Chaos Addiction “but they’re hot” scene does not appeal to you.

F.Y.I. The director Sam Taylor-Johnson is married to Aaron Taylor-Johnson, who is 23 years younger than her. She has Venus-Saturn in Aries, he has Venus in Capricorn and trine Saturn. 

Is it possible that conventionally, men have done the whole second-marriage-with-someone-younger scenario but that now, female financial independence is meaning they too can make more fluid choices?

Maybe if you have Venus in Capricorn, you have an older lover/husband until your second Saturn Return and then suddenly wham; you switch to down-age-dating?

Thoughts?  

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Raquel
Raquel

I have a Venus in Capricorn, in the 8th house. I am definitely attracted to older women!!! I been with girls my age, younger, and a few yrs older…but those experiences were unpleasant for me. Of course, I am aware that some older women are worse than the younger ones, but personally, I prefer and older more mature woman.

Maza
Maza

Few feedback points: – a friend of mine has Saturn in 7th and her long term boyfriend were always much older, papa figures – my husband has Venus in Cap and he is 10 years older than myself – a friend of mine has Venus in cap in 7th and Capricorn in 7th – he always dated older women – I have Juno conjunct Saturn and had relationship with a man 14 years my senior and married a man 10 years my senior – a male, 14 years my junior flirted with me for a while and he has Venus… Read more »

kayo
kayo

Not the same but… Venus in scorp conj saturn and mars and whole bunch of other stuff in cap…

I have ALWAYS “entertained” relationships with much older men – they are attracted to me, usually. I always look back on these “almost” scenarios as having dodged a bullet. I have only been in relationships with people very near my own age, but mature beyond their years and generally successful (some very much so).

Funny, these older men have not had it together AT ALL – I think they were looking to me for stability.

calypso
calypso

hey, I’m being ardently courted by a guy 10 yrs younger so I checked – Venus in Cap!

DoubleGem
DoubleGem

‘2 other women I know with Venus in Cap have ended up with men approximately 30 years older (after being the catalyst for the breakup of each man’s marriage.)’ I have been picking up from a generation of women that affairs with married men may now be considered as natural as breathing, assumed to the extent that no justification is even offered . . . other than the stars were in a certain alignment. The main concern seems to be for the ‘other woman’ to not harm herself as ‘part of a threesome’ ?

Taurean Love Expert
Taurean Love Expert

My Venus is in Kataka, & I’m Kataka rising, so Capricorn is my 7th. My first two LTRs were with men who were a decade older- both insecure, & the second control freaky to the point of emotional abuse. Post age 34, though, it has been cougar all the way. Every lover in my ‘wild post breakup’ phase was 4 -10 years younger. Stealth Leo ( my beloved on nearly 9 years) is 4 years younger, and were’re really well matched in terms of general energy & stamina.

kel
kel

I have Venus in Cap yet tend to go for either much younger chaps or pirates with glinty eyes and promises of adventures abroad.

But then again it could be something to do with my Mars in Aquarius…

YARGGGGH.

Arrow Marie
Arrow Marie

Cap Venus pirate fetish for sure, lol. I hear ya.

QuiteLight
QuiteLight

😀 Kids have come up to my fiance 3 times & to ask if he’s a pirate! Wearing jeans & t-shirt & brimmed hat… it’s a vibe thing… Which apparently rings the Venus in Cap bell!

Charles
Charles

Let’s see, my first long term girlfriend was 20 years older than me, and I have Venus in Aries. Now I have a 33 year old woman chasing after me (Virgo of course) so that’s a 22 year difference. I have not yet determined anything but her Sun sign.

LaLuz
LaLuz

I have just determined that that would be statutory rape, considering you are 11.

Charles
Charles

The shoes I wore today are older than that.

LaLuz
LaLuz

Really? Congratulations. I guess your Virgo dame hasn’t caught sight of those!

Arrow Marie
Arrow Marie

Venus/South Node in Cap here, with a tight square to Pluto/Ceres and a looser square to Jupiter in one direction and Saturn in the other. I matured into a period of older lovers when I hit my Saturn return -one 15 years older, one 20 years older, and now my husband, 14 years older. I call that second one the Bullet Train to Daddy Issues Station – dad was 30 years older than my mom and was her high school teacher (she was an aqua venus/chiron sextile saggo saturn, he an aires venus with an exact trine to saggo saturn… Read more »

catfish moon
catfish moon

My 15 year old son has venus in Capicorn. He has had a few girlfriends, his own age, BUT his FRIENDS have always been older. He hangs out with guys 3 years older mostly.

bastblessed
bastblessed

This comment really clicked with me. I have Venus in Cap and I noticed that I’m either surrounded by older friends OR I’m the oldest in the group.

aquasunbird
aquasunbird

Agree, 5th venus capricorn trine 1st house virgo stellium. Its both a blessing and a nuisance as some people are really bothered by age…Mother’s group was quite surreal as I’m perimenopausal and some other mothers are barely 30 years…they would hardly have time to listen to tales of osteo-arthritis induced by breastfeeding…As an older mother (Ceres is also conjunct by sun) and my moon in in early degrees of cancer…Yet I found I was comforting these younger mothers who felt very pressured by ridiculous career and parenting responsibilites and had little support from their own families. My own mother of… Read more »

Andro
Andro

Venus in Cappy’s opposite Cancer –
with DC in Gem.
Only ever dated younger men.
(Except currently, 1 whole year older than me).

MISS M
MISS M

This post caught my attention because my honey is a Cappy.. Venus in Aqua. I think it’s a Cappy thing in general. I’m 11 yrs older than him but, he’s an old soul, must be that Saturn as a ruler thing 😉 he’s much more evolved than most fellows my age. He is a twin and his brother usually dates older women too.. When I was first introduced I thought, absolutely not! No way, no how!! But, age is just a number, when it works it works I guess!! I’m a Gem, libra rising cancer moon. Venus in Taurus. He’s… Read more »

Veronica
Veronica

Yes to do what works!

I commented on another post way back about that was abou strong Saturn placements can indicate being attracted to older partners, as my partner is 12 yrs younger, Leo sun, merc, Saturn in the 10th, Scorpio rising, lots of Gemini and Sagg.

I have known him for 10 years, we have been living together these last 4, and it keeps getting better, now.

Veronica
Veronica

Note: Annoying typos due to getting used to new I Pad

Miss E
Miss E

Awesome story! I have the exactly the same stars..(except I’m Leo rising instead of Libra)…and I tend to date the same guys (musician bad boys..when will it end? haha)…thanks for sharing you give me hope… 🙂

Miss m
Miss m

Oh Miss E, forgive my late reply!! I always forget the little button that says “email me follow up posts” ???? when does it end?? Hmmmmm, when you have your ass (and heart) handed to you by someone’s betrayal… That’s when you finally let the nice guy in (at least for me) ???? ps he was a Leo.. But, I LOVE me some Leo’s!! I bet you are full of wit, whim and that beautiful Leo pride? ???? I love it!! Cancer moon huh? It’s a rough, tender ride (but no one would ever know it huh) ???????? xoxo

Miss E
Miss E

My current love interest has Venus in Cap….and I’m about 4 years older than him. He also has Mars in Taurus…and I have Venus in Taurus. I am incredibly, unexplainably drawn to this guy…and I get the feeling (hoping) he feels the same way. I just can’t get him out of my head…and here is the craziest part…we have never met in person! We have lots of mutual friends…which is how we first became aware of each other in the first place (Facebook-I joined 3 weeks ago and he found me)…it’s amazing to me that I’ve never seen him around… Read more »

sweetpea
sweetpea

Oh Miss E,

My Aqua next door neighbor (NDNA…was a big drama…wrote all about it around here last summer)…

But he has Mars in Toro and me Venus. Yipes, yes, when we see each other there is still an attraction even tho the drunken drama got a bit heated…lol

Enjoy and may it be a peaceful encounter…Ours now is but on friendship basis only…. (I think 😯 )

sweetpea
sweetpea

ps, my Rising is Gemini and so yes, that is compatible with his Aqua and opposite his Sagg rising but course that gives him a big mouth and then me one, too…haha

Miss E
Miss E

Sweetpea…thanks for your input! I’ll let you know how it goes…daydreaming about it at this very moment….i’ll try (my very best) to be careful and not let anything get too drunk (I have a bad history of that…oh man..)

..Wish I could handle my feelings in a “normal” way haha…I get wayyyy too stuck in my own world…which always makes me doubt everything a little…but I always have hope that my personal fairytale will come true one day…

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Re: mars conj venus synastry. I keep hearing that it is hot hot synastry. My experience is that I had 2 lovers with exact mars to my venus synastry. Nothing but problems sexually!! awful!! The relationship was passionate and the attraction was overwhelming…BUT…. It’s like one of you will like BDSM and the other will be totally into Karezza & tantra… or one of you is a morning person and the other is a night owl….. and everyone feels unhappy when they are forced to compromise. It eventually rips the relationship apart. I actually prefer the mars to TRINE or… Read more »

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

OMFG yes, my experience exactly! I was just thinking this the other day, the only guy I’ve come across whose Mars conj my Venus was into tantra and I’m too dark for that shit, I need my BDSM fix. I ended up not going there despite the sexual attraction.

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

yeah i dont know for 100% it is caused by the mars-venus conj but it does seem super suspicious seeing as the conj for both these guys was 2 deg or less. There is some shitty yin yang in play that cannot be bridged.Luckily in both cases the men must have sensed the incompatibility too and didn’t take it personally. thank goodness fir maturity. yeah one if the mars in virgo was all into this Taoist longevity crap where he never masturbated and he was into non-jaculatory sex. awful! The other one was only into sex while you were on… Read more »

Scorpbot
Scorpbot

what?! only on your cycle. Weird! And what about when you stopped having your cycle??

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

off cycle? I was “gross” or “uninteresting”. 🙁 Can you see why that didn’t work out?

Scorpbot
Scorpbot

well, he must think any women over 50 (or not menstruating) is gross and uninteresting. What’s he gonna do when he hits 60? What a jerk!

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Bingo! He’s sort of vampiric tard anyways. meh.

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

Oh, I completely forgot my other Mars in Cap conj my Venus guy is one of my best friends, HUGE sexual chemistry between us (he has to get off the phone sometimes because the way I talk gets him um, excited…). Everyone thinks/assumes we are a couple and if we deny it they think we’re having some secret affair. We’d be a great match except for one problem – he’s gay! I had a Venus conj Venus with a guy into alchemy who was into the non-ejaculatory sex thing. No dudes with a monthly womb ebola fetish though – thank… Read more »

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Oh I’ve had that too. Totally forgot about my gay buds. Yes it does strengthen friendships like crazy. I’ve yet to have a Venus conj Venus yet since most guys I’m with are Aqua and venus can only be up to 2 signs before or after your sun. But this is good information to know! I kinda get the non-ejac thing for guys. It’s them reclaiming their sexual power. I’ve been told by them the reason why women are so powerful now is because we give men BJs basically and rob them of all their qi and vitality. (I’m serious….this… Read more »

QuiteLight
QuiteLight

No, for me, Venus in Cap, as well as Sun & Mercury. My beaus have all been within a few years of me, usually just 1-2 years.

It’s a confidence/charisma thing for me, rather than an age thing. I wonder if that’s the case for other Venus-in-Caps… Easier to find in older partners? Beats me.

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

Agreed on the confidence/charisma thing over age. I’m a strong woman on my own (triple Cap and triple Scorp), I need someone who can equal or better me in some ways in order to feel any attraction beyond the physical. Apparently a lot of guys are intimidated by me so they pussyfoot around playing stupid games to see if I like them instead of making a move – that sort of carry on is SO not fuqing attractive to me.

calypso
calypso

5H Scorp Sun, 8H Cap Mars

i hear ya Satcat x

LaLuz
LaLuz

Also, let’s not forget that times are a-changing! Women “of a certain age” can be appealing not only to Venus in Capricorn natives but across the board!
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/10/16/gorgeous-celebrities-over-60_n_4109868.html

LaLuz
LaLuz

Men with Venus in Capricorn like a woman who has her shit together, and are on the wagon of unapologetic self- actualization. Sometimes that has to do with age sometimes not. In my opinion, Venus in Capricorn men are all for The Matriarchy! Really. And I have met quite a few, intimately. They seem to love the osmosis of breathing the same air as their “queen” and they WILL see her as some sort of royal figure, even being turned on by the whiff of subservience inherent in that arrangement .

LaLuz
LaLuz

*is on the wagon

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Yes, so true of my Cap exs! I was their Queen, they loved the whole matriarch thing– but matriarch meaned mother, too! Definitely these old Caps of mine were rather low, not haute, as part of the attraction to shit-together me was that they expected I’d get their shit together too. Very qi vampirish, as well as misogynist. I have a child & will mother him unconditionally until the day I die; I expect a grown man to come to the table as an equal partner ready for an adult relationship. Haha

LaLuz
LaLuz

Yes, “mommy issues” galore can also be present… Lol

Little Fish
Little Fish

Another Venus in Capricorn (29 degrees) here but pre-Saturn Return. I’ve always dated my age/slightly younger but since June/July, have been in Love Zombie mode with a chap that’s 8 years older. Not a huge age difference but he is more ‘worldly’ than I am and is technically my senior (we both work in the same industry). The attraction is mutual but he’s in a relationship, hence the LZ of it all. I don’t know what Venus heading into Capricorn will bring me (I’m thinking of booking a consult actually..) but I do know that I have a new found… Read more »

Anon
Anon

This is something I think about a lot, because for the past few years (I am now 50), I have had a string of much younger suitors, and the ones who are serious have Venus in Cap or close Saturn aspects to personal planets in their chart. So I know the pattern to look for, and if they don’t have that, I know they’re just thinking that “old” somehow means “desperate,” and that I will be “easy.” (By the way, like other commenter earlier, I am not a cougar. I do not seek these guys out. They seek me out.).… Read more »

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I’ve always dated guys about 4-6 years older than me, even as a young teen and it caused problems (a 15 year old with a 21 year old is a bigger deal than a 21 year old with a 27 year old). I think its because around that age their Pluto is on my AC. Soul mate Sag is Venus in Cap. He’d have sex with anyone but always partner with someone who made sense socially.

leorising
leorising

What about men with Venus in cap dating older women? Would that be Mars in cap?

Hermeslove
Hermeslove

Mystic I am a double Cap with moon in Taurus and Venus in Aquarius . I have dated older women my entire life . Untill now I am interested in younger women. Strong older women have all ways been a turn on . Still are . When I was 21 I lived with a 31 year old woman and raised her 2 girls as my own . They are my family . Then I chilled next couple of relationships were closer in age . Married a women 8 years older bad decision lasted 2 years . The relationship with the… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Could it be that you’re pulled toward women in their 30s-40s/that stage of life? They used to be older than you, & now they’re younger than you, kind of thing?

Michelle
Michelle

This is interesting as I’ve got Venus in Cap and I’m NEVER attracted to older men… It’s not intentional, it just never happens. If anything I seem to have had younger (or same age) in my life but have often wondered if this is more to do with having Mars in Sag?

Ariel
Ariel

Mystic, it’s so funny because I have been wondering about this recently. As a Gem with Leo rising you warned me to be on high Love Zombie alert (which I scoffed at) & then I developed an intense crush on someone 24 years older than me. Yes, 24. I am Venus in Taurus, conjunct the midheaven & opposite Scorpio. He is a Cap with Scorp Venus. There has been plenty of LZ astro obsessing but fortunately (ha) he’s halfway across the world. I’ve never had feelings for someone so much older than me before, but I did have a 12… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

The closest I’ve ever been to a partner my age was someone 3 years older; otherwise, they have all been 10+ years older than me. Venus in Scorp, nothing in Cap.

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Yo Scorp Guess what? I’m over HF FLYING TO BARCELONA I cut the chord with him. Told him if he ever contacts me again I’m going to call him up and tell him to fuck off loud enough that his wife can hear. I’m just over it. AND So there’s this dude, a Leo sun (I have Venus in Leo in the 8th) He has Moon in Cap. (In the 8th) As a Virgo I ADORE Caps and Torros Apart from Leo’s they are the only other signs I’ve ever been attracted to. Wait… It gets better.. He has Venus… Read more »

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Mystic can we like assume I’m over HF ? Is that even possible? I mean, listen, Spanish Leo with Gemini rising, moon in Cap, mars in Scorpio and Venus in Virgo could be like hideously ugly and out of shape but how likely do we think that is? I’m thinkin a tall dark and handsome stranger with rad cheekbones and the biz acumen I so clearly lack might be waiting for me during JUPITER’s TRANSIT THROUGH MY HOUSE OF LUUUURVE. ANY THOUGHTS ASTRO HOMIES??? P.S. it’s Cattiva in case you hadn’t picked that up by now. And no I don’t… Read more »

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Can I just say?

WOOIOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHOOOOOO

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Times one grillion

Raché (Aqua/Tauri)
Raché (Aqua/Tauri)

omg have fun in barcelona. my favorite city. miss it so much, no matter what happens w/ le men have an amazing time!

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Hey Rache
That’s Hilarious because San Francisco is the only place I could imagine living apart from LND. Then again I’ve never been to………http://vimeo.com/76440793

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Spanish Leo with Cap moon sent me that link with the word “teaser” in the subject line. It’s as close as we’ve come to flirting. But I can’t shake this FEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEELING

Oracle just said me & Barcelona guy were Alchemist and apprentice in a past life 🙂

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Oh fuq
I just remembered I have this Venus- Neptune trine and also with that 8th house Venus placement and all that Lilith and The Other moon energy shoved up in the 12th I KIND OF ONLY EVER FALL FOR TOTALLY UNAVAILABLE MEN.

ergo even if he is vava vooma magnifico etc lets be realistic here THE DUDE IS PROBABLY MARRIED WITH CHILDREN ugh

sobs into inbox
I miss HF
fuq him, he’s married and I’m done there.

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Yo, Blue! This dude sounds rad on a few different levels & I’m stoked for you 🙂 A good relationship, biz or personal, is enriching for both parties. It’s reciprocal & authentic. One feels valued in it. Not 100% perfect, but secure. More building up, no ripping apart. This guy sounds like he values you & your vision, Blue, & we likey that! He’s come to the table with his sleeves rolled up & ready to lend his expertise to a powerful woman like yourself. I wouldn’t let him get away with not accepting payment from you: keep it level.… Read more »

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Thank you Scorp xxx

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

I’ve come to the acceptance that I may never meet “The One” but how cool that, as you say, this guy has helped out, gets my vision and could be a great biz partner since he has skills that I lack. He’s not giving me a “potential lover vibe really, much more of a cool person and biz partner/ caring friend type of vibe. He is not averse to taking money from me, he just want to see that money coming my way FIRST. ie he is not one of these douche type guys who approach women like me and… Read more »

ReikiHeart
ReikiHeart

Just to help ya’ll out with your data collection, I just married a man with Venus in Cap., seven weeks ago; and he is 15 1/2 years my junior. I’m told I’m pretty, but I am no Demi Moore ! I never looked for this or saw it coming, but we also have an exact Moon/Venus conjunct in Cancer, in synastry — he somehow finds me irresistible. Lucky me !

Ms.
Ms.

My sister is venus in cap and has never dated older. her not quite husband is a year her juniour.

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

Venus – Saturn conj in Taurus, Moon in Cap. I was attracted to older men when I was young, I dated them, then older men started to chase me, dated them again — old meaning — age difference of 25 years. In a consult, Mystic told me older men showing up on my doorstep is a sign for owning my own power, which made me think hard on the pattern. By then Saturn was transiting my Descendant and Mystic saved me: episodes were about subconsciously seeking approval and validity. Once I claimed my own approval, the flow of suitors stopped.… Read more »

Ariel
Ariel

That’s a shame Quadrupled… I feel like I could never give up on love/ the possibility of romance, although it might be much more sensible to 🙂

Brilliant readings from Mystic as well.

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

I haven’t exactly given up but am not going out of my way seeking it either. There are many, many ways to spend our days alone and still be happy. If it happens, nice, if it doesn’t, life is still nice 🙂

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Far out: this has been my experience, too! Once I really came into my own power, the steady stream dried up. it was like they knew it somewhere: only equals need apply, don’t waste my time. It wasn’t any decree I made, just life choices, & then I started to walk more upright, talk more, laugh loudly… I am a tall order, no doubt about it: wicked smart, hilarious, hot, kind to creatures, will do shit on my own if I have to because I will do whatever the fuq I feel I need to do. Humble. LOL. And you… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

(Venus & Mars in Scorp/8th, Pluo-Moon in Libra/7th. I really don’t fuq around. Must have same or nothing at all.)

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

The last unsuitable suitor was at age 80. 🙂 That was when I said “nothing to see with this chart in this life, let’s move on.”

Veronica
Veronica

That is beautiful Q!!! 😀

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

same here! I’m a reluctant cougar. Meaning, it’s the only thing left due to the older guys starting to be so old they are physically broken and can’t have sex on terms that are pleasing to me anymore. I’m so tired of feeling guilty because someone gets a side stitch, sprains an ankle, or bruises horribly during sex. They can’t hike up a mountain and make out because they are so winded. They can’t go sky diving because of their pacemaker. >:( The younger ones are the only ones that can keep up it seems. The things is, I’m totally… Read more »

S
S

EEL I hear you. What if the last person I had sex with was the last? I don’t want to go out like that. Oh hells NO. Even my Mother is planning to set me up on Christmas Day. The person I’d like to share my life with, is not wanting to do that. Plan B is just so beige and lay down an die territory. Plan A or Z is the way I prefer to do things (because Plan Z is basically Plan A in a fuqed up order). I might be traveling the boards of a carpe diem… Read more »

willowwolf
willowwolf

Hmmmmm…. My husband is 15years older ,had only one much older lover in my late teens. Sun libra opp. Saturn , venus rising conjunct neptune in scorp,part of yod with saturn the ‘tail’

Miss Leo
Miss Leo

Nabokov’s Lolita is indicated to have a birthday of 1 January 1935, which would put her Venus in Capricorn!

Ariel
Ariel

Amazing, good work!

Raché (Aqua/Tauri)
Raché (Aqua/Tauri)

ha! nice.

Charley
Charley

I haven’t noticed a trend, actually my Venus in Cap friends all seem to be with people their own age. I have had a penchant for older men in the past, I have Venus and Saturn in the 7th and Venus conjunct Saturn, seem to have ended up with a Capricorn man which figures.

Minona
Minona

Venus in Cap here, too. Husband is four years younger. He has Venus in Cap also!

S
S

I’ve found younger are more freely able to express to others and you their love. Older and colder it does take them longer to be vulnerable in love.
Venus in Taurus and love don’t live here anymore.

Centaurus
Centaurus

Short answer – nope
Long answer – nope unless by older you mean wiser and more worldly in which case it has nothing to do with physical age but an appearance of age… and would still require some other sort of magical chemistry mix… or that could be the Saggi talking.

Footnote – I think when really young eg teens, early 20’s etc it’s a natural place for a lot of women and considered a bit of a norm so have excluded this in my short and long(well thought out and reflected upon) responses lol 😉

Morocco
Morocco

Venus in Cap.. I’m terribly attracted to and in a relationship with 20years older mr Virgo with Venus in Virgo..
This is true for me, too.

calypso
calypso

my girlfriend whose bf is 20 yrs older has Mars in Cap….

flowerchild
flowerchild

Venus at 6 degrees Capricorn, here. My Venus is also square Saturn at 8 Aries….bleh! Aqua Sun, 11 degrees. Yes, when I was younger, I seemed to always have older boyfriends. When I was 22, had boyfriend 7 years older. When I was 25, boyfriend was 18 years older than me (pretty much the same age as my mom). Then had a boyfriend 11 years older when I was 29. Now that I’m 45 years old, I’ve seemed to have had some younger boyfriends and lovers. The last ‘real’ boyfriend was 5 years younger, when I was 41 and he… Read more »

Angela
Angela

My sister has Venus opposite Saturn, and she married someone twenty-three years older. I know another woman with Venus in Capricorn, who married someone almost twenty years older than she is.

Nightrose
Nightrose

“Maybe if you have Venus in Capricorn, you have an older lover/husband till your 2nd Saturn Return and then suddenly wham; you switch to down-age-dating?” Ugh, hate to say this(reasons below) but that line just totally nailed it for me. You are so on it Mystic, its insane. My brain is literally screaming wtfhowdidsheknow’s right now, lol. During my First Saturn Return, broke up with my much younger guy I had been with for many years. I felt like I just couldnt commit fully(marriage+family) to him because of the age difference – I wanted to be able to feel secure… Read more »

earthmonkey
earthmonkey

The centaur in my life has been with me for 7yrs…he has Venus & Mars in Cap. Our composite chart is lots of Libra, so we’re hot/cold & both have Aqua moons so can be total aliens to each other too. Talk about a slow burn…Venus moving into Sag this last few weeks has coincided with him declaring not that he loves me but that he is actually ‘in love with me’ & I actually feel that it is a shift…talk about finally letting the guards down! We’re only a few years apart in age but we entered into relationship… Read more »

akaPluto
akaPluto

7 years to realize you’re in love? Talk about taking it slow! I don’t know if it’s the scorpio or the sagg in me but I’m thinking marriage within 5 hours. haha

catfish moon
catfish moon

Yea…I fall in love quickly and expect the same. It works for me though.

earthmonkey
earthmonkey

Yeh its all the Venus/Saturn’s doing…!

Centaurus
Centaurus

I get it, being Saggi with those two in Cap as well as my moon but a bit of a Uranian type. It can be hot/cold, slow and non-committal whilst being committed if that makes any sense. The decision to go all the way in takes some time naturally with a Saggi but I think those planets in Cap add to that vibe.

LavenderQueen
LavenderQueen

I have Saturn in my 7th house. Most of my guy friends are 10 years younger and most of my girl friends are 10 years older than me. I ended up married to someone only 2 years younger and it is great.

Hermeswitch
Hermeswitch

Looking at my chart and my BF’s – trying to figure it out but can’t find any of that. We have a 17y difference and I’m the older one. We are both moon in Cap.

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

well when i was very young – teenage – i had a much older “boyfriend” – who had everything in capricorn. More or less. He used to tell me to stop talking because my mouth was “more beautiful” when it was still. He really liked the “teacher” role, taught me about “fine wines” and (apparently) sex but most of it was pretentious shit and i think mostly what he wanted was a young dollybird to cart around. He also used to tell me he felt sorry for men his age with their “old wives”. Criticized my musical taste and said… Read more »

Ariel
Ariel

*shudder* this guy sounds like an absolute creep! Well done for freeing yourself from that sitch.

Aquariarse
Aquariarse

Ick.

Rawr
Rawr

I dated a venus cap guy. Really big deal relationship for me tho we were all over eachother others north nodes felt fates but fuq what a control freak I was 22 he was 30 I was feeling the Saturn rays because Saturn was in Libra when we were together (effecting my aries sun) and he was having his sat return
Cap in venus with my aqua venus
Lots learnt, but horrible addictive relationship.

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

any male venus in caps on older vs. younger lovers?

im collecting info! you know… for reasons…

nova mana
nova mana

I have Venus in Cap square Saturnjupiter conj in Libra. And for myself age is not s factor. Ive dated 15 years older, ive dated my peers, ive dated 15 yrars younger. But nothing to extreme on either end. So its hard to say if dating older men/women/humans in general is an exclusively Venus in Cap trait. 🙂

Mitra
Mitra

Yes. Venus in Cap co-junct MC, trine Uranus/Pluto in Virgo and Sextile Mars in Aries. Two enduring loves, 15 and 17 years older than me.

I’d be quite ok about switching to down dating when I hit my second Sat ret 🙂

Rache(aqua/tauri)
Rache(aqua/tauri)

I’m an aqua with Venus in Capricorn and attracted to older guys. My last seriously relationship was with a guy 13 years older…he definitely took care of me and took the lead but yes, the control freak vibe is not so adventurous or fun. I really loved him though…he felt weird about the age thing initially because I was only 23 when we got together but it felt natural I me. The guy I’m dating now is a professor, 18 years older than me. We’re very casual though…respect each other’s space and it’s mostly a brainsex relationship vs a passionate… Read more »

Blue Moon
Blue Moon

Hot
I used to be exactly like that until I hit 40
Now I’m a total Cougar and I need brains and youth.
Yep, I’m shallow.
😀

anon
anon

i have a guy friend who is an aqua w toro rising and venus in cap.. any tips?

AquaMeg
AquaMeg

Also an Aqua with Venus in Cap, and my hubby is 10 years older. I need braaaaaaaaains, too. 🙂 When I was younger I dated guys my own age, but I either felt like they were too young or not serious enough. I was a serious girl when it came to love, not given to playing around or whatever. Also have Saturn trine sun. I love being married to a man older than me. I’ve gotten weird looks from time to time, but I don’t care. He’s stable and a Pisces, so gives me space to be me. 🙂

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

Venus in Cap trine Saturn… I had a very short phase of being attracted to older men when I was young but after going out with a guy 13 years older than me, I went off them pretty quickly. Too much baggage, control freakery and not enough bedroom stamina for my requirements. I don’t want to be the trophy of some crusty old man, I can’t imagine going there again, ugh, shudder, perish the fuqing thought. Since my early 30’s I’ve attracted much younger guys to me but not in a cougar sort of way – they hit on me.… Read more »

Rache(aqua/tauri)
Rache(aqua/tauri)

Did you guys have Jupiter conjunct Jupiter too? (13 year age difference).

My mercury was also on his sun and he was sun-Jupiter (Pisces). And I was having a crazy Pluto-Venus transit.

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

No our Jupiter’s weren’t conjunct (that’s more likely with a 12 year age gap), I didn’t go out with him long enough to bother with analysing the synastry in depth, I couldn’t get rid of him fast enough!

Saggibee
Saggibee

Yes, yes, yes! Agree, Saturnalien. Venus in Cap here – about three years ago I had a bit of a phase where I was really stuck on the idea of being with an older man, but after experiencing a couple I noticed a disturbing trend where they were more immature and stunted than men a bit younger (I was about 26 at the time). My partner is six years older than me, which at this stage of my life is a good age difference for me. My ex was only a few months older than me, which just didn’t match… Read more »

Saturnalien
Saturnalien

I so hear you on finding the older guys more stunted than the younger ones. Age and maturity clearly don’t always go hand in hand…

Ms.
Ms.

I also learned that one to be true some time ago. Now I’ve passed 30 I”M the older lover and it makes me wonder though if it’s just my age meets lifestyle and look or if everyone else is actually taken or something else

Porkchop
Porkchop

i have venus in cap and am not attracted to older men either. it’s like a biological thing – just like i’m not attracted to young guys, i am also not attracted to older guys. not even ‘hot’ ones! my friend is 35 and dating a 48 year old and i don’t get it at all… she showed me a photo of him and the only nice thing i could think to say was ‘i like his cool shirt!’ i don’t want to stereotype but i think she might have some daddy issues. she seems happy and sounds like he… Read more »

lee
lee

I can relate to this. I dated a guy 12 years older than me for about a year, when I was in my early 20’s. It was not worth the trouble. Baggage, control issues (he’d tell my I was brilliant one moment and then put me down for working retail the next), emotional intimacy problems. Not saying this is true for all older single men, but there was a reason *this* guy was still single in his mid-30’s. But then again, my Venus is in Sagittarius, so… I naturally need something more breezy. Too bad my Mars is in Scorp…… Read more »

Aquariarse
Aquariarse

Totally get this. Venus in Cap and I dated older guys consistently until i was 30 and then started having younger guys (7 years or so) hit on me – am currently on a path to get hitched to one of them. Never dated anyone close to my own age. For me Venus in Cap is about having a sense of long term goals and knowing that the other person can carry their own weight.

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