Hi Mystic,
I was looking on the site for a quick “de-QiVamp” remedy – turns out after a potentially-close friend’s overshare that they are a major Qi Vamp.
Should I be burning sage, taking a bubble bath, chanting during a rainstorm – (ok, the bath thing worked for all but the mental sludge they just dumped on me). Anyway, looking for quick cleanse ideas!
Thanks,
Aqua Aspiring to Detach
Dear Aqua Aspiring To Detach,
Fret not, you have come to the right place.
Forget the bubble bath but if there is a rainstorm go out in it more or less naked and do some really profound Yoga poses. BUT what i think works is MUGWORT – aka Artemesia the herb of Artemis – and the considered to be the most powerful magic plant of all. Do not smoke it. Unless you want to be past-life alt-dimensional tripping for days. Burn it. It breaks ties.
Get a packet of Himalyan salt and fling it all around the house, bang some Tibetan bells around and then blast some loud music while you shower & salt scrub. THEN clean the schizz out of your house & burn some incense. Wash all your sheets & pillowcases etc. Dump quilts at the laundromat for them to do. Then bathe in some Epsom Salts.
THEN have a glass of biodynamic wine or sparkling water with grapefruit juice and write a Not To Be Sent note to the person vamping off your Qi. Burn it. Put a line of salt across your door. Add garlic if the Qi Vampire is actually evil or has entities in their energy field. Then go exercise, get a Thai foot massage and go to the movies.
This should do it, right? What does everyone else think?
I just tried Mystic’s above advice for an ancient Love Zombie scenario I thought I’d shaken. This turned out to be just the thing I needed to shake it. Thank goodness 🙂
If someone is over-sharing to the point of distressing me, I use the magic ritual of saying, “Excuse me, I have to go now.”
Love it.
I once had a marvelous Ukranian friend who taught me something very wise…when confronted by those who have wrongfully used our connection, we can energetically exile them with a simple phrase… “I give you Nothing”. The end. No laundering neccessary. UP that Aura. It’s what its there for 😉 xxx (However, all of MM s advice is spot on for those who wish to give it a bash. Personally though, I’m a fan of the ol’ “clear and reset” thing) Mugwort is the bomb. As a smudger, as an extract, as a dried herb with salt…it works. Blessings Sweet Celestial… Read more »
haha, my friend used to say “hello dirty little green maggot, i welcome your energy, but you’ve got to change”.
Oh magicearthmumma this is the answer and validation I have been looking for.
I have been guilted in the past by certain new age types when I just spoke my mind.
Over the last few days I have been asking for an answer for this thing that has been irritating me. Fuq sending out love and light.
The image I got when I read this saying was a garage door slamming down loud.
And me stepping out of my Jaguar and walking gracefully into my inner sanctum.
Mugwort by the door cures Qi Vamps all!
Currently a spiritually and emotionally bankrupt crab, feel I may be guilty of some vamping myself. Might give these a go to centre my own energies.
Like MM’s defensive technique here as I don’t like magic.
Anything where things i.d. ing an individual which are then stuck with pins, frozen, burned etc. makes me very uncomfortable.
Partly because what others call therapy I call a getting-to-know-you chat!
Mugwort all the way. Epsom salts bath/shower, line of salt across the door.
And most importantly of all….stay the hell away from the Qi Vamp if possible. If impossible (e.g. you work with them) I have found keeping some mugwort tied up in a handkerchief in a pocket to be useful.
Or.. you could do what I do when I feel someone drawing on my energy/being an evil muggle/not of the light: I take a piece of brown paper, ripped from a grocery bag as trees have died for this, write down the Qi Vamp’s name using a black marker, put it in a baggy, fill it up with water and ice it.
It suspends them frozen in your fridge. I have to say the visual satisfaction alone is worth it. Though funnily I was watching the White Queen (LOVE) and can’t help but see similarities with her locket casting.
That works. I’ve used it too and it works a treat!
Some great suggestions here Mystic, I’m sure just doing a handful of them is sufficient! Often it takes some kind of ritual to break a “bad habit” – in this case a person who makes you feel uncomfortable. I’ve finally realized it’s better to spend time with people who make me feel good about myself.
I have looked three times at this picture and only now realised its smokin’ 😐
WOW! this is awesome! thanks MM! 🙂
All of those are great. Now this might sound naff & more for amping yourself up because you have the to give them the flick sooner or later. Move fridges, heavy furniture etc & clean the gunk out of it. Did this yesterday, was totally gross but hell it feels like warrior mode has returned & the guts to say…”No thank you, I don’t need you in my life”.
If my Aqua family are anything to go by, the Aqua definition of “qi vampire” is someone who has the temerity to confess to the aqua that they are feeling confused / hurt/ deliciously uncertain etc about something, and they’re not sure what do do about it. To anyone normal, that’s an opener to an interesting conversation. To an aqua, it’s an opener for a blank and/or horrified expression, followed by “well so what?” From the aqua. Not that I’m bitter or over it or anything. Love pisces. X PS the song that milhouse’s dad sings (from the simpsons), called… Read more »
Funny you say that.
I once lived with two gay guys. The Aquarian would say “Too bad, too sad.”
My Pisces Rising side envied him. I just knew I could never say something.like that. But I just loved how the words made a clean break.
I don’t know … I’ve changed my mind on this qi-vamp business. I think we attract overtly what we subconsciously reject within ourselves covertly. I find it’s better to work on myself than projecting the problem “out there” and actively putting up defensive barriers all over the place. I also find that people who are draining or demanding are actually quite spiritually sick and need my tolerance and compassion – not rejection.
and by the way – how can a friend possibly “overshare”??? Isn’t that the point of friendship, to be able to be ourselves, warts and all, display our less than perfect selves to another and still be loved and accepted? Frankly I wouldn’t want a friend around me with that kind of judgemental attitude. Sounds to me like Aqua Aspiring To Detach needs to do a bit of self reflection.
With on that Prowln. No judgement but let me watch you burn over the coals.
True friendship is heart centred.
Word, prowlncrab. I must admit I didn’t even think to interpret the OP’s letter in that way but you’ve really nailed it.
As I head into my 30s, I’m *finally* learning that ‘natural justice’ in friendships and relationships doesn’t require my intervention. If people have problems, they are their own to deal with and sort out… not for me to judge. If you don’t like someone, detach, move on and let it be. Everyone has reasons for their behaviour – generally speaking, arseholism isn’t an isolated personality trait, you know?
Agree so much with this. If an ‘over share’ from a friend is your biggest problem, lucky you! Not sure where this fashion for feeling the need to cut people out of our lives came from.
I do know one qi vampire, so I’m not disputing the concept, but to me it’s a lot more than an over share.
Good one prowlers! Spot on.
agree, agree, agree x ?
(the ? was an infinity symbol ha ha)
Yep, well said. Whilst I think all exists, projections or unaddressed elements of self can bring tangible reflections right in front of our eyes.
The other thing I consider is the predisposition humans have to make everything personal. I mean.. what if it’s not. Often it isn’t.
But in saying that.. am all in favour of salt lines and various other modes for clearing.. particularly energetically and otherworldly energies that have neglected to note existing boundaries.
I agree with you prowln…. Very good point… I was thinking about this also, wondering if when I need a friend to talk to, and I need this for everyday of a week, because Ive gone through some intense emotional grief, am I being a qi vampire? then I thought but no, I just really need company, and I do a lot of time on my own, and get professional advice, and sometimes just need a friend to talk to…. as I have been there for many many of my loved ones…. also… i agree what we experience on the… Read more »
This needed to be said- thank you. I am so grateful that last summer and winter people listened to my continuous overshares. I was in so much pain and y’all here and my few friends irl could have said “fuq off, this is too sticky.” But you didn’t and it seriously saved my life. Compassion can be icky. It’s important to distinguish true qi vamps from suffering humans (though the vamps are really suffering, no doubt). Having said that, excellent remedies! I will employ a few the next time my ex leaves. I can’t cut him out, but I need… Read more »
Thank you for over sharing with me. Much love for you. Himalayan sea salt is amazing. Taste good and it’s pink! I have lots of planets in Libra. The pink salt makes me happy. 🙂
I totally agree too. For me there are two types – for example long time friends can go thru depression/divorce/break ups and they need a lifeline. It feels draining but it’s just a stage of their lives. Good friends don’t judge and know they’ll come out the other end IMO. Some people are oxygen thieves and generally they are like that from the first time you meet them. It’s in their nature and they’ll never change.
Clearly you’re brilliant because I completely agree with you – lol! Whenever I get caught up in someone, I think “if you can spot it, you’ve got it” and then I do the inner reflection and they tend to go. I’ve had a painful soul connection, connections. Those are rough. Salt helps. But magic isn’t to be used on isolating one’s seld fromannoying people, is it? My life would nothing but cleaning and salt baths if thy were true, lol
Let me add….cut some lemons and boil them. It cleans the air. Literally and psychically.
Loving this advice! Just finished a semester of study (ooo an hour ago) and moving into a different study/work/life balance that allows me to spend a bit of time on the “life” bit. I have been itching to get into Step One, clean and update the unit, some of this cleansing stuff will be perfect! Especially love the idea of burning cinnamon, yum!
…and an obsidian crystal to cut away the psychic cord / strap / cuffs thingy 🙂
Won’t always work immediately but if the intention is set that the qi nuts need to be vanquished, please do your mantra and mean it. Good luck!
I can testify to the efficacy of salt but I didn’t use himalayan at the time. Maldon sea salt worked well, whatever you have to hand if it is urgent. The more you can ‘ritualise’ the experience (a la incense etc) the better the feeling of protection will be for you. But sometimes you just gotta grab the salt and do the boundaries of your home right away! I have also done a lot of household cleansing with good, pure lavender oil… deep cleaning of floors etc, objects too. It was what I had to hand and it was an… Read more »
It’s always the intent and origin of the magic that counts. $ only changes the props but not the intention.
Totally agree with you about the floors, I use hot water and methylated spirits.
Qi vamp with personality disorder.(don’t they all?!)..maybe a masters in psychology would be a better option then she could rid herself of her own qi vamp tendencies…..
I told my therapist about my Qi-vamp and he said “in psychology, we call that ‘borderline personality disorder'”….so yes, it seems that Qi-vamping actually is a clinical diagnosis!
Can I have a qi vamp venting moment here???!!!! Its all about perspective and not getting absorbed in someone’s backwards view of things. I have a coworker who is the total toxic personality type that I’ve only heard/read about and never really experienced from coworkers before. She stares me down, does impressions of me to my face, makes fun of me to other people or acts like other people should be thinking twice about things I say. This woman is 50. She is also doing her masters for the first time, paying for a teaching experience the rest of us… Read more »
Oh, and this is also a multifaceted qi vampire experience. She’s also very needy on many levels and expects people shes rude to to be there for her. She wants support and assistance all the time about really basic things and asks for it in a goo gaga sweet talking voice. Just intense and freaky!
Woah! That sounds pretty intense. I admire your perspective and detachment immensely. As a pretty fiery, impulsive Saggi, I would find this situation verrry challenging indded! My mother used to work as a cook in a country hospital and I remember her stories of co-workers who were so manipulative and nasty for no outward reason at all. When she got promoted as the head of the kitchen, they put all their energy into ganging up on her and trying to get her fired, just because… She stuck it out, I honestly don’t know how… It doesn’t sound like you need… Read more »
Oh God/dess makes me angry just to read it!! : D I was watching AFL while visiting cousins in Melbs recently, and the team that just won the AFL premiership, Fremantle recently were playing a more classic Melbourne team, can’t remember which one, it was the one my cousin barracks for… Anyway Fremantle were playing really well and winning, and a ‘star’ player from the other team threw the ball at the head of one of the Fremantle boys, who just looked at him and shrugged it off, and they went on to win the game. No punch and jostle… Read more »
Hi there, sorry old Melbourne girl here and had to let you know you have the teams the wrong way round, Hawthorn won against Fremantle who played rough and dirty – good story on rising above it to win though!
Ha! Mea culpa!
obviously I don’t know what I’m talking about it at all !! (my excuse is : mere Sydney person, my cousins are dyed in- the -wool Victorian AFL supporters)
BUT I am completely certain that the particular night I watched this particular game, Fremantle were by far the better sportsmen, and that ball to the head incident definitely occurred
Sorry didn’t Hawthorn win the Premiership and not Fremantle? I’m not an AFL supporter but have been watching it here and there this year for some reason… I watched the semi-final with Fremantle against the Swans and thought Fremantle looked like a pretty uncompetitive, rough team. Wasn’t impressed by their behaviour at all. I didn’t watch the final so I don’t know what you’re referring to but the game I saw, Fremantle displayed very little grace or good sportsmanship.
This wouldn’t be an issue if The Cats had been in the Grand Final. Hawks must have paid to lift the Kennett’s curse. #GoCats
ah yeh… i hear you, the 50 year old toxic co worker, extraordinarily poor communicator, manipulator, blatant power monger, territorial take over….
Dont give them anything!!!!!
Ahaha ACTUAL LOVE THIS. Buying that Mugwort to burn!!!
You’re amazing mm. Happy labour day xox
I love the housewitchery posts as well!!
My sister is trying to break it off with her QI vampire husband. Wish she would try these….
My ex boyfriend is a huge Qi vampire. I burned, washed, destroyed, painted over, deleted, everything. Heard from him for almost 2 years, but thankfully the ignoring is finally working.
Have a couple of “friends” like this, who complain and complain. It is all about them. I barely get to divulge or unload. I avoid them as much as possible if it gets like this.
It’s so hard when you realise the people closest to you are Qi Vamps it’s a bitter sweet realisation because yes you’ve recognised the source of your energy depletion but sad because you need to cut ties and get the fuq away…
As i put some sea salt in front of my door now! i need to keep the creepy lonely handyman away from me.
I used the line-of-salt at the front door trick about 6 weeks ago, following advice from the Oracle. At the time I was so deeply mired in Qi-Vampery that I couldn’t see the wood for the trees; lo and behold, the Qi-Vamp in question hasn’t contacted me since.
YES PERFECT , I like the GANESH CHANT remover of obstacles for the music
You could say something like sorry you’re not feeling well but I’m here to celebrate so and so’s happy occasion today. Depending on how much negativity they’re carrying, they may try and punch you and then you can call the cops on them.
Apologize to the host later saying that you were having a marvelous time but you don’t know what came over that person.
Sometimes even the smallest amount of alcohol can make people mean.
LOL !
Love it – this is awesome!
Plan 9 from Outer Space! I think Vampira would be a welcome vamp. 😉
My Qi Vamps look more like Voldemort/Nosferatu not some hot bodied vamp!
Please banish the ugly ones!
Voldemort Be Gone!
Ditto on loving housewitchery posts! I needed this one.
the mandrake margarita — nnn musique concrete or pop versions of grok
…..hmmm I’d use this as a curse breaker. Bit OTT for an overshare. You *could* just call ’em and tell ’em they’re butt-fuck crazy and you don’t want to know…..
😆
Agreed! Magic herbs, rituals etc should not be used lightly and as a Wiccan I have always been told to use such tools only when all else fails. Ain’t no good spells out there prefaced with the words, “use this if you can’t be bothered to confront the person who’s upset you”. There’s a good reason for that: what you put into a ritual gets intensified by it… ergo, doing magic in a fearful or avoidant state creates more trouble than it cures.
I was about to write, Crikey, that seems a lot of work for someone who has already put you to a lot of work!
Could be good if it banished all QVs forever.
Since I am also Aqua aspiring to detach, may I humbly suggest just detaching, quietly and then being polite but detached/cool with them in the future, if indeed there is any future. Who knows, they may stop being such a QV with you, or with time. Or you may never see them again.
just block them on facebook dude !
I love Housewitchery posts! I went to a talk earlier this year by a woman who specializes in releasing low Qi entities from environments: she said a quick way to rebalance is to apply a dab of lavender essential oil on ankles, base of spine, back of neck, wrists, temples. She also recommended burning camphor crystals as part of a smudging ceremony for moving really heavy, stuck energy. Burning cinnamon (especially Ceylon cinnamon, the kind that crumbles easily) is another great way to warm and ground the energy in your home. Plus it makes a smudging smell a lot better,… Read more »
Fabulous. Trust Mystic to come up with the goods and more. Love it! Almost want an excuse to do it – but, seriously, proper good advice for when it’s needed. Thanks MM yet again. x