Mystic advises a woman wondering if her Saturn conjunct Sun transit is to blame for her friends turning toxic all of a sudden. Or, is it just the optics?
I have been congratulating myself on how well this Saturn transit is going. It is on my Sun until August or something. I got a raise and became more fit! Then I paid off and cut up a store card. All good, right? But no! I woke up last Friday insane with the urge to change my life, be frugal, cut down drinking and eat better to stave off, you know, mortality. I am 33 btw. Then when one of my two closest friends texted me about our Friday night plans, i said: “no babe, i am cleaning up my act, gonna cut some weight, save some $ and just have a quiet night in tonight, you know read a book…”
Next thing i know she (Gemini) loses her mind and both her + my other close friend (Leo) are texting and calling every five seconds saying we HAVE to go out. This sorry, three-way dialogue finally ended in one of them calling me a boring loser and the other saying “don’t kid yourself, you won’t be able to keep it up.” I spent the whole weekend thinking, and this is what i have come up with – I don’t look after myself. I owe whatever good looks I do have to skill with make-up, (relative) youth, Duromine and St Tropez spray tans. I have not had a sane boyfriend in nearly six years. My so-called love life is extended one night stands, Love Zombie crushes and co-dependent things with addicts or players. I’m not even fashionable anymore.
My So-Called Love Life Is Extended One Night Stands And Co-Dependent Things With Addicts Or Players
My friends are only supportive of me if we are out together getting trashed at some place “cool” trying to make like we’re ten years younger. We all drink too much and enable it in one another. Getting wasted and talking about feminism is not the same as being a feminist. I have a good job, and thank god have always been able to keep it together at work, but my personal life is a mess. I make good money but spend it all on shit like a kid on a sugar high. Speaking of shit, that is all I eat, junk food, bar snacks and then the occasional wheatgrass shot. I think of myself as a ‘femme fatale’ like a Hemmingway heroine, but actually, I am just incapable of an adult relationship. Or even meeting the sort of men who might want an adult relationship. I can see all this without also looking at the scary subject of whether or not i want children. Or my long term financial security.
Looking around, all I can see is that my friends are delusional. We are not fabulous 23 yr career girls with diverse and exciting dating life, we are alcoholic harpies who get shitfaced and have bad drunken sex with strangers most weekends. We spend a lot of time being cynical about people. Mystic, is this my Saturn conjunct Sun transit? It also was such a sudden onset, one moment planning to get a new dress to go to this thing and wondering how to score something to go a little bit faster while there, next moment downloading a budget app from the tax office and deciding to give up drinking. Did Saturn turn my friends into delusional bitches? They are still stalking me with tales of their suddenly fabulous nightlife. Now that I am not there, it seems suddenly full of eligible men, potential trips and people dancing. Or am i just seeing it all differently?
Scorpio In Hell
A Saturn Conjunct Sun Transit Starts With A Gloomy Stocktake Like This
Dear Scorpio In Hell,
You are seeing it differently. Your optics have altered. You’ve got Saturn Vision. This is actually how a lot of Saturn transits can feel. Like you’re suddenly waking up from some long bender in which you spent too much $$, talked too much crap and ate/drank way too much of everything. Congratulations, you have Saturn Vision. Some aspects of it may be a little bit too harsh, but the point of this astro-passage is that it gets results. Real fast. I think of the stronger transits (Saturn out, basically) as being like the Matrix; it is like you pop a magic sci-fi pill and then see reality or at least another dimension of it.
My essential advice for any Saturn hell is to formulate a plan, and if these women are as bad as you’re depicting them here, plan A should be some distance from them. Think mature & strategic to be fit & wealthy, or more robust and secure than pre-Saturn. Saturn is only on your Sun once every 29 years; it’s enormous. You’re doing brilliantly with the gloomy stocktake bit of it and paying down debt/getting more fit. And if you’re now feeling the need for more serious goals and nurturing relationships, yes!
Browse the Saturn tagged posts for more inspiration on making this reckoning with the Time God work for you. The worst part of any Saturn transit – let alone a Saturn conjunct Sun transit – is the awakening. Once you shake off the remnants of any delusion and get moving on an action plan, you feel fantastic. And if you are not aligned with your friends, get new ones or go it alone for a while.
We have a LOT of experience with Saturn Awakenings here – yes? What does everyone else think?
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