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Venus trine Neptune on a Void Moon – like NOW – can be a trigger for Recovering Love Zombies, just saying.Β  Antidotes; Avarice, Vanity, Gourmet Food, Fitness, Being Kind Those Peeps Being Zapped by the Zap Zone.

Also, i am getting the site made over in html5 – you won’t see a difference but it will auto-adjust to awesomely suit any device that you are accessing it from. Expensive but worth it. The other improvement coming is a calendar app for the Monthly page so that you can look way ahead, click on a date and quickly grok the tone of the day. Not a horoscope – just a speed alert as to Merc Retro, Full Moons, good for love/biz or not etc. Like the Scheduler is now but more digital – not analogue. You like?

I am also revisiting the Tarot App.Β  Because my reservation was that there are so many sites out there doing purely Tarot (with dozens of different spreads, decks etc) that it would be not worth doing here. BUT my feedback has been that (a) peeps would like to peruse tarot here and that (b) it would be nice to do so sans ads everywhere making out like you’re a loser.Β  Also, i had an idea of how to make it gorgeous & unique.

Back to Love Zombies In Recovery – let Venus-Neptune in trine give you the DIVINE PERSPECTIVE on whatever form of strangeness your Love Zombie manifested as. At the same time, as i have been banging non-stop on about in the Horoscopes, Mars-Saturn in Libra really is demanding a super-chic form of pragmatism at the moment. Go naive, unrealistic or unworldly at your own peril.

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Scarlet Rose
Scarlet Rose

Type.Delete.Type.Delete. Trouble with self expression much? Maybe it’s not quite right for me to outlet my thoughts re my ex partner on here.. I hesitate partly as I’m newbie and felt I should be contributing more positive ones instead, if anything. So my apologies for taking up the ether air waves but need to exhale for a moment, please. (In an open and friendly tone) of course I’m happy to hear responses and find reassurance in advice (seek wise counsel and all that?) but as mentioned just wanting the place for the exhale of ramblings. Thank you again for a… Read more »

catfish moon
catfish moon

I went into anti love zombie mode during this time. The lover and I had a weirding the night before, which passed quicker than it ever has.
I was fretting, as I do, then just was over it. I have much much much larger things going on. I just got to the point of whatever. so of course he was all over making sure we were okay and that I loved him.
Interesting how detachment works.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Thanks, Pi and Q! I’m responding down here because the comments got to small. I had a vision about a year or two ago of myself living in a different place – a place with more sun and near the ocean. I actually tried the “Quantum Jumping” technique of interviewing this alternate me to see how she got there. And all she said was “its you” and when I pressed, she started speaking in another language. In the vision, my daughter was older, so I figured perhaps, frustrated, this was all years off. I could draw the floor plan of… Read more »

quintile
quintile

what a lovely post 12H – I’m gonna check out Quantum Jumping! Very best wishes for interview # 2 – either way, you are moving forward obviously. I love dreams about houses (I don’t think I’ve had “visions”) – they represent the whole you and I sometimes just have the most beautiful sense of wholeness after a great house dream (you know how the symbology is s’posed to play out? kitchen = soul, heart; bedroom = love; attic/upstairs = higher consciousness etc etc). Your ‘older looking’ daughter might signify that she is more mature than you quite realise and will… Read more »

quintile
quintile

oh another nice truism on this front – “Trust in Allah but tie up your camel anyway” – says it all for me…I don’t believe in god BTW but I do believe in higher order flows, patterns, whatevs

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Q – my problem is not only do I work to tie my camel up, but then I start working to find and implement the most efficient tying methods so that people and camels and all beings may derive maximum enjoyment the art of camel tying. LOL! I’m still learning to live self-centeredly. One camel at a time…make my self comfortable first, focus on where my power is at… Re my ex, we are in a good place. I allowed him to design his own post-married life freely, without guilt or drama or conditions. Now its my turn. I’m not… Read more »

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

BTW – I use the word God sometimes, but what I am referring to is what you’re saying about higher power/Source etc. I am not into a religion at all.

Pi
Pi

That sounds / feels good, 12V. I wish you so much luck and naturally Virgos (you are a Virgo right? not just 12th house ruled by virgo?) also have judicious planning and organising on their side πŸ™‚ Quantum jumping , and self-interviewing! that sounds GREAT. I have not infrequently gone on a little mind journey to “feel out” the future, which has had some interesting (revealing) outcomes, but never tried finding myself IN the future. cool. I am very glad that you seem to get along with your ex too well enough so that these plans can take shape. As… Read more »

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Thanks, Pi! Its funny when I had the vision of the place I’d live, I told my friend about it. This was like last summer. And she said she could see/feel it too. Funny how it all works. I learned how to meditate by doing PN. And the guy who teaches made a FB post about LOA and Quantum Jumping being like spiritual junk food. So I googled Quantum Jumping. Lol! I’m curious. Anyway, I haven’t read any of the books or anything. I just know what the description is. When I read it, I realized I have done it… Read more »

Pi
Pi

Yes. I have definitely gone back to little toddler Pi and adolescent Pi and had a chat sometimes. Healing across ‘time’. But come to think of it I haven’t done that for a while. I was reading somewhere once – this blog? – someone was recalling themselves in a difficult situation in the past, and sending them a message of courage, love, you know.. to help their self through. It was either that or when s/he was feeling a bit of a lift in an unhappy or difficult situation, that could have been future-self doing the same thing… I really… Read more »

quintile
quintile

astrobarry’s essay on venus into cancer just 5 days ago might explain the resurgence of the LZ meme too – “Clever arguments fall short, alas, once we reach [venus in ] Cancer, where our unspoken gut-level intuition tells us exactly what’s personally ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ for us. Feelings trump concepts in Cancer’s world… which, if we shut our brains off for a moment and just listen, makes it a lot harder to claim ambivalence or confusion. Emotional truth is not especially ambiguous. Unfortunately, just because we feel it to be so, that doesn’t necessarily mean we’ll be able to explain… Read more »

virgo Ellie
virgo Ellie

Domestic, what kind of shift on the 21 & 22? Recovering with my decision to reconnect with my love interest after not seeing him afterr 9 months and I think it was a mistake. (Sigh).

quintile
quintile

thanks Triff – you are spot on re the disambiguation: and most of the realisations are about me and what I find acceptable, so that is extra good but also a tad painful.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

She started speaking Spanish. I have an alternate self who ran off with her soul mate to Spain. I think the other me started speaking Spanish because I was trying so hard at the time to make my soul mate a part of my happy future. I got him to sit in the front yard of my dream vision house once. He watch me kick my brother out of the house and told him “you know she does that because she loves you, right?.” Yes, I have interactions in my Neptunian home. Lol. Weird. He isn’t really there but maybe… Read more »

quintile
quintile

wow – I got a shiver with the simplicity and truth of “its you” – I have experienced that sort of clarity in dreams occasionally.

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Okay, my Mystic counselers..I got the call from my love interest and I went with it. Oh well…. I will deal with the consequences of me thinking he missed me. At least I got say some things after he opened the discusion about something I said about us that bothered him. Who wants to slap me first. I won’t be offended. πŸ™‚

leogroover
leogroover

Well i am def a recovering LZ. I’ve just written ‘The End’ in my journal. Not going back to LZ land again. After 4 years of an on – off delusional relationship (which btw I’m sorry I put you all through the trials and tribulations of )I’m down to a very real stich of ‘ I don’t care’ attitude. I am completely drained in many ways and need to top myself up again by doing many real things that will make me happy. None of which involve the now Ex thankfully. Feels like I’m in a more open space already… Read more »

quintile
quintile

sounds fab LG – well done!! πŸ™‚

Chrysalis
Chrysalis

Good on you, LG. A Leo getting her groove back! I’m Leo rising and I often wonder about Leos and how we handle the LZ state. Very bad for our Leo Qi to be mooching after some loser who won’t pay attention. Obvs bad for anyone to hand over their power in this way, but I wonder if it’s more toxic for Leos in particular.
The campervan, the open road, the window down and the wind in your fab Leo hair…. sounds compelling! πŸ™‚

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

I’m glad for your postings over time about your on-off love, Leogroover, and hope you won’t feel sorry for that. I’ve admired your candour and full ownership of who you are and how you feel and what you’re going for.

Frankly, i don’t think i’m quite as self honest, and your posts always vibe tremendously warm and fierce, rather than self righteous and cold. It’s inspirational!

Great to hear the end of those chapters, the start of being open to the next adventure xx

leogroover
leogroover

thank you Mill and peeps for your kind thoughts. I needed a boost on this dark moon shedding weekend . Its been a roller coasterride with the ex but I have disembarked now and am driving my own bus now and a cool VW at that!

Pi
Pi

big hugs LG… happy freedom travels to you. drive safe. And remember, Leos deserve the best! xxoox

Anonymous
Anonymous

Reading the LZ posts, it’s sad, people lost in an attraction that is never going to make it into the future, people not knowing what love is or experiencing it.
When I’ve moved away from someone it’s because I do not see them in my long-term future.

Pi
Pi

It’s a tough one, I’ll tell ya that. I’d be the first to admit I am one of the people you’ve described quite neatly in that comment. I don’t exist in that state permanently (thank god) but sometimes it swings around with a vengeance. I am a bit of an emo Pisces and polarised by an ice-queeny Cap moon, so… anyway. I shall conclude by donning my feathers and sequins, turning up Priscilla, Queen of the Desert and bellow “I’ve been to Paarradiisse.. but I’ve,..neverrr beeen to meee” lolololo xo

age of aquarius
age of aquarius

Good medicine!

Venus is transiting conjunct my Ascendant, and Neptune is transiting conjunct my Moon so they’re visiting me ‘personally’ and giving me a good boost!

Also, the Mars/Saturn conjunction is exactly conjuncting my South Node…..good! Clear it OUT!

Yes, I feel liberated……..thank you wandering stars!!!!

Gbs
Gbs

Mars-Saturn is almost on my South Node and over the past few days I’ve noticed I’ve been able to let go of things more easily than usual. From decluttering my office to becoming aware of needy behaviors to revisiting some of the negative messages I tell myself about self-worth. It feels good.

PerfectPisces
PerfectPisces

idk*

PerfectPisces
PerfectPisces

dik wat is going on with me in the love department. i got out of this hideous 5 year abusive relationship. not to mention i gain 60lbs. i am desperate; im meeting people off line but oddly i’m being patient. i hope i have some good karma coming my way!

quintile
quintile

sounds like you’re growing PP – well done!

PerfectPisces
PerfectPisces

πŸ™‚ thanks. I know I’m growing from the bullshit.

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

I hear you! I get really antsy at times but then i have to remind myself i ain’t finished cookin’! I’m like a gastronomic delight, right? You’ve got to get the timing right. Then comes the good good karma πŸ™‚

PerfectPisces
PerfectPisces

*timing is everything*

bea
bea

if only not being a LZ was as easy as all that! if only there was a place to go to like in eternal sunshine of the spotless mind where they could cure you or a pill to take or a way to cut out your heart without actually dying. it’s like the flu. you didn’t ask for it but somehow, bam, there you are with a full blown case and nothing to do but ride it out.

if someone out there has a surefire cure….

ugh…

Pi
Pi

hugs bea. what we feel is what we feel. maybe allowing yourself to act in a way that you can be proud of / can look back on in a few years and know you did the best thing by you and the situation. that could range from declaring your feelings right across to stone cold silence, that part’s up to you. xo

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I hear you. Don’t be hard on yourself for relapse. But, don’t go all goo-gooey “destiny” on yourself either. That’s just wack (and you know it.)

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

ahhhh… where is the blog posting about new opportunities. Yesterday a contact told me about a job that he thought would be good for me. This job is at a company I would love to work at and in an area I would move to immediately. Got the job description last night and at first I thought it was a lower level position so I requested a salary range a little low. Well, I found out the job is perfect AND they are gonna try to get me double the salary than I am making now. I don’t want to… Read more »

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

MM has been writing a lot about Virgo career opportunities. I’ve had five interviews with four different companies since July. Its kind of exhausting, but I’m hoping that the right offer will come in soon. There is really only one of the four companies that I like. We were supposed to do a second interview today and they just rescheduled for next week. I’m going to try to just nap and chill out this weekend and not worry about it.

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Thanks. I just went back to the Daily’s to see again what I thought I remember reading. I honestly thought it was my rising sign Libra but it is Virgo. A lot of opportunities with interviews that have been happening the last couple of months. I am hoping for the best too and like you will just rest this w/e!

Good luck to you. I can’t wait to hear about your good news… because it will happen.

Thanks 12th xx!!

quintile
quintile

all the best to both of you – I too have applied for a promotion (virgo sun, merc, venus, pluto)

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Good luck to you Quin.. interesting how this all works. Keep us posted! xo!!

quintile
quintile

Bless Ellie – will do but don;t hold your breath, it will be months. You sound like you’re getting close to a really good opportunity!!

Anonymous
Anonymous

Quin, since I am still learning about my “chart”.. when you say “Virgo sun,merc, venus, pluto” does that mean you have mercury, venus and pluto in Virgo?

I just check for me and I have pluto, uranus and mercury. in my sun sign. LOL!!

quintile
quintile

hi anon – exacto! peeps posting on this blog often add relevant natal or transiting info, so others can mayeb cross-check with their own astro. If you have 2-3 planets in one sign, like me in Virgo, its known as a stellium

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

I vote peril! extreme drama-worthy peril! Still nobody real to love except myself. I look all day, every day, and at all times. I’m dressed to the nines and ready to swoop on the right guy. No one has materialized and quite frankly no one looks good enough for me to even try to talk to. All i see are flaws….flaws…..FLAWS. I’m natal Mars in Libra and I thought this would get better after Mars left Virgo, but no. My nit-pickiness has almost DOUBLED since Mars went into Libra. Shit i even look at my friends in “satisfied” relationships that… Read more »

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Yes. Natal Mars in Libra here too. Intuition is something I do believe I’ve unwittingly pink-slipped myself. Ego has taken over for a bit for now as I am in planning mode. I too must say I cannot spot an attractive guy or “happy” relationship. But I am not going to fantasize over the most recent case of Mr. Neptune either. I’m too pissed. His written perspective is “if its meant to happen, it will happen all on its own.” WTF? Fate is for lazy people. I’m a Virgo. I don’t L.O.A. my world into being. LMAO! But good luck… Read more »

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

“Fate is for lazy people” –LOL! That is my mantra too. LOA is like short hand for sit-on-you-hands-and-do-nothing. zone out and don’t care.

I still need intuition to decide which in the 100 million directions to shoot for ya know? That my eyesight in pea soup fog is more accurate than my inuition is right now? It’s downright disconcerting.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I hear ya. I am on the job hunt, trying to figure out the next step but step one (getting an offer) needs to happen first. My point being – I need my intuition (now, as always) but I am so focused on figuring out what comes next that I can’t hear it. I’m sure its still there. I mention this because maybe there is something on your mind, a need to know what comes next that is blocking the intuitive knowing for you too, fellow mars in libra. In any case, this time like all others will pass.

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Well a (s00per psychic) Cancerian friend of mine said to me that perhaps my intuition is working just fine and that I don’t feel like it is working because it allowed me to get burned on a risk. Normally, it doesn’t do that so I am ASSUMING it doesn’t work.

Maybe HER intuition works like that, but when mine is working those sort of negative consequences don’t materialize. πŸ™

So maybe it is working…..????
I’m just struggling to see the good in what has come about lately.
and no it has nothing to do with Love Zombie shite for once.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I had my intuition called into question on a work situ, but time is showing that intuition was right, in spite of the negative consequences. My point is, time will tell. Don’t sweat it. Its hard for me – a recovering love zombie – to not be pissed at my intuition. I’m not quite sure what it is at all. I know, it isn’t a relationship. But it certainly made me feel like I was in one. That’s a negative consequence. Point being, resistance to what is in front of your face is what blocks your flow, not positive or… Read more »

quintile
quintile

what a complex assemblage it is: consciousness, intuition, mind, ego. embodied cognition – yes, can be hard at times to ‘unpack’ what is going on. My intuition has most often been overrided by ego, more than other components.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I agree – ego is killer. All the oracles I’ve been consulting are like “detach from the outcome” and I’m like “wtf!?!” I’m trying to plan a move here! Details. Timelines. Rental agreements. Etc. All that “I control the outcome” stuff is necessary for planning, but its also ego. And I’m having a hard time giving my ego time off lately. Ick.

quintile
quintile

interesting 12H! there is a balance between the big visin at the end, and being fully attuned to the steps along the way, keeping a weather eye on the steps and letting the outcome take care of itself. Doing each step as mindfully, and as well as possible and trusting that this will lead to the right outcome

Pi
Pi

I’d agree with Q here, it is one thing to work towards a certain outcome, i.e. submit applications, make calls, house-hunt etc. It is a different thing – imo – to then not hang your hat on a *specific* outcome. Because once you do that, imo again, we start to feel pressure and anxiety / stress around that point. Acting to make something happen, doing everything we can to pave the way for “the universe” to provide that, and then releasing all expectations, is like when we put the cake in the oven so it can cook, or when we… Read more »

Pi
Pi

Sorry, not ’emotional state we attached to the outcome’ as such. I mean the sensation around getting *that* outcome. I don’t know if I am quite making sense there. BUT 12v regardless, good luck! I know you can make it happen. Maybe the oracle is also remindig you to be ‘at peace’ while you do this. x

quintile
quintile

well said Pi!

Electric Eel Libran
Electric Eel Libran

Lots of good points guys! Yes wanting an exact outcome is not useful for me.. I suck at predicting that stuff,. It was more of a list of a series of decent to ok outcomes i was hoping for. But what i got out of the mess is i spent money i didn’t really have and should’ve saved. My art work got damaged by said curators an my paperwork lost. I didn’t have to win, but how about not kicking me in the teeth universe when a girl is down?

Chrysalis
Chrysalis

“Fate is for lazy people” – love this! I like to say, ‘yes trust the universe, but give it good material to work with’.

leogroover
leogroover

love that C, give love- recieve love – simple really

leogroover
leogroover

love hanging withmy fello mars in librans here- I have been relying on my intuition a lot lately and it has been spot on. I wish I had developed it earlier in life but its working fine now anyhoo.I ve never been fussy in love as I know i have many flaws too however there is a down side to being too open. Does Mars in libra have a naive element you think? Typi M in L – I hate when things are not equal and always look for the beauty in everything but there is a Miss Piggy element… Read more »

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

like 12th h i have venus in virgo and mars in
libra. mars hates being in libra as much as venus dislikes being in virgo because their super powers are diminished. i too feel awkward if i have to constantly tell someone my needs in a relationship. i did break up with someone over that. iam sag rising so i just blurt it out anyways.

leogroover
leogroover

mmmm interesting. same for me pass agging and with venus in kataka I can out sook anyone. throw a bucket of giant leo ego on that and its a recipe for disaster with a another pass agg person as has been the case. but no more. I will be fussy from now on.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

The biggest problem I have with Mars in Libra is the tendency to be pass-ag. My standards are ridiculously high in love (Venus in Virgo). With Mars in Libra, I understand all the different drives in a social situation. I understand why someone doesn’t, say, unload the dishwasher. And, I like doing things for others. But I start feeling drained and boo-hoo “Why don’t they notice what I need here?!” Well, why don’t I say in no uncertain terms what I need here? Mars in Libra. It feels undiplomatic to demand and hold others accountable. And, slightly tacky. I’d like… Read more »

Pi
Pi

omg. for all my whingeing about “love” on previous posts, I totally spent this evening looking at online dating sites. Goldmines, I tell you! I can’t believe I spend / spent so much time mooning over actual real people when I can just trawl those sites. Mind you I retain a horror of actually joining them and running the risk of having someone actually recognise me, but it’s a door I had forgotten about. If it’s of interest the profiles I keep clicking on to “read further” are almost entirely Cancer or Pisces! some Aries and Scorp. lolooolol And they’re… Read more »

quintile
quintile

LOL Pi – love your dry sense of humour. you could add that to your personal attributes in your profile! When i occasionally do such trawling, I often find patterns in the star signs of the people I click on. You could always have a hidden profile, and only contact people who interest you – its a safe way of doing it. just sayin’…

Pi
Pi

hey, I didn’t know that was an option. hmm. thanks Q!

quintile
quintile

check the actual sites you’re visiting but defo an option with the dreaded rsvp (or as its affectionately known RSPCA) – that way “you control the action”, which I think is important to short circuit any lurking LZ bacteria!

Pi
Pi

bacteria lol!

leogroover
leogroover

I always tell my kids when thay are complaining about me to go report me to the RSPCA ha!

creatrix
creatrix

Didn’t see any whinging there, you seem very considered – to me at least. Have a couple friends who online date and some of them ended up with nice people. Peeps are more free with photos online these days, I find it challenging too. But you could try it and always take it off later?

Pi
Pi

thanks Creatrix..

I might “try” it (AAAGHHH years of resolve crashing down!! The shame!!) .. but then again as soon as I think that, I think of 10507 why I simply cannot be bothered getting involved… hmm

I like Quintile’s RSPCA description.

Pi
Pi

um, 10507 *reasons*

Misskitten
Misskitten

Pi, Plenty Of Fish is the best one, and you can hide your profile & totally control the, um, action. I met a lot of nice, genuine guys on there before falling in love (yes, Love!) with awesome Kataka/Gem rising/Scorp moon dude!! Good luck!

seagoat
seagoat

YES – do the apps. Very exciting. Especially the Tarot app. There are plenty out there. I’ve yet to find one that really rocks.

plutonic gem
plutonic gem

digital monthly planner will be fabulous and necessary, call it a zap zone tool i think, one needs to be on their game, planning and preparing, I believe, while tuning into the heart and universal consciousness just to get the milk! well stop that, no more milk, do you know what cruelty cows suffer to get milk, damn, ifucking love milk, but it is also making me incredibly fat, along with lashing of butter, that is butter behaving like its the fucking renaissance and im at court doing whatever I want with my diet, but no no no, Call THIS… Read more »

pi
pi

hahaha go P Gemmy !

leogroover
leogroover

**hand shoots straight up ** sign me up for a diploma pls. Il go on to a masters, do some important ground breaking research and rid the word of LZ s who will all blossom like beautiful butterflies .ts a W.i.P

Anonymous
Anonymous

So, let this be a warning to you all. This is a volatile environment in which to construct one of those ‘I’m just writing ridiculous things to get the energy out’ emails because your usually very agile iPhone fingers may slip over the send and before you know it you may have sent off a come fuck me missive that really you had very rationally decided earlier would be a very silly thing to send.
Step away from your phones …

Whattie somehow I’m channeling you in this maybe it’ll all be okay weird …

quintile
quintile

hallelujah to that advice sista (or bro!)

WOOF WOOF!
WOOF WOOF!

πŸ˜€ yeah ride the wave & channel me babe!

you can pull it off fo sure xxx

WOOF WOOF!
WOOF WOOF!

what are you wearing…?

WOOF WOOF!
WOOF WOOF!

hehehe jokes

if it doesn’t work out there’s always the erotic novellas on itunes

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

I learned not to put in sender’s name/address in the To: line.

Or to handwrite: it uses different brain synapses from typing action (neural pathway studies) so may be even more cathartic.

Less shame thinking switch: make some money by sending it off to harlequin πŸ˜€

quintile
quintile

wise as always mille!!

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Hey some things you learn the hard way! πŸ™‚

Pi
Pi

Mille, yes, me too. I make absolutely sure before I write anything that the recipient’s name is at least in the text section of the email (if I don’t know it off by heart – e.g. I also use this technique for drafting other important emails e.g. to a boss, or a job application cover email etc).

And definitely for text messages – the blank To: field also means that only I know who the (draft) is intended for :D.

also learnt this through my Harm-Minimisation email scheme after a couple of near misses. (near hits?)

Anonymous
Anonymous

ps mille is that true? typing versus handwriting? might explain why I always hand write poems, can’t handle typing lecture notes always have to use pen… love my scrawl, this way to you always know who’s written it, too πŸ™‚

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Yes, brain synapses fire up more evenly on both left and right sides of brain, plus more synapses shown firing during the handwriting process.

Wish i could remember where i saw this research but it was years ago, and embedded in something else i was learning.

Pi
Pi

excellent.

Anonymous
Anonymous

Yes, well. I forgot about the no email address rule, was a tad too early in the process.
Oh well … I’m currently seeing the funny side and overall very little real harm can come of it so, whatever really.
Shall totally ride the weird wave and see where it goes. And once safely back on dry land go get my sanity filters checked.
No actual response yet so maybe my stance will change when I get a sense of the impact … πŸ˜‰

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

It’s not easy to be careful when you’re hot and bothered πŸ˜‰

Anonymous
Anonymous

or drunk

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

oh god well you know, don’t be careful when drunk…waste of drinking money

Anonymous
Anonymous

Ha, exactly! πŸ™‚

leogroover
leogroover

so true

Pi
Pi

haha maybe it will be a “good” mistake πŸ˜‰

Anonymous
Anonymous

Wolfie, I keep trying to acknowledge my amusement at your joke, however WordPress doesn’t appear to acknowledge a *snort* as a legitimate comment. πŸ™‚
Or they’ll all turn up later.
Anyway, funny.

clued up wolf
clued up wolf

yeah sometimes it won’t accept a wordless grin either – but i acknowledge and accept your snort.

I was hoping to come back to tales of debauchery / an exchange of bodily fluids or at least a book recommendation but alas…

Will keep my (insane? am a bit miffed about that if the truth be known – there IS usually a perfectly sane reason for my particular flavour of madness :grin:) fingers crossed for you and await an update.

Anonymous
Anonymous

I can’t imagine anything that you would do could possibly be considered insane. However me doing things that may be completely everyday for you, may be judged differently. It’s a context specific designation surely? xxo

clued up wolf
clued up wolf

i love it when you talk dirty to me shell

clued up wolf
clued up wolf

the next time someone questions my random acts of ‘whatever it is’ i will be invoking the context specific designation rule.

Anonymous
Anonymous

It’s all about contextualisation right?
πŸ™‚

Anonymous
Anonymous

Alas ladies, no stories of debauchery or newly discovered ‘entertainment’ sites to report. (Though I get them when I just google my name so that’s all ho hum).
However the dude is a taurus – it may be taking him a while to build up steam.
Or he’s decided I’m mental …

I’m cleaning the house nonetheless πŸ˜‰

virgolicious
virgolicious

Wow! I was just on my way to my monthly massage today and wondered how that calendar app was coming along. It would enhance my world so much! I always try to schedule massages for the dark moon, and when I can, to a Taurus moon. The last three have been on Taurus moons (by accident) and all have been transcendent! Other than that, I like to align homebody/housewitchery activities to the moon – sometime I get it right by accident, but if I could plan ahead I could be so much more efficient and in tune with the universe.… Read more »

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Thanks Mystic. I look forward to the added features to your site.

missfine
missfine

Just came home from work and found the “women seeking men” column highlighted on craigslist via my boyfriend. told him not to come home and basically fuq off. you want “real”? don’t go looking for other women online, THE END. i feel very saturn about it. sad, all things considered, he really doesn’t even know where its coming from in his mind…like he’s “just curious”. sorry…not good enough for me. hope i did the right thing

jicky
jicky

the absolute right thing to do. fuq that!

sweetpea
sweetpea

Yeah, not fun to have to make a decision you weren’t even contemplating having to make..

What was that caption on the recent Aries thread?

Got a chuckle…”they gave her no choice”

Amusing in that regard (movies) but not in real life when heart and feelings are involved. Been there, done that.

Tell him when he’s sorted maybe you’ll talk..

What’s that song out “Call me maybe”…just be ~maybe~ and let him sweat it a bit meanwhile…

Good luck darling…x

davidl
davidl

Ooops, that’s a shock for both of you. Hope you work it out Missfine, is he worth it ? Another question, looking at that page on Craigslist is possibly not unlike checking out girls at the beach ? Would that have got him sacked ? I know you feel betrayed but guys can do stupid things out of curiosity.
I do hope you have the chance to get to the bottom of it , get the reason why he’s looking. Only if of course on the balance he is worth it.

quintile
quintile

good on you for drawing boundaries – its just too easy today for people to “stray” due to massive cultural changes via media etc. He might learn some self control now, and/or to think twice before indulging a ‘curiosity’ – good luck and hopefully he will understand and respect your POV

anon
anon

missfine, from my experience, you absolutely did the right thing. I have been around that block several times with different guys, and I have heard a whole range of excuses, including what davidl has mentioned that it may just be like checking out babes on the beach. I know you meant that in a supportive way, davidl, but there’s a crucial difference – on the beach the babe is not giving the guy a direct line of communication. The perving that goes on in a guy’s head on the beach is just that, just an “mmm, that looks tasty,” whereas… Read more »

Anonymous
Anonymous

Yep. You did the right thing girl.. don’t second guess yourself πŸ˜‰

electric eel libran
electric eel libran

facebook is the same way. i have seeen more drama and break ups due to fb. i only seem to find players on match.com.

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Eat him.

Pegasus
Pegasus

If it were me i would eat him, give him the most amazing head job he has ever experienced. He wouldn’t look again!
Men are not programmed to be faithful as they are biologically tuned to spread their seed. It’s not their fault.
What’s happened to forgiveness, why so black & white. It cannot just be one time then but many to cause such a strong reaction?

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Seriously?!?

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Haha, Pegs! Ha… ha… um, yeah: that’s so not the kind of eating I was referring to. I mean, like with a fork and a knife. No way should missfine degrade herself by putting his undeserving, skank tool in her mouth. No way.

I think missfine is correct to expect as least as good as she gives (so to speak). And if he so disregards missfine’s time and affections by trawling for chics in missfine’s sanctuary (aka home), then he ought to be recycled and used for the only obvious thing he’s good for: food.

Knives out, missfine: soup’s on.

davidl
davidl

you are truly scary, πŸ™‚ I do think that people make silly mistakes for all sorts of reasons. I don’t think situations like these are as simple as just writing off someone. Take it from someone who has made mistakes in the past and has had others mistakes dropped on me, if you just blame the other 100% and walk away, your bound to miss out on what was your part in the play and in the process lose a lot of important people in your life. I can understand Missfine’s shock, but after the shock wears off, the chance… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

You are truly welcome, davidl. The scary is just for you πŸ˜‰

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Hi DavidL.. I have to agree with you. Although my situation is considered a little desperate.. I cannot write this person off because he hasn’t spoken to me directly or like we use to since November. I just can’t do it. If I am taking your post correctly people are brought together to learn from each other. If you cut someone off “cold turkey” you might miss out on some growing experience for yourself. .. am I on the same page?

xo!

davidl
davidl

Exactly, its usually worth at least a debrief and an open mind. Its called growing up.

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

It’s funny I have this couple that I admire. They are so in love with each other. He flaunts his manly desires to view beautiful women and his wife is right there not complaining. To me it looks like the best relationship because he can do whatever he wants (fantasize, view, play with himself) and she knows what it is all about and accepts it! That is what a good relationship is all about. [Do I need a counseling.. I look to you all for approval.. LOL!! ].. xo!!

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

She may not need these fantasies…but what if she openly did want to view and pleasure herself over other people? Would there be equal acceptance?

Moonshine
Moonshine

Exactly waht I would like to know. Curious as to whether this truly goes both ways

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Debriefing? Oh yes, I love a lively chat before dinner!

*tucking napkin into shirt collar*

Pi
Pi

lol

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

Scorp Inc, I think I love you.

mitra
mitra

But don’t you think, Davidl, that the guy should make the effort to explain and ask to be understood, even if not so explicitly in those words of course? I would think if he didn’t then that’s a reflection of him not really caring about MF. He’s been sprung and he’ll just move onto a more convenient option.

davidl
davidl

lets face it unless we get more info from MF we are all clutching at straws.
So far the drift is that he is an ‘addicted online perv”
with no shame, looking out for the next bit of meat to sink his sperm into…(thats if Scorp Inc doesn’t butcher him first and down him with a nice chianti !

mitra
mitra

I would agree with that character analysis. A horrible experience for MF, whatever he is.

Anonymous
Anonymous

“Men are not programmed to be faithful as they are biologically tuned to spread their seed. It’s not their fault.”

😯 Are you freakin’ serious Pegs??? That’s an appalling attitude to have. What century are you living in? And you call yourself an expert in male/female relationships. Ugh!

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Anon.. when I read Pegs post I had to agree with her. I really have to agree with her. I have been reading SO many “relationship” advice emails and honestly what I take from it is.. just what Peg says. [covering face and running out of the room… door slams shut]… LOL!! xo!!

davidl
davidl

Forgiveness is not an appalling attitude darling, its actually a mature one. Your last century comment possibly relates more to your attitude ? Sheesh you lot are like a bunch of Victorian old maids at times.

Anonymous
Anonymous

David, my comment was not about forgiveness!!! I was about Pegs’ “Victorian old maids” attitude that it’s never a man’s fault! and that a woman should just give a man a good blow job…. yeah, that will solve everything! pfft

Pi
Pi

yeah, that did sort of strike me as reward for questionable behaviour. Maybe there was more to Peg’s comment but the nature of typing stuff on a blog means it’s not always easy to get across.

Pegasus
Pegasus

Lighten up Ladies.
When Scorp said ‘eat him’ i just couldn’t resist.
And btw have never ever said i am an expert, just compassionate.
I give heart not head.

Pi
Pi

xox

Moonshine
Moonshine

David, perhaps you should re-read Anon’s comment. Had nothing to do with forgiveness & everything to do with questioning an attitude that suggests men are not to be responsible for their actions as boohoo they are programmed to spread their seed.

GemLeoRising
GemLeoRising

Name calling aside, I agree with davidl. It comes down to whats happened in the past and whether the relationship is worth it. If you can forgive and let go of it I would. And a good BJ will remind him how lucky he is you did πŸ™‚

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Gem.. I agree and LOL!! xo!

Anonymous
Anonymous

Sadly I have to agree with Pegs.

I have been in Missfines shoes one to many times. Far from pleasant.

A real man will stick around and try to explain himself in open honest communication is what I learned from the experience. If he doesn’t then I eat him for dinner and throw the scraps to the dogs!

Capfire
Capfire

That was me ^

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

actually that theory has been disproved. U could just as easily say that women are biologically programmed to get as much different mens sperm up there so they they compete. not to be rude but your attitude is incredibely old fashioned, like you are from an ancient generation.

davidl
davidl

I think that men often use sex as an outlet for emotional insecurity. Maybe women use shopping ?

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Gender can be a lot more complex than that, and so is a human being. We’re a lot more than a souped up bunch of biological imperatives. Emotional insecurity outlets for this female have been: sex, men, sex, drink, drugs, loud behaviour, fast driving, reckless behaviour, more sex, clothing choices, quietitude, antique shopping (!), smart mouthing and bar fights, OCD cleaning behaviours. Oh skin mutilation during a few teenage years – yuk. Also rehearsal and performing, writing, a martial mouth. And reading – heaps of reading. Some people willingly or subconsciously conform to social norms, so i guess you could… Read more »

Pegasus
Pegasus

YUP ancient that’s me it brings understanding of peeps foibles, men & women. Along with understanding comes forgiveness but not forgetfulness.

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Much respect for that wisdom, Pegasus. And for David’s. I know i don’t have to agree wholeheartedly with everything you say to also be respectful of it. I prefer to listen (when my opinions diverge) and think about it for a while.

You’re so on the money – forgiveness is something we learn over time. Age is not a dirty word, nor an insult. I think it’s quite beautiful πŸ™‚

Moonshine
Moonshine

I don’t think anyone was disputing the idea of forgiveness.It was the other comments that I think peeps found questionable. I know I did πŸ™

anon
anon

Let me clarify – ordinarily I am not of the man-hater, castrate them all at the slightest mistake, but when it comes to the online stuff, my attitude is different. I swear I could get a Ph.D. in studying online dating behaviors I have witnessed so much, and when it comes to sniffing around on online dating/ hook-up websites, I find that the behavior engenders a rather pernicious form of addiction. It feeds into this belief that there will be something better around the next corner; let me just stick my hand in the candy jar to pull out another… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

All of my glib aside, I agree with your sentiments here, anon. Like you, I’ve been there; and also like you, I am not a man-hater. Bullshit hater, you bet; man-hater, hardly. Wtf with the labels, though, really? Whatever.

12th house virgo
12th house virgo

I agree. I am disgusted by talk that men are “programmed” in anyway and that women, living by their own comfort level are “man haters.” Bullshit. We are all human beings and all worthy and in need of compassion. To say we are this-or-that quality or program is dehumanizing. And its great if a couple wants to realize kink fantasies together. Hell, some people really get off on the whole cuckold thing. But scripting it out together is an act of intimacy. Coming home to find your man perusing his options is not. I’m sure there will be more conversation… Read more »

Capfire
Capfire

Word! Well said πŸ™‚

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Yes you’ve hit the nail on the head regarding the addictive profile. It’s rather different from being temporarily attracted to people who happen to be there, especially on the beach as David mentioned.

davidl
davidl

now he’s addicted ????

me
me

Yes David, he is now addicted and possibly a small animal killler πŸ™‚ Jeeez, and first thing i look at in the paper is the death notices -quite simply they interest me.

davidl
davidl

Are we talking Gerbils ? Bastard !!!

quintile
quintile

OUTrageous – bet the guy’s ears are burning!!

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

He sold small children to the persian carpet trade to feed his addiction. But became embroiled in financial matters of concern to a Ukrainian mafia overlord. His contact, offering financial rescue in exchange for favours, Oktaviana, kept her profile on craigslist under cover. The killing of small animals was a foray gone horribly wrong into an honest trade: butchery. But the suburban ladies only wanted high grade beef or nothing smaller than a delightful baby lamb. He tried one final attempt for help through “Oktaviana” via her craigslist profile…

me
me

Seldom one to laugh out loud. Diary note: 2.58pm 11/8/12 – laugh out loud!!!

Pi
Pi

mille! love. astrogaga perfection x

Bats
Bats

David, You’re a married man in your 50’s. What would you know what we have to put up with in this day and age.

me
me

Yeah David. You shouldnt even know how to use a keyboard, let alone be allowed to dribble all this nonsense about forgiveness, perspective, understanding, “walk a mile in my boots” perpsective crap. Back in to your armchair my friend and if you must, just read, no comments…ok πŸ˜‰

davidl
davidl

Keyboard ? I have a blog secretary who does all the actual computy thingos..problem is she works from a Manilla based call centre and they are flooded out …goddam monsoon..now where we’re we ? Blog ? Shit ? Oh Fuq ….NURSE!!!!!

quintile
quintile

luv ya Dave – you ARE a brave man!

me
me

πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Anon
Anon

Totes off plot – gorgeous pic of sea nymphette in weekend scopes is The Star from Shadowscapes Tarot made real…

http://www.shadowscapes.com/Tarot/cards.php?suit=0&card=17

pi
pi

aww that’s such a beautiful pic! all those golden fishies swimming around her πŸ™‚ and I love the use of watercolour.

Pi
Pi

hahahahahahaha
I’m a latecomer to the “Overly Attached Girlfriend” meme… I thought fitting for a love zombie post πŸ˜€

http://www.buzzfeed.com/samir/overly-attached-girlfriend-is-the-girlfriend-mem?utm_campaign=socialflow&utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=buzzfeed

and Crazy Girlfriend meme
http://cavemancircus.com/2012/01/12/the-best-of-the-crazy-girlfriend-meme/

I don’t know, I love this meme bizness. People’s experiences of very personal things can also be universal …problems … and I love making light of these things πŸ˜€

quintile
quintile

these make me look positively EVOLVED and very sanguine – thanks for posting Pi!!

Pi
Pi

I have to say it would be awesome to be able to read the text on this webpage properly on my blackberry.

fallen angel
fallen angel

LOVE the planned site redevis. Would be hilarious if say I found myself trapped on the moon with naught but my hyper-intuition for comms and the only functioning app on my phone would be this site?

I think I’d manage a way outta there anyway via mind-tapping other life forms (in this case I’d be the alien) on their way to Andromeda and showing my space cred with Mystic’s app!

Pi
Pi

ooh, v good FA. and the other alien species would be AMAZED at your astrological capabilities c/o the smartphone, you would become queen… πŸ˜€

aquaphobe
aquaphobe

Finally in a come down off my McEnroe x Elton schizo fit at everything only to find I’m back in status quo. Love zombies I know who almost broke free are back entrenched in self esteem v dependence warfare… and I don’t want to hear the same problems again. I’m beyond sympathy

Someone here very aptly described the last few months as being in a waiting room/ check in limbo.
I’m getting the “pulled off the flight and back to waiting” due to unspecified glitch this end of the world.

clued up wolf
clued up wolf

YES! The Calendar app sounds like just the ticket – thank you for evolving with the technology – the baddest shit happens when I come here on my mobile it’s very frustrating – also can NEVER log in on my mobile to the dailies. Yet I can on laptop or at work/home etc. Android phone. Any ideas about how I can fix that? I can log in to my webmail etc so it’s not a setting on the phone.

stella
stella

Is that Bogart with Lauren Bacall?

jicky
jicky

he must have been wearing heels

davidl
davidl

yes, just about to reach down to her neck and suck the last few drops of life out of her. OUT DAMNED QI VAMP…LET THIS ZOMBIE ALONE !!! CANT YOU SEE SHES HAD ENOUGH !!!

Anonymous
Anonymous

Mystic,

I like!!! You’re always so ingenius, it’s like you read my mind before I’m conscious of it. Thank you

Savannah
Savannah

I think some of the tarot site readings treat one like a loser. Tarot here would be informative & mature. Calendar also very helpful for sceduling way ahead. Great tools to have access to. πŸ™‚

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Gosh i thought it was just me, and i’d see these freaking fakey psychic ads and ads about stomach fat and Lerve prediction ads and cheesy names with z in them, and think dude you have GOT to get a grip. But i really like the interps on the site i’m referring to as they’re quite a different way of looking at the cards than i originally learned, plus there are some decks i gave away and no longer have. Tarot’s my learning tool. I don’t HAVE stomach fat or wrinkle or lerve issues, and I don’t WANT to speak… Read more »

Pi
Pi

oh i KNOW! What is with those f-ing “this one wierd trick to lose stomach fat” OMFG I want to strangle the company/ person / people who make those ads. Everytime I see them I think… oh it doesn’t matter what I think. but yes. mystic’s tarot would kick ass.

Scorched Earth
Scorched Earth

*giggles*

Anonymous
Anonymous

i really like this picture – to me it sums up the love-z gig – a nebulous being – with stars – almost astrologically arranged πŸ™‚ – but really nothing there .. nothing substantial .. real or sustaining. .. nothing nourshing ..

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

I thought something similar – the dreamy gaze, the empty space, stars, the non-existent embrace πŸ™‚ Yup, signs of LZ state. πŸ™‚

Savannah
Savannah

That’s how I saw the pic too. Very Neptune relationships transit hell.

Anony_Aus
Anony_Aus

Ohhhh LOVE LOVE LOVE the idea of the advanced scheduler!! ADORE!!!
I was lamenting the lack of such a thing when planning a shindig in September. Had to choose the date “blind” so to speak.

Tarot sounds cool too…

And totally grokking the need for chic pragmatism at the moment. STAT.

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

Not about Love Zombie but flying off handle:

Divine perspective today is a must. It’s very early in the morning here and people are grating on my nerves already. Someone cut off my sentence, other sent an off-hand response to my inquiry. Thankfully, I read your post before breakfast, it helped to keep a grip on my reactions.

About my Love Zombie days: My divine lesson is I prefer reality to illusion any day. Seeing things as it is dispels emotional burns.

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

I agree with riverwalker. Calendar will help a lot πŸ˜‰

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

I just had hard-to-complain-about-but-annoying service. Attitude all over it. Nearly frowned but did a quick reset, continued to speak in MY best customer service tones (though i was customer) but whilst not actually looking at the little man, just beside his face (where his other head would be). He dialled it back and looked a tad uncomposed.

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

I revert to using monosyllabic words..It rattles the other party. Usually I end up a short talk on why this kind of behavior is not acceptable, but this time I wasn’t in the mood. There is an internal clock to start the day, any time earlier is inefficient to cope with random dolts.

Scorched Earth
Scorched Earth

Wednesday and Thursday were my days for that.. ugh!

I got through using various coping strategies but man what a drain.

Mystic, the calender will be tops! As will the upgrade and the tarot but definitely the calender. Those kind of trends are super useful for planning ahead.

I’m not love-zombied. I’m sort of numb to all that at the mo. I’m not sure why but it’s not like I feel like I’m missing out πŸ˜‰

riverwalker
riverwalker

Mystic, how fantastic the calendar app will be! Thank you. Cos at the moment I copy and paste important bits into iCal.
I am a Love Zombie in recovery, actively taking steps to move forward but not being able to really get into and enjoy the new, because my horoscopes tell me that something stalled may still come into full, beautiful being soon. So just trying to accept what’s there on a day to day basis and operate as a cautious but loving spirit.