A happily single Libra is sick of people dissing her satisfaction at being single. Where does the concept of Libra needing to be pair-bonded come from?
Dear Mystic and Co,
HELP! I think there is something wrong with me. For a start, I am Libra. Lots of Libra. Very Libra. I’m all about peonies, kittens, windchimes, debating politics, design, fragrance, fashion and vintage movies with beautiful people. I fit every Libra cliche going except for one. Librans are supposed to crave partnership and be scared to be alone.
Well, I am currently single and thrilled with my lot. It has been this way for 18 months now. It would be nice if I fell in love again one day, but I am not looking. I am busy making my life epic, with my work, my child, friends, and a whole range of interests. People – not my close friends – ask me constantly if I am getting any action/met anyone special and seem disapproving or pitying when I say no.
He Said ‘You Need To Put More Effort Into This Or You Might End Up Alone
The last person was today, and he said: “you’re really attractive, you know, you need to put more effort into this or you might end up alone.” This statement haunts me. Am I a slacker? But I am happy and fulfilled. This is probably TMI, but I had a very sexually active 20s, and then I was in a very long relationship which petered out, then I had a bit of an apres marriage jaunt with a few guys, and now I am just pleasantly jaded with men and dating. No drama, needing nor loneliness. Is this something that is okay or should I, as everyone says, make more of an effort?
Love, The Atypical Libra.
Even The Term ‘Single’ Seems Outmoded – Maybe You Need New Friends
My Dear Atypical Libra,
I think the “scared to be alone” thing is possibly Lower Libra. Some of the most fiercely independent and together people I know are Librans. Having-to-be-partnered up is not a Libran trait as such. Libra people are good at forming partnerships and working with others. They dislike confrontation and will turn practically any interaction into a diplomatic, high-functioning duo.
It can occur in any paradigm; a creative collaboration, business enterprise, decent co-parenting arrangement. Perhaps Saturn in Libra has rendered you more thoughtful and self-valuing?
Another thought is that Libra is an Air-Venusian sign. You’re sensual, artistic, and interested in ideas. Once upon a time, the only expression for such a female may have been a marriage to a man with means. But those days are long gone, and there are many paths to fulfillment. Even the term “single” seems outmoded. Maybe you need new friends?
I certainly don’t think people should be charging around like the Relationship Police, trying to guilt-coerce you into dating. What does everyone else think single Libra should do?
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