It’s not what you think. I have spent years thinking about this and believe i have emerged with the solution.
Traditionally, they say you can tell you’re dealing with a Qi Vampire when being around that person makes you feel tired, drained of energy, strangely depleted. So okay, we have all been there. Certain friendships, the end of some relationships, crazy colleagues/biz associates/teachers.
But the primary indicator that what you are dealing with is, in fact, a Qi Vampire is when you go over and OVER the exchange later on in your mind. It is like you just can not let it go, as you do dozens of other potential irritants. For instance, if you get bad service from a disgruntled shop assistant, even if they’re outright rude, you forget all about it shortly after.
Bad or weird service from a Qi Vampire lodges in your psyche. How? Why? I don’t know. But it does. You know what i mean. It should not impact and if you analyze it intellectually, it is irrelevant but somehow the Qi Vampire has gotten in through a chink.
What does the Qi Vampire think is going on in all this? I think they’re only half aware of it.
From their p.o.v. they always think you’ve gotten away with something, that you’re shiny and privileged in a way that they are not.
Their snippy attitude has a lot more oomph behind it than just the standard not-really-a-waitress slacker thing. They are hostile and too cowardly to confront you directly so they attempt to fuq with your confidence. Your annoyance or engagement nurtures them.
And of course, they’re too awful to generate their own life force and ideas.