Strung-Out Love Zombie To Sexy Self-Actualizing Human

BEFORE

Dear Mystic,

You probably get at least 50 messages a day from men and women all over the world venting to you by asking for your advice to see if Partner A or Partner B will work for them. I’ve just come to you to say that I’ve recognized WHY I’ve been so plagued with the inherent desire to be with someone and why I tend to choose such horrible mates. [Prepare for some rapid venting] – Its basically because I usually delude myself into thinking that someone is worth my while because I project my fantasies onto them and pretend that they’ve manifested in whom I choose. My quadruple Kataka Sun, Moon, Vesta and Chiron tend to make things more than a bit messy for me when it comes to clinging onto things instead of letting go.

But as of recently….around mid June I believe, I’ve put all of the pieces together (that I’d been aware of but was ignoring until that point) and I’ve recognized what my issues are and I’m learning from them and re-harnessing their energy to transform them into strengths. That’s Pluto aspecting my Ascendant in Scorpio for ya. I’ve realized that I have all of this wonderful potential, but I’ve been utilizes my strengths incorrectly and blaring out a cannon with my weaknesses. I’m a Cancer Sun and Moon with Leo in my Mercury, Venus, Mars and Jupiter and all of this time, I’ve been trying to pretend that I’ve been a full out Leo because I’ve always been afraid of my scuttly crab like emotions. I’ve always thought that I’ve been immune to celestial transits but I’m starting to think that some crazy planetary shift activated some nodes in my awareness and now I’ve sought out to constantly make myself better.

So in the end, it IS possible for a Love Zombie to become Human. But the only way to achieve that is to undergo a blossoming transformation, engulfed by Rebirth.

Love, Luna

Dear Luna,

Pluto transits are fabulous for undoing any Love Zombie conditioning, expectations or mindset. It’s like uncluttering. Suddenly you turn to some stagnant seeming corner of your mind and spot a hideously inappropriate pattern there. It has to go…NOW. Someone else can pick it up. Not you. Cue light and air into an area of your life/mind/room that was previously sort of no-go or certainly not to be questioned at all.

Actually, you DO have an awful lot of Leo going on there. Pride alone should prevent you from becoming a Love Zombie. Transit-wise, i am betting that Uranus has been amping up your Leo (Love Zombies dull their complexions through binge eating/drinking whilst e-stalking and needy neurotransmitters instead of juicy serotonin from self-respect) and Pluto opposing your Crab stuff…so you run everything through an authenticity filter.

But hey, congratulations. There is life after Love Zombie status and it is so rewarding. I actually only get a couple of emails from Love Zombies a day and they are scary. Like the one where the L.Z blamed me because the married boss she was having it off with sacked her when Venus went Direct. Or the one who skim-read the previous Love Zombies post – Lady, You Don’t Need Astrology – did a massive mis-interp and emailed to ask me to mix her up a potion that could “command a man to love against his will” and then when i said no/suggested therapy, she responded with “pity, you’re not much of an astrologer than are you?”

Anyway, here’s to awesome Pluto transits, especially punctual when Pluto is in Cap and yes, they get the job done.  Oh and Luna – you have Scorpio Rising…Could you plausibly play a vampire in a glamorous mini-series? I ask to prove/disprove my theory that you can tell someone is Scorpio Rising if they’re vampy.    xxx

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Melanie
Melanie

My Husband is Scorp rising and very Vampy. He even has that Dracula hair line thing going on.
Wow! Amazing observation. Scorp rising = Vampiresque.
Suits my Venus in Pisces Square Nuptune loving problem preference for fantasy lovers 🙂

missfine
missfine

i think its safe to say i recovered from being a love zombie…christ, it was BAD! saw a friend recently who was tisk-tisking me through the whole thing (she was once a zombie, too, now with a great guy). it was the first time she met my new, very nice, boyfriend and she was like, “it’s better on the other side, right?” YES IT IS GOOD LORD!!!

Charley
Charley

I’m a Love Zombie get me out of here. NO really.

My Plutonic 7th house just manifested in all its blazing glory, for the first time in ooooh at least a decade. There I was thinking Saturn had finally sent me on the path to being an enlightened self actualising eagle but in fact I’m just a totally bats low Scorp scuttling around on the ground in a jealous rage. Bah.

catfish moon
catfish moon

Being a love zombie sucks. Break free people!!!

rache (aqua/tauri)
rache (aqua/tauri)

pluto conjunct my venus turned me into a love zombie. 🙁

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Going through a major transition with relationships. I am so detaching and was feeling really good when I found out my guy was out of town (Hometown).. I honestly thought he was moving back to that area. I felt comfortable and more secure with that. WELL, he’s back. Ugh, I have a pit in my stomach. I am realizing so much about him but for me relying on being comfortable with being a victim all the time, it is hard for me to go back to the detached mode. I go into the love zombie show and today I started… Read more »

milleunanotte
milleunanotte

Virgo Ellie, i know you know this, but transformation is not immediate for most of us; it kind of spirals upwards, which feels a bit like going in circles. You have the greatest gift: realisation. You can’t run from this, not really and not permanently, once you have it. This realisation grows and becomes more detailed and more eureka. Trust yourself to grow through this. It’s like you’ve already promised yourself you will, but be as gentle with yourself as you would a child learning something. Be kind when you fall over, dust yourself off, give her a hug and… Read more »

watervirgo
watervirgo

Why do we get involved in relationships that take us to bad places in ourselves? Or the crappy beach that Mystic so beautifully described?

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Watervirgo, I take it as though I am trying to recover from something in my past. I have had some troublesome relationships with men when I was younger (family) so when I go to these “bad” places, especially with my current guy, I dig deep to try and find out what I am feeling and why. It relates to my upbrining. So, I might be recovering from 2 things. My current relationship and my past relationships.. maybe!

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

milleunanotte, I came back to this post to review. Thank you for your response. I have a hard time with things growing slowly. So, what you said came clear to me. It is a transition, work through it as slowly as it may be dust myself off when I fall and wait until I am experienced to deal with relationship issues that might come up in the future because it will be a lot easier and maybe more stable and loving. I am a good person and deserve a good response from some who appreciates my genuine pure heart! <3… Read more »

Min
Min

It’s alright to cry. It takes time. You can do a simple candle ritual – by the way, Paul McKenna (Brit hypnotherapist) has written an excellent book with CD about how to get over love affairs with visualisation tracks etc. Or you can get it all out physically – smack a pillow/cushion with a tennis racket 🙂 or light a candle and see it as your relationship, as the candle burns, so your relationship goes.. Good luck x

Anonymous
Anonymous

Thanks to you both, sweets!! I just can’t figure it out now. I will take what you say and slowly incorporate into my “boundaries”… I can’t believe I have gotten to the place of “I can’t waste my pure love on someone like I have without them showing me a little bit of theirs”… I am learning a lot! Thank you again and I will look for those CDs. I do A LOT of visualization but maybe not strong enough!! 🙂

Min
Min

🙂 You can always channel Miss Piggy “Hyyyah!!” And then stomp off with your head in the air, for some ‘hot shoe’ retail therapy. Put on some bling and strut your stuff Sis!

Virgo Ellie
Virgo Ellie

Love that Min!! 🙂

Min
Min

Have been off with flu, and was watching kids TV, as you do, sniffling. Saw an amazing Ben 10 cartoon with female Love Zombies giving all their energy to a guy called MorningStar – they fell in lurve with his looks, and he sucked all the colour right out of ’em to fund himself – then they all descended on him en masse and sucked it back – he was left an old, broken zombie ex-lurve cartoon hero. Had to laugh x Art imitates life etc

release the gentle spirit
release the gentle spirit

I love Cindy Sherman, lol! No coincidence I suppose, but I think I have had the century’s biggest shift in awareness this week. I have always had a vague idea that my mother, who went through various stages of religious zealotry and fundamentalism when I was a kid, was pretty influential on my subsequent relationships. (Like attempting to exorcise the evil from me, having her friends ambush me and pray for me, bombarding me with religious paraphernalia, hostile bible verses displayed with the purpose to confuse and scare etc…didn’t make me want to befriend the other Sunday Schoolies, and probably… Read more »

release the gentle spirit
release the gentle spirit

and err, multi cap, cancer rising etc…plutonic?!

Charley
Charley

It’s good to get there even if you feel like you’ve been transported back, you haven’t, it’s actually the opposite. Big leaps!

Ms.
Ms.

powerful stuff. I had a realisation with my mother the other day (whilst politely telling her off…) though its not love orientated its about money and security. After outing a certain something in the previous post mainly due to shock someone had mentioned it, I am sure it’s not entire bizzare that I should have a few hangovers surrounding the issue of security and home given that most people do not end up on the street or in hostels. Saturn is still 2 conjunct from Pluto in my 4th house Libra whilst my Mc/Ic is getting zapped proper. Ironically though… Read more »

Lucy
Lucy

Love the AFTER pic. Prefer boy shorts to bikini, and the HAT, love the hat.

Such a literally refreshing tude in water versus Ugh.

fallen angel
fallen angel

I love the “somewhere”. As yes, Disneyland makes me shudder – when I first moved here the family friend I stayed with had kids AND all season passes, my Goddess, if I could ever think of a place that would drive me to a psychotic break, Disney would be it. Even riding through the Small World display makes me think they should’ve given me a gun as it struck me as a shooting range for some reason.. Soz for the violent reaction but you know..I think it’s lovely your son can articulate the need to explore/travel – be somewhere else.… Read more »

fallen angel
fallen angel

hmm was trying to reply to Scorporation..

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

ahahaha– a shooting range! I’ve never been there (and don’t ever plan to go), but from what I’ve heard the Small World thing does sound like a shooting range! Nice, FA. All the Disney “classics” are so sexist/racist/etc., and I’m sick of their tendency to kill/cut out mothers from their little stories. *puke* One animated film that Disney had a hand in that I absolutely adore: Ponyo. I Love Ponyo! One film hardly redeems decades of stereotypical oppressive messages, though, of course. FA, you ever see the little animated short on SNL re Disney? Now, That is a classic! haha… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Unrelated: Far out pic on the Weekly Scopes! Love it x10. My son (Cap Sun, Kataka asc, Gem Moon) apparently wants to take a trip very badly. He thought the yogurt I bought him at the grocery offered a link on the package to enter a contest to win a vacation to Disneyland; he cried last night when I could find no such link/contest on the yogurt package. I was surprised that he was so into the Disneyland thing cuz we’re not really purveyors of such: “Really?? You want to go to Disneyland?” And he cried, “I just want to… Read more »

fluidfeline
fluidfeline

Aawww Suggestion if I may?!!? Schedule some 6th house Saggability with Plutonic themes into his regular schedule or get him a horse/pony?!

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

omg– there’s nothing that would better for us than some horses!! Sadly, though, I don’t have the ways and means for even one pony at this juncture 🙁

Great Suggestion, fluidfeline!

Pi
Pi

horses are a marvellous way to be independent and roam around, but they eat money. Unless you have a lot of cash behind you… I feel for your little boy ‘just wanting to go somewhere!’ it’s a change of environment, looking at new landscapes, sights, sounds, people, where the air smells different. Maybe they two of you could pull the world atlas off the shelves, or get the globe and spin it and point a finger to stop it at random, then research the country that you land on? you could look up all the things that travel might involve… Read more »

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

Such an awesome idea, Pi, researching a destination together! Yes, we’re in the US, and there are plenty of places to explore here that either of us have yet to see. So true.

I hope you get to go *somewhere* soon, too! xoxo

Messy leo
Messy leo

Awesome post. I broke out of a 5.5 yr dead-end relationship the first day of Uran. sq. Pluto exact. It feels great, I’m just trying not to fall into those same old bullsh!t fantasy patterns myself. Neptune rising, trine Sun, inconjunct Venus in Cancer in the 7th. I’m trying to focus on just doing/loving me for a while 🙂

Fifi
Fifi

Ok this might sound like a really dumb question, it’s a Pluto transit question (am not quite up to speed on aspects and transits)… Pluto is currently about a third of the way into my 10th house. I have no planets in my 10th, 11th or 12th. Can anyone tell me if this means that I’m not really affected by Pluto transiting these houses…or do I need to look at aspects it may form with any natal planets in other houses, in which case does it affect both houses? Any help much appreciated…

Anonymous
Anonymous

hey fifi. pluto will still exert itself in your 10th. you may have noticed something pretty major when it crossed your MC a few years ago?

and yes, have a look at the major aspects it is forming w other planets and chart angles e.g. asc/dsc.

Fifi
Fifi

Thanks for your help Anon, yes there was a major event a couple of years ago, pretty traumatic actually!
The issue preceding the event starting about 8 months before that…will look into other aspects and learn some more !

Fifi
Fifi

Mystic,was just working my way down here to say how I loved the before and after pics !! Nothing like a visual to capture a feeling!!

So looking forward to the Scorpio Scopes…

Chrysalis
Chrysalis

This is great! I was wondering the other day, ‘does Mystic ever get emails from people recounting inspirational Love Zombie recovery stories amongst all the cringeworthy angst?’ 🙂

As a multi-conjunct Piscean, I love transformation stories, so go Luna!

Eon
Eon

i recently read this book called ‘facing your love addiction’ by pia mellody and had many ah-ha moments. she has a concept about love addicts (who have abandonment issues) and love avoidants (who have intimacy issues) and how they often are drawn together for a sloppy, codependant, dysfunctional, high-low tango, lol.

Ms.
Ms.

hi- lo tango! brilliant!

leogroover
leogroover

omg too funny coz its so true of my just freshly left LZ stitch. eon thx for summing it up so well. a messy lop sided tango with a drunken sloppy band in the background playing bad bad latino in a hazy dungy hall that badly needed the windows opened and the girl did open them and behold she saw the light and got the fuq out of there real fast.

scorpiorising
scorpiorising

sounds about right.
I don’t miss that crazy tango.

Ms.
Ms.

p.s I love transformation stories YAY Dear love zombie gone human USE that scorpio asc to transform. Mystic is right, all that leo should be pride personified. I think some of us with the largest ego’s have the hardest time owning that power until we realise we are not the victim of anything but ourselves. I have a stupid amount of pride re love and vigilantly stalk my boundaries for cracks and command an eternity of respect from my lovers or they can fuq right off. They are words I live by. When you can transform you become an agent… Read more »

ash
ash

so so wise!

Aquaria
Aquaria

Hehehe, this sounds vaguely familiar, in reverse, sort of … I was/am projecting stuff onto someone and then boom I said … look at you, this guy is so fantastic, and you are not, so if you want him, you’d better become uber-extreme-fantastic as well. It works a treat, I am always and forever striving to become the Self I wanted to be and just overall awesome. Life is so much better with him, I can never undo my Love-Zombieness. And, since Mr. Fantastic obviously is far too cool to stalk anyone, or bombard with messages or somesuch, I cannot… Read more »

Ms.
Ms.

Please make me the minister for your complaints department. I would have a field day 😀

Andromeda
Andromeda

So want to read yr replies!!! 😀

fluidfeline
fluidfeline

Yess! Priceless 😆

scorpiorising
scorpiorising

MM Too much insanity! I would end up laughing just to cope with the insanity. I get my fair share too (for being a performer), and it’s mind-boggling bizarre! Sometimes, it can be rather frightening.
Keep up the good spirits and humor.

fallen angel
fallen angel

Ms. darling, you do the complaints, I’ll take charge of the Department of Flogging. As we all well know, peeps learn via different er.. modalities and sometimes we just need the flog the zombie out so only the love remains ya? 🙂

It could be two-step deprogramming haha.. of course, I only flog RESPONSIBLY.

Scorporation, Inc.
Scorporation, Inc.

I think it’s a wonderful idea.

fluidfeline
fluidfeline

we could start a 12 step program for Love Zombies….

TheEmpress
TheEmpress

I was going to say “Naughty Angel and what will the uniform requirement be of said flogger?” 😉

Instead I shall say: Great idea 🙂

Creatrix
Creatrix

Luna, having Neptune/NN in the 7th + Merc, Venus & Sat in Cancer I do relate! SaggEx who I idealised to the point of becoming a Lobotomised- Love Zombie now has tangled hair, lives in a bamboo shack on the beach and is no doubt covered in bird poo. I thank Goddess for Saturn every day for breaking us up & teaching me about self-love. MM, golly, I can’t believe you have to put up with such guff. I’d be ashamed ask you to make anything that would make anyone do something against their will. Not much of an astrologer?… Read more »

ash
ash

Creatrix, great expression: “Lobotomised Love Zombie” !
Your comment has such honesty. 🙂

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

I saw the link on twitter, just jumped over – another post with insightful and hilarious comments to ensue for sure.

I thought previous posts and comments had provided ample evidence that life exists post love zombie state…. depending on how deep you were into that state, post-love zombie life can feel like the first breath you took in this life or make you feel cleaning the gunk under your shoe that you picked up off street.

Self-respect is like learning to ride a bike or driving – once you get it, you never forget.

leogroover
leogroover

awesome stuff Quad doopily doop

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

Next year my progressed Sun is moving into Leo – will this make me honorary Leo? 🙂

fluidfeline
fluidfeline

Yup 🙂 I’m just ending my honorary progressed Sun in Virgo and entering into Libby Fleur territory – AND am noticing the Libby vibes big time -need for balance/beauty/fragrances 😉 Purr to you Quadrupled xox

Quadrupled
Quadrupled

I better check tips of Mystic and start collecting tips from Leos here on “How to be a haute Leo” 🙂

watervirgo
watervirgo

Love the self-respect quote.