Are you a Down-Dater? And if so, what is your Sun and/or Venus sign? Or was there a particular transit in which you became a Down-Dater?
Just to be clear, Down-Dating is not like when one of you is an opera singer and the other is a garbage collector but you’re blissfully happy together, compatible and who gives a damn about any discrepancy in income/status?
Down-Dating is when one of you is essentially sane and civilised, more or less aligned to current societal values and the other person is, like, so rude, out-of-it, angry, emotionally inept or droolingly nuts that your friends cannot fail to comment on the dis-equililbrium.
Astrologically, it is linked to dodgy Venus-Saturn aspects – you have a self-worth problem so that you sincerely think this is the best you can get or that it’s better than being alone or crappo Venus-Uranus aspects: the idea of being happy or content is just so unspeakably bourgeois and boring.
Virgo and Pisces seem to Down-Date more than the other signs: WHY? So that the Virgo can get off on correctively nagging the devotee? And Pisces can go on some sort of “it’s-so-karmic” redemption trip?