Why is it so hard to break up with a Taurus? Are Taurus and Libra relationships particularly fraught? Mystic advises a Libra in the thick of it.
As a triple Libra, being reasonable is somewhat of a religion with me. It may be a cliche, but I am most often the peacemaker in my group of friends, and my job is in the conflict resolution field. So, I was somewhat surprised when after a recent amicable break up with a Taurus, to get a crazy letter from him. It contained an invoice (!) for all the money he had spent on me, some stuff he left at my house and the petrol he had spent coming over to see me. These are just examples. It is a ten-page document with attached photocopies of receipts and a spreadsheet. He is a lawyer but STILL WTF?
This is fuqing with my mind, and I am experiencing what can only be described as violent urges towards him, quite alien to me, I assure you. Now, this is not a legal demand, and he assures me that he is not taking legal action against me as, well, he can’t. But Taurus Lawyer says NOTHING of the reasons I dropped him but just that as the relationship has failed to live up to his expectations, he is seeking some redress for his expenses over the past year.
My question: Is this normal for Taurus men? Is this at all normal for anyone? I am so freaked out by this. I adored him at one point. And I was even vaguely wondering if I had made the wrong decision and whether I should reach out for another try. But this makes me feel ill. Did he think it was a transaction the whole time?
The Libran PreRaphaelite
Taurus and Libra Relationships Do Often End Up Being All About ‘The Stuff.’
Dear Libran PreRaphaelite,
Actually, I had a Libran friend at school whose Scorpio mother issued her with just such a bill when she turned 18. Only it was from when my friend had been adopted, at age two. Scorpio Mom did not expect a payment, but she wanted her expenses seen and acknowledged. And yes, they were itemized.
Okay, my thoughts: You had a lucky escape. Imagine if you were married to Taurus Lawyer. Or living with him and getting invoices every week. Or knowing his consciousness was that transactional and begrudging. You’re both Venus-ruled signs, so I am sure you got along wonderfully on some levels. But this feels like a Saturn malfunction on his part. It’s not a normal Taurus thing. I think he wanted to hurt you, to belittle you by saying in writing that he believes he “fired” you.
You have two choices. (1) Ignore the whole thing and carry on resolving conflicts, being fabulous. (2) Send him an invoice back. Bill him for sex, your transport fees, cosmetics, waxing and the cost of osteopathic treatments to de-kink your clenched jaw from his pompous drivel.
Taureans do tend to act out emotions via their stuff. They don’t like it being messed with, and well, maybe this is his screwed up way of saying he loves you and he did invest a lot of feelings and hopes in you? Taurus and Libra relationships do often end up being all about the stuff. You’re both sensual and acquisitive with a fabulous aesthetic. At worst, it means that you wind up with ridiculous communiques like this crap.
What do other people think?
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