How To Tell If A Virgo Man Is In Love With You?

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Mystic advises a normally super-cool Aquarius woman being sent nuts by a reserved Virgo. She asks How does a Virgo man in love even act?

“Hi, Mystic,

So I believe something started recently between myself (Aquarius) and a Virgo Solar Engineer.  I’m usually not one to dabble in the land of Virgo; I have to admit. I typically get on with the Geminis, Librans and the occasional Scorp. But something with the Virgo Solar Engineer clicked. I’m not sure if it was the engineering part, the liking of The Cure as much as him or me wanting to save the planet that did it. The veggie garden and constant tea drinking sealed the deal. 

We had a wonderful night at my place, I cooked him dinner, we watched True Blood, drank lots of wine and he stayed over. It was lovely. Then work, and uni consumes him. And I get the occasional email and after it doesn’t consume him, beautiful apologetic emails for lack of communication. Meanwhile, I’m going f*ing nuts. Where’s my next email? Why isn’t he going nuts as well? What’s he doing, what’s he thinking, is he thinking about me, blah blah blah. I’ve been checking my inbox like a crazy person. It’s been incredibly disconcerting for someone who is usually pretty cool when it comes to guys – calm, collected, reasonably aloof. A lot of “Meh” and “I’m in control – I hold power.”

But the way I’m reacting this time around has thrown me completely off balance. And I know I’m a bloody nutcase. So after a little bit, I ask if he wants to do something during the week (last week) if he’s free, and yes he does, do I want to go to a movie? And we do, and it’s very nice, and even though when I’m not with him I’m crazy, it’s so easy to be around him. It like I’ve known him for years, and I’m not instantly comfortable with people (not even if I’ve slept with them).

Then, the next day I get a photo of him up on top of a roof of a business he’s just finished a project for, thumbs up on a job well done for his solar energy design and it’s all very impressive, and I say as such, etc. Then, after much regular consultation with my other lovely socially awkward Aqua friend, vow to not email him over the weekend even though every spare minute I have on the computer I’d love to do just that.

But I resisted, especially after your infinitely well-timed post forbidding me from doing just that. Oh and also he had asked after the movie, to come over again to my place to which instead of me asking when he would and set a time, I say “Yeah, that’d be great, let me know.” So I email him Monday, call him Apollo, joke about the sun, ask how Zeus was for Father’s Day (I know, I’m incredibly INCREDIBLY lame sometimes) and propose he come over during the week if he’s free.  And yes, it is only Wednesday, and I’m SINCERELY hoping the tension breaks, or I stop thinking about it so much or whatever else will stop the madness, but he hasn’t emailed me back, and I’m about to lose my shit.

I’ve about had it up to here! But in amongst that, work has just been fantastic and challenging, and I’m getting a significant pay rise. So woo! It’s not all bad; it’s just the love life that’s frustrating as hell and rooted at the moment. I keep reading your tips and the daily scopes and pray that I get some bloody relief soon.

You’re great Mystic, a lovely intelligent calming logical bubble in amongst the crazy emotional shit that I’m struggling with after so long in the Love Wilderness. Bless you!!!! And I’ll take you up more advice and go work off the craziness in the gym (hopefully, though a lot of the time it just gives me more time to think).  Please Help.

The Aqua Lunatic.”

Reminder – Virgo Men Have Virgo Vision

Dear Aqua Lunatic,

Help with WHAT? A Virgo Man in love does not act like a Gemini or a Libra with feelings. He’s smart, and he’s slept with you. He’s had the opportunity to clock your environment and form a working data hypothesis. He would have picked up that you don’t like clingy guys or possessive people. Remember, he has Virgo Vision.

As for Virgo Solar Engineer – I am starting to think that Virgos are the only sign capable of messing with the Aqua-Cool.

Okay, what would you do if Virgo called you and started whining needily? Would you still like him so much, or are you secretly getting off on how elusive he is?

Nothing is going wrong here except that you like a guy – always infuriating to Aquarians. And to answer your original question, Virgos show their love or regard for you by doing practical things for you. He’ll offer to pick something up for you or fix a household item: no flowery words, no scenes – just a practical gesture. Virgo and Aquarius are a good fit in this regard. Neither like public displays of affection or soap-operatic scenes.

 

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Queenmani

so i’m new here, very new, as in literally just joined 5 seconds ago and i am already asking myself so many questions: i am a sagittarius, in love with Virgo (i know wtf)..and well i dont know what to do because they’re such asses. thanks for any insight.

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Hmmm. Interesting theory, shell. I shall also think on that….

shell
shell

You know what I really like about this post, the way all you Aqua’s have talked about getting all obsessive and drama queenie seems to really illustrate the way that your 7th house ruler (ha ha, Leo) comes out in one to one relations. Its a topic I’ve been thinking on of late, the way one may ‘project’ the 7th house sign in 7th house matters.
And I like that you have engaged so much in us all picking you apart Aqua Lunatic, very brave, gracious and dignified of you. Bravo.

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

You know, I feel so MUCH better being able to decipher the Why from everyone’s own experiences, because – Virgo Man, new territory. Now that I understand, rather than running around insane with no clue, the blessed calm has descended… Hooray!

Aquasun
Aquasun

Also, I think feeling overwhelmed by emotions is a very Aqua thing. We’re so detached and unemotional that when we begin to actually *feel* something and cannot rationalise it – we feel like we’re losing control, like we’ve been drowned in it. I find this is when diary/journal writing helps to calm thing down and perhaps breakdown our emotions into Aqua-digestible sizes.

Aquasun
Aquasun

Hi Aqua Lunatic, I completely understand your situation. I dated a Virgo a while back and it sent me a bit bats, though I never really showed it as I felt I was being a bit over the top/obsessive! I was very blaze at the beginning as I wasn’t very interested but he was full on – texts, emails, phone calls – and did *all* the chasing. After a while I decided to give it a go and we started dating, as time passed I began to like him more and more and began to open myself up – demonstrating… Read more »

Degrassi
Degrassi

I’m an Aries girl currently seeing a Virgo boy and mon got it was a nightmare the first 8 WEEKS! But – I played him at his own game. I was lucky as it all went down during the Christmas rush, however: * I was uber busy – wouldn’t go on a date with him until 2 wks after we first met… (I cancelled the first one on him as I decided in my head that if he didn’t contact me the day before to confirm, I would have other plans – 2pm the day of the date and I… Read more »

Pisces in CQ
Pisces in CQ

To the aqua lunatic who ‘penned’ the letter.

I had a mand that drove me mad like that – and I didn’t like the way I was acting and reacting!

He’s now my husband and the adoration only sways occasionally.

It’s called “chemistry”!

Pisces in CQ
Pisces in CQ

OMG. Has that photo been doctored or is it for real? How amazing!

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Oh, and I’d agree, hang tight and spend some of that $ on yourself….. enjoy it and be fabulous.
It’s works either way, right?

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

I will vouch for the Virgos and the Aqua messing…..

VS
VS

Coming from a Virgo-

Sounds like he likes you, Aqua Lady. I am sure he is just as crazy about you.

I agree with Mystic, you like his independence and his identity.

Massage yours, now, and he will take notice. A Virgo Man always loves a confident, cool woman.

VS

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Thanks VS – looking back he was quite jump up and down “pay attention to me, see me!!” when I was elusive and “very busy”…. I shall be so again!

ArienScorp
ArienScorp

When I’m available and actively seeking, I like to see a few at a time, instead of take them one-by-one. Then, when one stands out, I let the others go. My Sagg friend and I have been exploring a sort of long distance thing, but it has holes which I think a nice Scorp could fill up. I lean towards the poly tho.. Saves obsessing and builds confidence. Perhaps not helpful advice as most seem to like them one at a time. The Virgo sounds fun to play with, but if he consistently is screwing with your expectations, different could… Read more »

Aquamazed
Aquamazed

Aqua Lunatic – Do you think that the reason Aquas don’t go around telling people that we are so great/talented/worldy blah blah is because we don’t need to? And the reason we don’t need to is because we have this unshifting belief that we are actually quite superior in all sorts of ways to most people and therefore don’t need to sprout off about it? God I hope I am wrong but I sometimes think this about myself (Aqua). I therefore think that we get blown backwards when someone fails to be madly impressed by us and can’t understand what… Read more »

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

LOL – I think yes there is an element of that to it Aquamazed. Hopefully not quite as toxic as Sophie Lee, but I suppose when you are used to be a certain level of adoration when it does come your way…to not be hit over the head with it takes a bit of getting used to 😛

sv
sv

It’s very true with my aqua (I’m a virguy), you are completely on point with the exception that she actually talks highly of herself – something which just confuses me.
She point blank told me how good looking she was when first talking, and to my surprise it was more than true – she was gorgeous. The more I know though, she seems to be quite right about having a lot of pride.
I often don’t pay attention when she pats herself on the back, it does confuse her.

sag blue horse
sag blue horse

Sorry that was a bit random, I meant Mystics, and then having read all the other stuff that is too. I hope you solve your issue and keep us posted on what happens for you

sag blue horse
sag blue horse

very practical and kindly advice

Jane
Jane

At last we aquas are revealed for the obsessive creatures we sometimes are.. look at all those posts from aquarians. I too am a bit of a lunatic over a man at the moment… hence obsessively visiting this site in the hope of reading something i can mentally manipulate to mean what i want it to. Am trying to keep thinking, this is my madness, it will pass, while distracting myself. But put it this way i function, but cannot distract myself more than momentarily. After several weeks when restraint felt imperative, I have given up and plan to call… Read more »

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

HA! Upright bipedal mung bean. Classic. If he ends up threatened by the intelligence, more fool him I suppose. Though he signed off his last email “Yours Argandly” in reference to the mathematical prison he has encased himself in.

If nothing else, he at least respects the intelligence….

prowlncat
prowlncat

Virgo’s don’t fuq around … when they see what they want they go for it.

Virgo’s are highly analytical and can pretty much head fuq anything they desire including their own heads. Their idea of sex play is discussing the gaseous exchange between herbivores and dung beetles (vast generalisation here but the Virgo’s know what I’m getting at) … are you REALLY up for this challenge???

prowlncat
prowlncat

look all I can say is when you’re talking to a Virgo … mention “symbiotic” a lot … they appear to enjoy that word. Also get a dictionary, a thesaurus, a scrabble set, a chess set, a subscription to The New Scientist … and say goodbye to gastric peace (they always have a food allergy lurking).

GOOD LUCK! *heart*

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Oh waaaaaay ahead of you on the dictionary/thesaurus. My use of “archaic” words is very attractive apparently 🙂 Haven’t experienced the food allergy yet (the bastard can eat whatever he wants and stay the size of a 6’4″ stick insect, or praying mantis, ha) but he is asthmatic and washes his sheets with eucalyptus oil….sigh. Endearing though.

prowlncat
prowlncat

yes but you need to understand the lymbic structure and coordinates behind the freakin whole mechanism of nuclear fusion, which is not to be confused with nuclear fission, and to mistake the difference is so vast a miscomprehention as to suggest to Virgo that he is from Eucalyptus and you are from Aeomeba.

Did I mention that Virgo men are threatened by women of equal or superior intelligence to their own? Mystic has oft commented that they go for what I call “upright bipedal mung bean” … or for a quick visual – Amish.

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

I haven’t gotten the impression our Herb’s here has been threatened by his wife intellectually.

Please Herb’s what is it….Tell the truth so we can know or not ‘fo shuh’s

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

x….(I’m sorry I forgot..)

Aqua moon
Aqua moon

“What is for you, won’t go past you”

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Too true 🙂

shell
shell

I love that phrase.
Here’s one whatever posted ages ago that I also thought was very cool.
Acknowledging yourself as creator of the harmony and disharmony that you experience gives you security in your ability to experience what is created. Once you are willing to undergo the possibility of disharmony in relationships, you have the capacity to activate yourself by sharing your honest, individual point of view.

virgo rising
virgo rising

If it isn’t easy it isn’t right.
If you are so unbalanced from just a couple of encounters, I’d say give this guy a wide berth…he’s not for you.
It is amazing how often we are attracted to someone who is hazardous to our health…………..

hummingbird
hummingbird

Yes totally agree with that VR…and it’s funny how often we try to justify it all…also strange but seem to have quite a few similar cases around me at the moment too…

shell
shell

I’m not sure I agree. It is not possible that this kind of unsteadiness can come from encountering a person who challenges your established patterns of behaviour, in a good way? Sounds like AL’s distress is coming from her interpretations of what she thinks should and should not happen, not from the boy himself or from her experiences/relations with the boy. i.e. sometimes it ain’t easy because you’ve seriously got to shift some patterns in yourself (like wearing big ‘back off’ neon signs for so long you’ve forgotten about them for eg.) Yes, that may also be a Voodoo lounge… Read more »

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Thanks Shell…despite my lunacy, I am still able to function (full time work in analytical job and all) on higher levels most of time. Always open to growth. And the frustration springs alot from becoming accustomed to a certain level and frequency of communication from him and then being thrown off by a distinct reduction. All in all, we’ll see how it pans out, gotten alot of varied and great advice today which has all been filed in ye olde Brain.

shell
shell

You’re most welcome. I so know where you are coming from. A lot of that little rant is me defending to myself my own somewhat questionable decision to not bail on something that drives me about the same kind of mental…
Saying ‘I don’t know’ seems to help.

Hummingbird
Hummingbird

Yes agree with all – and also remember as a Virgo he will not go into anything lightly at all!..but will weigh it all up, be ultra-practical and certain before he moves forward- sounds like this could also be what he is doing now…so yes, heed everyone’s advice and if it’s meant to be it will be!..eventually anyway!..

Aqua moon
Aqua moon

Aquarians, cool? Me think not. I find Aquarians to be very easily obsessed with their objects of desire. They are extremists and they love the extreme feelings they have… they sink into these intense feelings like warm nutella being poured on toast… it clarifies to them that they are ‘living’. If you wanna play the game with a Virgo – I would write back to his email and tell him that you’re “going away for a month/uncontactable etc… maybe you’ll catch up when you get back”. All of a sudden the Virgo wants something he can’t get… and it will… Read more »

bluelibra
bluelibra

‘warm nutella being poured on toast..’ mmmmm

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Unfortunately I’ve cut out wheat and am saying no to chocolate lol. But yes, I agree with you in regards to the easily obsessed part. It’s the care factor I think. If I’m not completely interested, it’s extremely easy to be detached.

However if the guy is super great…..bang it’s on. Hence, crazytown. It’s been nice to gain some sanity and perspective today however!

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

I do concur usually you are pretty level headed on an intensity scale with blokes and you’re low key mostly with everyone else (and it’s good that you’ve stopped getting a pained look on your face when you mention having Leo parents).

Maybe you have something happening in the back of your chart so to speak that’s ramping this up a little.

Just throwing another theory out there for your post gym workout, how many planets do you have lurking in scorp Ms AL? Maybe you’re having some batshit transit?

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

At least three planets in Scorp that I can remember..

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

Actually I just read shell’s comment below about how some times you come across someone that just throws you because you’ve just not had that experience. I think that is a more likely scenario than the scorp planets. I’m going back to bed . No matter what you’ll be fine.

aqua lion
aqua lion

Hi Mystic, I’m with you… can’t see this guy has done anything wrong except not be quite obsessed enough with you for your liking. Personally I can’t handle the people who need to be phoned, texted, given little smoogie reminder presents every five minutes to reassure them that they are still alive. He seems to have things in balance and perspective! Not sure why you are going so ape about it, are you a High Maintenance Woman??? That is very untypically Aquarius…. Maybe you have Venus in Pisces or something a bit more needy. I have a friend with Venus… Read more »

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

No he hasn’t done anything in wrong and I’m extremely unneedy usually with anyone, not just men. Venus is in Cap…my only pisces is my rising. But it has been a complete desert with regards to men who are normal and not mind gamey or up themselves the past couple of years and I think it is the fact that he IS normal and lovely and the pace of everything is Normal that has thrown me. I asked the Universe for a normal relationship and now that there’s the possibility of one, I’m used to everything being completely F’d and… Read more »

bluelibra
bluelibra

Sorry A L but I read: ‘I cannot make any plans at this time,..’ = as he is feeling pressured = Back away.

(NB: This is from a paranoid & unbalanced Libra girl…)

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Oh I totally totally agree. I sent a very short commiserative email in regards to his busy-ness, said talk to you later and have not peeped since then. I avow not to peep.

I WILL be Cool goddamnit 🙂

shell
shell

Do you know his Mars, Venus and Moon signs?
That may shed some light.

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

Yes the Moon & Mars would give some good “tell-tell'” of his general feeling nature and how he goes about getting his needs met.

Sometimes it’s cool to not know these things as then we don’t have preconceived notions. But I would probably peek…Pluto in 3rd conjunct the IC….I must get to the bottom of things….Be he need never know that you did hehe….

Anyway, be good 😉 x

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

So he did actually end up replying to me, the next day after I sent the freak out email and I thought for some comic relief I’d give you guys a direct quote from his reply…

“I cannot make any plans at this time, I will be doing concillatory parental activities, namely chopping down a tree on the weekend and digging out roots. Sorry Demeter. My solar endeavours are on hold, I’m currently immersed in the wonderful world of complex numbers, modulus and principle argument etc. My brain hurts”

And so my eye rolling continues, lol.

year of the fox
year of the fox

Let me tell you a thing or 2 about Virg-men, hell almost all men-folks…but most esp Virg-men. Don’t get involved with them based on their music tastes. Sure it’s all delightful not to fight over the tunes, but I’ve already been there, done that, and can’t recommend it. One particular Virgo specimen, we had almost a 99.9% musical taste match, but everything else was crap and i didn’t see it til a few months later. (I have a Venus in Virgo and my MC is there too so i have a particular weakness for them. 3 major relationships in a… Read more »

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Thank you mother for the advice as well. I do have alot of great things going on (all to which I have a certain amount of control over at the moment, that’s part of the issue :-S ).

Everyone has been extremely helpful, sanity and logic always help calm down the Freneticism.

P.S. I hope you are feeling better, if you need me to send you vitamins let me know. xx

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

Yes please. I only have eight olive leaf capsules left. Is it overnight delivery? Also could you send anything else you think is appropriate (but not that stuff I have to put in the fridge I always forget to take it.)

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

It’s not overnight delivery at the moment, but I could send them express myself. Might have to wait til tomorrow for me to send them though mother, don’t think I’ll be able to get to the post office in time today.

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

Good point, I just looked at the time…I will go find some artificial something or other to make my head hurt less. Thanks though.

shell
shell

are you poorly LL?
Hope you get well soon
What happened to the travel/study thing?

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

I’ve been mini-slammed by some bug shell. I’m hoping for a quick turn around. I fought off something else a while back by cocooning for 24 hours with good food, water and lots of sleep. I need to get out to get some food now before I lose this little bit of energy. Study and travel are still on the cards. I’m in a fairly comfortable position financially if I’m careful, so am taking the next few months to really focus on establishing sustainable fiction writing work habits. It’s taken till lately for me to allow myself to have a… Read more »

shell
shell

Great news re the writing, can be a tough thing self-managing that kind of work. (she says whilst faffing online rather than attending to her own writing requirements…oopps)

shell
shell

Oh my god, that’s so cute!
Busted by your mum.

shell
shell

really that should be ‘outed’
back to the other editing…

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Ha…no, pre-empted her with an email. It’s all good…

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

Dear Aqua lunatic, you could always talk to your Virgo Grandfather about how he approached your Grandmother? You know he loves to tell you stories. I think their relationship took ages to develop. But I could be wrong maybe ask him when you’re next in the car together. Yes we know he is two parts business maven two parts nutty organic gardener et al. Maybe because you’ve grown up with an intense level of focus from your grandfather (when he thinks you need him especially) you’re sort of projecting a bit of the loving virgo established relationship onto the newly… Read more »

Capqua
Capqua

Aqua Lunatic, You poor thing! I’m an Aqua and my Virgo ex drove me a bit nuts at times. I saw a crazy, obsessive side of myself I had never seen before, sometimes I think it’s so hard for Aquas to fall for someone that when we do we lose our marbles a little! My tip to you would also be to enjoy it and totally chill. Distract yourself – disconnect your internet, leave your phone at home, while at work ban yourself from an social networking sites. Sit down and write letters to your Virgo expressing your feelings and… Read more »

aquasunscorprising
aquasunscorprising

Aqua lunatic, I understand exactly how you feel!!! but don’t worry, here is what I have learnt via my sexy virgo BF who has similar communication drop outs, despite being a lovely, caring and romantic dude. What ive discovered is that virgo’s a single taskers and aqua’s esp chicks are mutli taskers. Virgos tend to focus on one thing at a time intently, and can be sporadic in their focus. They pour themselves into whatever it is they feels needs their attention, ie, their work, their finances, their friends and then you feel ignored. they will be completely unaware that… Read more »

Herby
Herby

That’s pretty good advice – I know that I will pour myself obsessively into whatever is my focus of the moment. That can be a person or an activity or an adventure.

And moving away from astrology – don’t forget that us men don’t really do hints. Bash us over the head with ‘I’m into you baby’ or ‘come here hot stuff’ or ‘I really like you a lot’ and we’ll get it. But don’t think that merely phoning, emailing and texting will do it – for all we know you just want to be friends.

shell
shell

I agree with Link, signs have nothing to do with it. It’s all so familiar. Too many shite movies/magazines/tv programs or whatever proporting to teach how to read when ‘he’s into you’. It bollocks, and yes frustrating. It’ll happen sooner or later, or it won’t. I’m learning to understand that men are no more sure of this kind of stuff than women, they just dont go in about it as much or in the same ways. Of course I’m saying all this to reassure myself as I hole up in the voodoo lounge.

Link
Link

Your reactions to the relationship, I am loathe to say sound typically female. I say this from experience, not because I am weirdly invertedly sexist. I remember it wel, it was a phenomena that completely threw me. After many many moons of no man in my life the second the possibility of one appeared I found my usually delightfully empty-headedness completely and utterly dominated by thoughts of this, this . . . bloke. I couldn’t believe how much space in my head this phantasm was taking. I was appalled with myself but somehow powerless to stop my thoughts from returning… Read more »

confused fish
confused fish

I also think everything comes in its own time.. even get togethers. I recently met a lovely man who I fancy immensely we went out on a date which was amazing, then a follow up date was OK.. not quite as amazing so then he texted me to say he wanted to just be freinds.. which was cool.. so I didnt see him for 2 weeks as I was busy and then get sick.. well when we finally got to catch up we were definatley not just friends by the end of the evening.. the thing was nothing had changed… Read more »

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Oh guys, you’re all wonderful! Thank you. At work at the moment, but this is infinitely more fun. Thank you espec. bluelibra – your wisdom has been assimilated.

Gemini ex – oh he’s gonesky – was never interested in going back there at all, it was more the timing that as soon as Virgo Solar Engineer disappeared for a while the ex popped up out of nowhere. Whining. BLEH! Just the universe’s way of saying “SEE – you don’t want that at all” which is completely true.

confused fish
confused fish

Best way to keep them confused is to be (not play) ultra cool and treat them like a bus.. if they don’t pay suitable attention you should know there is another one bound to come along. No matter how much you like them, it either works for both of you or it doesn’t.. it always amazes me that we as women beat ourselves up for not following rules.. we have more power than we think.. I could right a book on how long it took me to work that one out.. 🙂

D
D

I’ve never known a virgo to go gaga with the constant company thing. . . not even when they’re completely smitten. When they’re busy, they’re busy. It doesn’t mean they’re not thinking about you. It’s just that they’re really really good at compartmentalising. Chillax.

Anonymous
Anonymous

Well said. I’m always a bit baffled by the people who spend all day at work texting the person they’ll see when they get home anyway. Why not concentrate on what you’re doing and save it up for later? By then you’ll have edited out the boring bits and maybe daydreamed up a bit of added spice…like D says, us Virgos still think (read fantasise), even when we’re not communicating…

Plum
Plum

Oh, that was me, I keep losing my name. By the way I think I did this to an Aqua once but had no idea at the time. I imagine your Virgo just fancies a bit of time to himself and assumes you do too. We find it very hard to believe someone would want to be with us 24/7!

Taurean Love Expert
Taurean Love Expert

Yes, bluelibra is bang on. Vibing independence is the key, even if you are secretly yearning! If you are your wonderful but not needy self, the time will come when *he* wants to close the deal – no need to force it, and enjoy the butterflies in the meantime 🙂

bluelibra
bluelibra

Aqua-girl – dis the Gem ex now! Remind yourself why he’s an ex. I only know two Virgo lads: one is my son, the other a very close friend who shares his birth date (but not year) with my son and was one of my birthing helpers at my sons birth.. (hope this is making sense). Anyway, both are Virgo / Libra cusps, both are increadibly charming, polite, friendly, warm, funny, intelligent and will do anything to make sure everybody feels happy, calm and safe. Including not saying no. Both these lads (there is a 30 year gap between the… Read more »

Herby
Herby

OMG! Am I one of the two Virgo men you know? I am always attracted to the kind of women you describe but also get freaked out if the person I’m attracted to gives me too much attention too quickly. Unless, of course, the person is like my wife who was up front about being willing to spend the rest of her life with me. Because then I knew where I stood – and I’m glad about it. Either take your time and play it cool or just be upfront and be ready for the roller coaster ride of a… Read more »

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

I would take Mystic’s beautiful picture to heart. Keep it as light as a butterfly and hopefully he’ll be the one praying you’ll see him again, just like the Mantis.

😉

Aqua Lunatic
Aqua Lunatic

Poor Aquabomb!! Before Virgo Solar Engineer I had Scorpio TESOL Shaman – that however I was completely detached from.

Also, Mystic, no, you’re not being a bitch, you’ve got it spot on as per usual. It is driving me insane because he’s not fawning over me. Wahh. lol.

Thanks Baristagem – my other Aqua friend and I are amping it up at the gym this week (she’s off on a holiday) so hopefully I’ll work myself out into utter exhaustion, no time for compulsive email checking.

Baristagem
Baristagem

Whoa! I am always surprised when Aquas lose their minds, you guys are usually so freakin detached it drives the rest of US crazy! 😀

Anyway, Mystic is right! -Chill-DETACH- & enjoy this part of the relationship cause soon you’ll find out about the hypochondria, stationary secrets, cleaning habits, tantrums etc etc all the lovely Virgo’s quirks…So enjoy yourself, take a weekend away with your girlfriends or do something relaxing. 🙂

Aquabomb
Aquabomb

Poor Aqua Lunatic! Our story sounds SO the same. Replace Virgo Solar with Scorpio Architect, who in addition is an ex from long ago, and you have a similar story of an Aqua girl going ballistic all weekend, checking phones and mails, vowing not to contact, making contact, guilting, all besties on stand by with support etc…But getting nowhere fast. As Mystic pointed out, solar man hasn’t *actually* done anything wrong (YET!)…but isn’t fawning….same with Scorp…just being polite etc, but not making any real move a la commitment… INFURIATING! My thoughts are, as in my sitch, that I know I… Read more »

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