Mystic advises a normally super-cool Aquarius woman being sent nuts by a reserved Virgo. She asks How does a Virgo man in love even act?
So I believe something started recently between myself (Aquarius) and a Virgo Solar Engineer. I’m usually not one to dabble in the land of Virgo; I have to admit. I typically get on with the Geminis, Librans and the occasional Scorp. But something with the Virgo Solar Engineer clicked. I’m not sure if it was the engineering part, the liking of The Cure as much as him or me wanting to save the planet that did it. The veggie garden and constant tea drinking sealed the deal.
We had a wonderful night at my place, I cooked him dinner, we watched True Blood, drank lots of wine and he stayed over. It was lovely. Then work, and uni consumes him. And I get the occasional email and after it doesn’t consume him, beautiful apologetic emails for lack of communication. Meanwhile, I’m going f*ing nuts. Where’s my next email? Why isn’t he going nuts as well? What’s he doing, what’s he thinking, is he thinking about me, blah blah blah. I’ve been checking my inbox like a crazy person. It’s been incredibly disconcerting for someone who is usually pretty cool when it comes to guys – calm, collected, reasonably aloof. A lot of “Meh” and “I’m in control – I hold power.”
But the way I’m reacting this time around has thrown me completely off balance. And I know I’m a bloody nutcase. So after a little bit, I ask if he wants to do something during the week (last week) if he’s free, and yes he does, do I want to go to a movie? And we do, and it’s very nice, and even though when I’m not with him I’m crazy, it’s so easy to be around him. It like I’ve known him for years, and I’m not instantly comfortable with people (not even if I’ve slept with them).
Then, the next day I get a photo of him up on top of a roof of a business he’s just finished a project for, thumbs up on a job well done for his solar energy design and it’s all very impressive, and I say as such, etc. Then, after much regular consultation with my other lovely socially awkward Aqua friend, vow to not email him over the weekend even though every spare minute I have on the computer I’d love to do just that.
But I resisted, especially after your infinitely well-timed post forbidding me from doing just that. Oh and also he had asked after the movie, to come over again to my place to which instead of me asking when he would and set a time, I say “Yeah, that’d be great, let me know.” So I email him Monday, call him Apollo, joke about the sun, ask how Zeus was for Father’s Day (I know, I’m incredibly INCREDIBLY lame sometimes) and propose he come over during the week if he’s free. And yes, it is only Wednesday, and I’m SINCERELY hoping the tension breaks, or I stop thinking about it so much or whatever else will stop the madness, but he hasn’t emailed me back, and I’m about to lose my shit.
I’ve about had it up to here! But in amongst that, work has just been fantastic and challenging, and I’m getting a significant pay rise. So woo! It’s not all bad; it’s just the love life that’s frustrating as hell and rooted at the moment. I keep reading your tips and the daily scopes and pray that I get some bloody relief soon.
You’re great Mystic, a lovely intelligent calming logical bubble in amongst the crazy emotional shit that I’m struggling with after so long in the Love Wilderness. Bless you!!!! And I’ll take you up more advice and go work off the craziness in the gym (hopefully, though a lot of the time it just gives me more time to think). Please Help.
The Aqua Lunatic.”
Reminder – Virgo Men Have Virgo Vision
Dear Aqua Lunatic,
Help with WHAT? A Virgo Man in love does not act like a Gemini or a Libra with feelings. He’s smart, and he’s slept with you. He’s had the opportunity to clock your environment and form a working data hypothesis. He would have picked up that you don’t like clingy guys or possessive people. Remember, he has Virgo Vision.
As for Virgo Solar Engineer – I am starting to think that Virgos are the only sign capable of messing with the Aqua-Cool.
Okay, what would you do if Virgo called you and started whining needily? Would you still like him so much, or are you secretly getting off on how elusive he is?
Nothing is going wrong here except that you like a guy – always infuriating to Aquarians. And to answer your original question, Virgos show their love or regard for you by doing practical things for you. He’ll offer to pick something up for you or fix a household item: no flowery words, no scenes – just a practical gesture. Virgo and Aquarius are a good fit in this regard. Neither like public displays of affection or soap-operatic scenes.
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