Sun Sign Survey: How Do You Know When It’s Over?

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My theory is that there is always ONE moment when an affair/marriage/crush/relationship is over.

You grok it and flip. It may not be the official oh-my-godding style situation but for you, personally, it is as unmistakable as falling IN love.

Psychically, it may as well be a freight train or something.

So, today’s question is simple – citing your Sun Sign (or more if you want to be fancy) what was the moment you knew a love was fading?

I’m not thinking so much those major, drastic and drama-queenie situations where he/she done you blatantly wrong.

More the quietly scary ones.

My feeling is that the Mutables – Pisces, Virgo, Sagg, Gemini – have more sensitive radar to teensy things that they feel are indicative of a general stagnating trend…which they can’t stand.

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SoTrueGemini
SoTrueGemini

The last statement is so true. After 7 years I ended it with my boyfriend as he did something indicated things to come would just get worse. It may be small but as a Gemini it difinatley registered on my sensitivity radar.

deathinyourface
deathinyourface

sag sun, gem moon, taurus ascendant,

i knew it was a dud when:

double cap, pisces rising ex: had a sulking fit when i told him i would go to europe with or without him

gem sun, taurus moon, gem rising ex: when he stopped being physically affectionate, and got very selfish

i tend to want to make it work though, so everyone’s had to break it off before I would.
I’m hoping my new cap sun, kataka moon, libra rising man will be different.
but we shall see.

scorpylizzy
scorpylizzy

Actually, I know the moment. It was kinda after the fact, as I’d been outa there for a while, but was back there because my sons were there, and I was pretty messed up missin him but not wanting to get back… suppose I didn’t know what I wanted. I was planning to stay with him that night. Yeh bad move. Wishful thinking? Well then I was stung under the little toe by a scorpion…!! WOW. Second one I’d ever seen in my life. Powerful omen. Big moment. Now I think it was a sign of a definite fork in… Read more »

scorpylizzy
scorpylizzy

Scorp Sun, Cap Moon, Sagg Asc- Mars-Venus-merc Leo Sun, Pisc Moon, Sagg Asc- Mars-Venus-merc Ex: We were both 16 when we began. The first moment came 6 weeks into it, the hollow dropping feeling, the first of many. . . he did a full headtrip cos I went out with friends from work. I knew nothing back then. We went on to be together for 24 years and raise 5 sons. We had a whole life of joy and horrid crap. But five beautiful lads. The hollow moment happened so often towards the end it was a state of being,… Read more »

Champagne Bearing Aquarian
Champagne Bearing Aquarian

As you may have gathered over the past almost-year, I am the Queen of hanging onto something with both of my hands and all of my might even when it is getting crappy. Aqua sun; Toro asc; Pisces moon. Not keen to revisit specific moments right now, but was browsing in bookstore last night and the thought just flashed into my head, “That’s it – I’m not so much as even thinking about being in a relationship until I’ve taken some time out for me.” Looked up and saw a giant sign saying “ROMANCE.” The Universe has an awesome sense… Read more »

aquaphobe
aquaphobe

if you smiled, then you’ve come a long way!

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

hee hee, universe does have a sense of humour. πŸ™‚

MadamM
MadamM

I’m looking for tips too – but will share this one. I used to love a Leo and his particular smell, then one day I realised he just didn’t smell the same.

He also told me I had wrinkles on my ears!!!! Virgo/Taurus North Node.

TRaci
TRaci

You have just reminded me of something with my ex hub who I was with for like 15 yrs and 2 kids, when I went ‘off’ him but we were still living together, when we used to have s** and he used to deposit u know what, it made me itch and burn, like I developed a weird allergy to it

strange..

Aquabomb
Aquabomb

I have had similar direct ‘down there’ flare ups the instant I got upset or was fighting with my ex. It was (is) like my central intelligence HQ…not happy downstairs, not happy upstairs.

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

I actually DON’T know when it’s over, and am scouring this thread for tips.

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Wow. I’ve just had one. Coming home to realise we have a new housemate who rocks up at 12 midnight (has stayed with us before but i had no idea he was coming back). Wake up this morning, have a shower, go back to my room, he says hi and he thought I wasn’t living here anymore because my housemate (was having a thing with this person) did not mention me at all.
Awesome. He’s a sagg. IS that over???? Any room for negotiations there? Maybe apologies on my half?

ScorpioBeth
ScorpioBeth

I have a question for you guys- which sign do you think is the most likely to stay with their first love?

aquaphobe
aquaphobe

i think that was more of a generational issue…we tend to discard people more easily these days

Mary
Mary

Oh wow, what a great question. Mystic, you always make me think! Ok, so I’m a Capricorn, and when I was in the process of ending a 3+ year relationship… I knew I was unhappy, and I hadn’t figured out why. Then, I started falling for a new guy, but I still felt loyal to my then-boyfriend. So, I told him we needed to have a break, then we didn’t see each other for a week, then I spent the night at his house one last time. That night, we had sex, and it was the best sex I ever… Read more »

Jennifer
Jennifer

As far as I can tell, all guys have “the snap.” One minute they love you, the next second they are suddenly over it. All that’s left is how long it takes him to get up the nerve to dump you afterwards.

Mari
Mari

During a long, life-changing illness, I asked my ex-husband how he felt. He answered that he was afraid that I would become a burden to him. That was it. After everything that had already happened in this relationship, it was this statement that flipped the switch. I was divorced within a few months, despite illness and resulting umemployment.
(Aries Ascendant; Kataka Sun, Venus, and Mars in stellium; 7th House Libra Moon)

andrew
andrew

libra sun/leo moon: when the man can’t look in me in the eye. obviously.

tati
tati

Ewwwwww….. Lol.

Archeress
Archeress

Saggo sun, Cappy rising, Pisces moon here. And yes, it all comes down to one specific moment, even if I don’t identify what that moment is until later. Pisces x- An hours-long super emotional argument out in front of his house wherein he so thoroughly monopolized the conversation and refused to let me defend myself against his accusations that I wound up repeatedly banging my head (HARD) against the window to get his attention and shut him up… Virgo x- At the airport after a week long trip to Paris where said ex had been studying for eight of our… Read more »

Whit
Whit

I’m a sagg.

I live in denial about all of my serious romantic relationships. So, it’s definitely more of a one day I wake up and I just don’t care anymore sort of thing. I guess I lose interest slowly but I don’t notice until one day. Actually, it might be like how I am with hobbies. I’ve had tons of them and some last longer than others but one day it stops being interesting and that’s the end of it.

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Sagg ‘friend’ is like that. Has been doing the same hardworking tedious job for years and years and is totally all for it then one day had an epiphany and was like- I’m quitting my job. They don’t pay me enough. I’ve had it.

Sassy
Sassy

Sun-Venus Cancer, Moon-Neptune and Uranus in Saggi and Scorp Mars.

When I started wishing that I married his brother instead of him. Wishing that he had the same qualities that his borther had etc….realise now it wasnt so much his brother that I liked it, but he was a catalyst to what I was really looking for and my husband didnt seem to have those qualities.

And yes, you know its over when women start making excuse to not have sex……..

Also when I nearly vomited when he tried to kiss me one night!!

He is libran with gem moon!!

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

eeeuuuw, you KNOW it’s over when you don’t want sex or a kiss for sure!! So you have Mars in Scorp eh πŸ˜‰

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

ewww re nrea Vom-Kiss scenario!!!!

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

*near*

leonine librarian
leonine librarian

Oh this just crystalised the moment that I knew I was through with the lusty libran sailor man. I kept delaying leaving his parents place because I was enjoying their company…although I had other moments of that really clinched it, this probably the beginning of the end.

nancyx
nancyx

pisces with gemini asc here…
I was overseas and chatting to virgo bf online. I had just come out of the shower and was coyly suggesting naked skype fun… his reply was “lol”, and then started talking about something inane and unrelated.
At that moment I lost all interest in pursuing that relationship any further.

LibrabutwithAriesontheRise
LibrabutwithAriesontheRise

OK, Libra sun, merc, moon, uranus and pluto, Aries rising. When my beloved cat died, and I realised that my relationship with him was, in fact, the primary relationship in my life. I knew the relationship with my partner of (at that point) 7 years was in serious trouble.

davidl
davidl

One of my first girlfriends mother asked her once in front of me if she loved me or the family cat most !!! Once I realised she wasn’t joking I looked at the girlfriend and she was still thinking about it ??? I was 17 at the time and got out of there pretty quick, we were over within the week. So tell me, had you always liked the cat better? Maybe that was his problem.

fallen angel
fallen angel

The moments I knew it was done/ended/gone. Hmm. Kataka Sun, Aqua Moon, Virgo Risiing, Mars in Cancer, Merc in Gem, Venus Leo. Cancer Ex Husband, Toro Rising: Massive guilt trip on this one, but I knew it was over when I started to fall for someone else who was a client and a friend. And who was literally on the opposite side of the world. It was astounding to realize I saw him more as my son than my husband, and that everything I had been doing was more maternal than really wifely or lover like. I couldn’t even have… Read more »

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

Le Aries – so just many moments when it’s just SO OVER…… only to drift back together & fall in love all over again…… & again…. like loaning me a phone containing video of he camping with his son, tent by tent his Ex & her daughter at the zoo…. which was MY idea! or the time I spray painted his kitchen in fury – hilarious postscript is he moaned to his mates ‘there were even runs in the paint, she’s better than that’ – reality was I stormed from the living end of the compound (down stairs across depot… Read more »

virago
virago

Prowlncat- your stories are funny xept the last one, I hope your next Love treats you like a Queen.

virago
virago

Libra sun, aqua moon.

It’s over when you walk into the room naked and they hardly even look up from the computer.

prowlncat
prowlncat

Cancer Sun, Gem Asc, Saggy Moon, Crabby Venus The Capricorn (crab moon): when I told him we were breaking up in my sleep. No recall the next morning, just very wounded sad-arse goat boy crying in his Titus Groan novel to deal with. No I wasn’t drunk. The Pisces (toro moon): when he told me emotions were “overrated” (obviously been reading too much Decartes). I had this inner sense of foreboding that now I know is inner alert system for sociopaths present in my vicinity. The Gemini (fish moon): he wouldn’t “take it to the next level” and move in… Read more »

whatever
whatever

What is that you’re pregnant so I’m going to hit you thing? You did the right thing prowlers – I’m amazed you lasted another few years – all that crab on board went for the status quo?. I was accidentally pregnant once and woke up because the suffering scorpio artist was kicking me while I slept. Who needs babies when you’re having a relationship with one? I tore up all his paintings and left the pieces in the empty room I left behind within the week.

prowlncat
prowlncat

It’s because he knew he had power over me and I was unlikely to run away … at least at that stage. Later it was a different story. Mind you I was no angel either … funnily enough though (and if you are feeling particularly sensitive don’t read on, as this gets a bit yuck) … but do you remember awhile back Mystic wrote about how retro mars in leo was a dad transit? As in bringing up past dad issues? Well …. bizarrely enough my Leo mum confessed to an incident whereby my Leo dad went into a psychotic… Read more »

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Oh my god that is truly horrible. And must have been the source of a lot of confusion for along time as to what exactly was surfacing in particular moments. I’m so happy for you that he is out of your life now and that you are moving onto better fellas.

shell
shell

oh dear.
bastard.
xxo

whatever
whatever

WOW, can you do something arcane to symbolically “kill” the emotions and feelings attached? That’s some powerful mars action to have brewing in there prowlers. Any chance of distillation/sublimation? That’s fuqd up – one of my parents used to hit me because I looked like the other one so I kinda get your investment in the anger and the history of it. Hard to let it go – someone who should know better taking advantage of your vulnerability. But you gotta try – for your own sake. I’ve been astounded over the last few days by how this blogosphere actually… Read more »

fallen angel
fallen angel

No need to apologize. What a rat low end bastard.

Your best revenge? Being You and Being Fantastic.

Inspite of him ever having been around you. Hugs, babes.

Stress Princess
Stress Princess

“I wish I had a way to re-kill the prick” – so beautifully put, pc. Yeah, some ppl deserve it, don’t they? How dare he do that to you. How dare anyone do that to any kid πŸ™

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

Thank goddess you survived darling prowln and grew into the amazing woman you are. xox

FireTrine
FireTrine

Yes prowln, you project a wonderful complex person right onto the screen, I think you are fab. I am addressing this next bit to your three year old within: I am sorry that you had to suffer that little one, you deserve all the sweetness and gentleness in the world. Hugs.

(That cutting the ties meditation it will do you the world of good as I had a healer tell me fathers have a strong connection to daughters and vice versa mothers and sons, good luck!).

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

holy shit prowln………………poor baby.
yes big big hugs to you as a capable adult, and also for your li’l three year old self and undoing the pain and suffering that you must have felt on some level but not ever understood until recently.

Jeez if I ever have kids, they will know about their early childhood stuff as soon they can say “resolving issues”… can’t expect them to carry that around deep in their memory and not think it’s gonna affect their life…WTF…!

prowlncat
prowlncat

thank you lovelies … as usual bang on with encouragement, support and no fear re dealing with the yuck stuff of life as well as all the goodies. Yes it was a real deep, purging and rather frightening chunk of information to have to digest about my family of origin. I didn’t know whether to howl at the moon and call on the Goddess to wreak vengence on his sorry arsed soul or feel horrified for my mum who has had to carry around the memories and the guilt for 30 odd years without ever feeling safe enough to reveal… Read more »

whatever
whatever

Am diggin your phoenixing styles prowlin – the crap is all fuel for the fire within xxx

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

you totally ROCK prowln!! 😎 xx

shell
shell

indeed you do…
xxo

Anonymous
Anonymous

xoxo go prowls

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

Prowlers – you’re an inspiration

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

Hate it when they’re incredibly HOT – but insufferably STUPID!!

that’s right up there with the great guy / small pecker syndrome…….

Send Le Toro my way – I’ll give him a serve that prick will NEVER forget, what a crumb!!

year of the fox
year of the fox

omg that sucks. πŸ™ Why do men think it’s ok to hit pregnant women if they don’t already hit regular women? ugh.

and yes…animal hater …or killer for fun, not food….RUN. It’s proven to have a scientific connection between animal abuse and abusing women or weaker people later.

shell
shell

This is a little off topic, but it’s cracking me up and will perhaps bring a few giggles/knowing smiles to those who may have noted my ongoing real/dream saga re an uncertain friend/relationship with a particular man. How’s this for overloading the blantant symbolism? We are part of a tour of caves, there comes a point where you can go down a tunnel to the end or go for an additional wander. I do the additional wander with a few others, he and most the rest go down the tunnel. I eventually come back to the tunnel, its small and… Read more »

whatever
whatever

O I was wondering if it was the same protagonist as the seizure dream. I’ve missed the messaging ones but the way you feel about him enables you to tap in to something really deep – I have an astro dreams book if I can find it I’ll let you know the planets – obviously pluto and the seizure seemed uranian but the swaddling or strapping is interesting. Awesome dream.

shell
shell

That’d be cool, thanks. Our relations were defn tied in to a venus/pluto cycle, which just made it all the way back to the beginning last week. The msg ones generally consist of him texting me things and me not getting them till later, not being able to read them, or not being able to answer them, often with some very clear ‘this behaviour is that’ aspects, and usually involving him waiting for me to do something. Last week (v/p opp) he told me in a dream he was sick of my humbugging (yes I was in America) and I… Read more »

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

ooooh, “chests = places where emotions are kept”

Cool!! love the imagery

whatever
whatever

OK I’m not so sure if this is applicable shell, but the book says the other person in the dream is a 7th house issue – der! But that it’s possibly a projection of yourself that you are bandaging, as opposed to him – you’re looking after your own heart. Caves are entirely Plutonic and there’s also moon symbolism with the pools – combined w cave symbols could be showing you old relationship patterns that are being shown in dream. Plutonic/Saturn/Uranus is applicable to the forging of a new path by going on the alternative route with the others and… Read more »

shell
shell

Thanks Whatever, I really appreciate that. I am glad you brought up projection potential, I’ve been thinking very loosely about this all day and trying to instill the importance of reminding myself that it is me telling me things about me here, not about him, or him telling me things about me. In some ways I just reckon my head has latched on to him as a useful messenger for whatever it seems determined to keep waking me up with. My 8th house Pisces moon may be helping with that water. And well the dreams are probably coming from Neptune,… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

so he wants to be able to take the strapping off when he wants eh… perhaps wants your (emotional) support but only part time when it suits him…naturally in the dream at least you see that this is not sustainable and your support will not survive that kind of handling… you guys go deep together but when you do, you are left feeling a bit ‘high and dry’ as he scampers away mid-moment…but he STILL wants your help/support which you give lovingly regardless… this pattern sounds a bit like my toro ex shell, but obv. different circumstances…careful you don’t get… Read more »

shell
shell

Not cheeky at all UP, your slightly skeptical tone is appreciated, and the try to be realistic conversation is a familiar one, though of course one can always do with reminding about these things. I do a fab line in uneven, emotionally draining, distracting, unsustainable ‘friendships’, so well aware of the shittiness of that potential outcome. My main quest at the moment is to just take it all at face value, the ongoing dream saga doesn’t help much though.

Odette-in-Libra
Odette-in-Libra

Libra Sun; Scorp rising; Aries Moon; Virgo Venus; With one of the many Leos I’ve been in mad love with. A cool, clear morning when I left his home and suddenly thought “I never have to feel this bad again. I can just stop seeing him & I won’t keep hurting like this.” And that was it – I was finally done. Thank God. With men who felt more than I did, it was usually a moment of intense irritation at something trivial which told me I should get out before I got mean. (Feeling trapped does unpleasant things to… Read more »

Aquarpio
Aquarpio

Must be my Moon in Pisces, I’m that way and experienced it (the intolerance of a stagnating trend) and now live in fear of it. Although I must say the one that stands out I realize now that I went through many issues with the guy that should have shown me sooner that he was going nowhere and not meant for me. But after four years there was suddenly a day when I absolutely could not stand to hold his hand or pretend that I wasn’t totally done and all day long while we were out doing things I was… Read more »

Seabird
Seabird

Gemini sun, aquarian moon, taurus rising One day soon after our daughter was born i was standing in the bedroom with the light shining through the window and I suddenly thought – If i stay in this marriage, no-one will ever go down on me again. Shallow, seemingly, but it betokened so many differences between my ex-husband and I. And at that moment, I knew I had to leave him.

Baristagem
Baristagem

It’s over when we can no longer make each other laugh especially during those times when we really need to….

Gemini sun, moon & venus…. πŸ˜€

cancirca
cancirca

I was in serious denial because I’d fallen in love with someone else a year earlier but was DETERMINED to make the long-term live-in relationship work & convinced the in-love-with-someone-else thing was just some kind of flaky mistake on my part. But I found myself totally unable to concentrate on work, despite having my own home office (and husband having his own separate home office) and concluded that I needed a totally separate studio to work in. Hubby kindly offered to help me search one out. We were walking down a street and he pointed out a for-rent sign and… Read more »

whatever
whatever

brave and smart.

triple air gem
triple air gem

Was madly in blissful love with my Virgo ex when left his apartment late one night in StKilda to head home. We took an hour to say goodbye to each other kissing in the street and not a soul in the street the whole time-it was surreal. Out of nowhere this wind from hell whips up and tears down the street picking up rubbish, bits of twigs and dust and barrels it down the street at us with a force do potent we were clutching each other in shock. We said goodbye and I blissed off down the freeway. Halfway… Read more »

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Wow thats amazing. a very psychic feeling

triple air gem
triple air gem

The wind was the strangest thing. It literally picked up and turned into a tornado, lasted a few minutes then disappeared. I’ve since noticed it in smaller doses when on the brink of change. Like it ushers in a new consciousness. Being that my astro signature is all air I guess that makes sense. Makes me feel in touch with the universe πŸ™‚

triple air gem
triple air gem

Just reading all the Gemini posts below. Are we more prone to ending things because of our “flightiness”, or desire for variety? Lol

shell
shell

maybe, but do you find that the flightiness comes up when you are not actually that interested in the situtation anyway? Early warning signal?

FireTrine
FireTrine

triple air gem this has happened to me a number of times..also mentioned it my post re the subject heading. I think that if we were able to ‘see’ energy as it flows in the universe we would be seeing more than whirli-gigs and wind! The wind of change feels like it has spirit attached don’t you think?

Anonymous
Anonymous

Shell, I think you’re right re the early warning signal.. maybe the inner/higher self knows it to be wrong and sends us the signal to get out of there… and then like davidl says in this post we start in with the “do we, don’t we” thoughts… back and forth.. At the time though it was so not in my consciousness… this guy was the sun, earth and stars for me at the time… can’t look back or see him now without shuddering πŸ™‚ life is funny :)) Firetrine, yeah, I get that energy is more than just wind and… Read more »

triple air gem
triple air gem

oh BTW, the anonymous below is me..

FireTrine
FireTrine

That’s exactly how I feel Triple AG, well articulated, I can’t see elementals, I just see the energy vibrate. I often wonder is helpful or is it negative? At the time it feels awful, but then it is always a good thing in the long run…

triple air gem
triple air gem

Agree it’s not always welcome at the time but always pertinent with hindsight πŸ™‚ Just need to get better at listening in the moment now and save myself lot of time and effort…

anotherbloody aries
anotherbloody aries

aries w aries rising moon in scorp

when i found myself dancing around the house singing “leave me alone i’m lonely” by p!nk…

Buckle
Buckle

I’m Aries and the ‘clearest’ moment I knew it was over was when the Aries guy I was seeing started overtly bitching about people with children at the restaurant we were in. It was SO obvious I just mentally went “You’re SUCH a knob! You’re going to try and subliminally make me feel guilty about liking children?”.

But of course in those situations you can also second-guess it because you don’t want to believe that someone you used to find attractive was actually THAT naff.

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

Hmmm – love this query. My moments are either the sudden realisation that “this person does not have my well-being at heart” or like libralibra above – a feeling of dread when going home. Lack of consideration is an absolute deal-breaker, and I do the Scorpio switch – as Scorpy-R says, indifference is the opposite of passion. I’m indifferent. I don’t care, and I want them gone. If I cannot remove said person, indifference can flick to contempt viciously. The feeling of dread however – I mourn that much more. What was once so wonderful, just becomes so heavy, and… Read more »

whatever
whatever

OMG I can’t imagine not wanting to come home. I hope your plans fall into place asap so you can have a home again PMS.

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

Its horrible – the level of dread walking home makes me feel sick, and then the relief if I can see that the house is empty… followed by the dread of how long will I have at home alone….. Or, the deep deep (think about it – Scorpio deep) misery if the other is home. And having to dig into the pool f survival to make it thru another evening!

Lucky (?) me – its not a romantic thing…. but the loss of friendship is devestating.

whatever
whatever

there’s nothing to say that doesn’t seem trite but I am having a moment right now let me tell you. Fingers crossed your ascendant hauls your ass through this quickly so you can mourn the loss of friend from somewhere comfie and further away than close.

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

Trust me – Asc is so damn chuffed that we’re back in Aries, its doing little bum dances all around the office!

year of the fox
year of the fox

OMG! For me too…the loss of friendship is sad. Plus, there were times I really got along well with their parents. So when there was a breakup, it was like losing extra “parents” too. πŸ™

Savannah
Savannah

Yes it’s the extended family that you either think thank gawd I don’t have to be around those cretins OR I’ll really miss their granny, sister etc.

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

TRUE!

I’ve come to the conclusion that it is always better to move in with strangers than with friends. I almost always make friends with the strangers – many current friends are ex housemates… But living with friends? Its not quite family where it doesn’t matter if you go off, and its not strangers where you don’t care what they think if you go off!

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Ahhh this is very true. Only just realising it. Quite quite bad for the self esteem/reputation when you go off in a house with a new friend……… Sabotaging the new friendship in all ways…..very sad

year of the fox
year of the fox

@ Savannah: It makes it easier for me to break up with a guy if i think his family is horrid. I breathe a huge sigh of relief at not having to deal with people I don’t like. I’ve just been blessed about 70% of the time meeting parents who were just awesome/inspirational/ground-breaking in some way. @postmodscorp & PiscesAnn: Re: roommates/living situation. I have a terrible time with strangers (I’ve only lived with one and it was like…um…thank goodness this is only for 1 semester), so I often get synastry charts of me and the new person I’m living with… Read more »

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

I’ve done a chart. I just think it’s quite sad when you are in such close quarters and when it goes wrong you have nowhere to hide your yucky parts.

shell
shell

So with you on the ‘going home dread’ PomoScorp. For me there is very little more unsettling than not being able to feel safe/happy in my home because of some other person you are sharing it with.
In fact I gave up living with other people for pretty much that reason.

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

Thats my next step. Been putting it off for ‘financial reasons’ but peace of mind vs $50 less a week? Give me peace of mind…..

shell
shell

oh god yes. and what’s more, there is all the money you don’t spend cause you are not out and about (usually in the pub in my case) trying to avoid going home.

whatever
whatever

The opposite guy, the one I chose because he was everything all other men I’d hung with weren’t. He was the catalyst for the saturn returns celibacy. The first weekend we spent out of my urban domicile there were all manner of lights on warning signals, the moment I entered his bedroom in the dreary house that felt like not-love – the picture of him with another woman – her rigid, standing beside him and him with his fingers clenched into her arm – I say “who’s that?” and he tells me it’s his ex girlfriend – I’m thinking, more… Read more »

year of the fox
year of the fox

You know I don’t think there are really 11 secret herbs and spices. It’s pretty much just salt,pepper,sugar & msg. I always get so shaken to find a non-foodie Taurus. But I’ve met a few!!

whatever
whatever

Even if he had liked food he would’ve been scary. He was all about isolating me from my friends etc. Tried to tell me people I’d shared 10-12 years of friendship with were no good for me – riiight. So I’ve been wrong all this time and now I’ve suddenly happened upon the ONE person who’s right for me? Luckily my attraction to him didn’t blind me to the obvious psych issues. I have been wondering if uranus sun conjunct does attract people who are ready to make a big change in their lives. I always meet people who are… Read more »

year of the fox
year of the fox

I have Uranus conjunct my Libra Sun as well. I tend to bring out the weird in people. It’s almost as if they are attracted to me to bring out their own weird which they can’t own or publicly show. Somehow by having a piece of me, it satisfies that “exotic urge”. I’ve only had 2 relationships where that wasn’t true. I’m getting better about building relationships with peers now. I feel you about the Taurus…the friend isolating thing I’ve been with 2 of them. Let me tell you that they cause weird “velvet black holes”. I think because they… Read more »

whatever
whatever

YES, like they want you to plug them in to the mains? My mother in law started running red lights when I was in the car with her when she first met me and I asked her if she was colour blind or something and she said no, you just make me feel like living dangerously – awesome I think as I tighten the seat belt. She’s totally upstanding too – a pillar of the community – properly proper. My sister in law refers to me as the lightening rod because I had a suddenly alive effect on her as… Read more »

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

I’ve had kind of bad experiences with all taurus peeps. I used to work with this guy who knew he was depressed but wouldn’t do anything about it. He’d boast about how many thousands of beers he’d drunk last night, how much of an alco he was, how he missed bars in europe where he could sit around and drink all day. Seriously always talked about beer, what he watched on tv last night, the new video game he played all weekend. Said he didn’t want to have a girlfriend because then he’d have to change his routine- and clarified… Read more »

year of the fox
year of the fox

@PiscesAnn

How old was this videogame guy? He sounds really immature to want a gf but not do anything about his situation. :/ I can’t decide if he feels he is “entitled” but doesn’t want to work for it or just in a depressed cycle.

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

He is 23!!!! But acts like a kid!!!!!!! HE just WONT getout of the cycle. I mean he probably is very depressed but he jokes about it and says hes going to get a counsellor (numerous times) and then I’d come to work the following week and be like ‘How was your session?’ and he was like Oh yeah! Didn’t go to her!!!! It was like….fuck. DO SOMETHING!

Ms.
Ms.

ew KFC! seriously how can you go out with a vege or vegan and not think that conversation is a deal breaker?

whatever
whatever

He saw it as his duty to convert me to the colonel. For real. Like my life was empty without him – the colonel not him. One night when we were having sex (it was not love) I suddenly saw him on top of me and he morphed into a catholic priest – I was horrified and I don’t care if it was past life, or me being a bit mad but that was just another of the warning signals. His mission re the colonel was conducted with religious zeal.

year of the fox
year of the fox

LOL! I’m not a veg or vegan but damn…KFC? They ought to rename it MSG-Hut. gross! LOL! =D

gem
gem

KFC was a dealbreaker for me too. Ewww. Seriously.

Upbeat Scorp
Upbeat Scorp

Hmm. This is a hard one. I don’t think for me its really ever one thing. Not with long term relationships anyway. They slowly erode over time, I think. Once an ex (Virgo) made some reference to us in 10 years time, and I was shocked.. I knew we wouldn’t still be together that far away. When we did break up a year or two later, this conversation was brought up again. Ex had utter disbelief that I would stay in a relationship I knew would end one day. I was about 23, and all about learning what relationships were… Read more »

davidl
davidl

Its over when your criticising or being criticised (openly or internally) for things that really are an intrisic part of your being. Some things in people cant be changed or should be…get over it, live with it, learn to love it or get out. I think you know someone in the first 20 mins, know what it is that will make it work or make it fail. Why take 2 years to work out what you knew in the first 20 mins ? beats me, we all do it ?

shell
shell

we don’t trust our instincts?

davidl
davidl

We block our instincts.. then the internal dialogue starts, trying to convince our instinct its wrong or worrying it’s right.

shell
shell

oh yes.

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Actually, let’s amend that – or appendix it.
I think this is a Cappy thing, but maybe the four planets in Virgo 1st house play a part…

It’s never about them, it’s about me. It’s the point that I become so pathetic, so un-Lexicorn in my behaviour, so lacking in self-value that I turn around and say: ‘now come on, this is beneath you! You’re outta here!’

When the relationship is making me less of a person who I respect, it’s Capricorn quits time.

Leonine Librarian
Leonine Librarian

Bravo lexi for recognising when it’s time.

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

I 2 would like to know whether capricorns like to be pursued or to do the pursueing. i think they like haughty rich bitches, no?

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

As for Cappys, love. Make it REAL OBVIOUS and they will then make the move. OR, get them drunk and free of inhibitions and they’ll be all over you. Despite the rumours – NO NO NO haughty rich bitches so not Cap (and if it is, you got a low-Cap and should run).
Supportive, respectful, authentic – so very Cap Candy.
Helps if you remember to occasionally recognise and remind them of their genius too…

tati
tati

Yep they are all over you when they’re drunk but they don’t respect either you or themselves in the morning … All off until next time you can get them drunk. πŸ™‚

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

self respect. Good point Lex.
On a completely different note. Can i just ask you – with all those planets in earth and a Virgo rising – do you like to pursue or do you prefer being pursued? Got a date with a Virgo rising soon and I’ve had to do the asking – 3 times!!. He has Merc in Taurus and Mars in Cap. πŸ™‚

FireTrine
FireTrine

Ooh good luck there SR. Btw, I posted something in Dark Leo in ref to a question there. Good luck with your three time lucky Virgo Rising! Xx.

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

saw that Firetrine. Have responded already. πŸ™‚

FireTrine
FireTrine

Was for you too nat! nat, where are you? Donde estas?

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Go Robo!!
Virgo Rising – you gotta chase baby! Not because ‘our kind’ aren’t sitting there SUPER interested sending out what we consider REALLY obvious cues and messages – it’s just we so fearful of failure / rejection. It could take months to make a move. If you make it, things move sooooooo much faster. Enjoy.

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

phew! good to know i did the right thing. My Sagg moon was getting impatient (i’ve always been a chaser). Hehe. He’s an Aries would you believe! the cues were hardly subtle! – more like jaw-dropping confessions of adoration! but i guess with a Cancer moon/Virgo rising the fire goes out. I can see the fear factor coming through now.

Thanks for the tip! πŸ™‚

Uranian&Plutonic Virgo
Uranian&Plutonic Virgo

Oooh, good luck for this date! Is this the same Aries man? πŸ™‚ Cancer moon and Virgo rising would, well, hell to that, just the Virgo rising would make him fear rejection. And the Virgo thing, why would she be interested in me, I’m just me, ladida. When’s the date robot?

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

yes, it’s the same one *sigh* hee hee. Going at snail’s pace… not that I’m in any hurry.
The Virgo rising makes so much sense. I picked it straight away – he’s always correcting my typos when we chat online. Hehe.

Date is on Thursday night. Take 2. Fingers x’d πŸ™‚

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

ohhhhh that totally explains my cap moon status, i move at a snail’s pace when it comes to r’ships. or crushes. like a cat i stalk and stalk and stalk and then *fwee* the butterfly flutters away as we pounce.

or yes Lex – the bedraggled corpse of the relationship – so so true, that with my fricken piscean forgivness “please walk all over me” really makes for a shitty ending πŸ™ no matter how definitive i sound elsewhere

Plum
Plum

Thanks Lexicorn – was just reading the comments in a slightly bemused way thinking, this doesn’t really happen to me – if I like someone enough to start a relationship with them (rare) then I stick with it until a) they finish it or b) I decide they want to. So it’s them that has the ‘moment’ but I reckon I can tell straight away – I’ve even dreamt it as it’s happened, on more than one occasion. I’m Virgo sun/Cap moon and definitely need to be pursued – even then I’m more than capable of ignoring overtures from someone… Read more »

beachgirl
beachgirl

wow L you really nailed it for the Caps – the minute I get even the eensiest bit of “can’t respect myself” in this/with this/at this – outta here!

Lexicorn
Lexicorn

Capricorn Sun – NEVER
We never give up. We never admit its over. We plod forth and drag our patient yet love-decaying corpse ever onward towards that illusive destination: ‘making it work’

year of the fox
year of the fox

Libra Sun: The minute I begin to feel my beloved and I aren’t a “team”, I am convinced it is The End. Whether that means I am thinking I am a “team” with someone else mentally or solo or the other guy is thinking he is solo or a “team” with someone else. It’s like I can tell the moment of dissolution. It’s never a surprise but sometimes i will wait the feeling out to prolong the inevitable just because I am hoping to be wrong.

whatever
whatever

libra sun also and I agree – the team is important. Mutual goals that run parallel to the individual goals. I find the mutual goals are mostly long term and the individual ones all seem to lead indirectly to the mutual. Not team as in joined at the hip (can’t stand cloying relationships), but the shared focus is super-important.

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Wow yeah I love that Libran aspect of goals within a relationship. Seemed to be a major theme with everyone thanks to saturn in libra and kind of slipping out of focus for the moment but sure to be back mid year.

MusicalLibran
MusicalLibran

Telephone bill came in. I was four months pregnant to alcoholic bi sexual who vascillated between ‘it’s you and me against the world’ and ‘I’m not sure’. I suddenly pictured the future, dingy flat, crying baby, it raining all the time… and all my friends and family on the other side of the world, and this man still vascillating. Suddenly thought: Noone is going to rescue you but you. You don’t want to do it, but you have to leave. Booked airfare home from London to Australia fifteen minutes later. And phoned family and friends who were relieved and delighted.… Read more »

Sassy
Sassy

Good for you MusicalLibran….Hope all is well now.

Taurean Love Expert
Taurean Love Expert

Nickelback… lol.

Now that’s what I call a dealbreaker.

gem
gem

Ha.

lady j
lady j

sun gem / aquarius asc – sag ex – too boring, ultimate deal breaker was when abroad would want to go to bed every night at 9 — for fuq’s sake we are in paris! hello! let’s adventure! huge wanger, sex was out of habit not for fun. – pices ex – i can’t believe i thought this had any possibility. horrible kisser. – current gemini love interest — is it bad i enjoy the open communication about ex fuq ups and mindblowing sex? or is it just like talking to myself in a mirror? or maybe i am ignoring… Read more »

Pisceannn
Pisceannn

Wow a boring Sagg?? I’ve never met one!!!! Curious…..Do you know anything else about his chart??

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

moments: when they make a comment that I perceive as ugly, racist, red neck-y, thoughtlessly sexist (as opposed to self-aware sexist πŸ˜‰ ), even tho i try to look past these things as them just having a moment’ i have now learnt that this is just the tip of the iceberg.. or person has revolting banal bogan habits that make me faint with boredom e.g. watching tv all night, gambling, drinking too much, thinking that “wife + 2 children + mortgage” is a great idea and why think further, thinking that “the boys” are his all-important centre of the universe… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

sun / merc pisces in 9th house, Cap moon, gemini asc

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

AAAH I REMEMBERED…MEN WHO CAN’T COOK AND DON’T WANT TO LEARN…GOOD BYE!!!

davidl
davidl

Ive got 3 kids and a mortgage ? does that make me a banal bogan ? Ive done a lot of stuff over the years, can’t I settle down and enjoy my peace without being ‘boganised’ ?

whatever
whatever

I suspect it’s the whole package david, not just the one item from the list. And the fact that there’s none of the ‘lot of stuff over the years” preceding. Cut straight to the chase, get a mortgage have some kids. Not every girls dream.

FireTrine
FireTrine

Hee hee, my reaction was like Davidl’s for a sec when I read that, but I was anti-house (Sagg Moon, Aries Asc, Leo Sun), anti-kids, anti-saving, anti-boring… etc when I was younger. Then I met a guy who wanted all this with me and I suddenly wanted it like nothing ever before in my life! We cut to the chase big time. NEVER would have imagined that was in me. Because until I met him I didn’t dare imagine. (Though with Merc, Venus & Sat in Cancer and Mars in Virgo it shouldn’t have been such a big stretch). Enjoy… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

i don’t want to tar everyone with the same brush. Also what’s right / perfect for some is another person’s idea of hell. probably my background too – charismatic but incredibly unsupportive womanising father and mother who put up with all of this and thus has a suite of unfulfilled dreams. i suppose i am thus wary of meeting the type of man who is a “dream-killer” – that’s what it all comes down to. xox

FireTrine
FireTrine

That’s a hell of a dad UP, like you say, horse for courses.

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

FT and DL I also so totally respect your choices and part of me would love to have that experience…i mean what greater earthly bond can you have?? just a matter of complete trust that you can depend on someone financially physically emotionally enough to start a family, someone who is spiritually aware / relaxed, emotionally mature, healthy, literate, domestically trained, free of addictions, not a bastardo, hot, sexy, i don’t ask for much πŸ˜€ so yeah she sets the bar high so no one can clamber over it i guess…someone once said to me “to get what you want,… Read more »

FireTrine
FireTrine

UP you sound like you want what is healthy and normal for you. That is good and he is out there. Don’t lower your standards, just don’t miss the beauty of a person’s soul when they are quite different than you expected is wot my experience taught me. xx!

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

“just don’t miss the beauty of a person’s soul when they are quite different than you expected”

oooh Firetrine, thanks for that little pearl. I think the Aries man is 98% of everything i’ve ever wanted. Nobody could be any more perfect but he is a little different to what i expected. πŸ™‚

FireTrine
FireTrine

He sounds awesome Scorpalicious! Wish you much sweet lovin’ with Aries dude, how much fun!!

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

It’s funny- but every guy I have met in the last 10 years wants to cook for me. I’m like ….really?
It’s such an ego , control thing for me- like they want to show off…..stupid too becuase I’m a vegetarian, and I always end up eating pasta and tomato sauce or similar. Yawn, thanks.

Sorry, petty. But I can totaly mail you the next one who cooks that shows up, UP, assuming he doesn’t have other attributes that make me want to keep him…. πŸ™‚

sagsunpiscasctaumoon
sagsunpiscasctaumoon

nickelback suck… lol

Sassy
Sassy

totally get you there UP. Was getting to know a guy, I was talking about music and asked him if he liked Kanye West? he said straight out “ewww dont like black people” I asked what? why? rattled off that they were lazy, junkheads blah, blah, blah….. Bye …..
Cant be with someone like that either…even politics, religious beliefs etc if they are discriminatory, i just cant date them and usually get into huge fights….

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

yes sassy exactly…it’s when you’ve been seeing someone for a coup[le of months then they come out with that and you realise…

Sassy
Sassy

u any sagg in ur chart?

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

hmm only neptune Sassy, but i have sun and merc in 9th house, which is the saggie house…maybe that influences?

tati
tati

Yeah it’s like a bad dream when they come out with that sort of stuff … and you realise you hadn’t been seeing them for what they really are. Ugh.

Savannah
Savannah

When I was pregnant with our second child, I can still feel that feeling of dread, nausea & overwhelming panic at what such a monumental fuq up I’d made. It’s not hard to tap back into that feeling even 10 years later. Besides being pregnant, at that moment I was undiagnosed with PTSD & yet to heap post-natal, a thyroid mess and OCD about 6 months after sons birth. I was in no fit state to make any kind of decision & when I did it was shrouded in all this, I see that now. I couldn’t make it through… Read more »

davidl
davidl

that sounds hard Savannah, you made the right decision x

Miss Jane
Miss Jane

Dont hate yourself for what you needed to do. you needed to get better for yourself and your babies. Hope you regained your strength and moved onto better horizons. Keep strong. You can do anything.
**Positive energy rays of life to you my dear. :)**

FireTrine
FireTrine

That’s powerfully intense, what do you mean you had ‘many moment that got stronger and stronger the more you recovered’? Wishing you and your kids lots of healing and strength!

Savannah
Savannah

Thanks everyone πŸ™‚ you don’t know how much your words mean right now :). We are still disentangling ourselves. He was like a carer, our son was permanently injured during the birth & needed care. I was hospitalised with a major breakdown 8 months after his birth. At the back of my mind I knew but I needed his ‘care’ for mainly the kids he was never supportive or ever understood what it was like when I was struggling. In those days I had hope & I thought I loved him. I guess as I got diagnosed & medicated properly,… Read more »

Savannah
Savannah

I’m not making excuses I snapped outta that ages ago, just the facts.

FireTrine
FireTrine

I didn’t hear one excuse there Savannah! Sounds totally understandable to me *munches popcorn, wipes tears away*.

Miss Jane
Miss Jane

Some people just have a radar to hitch onto selfless, caring and strong – yes strong people. They seem to get enjoyment or self satisfaction due to their own inadequacies to wear you down – Like a game for them to see what awful behaviour that they can get away with. For him to let you down after having a traumatic birth and also contribute to your breakdown justifies wholeheartedly to get him out of your and your kids lives well at least get some distance and be sure to communicate that his behaviour will NOT be tolerated. We all… Read more »

Charles
Charles

I know when things are over. The problem is with my ex-es that don’t understand when things are over. I have one ex-gf who has been pestering me for 25 years. I have Caller ID so I know when not to pick up the phone, but I can’t block her emailing me or commenting on my blog. Unfortunately she knows I have to see her message in order to delete it.

bluelibra
bluelibra

oh dear Charles.. 25 years.. Peter Goldsworthy has a story in his new book Gravel that reminds me of your ex.

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

25 years! That’s insane!! What sign is she?

whatever
whatever

she’s the great big warning sign!

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

πŸ˜†

Charles
Charles

Virgo. She was my first long-term girlfriend, I was 23 and she was 42. She always said it wouldn’t work out because of the age difference. It might have, for a while, but now she’s 71 (I think.. I lost track.. I don’t really want to know).

prowlncat
prowlncat

baaahahahhaaaaaaaaaa a 71 year old stalker. Classic.

Anonymous
Anonymous

maybe change numbers??

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

πŸ˜† oh dear, the visuals!

year of the fox
year of the fox

Did you actually “officially breakup” with these gals? I’m sure i sound rude, but I’m just checking. It’s just I’ve met so many men who “breakup” by “disappearing” or not returning phone calls suddenly and then they wonder why women chase them til the ends of the planet. It’s actually happened to me. I never got a straight answer from one @sshole until I cornered him and by then he had painted me a “stalker” when in fact, I’m simply direct. He replied, “I thought you would get the hint.”

Buckle
Buckle

Word!

Sure there are stalky women for sure, but there’s also a lot of fellas who didn’t grow spine enough to say “I’m sorry, I don’t want to see you anymore” and leave girls in the lurch. And vice versa – girls who string a boy along. All poor form.

Sometimes it becomes a point of morality to make a dumper articulate what’s going down, even if it just takes 10 seconds.

year of the fox
year of the fox

I think it is is beneficial for small social networks as well as healing your own heart. I don’t know why the practice of being chickenshit is called “letting someone down easy”. It’s only “easy” for the dumper and not the dumpee.

tati
tati

Bit difficult to tell someone “I am breaking up with you because I have now discovered that your penis is very small and you have no idea what to do with it or anything else in bed”. Voucher for a sex therapist as a break-up present?

anotherbloody aries
anotherbloody aries

yeah! the first (and possibly only) guy who broke my heart “broke up” with me by playing gary moore’s “empty rooms” and other sad songs repeatedly until i finally asked him WTF???

i KNOW i don’t do subtle, but really?

and now i’m involved with another gemini i might b a slow learner too πŸ˜‰

aquaphobe
aquaphobe

yeah, what’s with the bs stalker tag that these people like to bandy around?
psychos.

year of the fox
year of the fox

LOL! yeah to some crazy people, “chick seeking closure” = stalker. They would hate to ever have been put in a distasteful spot of “the bad guy” and since “you” forced them into that position, they secretly hate you for it.

whatever
whatever

sometimes people just don’t get it tho – denial is a powerful motivator – I’ve known quite a few men who don’t get even the clearest of declarations. I can be very direct and I don’t have a problem with them thinking I’m a bitch, just as long as they’re gone while they’re thinking it – yet the denial kicks in and they seem to think it’s some kind of weird flirting – playing hard to get. You all seem quite reasonable with your comments, about wanting to know why – fair enough too, but some people don’t get it,… Read more »

year of the fox
year of the fox

Geminis are hard to resist! Good luck though! They’re always so gosh darned likeable. πŸ™ I’ve had my heart broken by enough of them to learn though. Off the menu!

bluelibra
bluelibra

it only took one for me… I’m not allergic.

Charles
Charles

The breakup was pretty clear when I came home from work one day and everything was gone from my apartment except my clothes. She even took my record albums and books, although I got them back by judicial order. And she seriously wants to be friends now? I am an easygoing Taurus, willing to see the best in people, and trusting to a fault, I even flew across country to help her a couple of times during a crisis (of her own making) and both times she kicked me out of her house within a day. Fool me thrice..

year of the fox
year of the fox

Ah so SHE did the breakup. That’s very clear then!! How horrible that she stole your things!!! Sorry if i sounded snarky about it earlier. Some people take such advantage that yeah…it’s not worth being friends after the breakup…and that’s coming from a Libra which usually likes to be friends afterwards. She sounds a bit off to want to be friends after all this time. I would be suspicious of her motives.

Buckle
Buckle

Hmmm. The helping. I don’t think you should have done the helping. That’s a signal of staying connected… especially flying across the country. Man – in the nicest way I can put it – what was that? That’s an invitation for her to keep in touch if I ever heard one. You’re probably one of the few people who put up with her. I think you may require a confrontation if she calls you again. Pick it up and say “Don’t call me”. Don’t be an easygoing Taurus. You’ll suffer, because she’ll know you’re easygoing and she’ll continue to be…… Read more »

Charles
Charles

Well, the “helping” was a long time ago, I’ve been pretty clear about delivering the “do not call me ever” message since then.

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

They say Pisces are like that – get rid of you, want you back, get rid of you… is she a pisces?

Ms.
Ms.

you are in my head this week mystic Sun- Scorpio, Gemini Asc – Leo Ex Pisces Asc Almost exactly as Scorpetey here. The constant uprooting of life and moving around his schedule. life. needs. self. I felt like a puppet being dragged around in the end. He gambled me so I felt numb about the consequences. One day I realised my natural self expression was blocked and I had very little to give myself as it was too busy holding his life up. I still adore the man but I get chewed up in the orbit of his life somehow… Read more »

PM
PM

I can totally relate to that. My heart goes out to you

Ms.
Ms.

thanks love. its ok I am not in agony anymore -its hard to explain my realism toward this topic. we are still close. he is family just not someone I will have one with.

FireTrine
FireTrine

This is a goody! I am Leo Sun/Sagg Moon: Sagg Ex – There were MANY moments, the most innocuous was when he flicked the back of my neck and told me to straighten up. My dad sometimes does it to my mum and that’s when I thought, ‘It’s definitely over’. (Another time we tried to make love, to see if we could ever make it work again. Suddenly all these dogs started howling, a nasty wind started up that made branches rap on the window – there was a sense of dread in the air. We just stopped and looked… Read more »

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

“Cancer Ex – When he asked me to translate β€œI will kill you” to the bus postal package guy. ”

LOL!

Me – when accountant starts talking about family trust money invested in the brothel and look of deep ‘oh fuq’ cardiac arrest style concern when he realised i had no idea what he talking about

whatever
whatever

I know it seems vulgar and potentially embarrassing / shocking depending on who knew about it, but brothels are good earners in terms of investment – depends on how the dividends were being “reinvested” I guess tho.

whatever
whatever

Oh and I mean the ones where the workers are shareholders and it’s not some nefarious slave trade scenario. No worse than where everyone’s super goes when it’s in a fund – does anyone ever ask where their guaranteed super is being invested?

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

oh, LS…….. that’s a case of thanking the messenger not shooting them

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

SHIT – reply below is for TATI way up the page.

TLS – hope you didn’t have to pay the accountant once he’d enlightened you?

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

ROFLMAO!!

whoever reckons size doesn’t count is a liar!!

weird how no one mentions the less-than-endowedfactor until AFTER it’s over?
then it’s game on!!

tati
tati

Honey, it was all on until he got his clothes all off. I now have to figure out how to break the bad news…tactfully.

My longterm exes still all have my appreciation and admiration for their equipment size and ability … It’s the flings that weren’t so good. Suspect Scorps don’t let go if it’s good… Not until I have torn it to shreds (the relationship, not the equipment!)

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

would be so much easier – the entire shabang – if men came with warning alerts

*mummy’s boy*
*madonna whore obsession*
*weeny pecker*
*natural born liar*
*hot cold hot cold player*
*commitment-phobe*
*obsessed with cat houses*

DITTO re remaining friends w significant ex’s
DITTO re trashing content of flings

damnit re mr Nice guy not packing it. am sure you’ll handle it with everyone’s dignity remaining intact!

ps invert dialogue to apply per diferent gender combos as relevant to other readers, drift applies all round!

tati
tati

RLP – replying to your reply, not sure where this comment will end up – you are spot on as usual. Add to those tags:
*available*
*not available due to hung up on ex*
*married/in relationship but annoyingly flirty*
etc.

Life would be a lot easier if all had cigarette-packet style labels. Unfortunately I suspect mine would say *trouble*

year of the fox
year of the fox

I’ve actually had the opposite happen…too big..ugh..breakup…
I keep hearing about these mysterious 3 inchers but thankfully have never seen one.

PM
PM

Saggo sun, Cancer Moon… I was singing along to a Queens of the Stone Age song and realized I strongly identified with these lyrics: Cracks in a ceiling, crooked pictures in the hall Countin and breathin, I’m leaving here tomorrow They don’t know, I’d never do you any good Laughin is easy, I would if I could Ain’t gonna worry Just live till you die, wanna drown With nowhere to fall into the arms of someone There’s nothing to save and I know? You live till you die In particular the ‘nothing to save and I know’ part – really… Read more »

Ms.
Ms.

great song x

Leogroover
Leogroover

I need a full blown thunderbolt to make me realise its over, Venus in kataka doesn’t give up till she gets a swift kick in the backside about a hundred times over.
Agree when sex goes bad is a good sign too. You know in your heart somethin is wrong and you want it to end but can’t do it. I’m always the dumpee but I don’t mind coz i realise now us dumpees often set up the situation that makes the dumper do the dump! and I am too cowardly to end it

FireTrine
FireTrine

I grok that Leogrrroover. Also venus in kataka…

Taurean Love Expert
Taurean Love Expert

Oh, I’m Venus in kataka too… she just doesn’t pay attention to the ‘Do Not Resusitate’ order, does she?

I have been both dumper & dumpee, as well as victim/driver of mutual train wrecks. I like to feel that I’ve tried *everything*, but I suspect that has just maximised the damage in some cases.

However – I feel like all my bad bust-ups have taught me great things, so cannot regret them.

Aeris
Aeris

God, it’s awful, isn’t it? Venus in Kataka here too…I have ALWAYS stayed too long in relationships that were bad for me cuz I just….couldn’t…..let………..go. Think I’d rather have Venus in just about any other sign. :/

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Moon in Pisces….just as bad….. πŸ™

Love the Do not resusitate line. Things I wish my Momma had taught me.

BlackStarAries
BlackStarAries

Moon in Pisces….just as bad….. πŸ™

Love the Do not resusitate line. Things I wish my Momma had taught me.