The Transit Lounge; The Astrology Of Break-Ups

Modern Art 50s coupleWhether it’s your chart, the chart of your lover and/or the so-called Composite Chart (you and your lovers chart blended together into what is essentially a chart of your relationship) the points to watch are the Ascendent, Descendent, Sun & Moon.  And then you don’t just look for a silly little bit of Full Moon nonsense.

You are looking at Saturn Out. By which i mean, the relatively rare transits of Saturn, Neptune, Uranus & Pluto.  All these astro-passages seem to test a relationships validity, authenticity and relevance. Sighhhh. But please don’t flip if one of these planetary heavy-hitters is approaching a significant point; they can also indicate expansion & emancipation – an evolution of the existing relationship.

Yet whenever i have a client with one of these nearing his/her Descendent – the cusp of the House of Love/Relationship sector, I have but to say the R word and they wince. Uranus is more like the person hasn’t even bothered to consult an astrologer because they’re outta there & they’ll fix up the details later. Saturn is a more sombre & let’s-do-this-right mature decision kind of an energy.

Uranian break-ups are more w.t.f? If Neptune is the culprit, there can be confusion, yearning and maybe even one of the parties just sort of drifts off into lala land. There may not be closure! Less said about Plutonic break-ups the better; they’re the stormy ones. Having said that, as we always say in ‘buck up’ mode when discussing Pluto, there will be a vast degree of self-knowledge and personal growth that  you can gain from this enriching experience.

Eclipses – such as the ones we are entering into at 15 Capricorn, 29 degrees of Cancer/Kataka & then (less strong) 13 degrees of Aqua – can also be linked with major turning points if they hit on of the aforementioned important points. But pls don’t go and squiz at your chart or composite, whatever & then diagnose something vile if you don’t know what you’re doing…!!!!

If you’re smarting from a bust-up or something that didn’t work out as you would have wished, try to see it as part of some grander plan, fix the Feng Shui, exfoliate, get therapy if you think you need it, Reiki, massage, mates & this is something i read yonks ago in a magazine article about divorce. It’s apt.  You have to look after the Five Fs. Fitness – because it’s good for your health & self-esteem. Finances – because you’ve got to be independent and loving it. Friends – expect to lose a LOT of them & make some new ones but the ones you keep are for real. Family – if you have kids, you become closer to them & they sort of get to know you better. Fuqing – because you can & will have sex again.

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LeoGroover
LeoGroover

Thank your chesh. yes gotta be the right Gf. Had chats with saggo and pisces gf not quite enough mad love sympathy there. more mmm aha mmm. Everybody seems to be in ugg boot love mode at the moment no matter how many years they’ve been together. Lovely Libran hot chilli haird gal at work – she’ll understand yes.

Baristagem
Baristagem

I’ve often wondered what was happening in the charts when a break up occurs.

I had one a few years back & it was like a train crash except I didn’t anticipate it ending so horribly. That’s the power of a break ups it breaks up everything about the two of you. I felt it unravelled me being connected to a bunch of other stuff I hadn’t dealt with & yep even did a bit therapy to work through it. 😉

gemmmm
gemmmm

i’m kinda freaking out… this eclipse combo conjuncts my ascendent in capricorn, my mars at O leo and my moon in aquarius. can anyone offer any suggestions?

taurean with the HMBOTS
taurean with the HMBOTS

teenage daughter left home for the first time today, does that count as a break up, LOL!

i’m half sad, half thrillled! (then half sad again), but wonder of wonders, the High Maintenance was sympathetic (even though i asked not for sympathy) a mode in which i’ve never experienced him before, LMAO! (he is usually/invariably brutal and bracing!)

cheshire cap
cheshire cap

is she your first to leave T with the HM? I went through similar feelings as each chic flew the nest. It’s not easy. Maybe HM’s evolving??

taurean with the HMBOTS
taurean with the HMBOTS

yes, Chesh, first to leave and actually that’s half the reason for mixed feelings, my other, much older, will never leave in quite the same way as she is disabled. she probably could leave with community help and support but that is in very short supply! so the ability of a child to leave home is much to be treasured, IMHO though the momentary sadness is coping with the inevitable shift in dynamics. i’d need a lot more convincing that the HM is evolving into anything nice, giggle giggle. i’m sure i wouldn’t like that anyway! (he is very kind… Read more »

Pisces in CQ
Pisces in CQ

So understand your joy and sorrow at the same time T with HMBOTS, though it is the future for me. Whilst my younger two charge on through life and drive me mad, my eldest being the easiest child to have around will always be around. I so treasure my youngest two’s ability to be independent. And assistance shortage indeed! Every now and then I fall under the spell of being overwhelmed by what life has given me and respite is all talk, conferences for feedback to the government which never get acted on or promises of action on the obligatory… Read more »

taurean with the HMBOTS
taurean with the HMBOTS

so P in CQ, why is your eldest the easiert and why will she/he always be around.

if i understand you arright, i think you have put it magnificently, i sometimes think, i have gained more than i have lost, and maybe it was the making of me, tough and stoical i was a little but became more and more so and now sail through what flattens others, so maybe it’s a kind of gift from the gods. life is all irony and paradox, doncha think?

still an abiding sorrow, but!

Pisces in CQ
Pisces in CQ

can’t seem to reply to your comment below T with HMBOTS, but my eldest daughter has cornelia de lange syndrome. Won’t ever get past about the age of 3 mentally. She is 12, still in nappies most times, needs help with toileting, bathing, eating, drinking and can’t talk. But she smiles and smiles most of the time – except when we are out and there are lots of people. Sense of entrapment sometimes sends me over the edge but basically she has taught me many many lessons. Still don’t think patience is one of my virtues, though I certainly enjoy… Read more »

Pisces in CQ
Pisces in CQ

It replied below your entry anyway! I can never tell where my entries are going to end up!!!

taurean with the HMBOTS
taurean with the HMBOTS

i am so much better off than you, mine is quite high functioning. life is a lottery.

try and always have some time for yourself, you cannot entirely sacrifice yourself on the altar of duty, that’s just my opinion of course, but i think a little selfishness is a good thing and creates balance.

let your other children help, siblings can be so good and it is good for them as people too!

good luck, keep fighting, be a squeaky wheel when you have the energy!

i empathise with you, heaps!

bluelibra
bluelibra

ah yes – did the deed and bit the bullet re: the gregarious gemini gentleman. He said he saw it coming, that my heart wasn’t quite in it. No relieving lack of drama. Sad day today but I know in my heart of hearts I did the right thing. Ta for your support FA & MM spesh.

LeoGroover
LeoGroover

Sorry no can do MM. I’ll be 1000 km from home that weekend and I’m a cancer venus so must have someone close to home. Go figure! or else he follows me home strewing frangipani petals and a soft pebble path to my door and dresses my flat up with candles and cooks a gorgeous meal of mud crab and champers etc etc..,. ha! dream on Libra mars or leo sun imagination.

LeoGroover
LeoGroover

I been there pluto break-up. It was devasting but enriching at the same time. Still best mates with the lovely Leo ex, Today,latest break up must be Uranian. Checked our compssites all good and deep but aquatiger boy is too ‘busy’. Sorry I sound bitter but I am and I have huge leonine pout that won’t go away till I go out with best listening non rightueous GF and get stupid drunk.

cheshire cap
cheshire cap

Poor you, LeoGroover but if he’s an Aqua, anything’s possible, ‘specially if you ignore the “space cadet”. Girlfriend’s are the best for stupid drunk and sympathy. Blessings

fallen angel
fallen angel

Possibly Sweetpea.. it was all during my All About Power Phase and was reading this drippingly power hungry book that had all sorts of war strategy in it.. not that I was taking it THAT seriously but yes, could be him.

fallen angel
fallen angel

Soz but I cannot for my wings, recall his name.

venus a-go-go
venus a-go-go

To have an escape clause would like be only half loving to me. I don’t think I could do that really…

fallen angel
fallen angel

Oh, no I didn’t mean it that way soz … it’s more establishing what is or isn’t acceptable terms if things should end together, i.e. let’s be honest/fair/etc if one of us don’t want to continue on. So it is really something the couple discusses as part of taking into account that for one reason or another, the relationship may end… vs someone plotting how to get out from the start.

In that situation, I’d agree with you completely. Having one eye at the door means you were never really fully there in the first place.

Sweetpea
Sweetpea

General Patton FA?

Not sure, but he came to mind earlier when I was reading the Cap Moon-Saturn stream…

fallen angel
fallen angel

As a divorcee, I swear by the five F’s. Specially, the last one, that’s a BIG one motivationally – and well, let’s hope in reality as well.

I’m sure its been said in at least 30 different languages, but break ups are just never easy. I’m actually wondering if they would be if people figured out their “escape clause” from the get go…understand I am taking this from some famous general who said he almost always won the battle, if he knew how he could lose it gracefully and with the least collateral as possible.