Baggage Or Luggage…?

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Changing of the guards, seismic shifts & new eras et al — Saturn Direct, Pluto getting into the groove of Cap and the question is this – do you have baggage?

Do you have baggage? Do you have NO baggage? Or do you have LUGGAGE – my idea is that luggage is luxe & loaded elegantly with your wisdom & light, whatever you need…

BTW:  I made a typo ages ago on the weekly scopes for the Australian newspaper and i got a very polite query back. “We are wondering if you intended to file the copy ’embrace seismic shits’ because, if so, we are probably unable to go to press with it ‘as is’, you understand. ”

Baggage – battered & a burden, like someone lugging around haunted and yet apparently talismanic toys on a trip she did not want to go on.

Luggage – sleek & appropriate, what’s needed & desirable for the journey that life is; the amazing things you acquire…

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Jennifer
Jennifer

I have tons of emotional baggage, not kid-related. Yes, I’m in therapy. It’ll take me another 17 years to get rid of it, mind you.

I almost dated a guy (see below) who apologized up the wazoo to me about having “baggage.” Wanna know what his was? He dated one crazy girl who wanted to get knocked up by him, but didn’t. I already knew this was a goner when I thought, “OH, that’s NOTHING.”

You guessed it, he pre-emptively dumped me before the date for having baggage. I say it was no loss.

Link
Link

I’ve embraced enough seismic shits to last me a laughtime. I really wish they had printed that.

aquaquaqua
aquaquaqua

wow, how fantastic, i wasnt expecting this post to suddenly be about single parents, me too, im a single mum. i have a little boy of twenty months. ive never had him refered to as baggage id go bloody nuts. weve been by ourselves pretty much since he was born as well. ive been on some dates and did all that mental babysitter thing and actually just seem to have dynamited something to oblivion today which actually looked quite promising but wasnt really, i was deluded. so yes, my baggage is almost worth hiring some elephants to carry, and yes… Read more »

Gemini rising Gemini
Gemini rising Gemini

I LOVE IT!! So apt! I always like to think of relationships as ways to learn and grow, but that doesn’t mean holding on to everything you’ve experienced… ie baggage conjures up images of a horse loaded down with bags, they’re untidy, hanging off the saddle and there are lots of them. The whiny person who can’t seem to stop talking about how badly their ex treated them and they broke up 3 years ago. Luggage, on the other hand, gives you a sense of smugness, as in – i’ve only packed what’s needed! More the person who sums up… Read more »

crabguts
crabguts

I think that any man who considers my boys to be “baggage”, is really only interested in finding somebody to carry theirs!

Watery Libran
Watery Libran

Amen to that 🙂

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

Am embracing ‘sleep’ as the ultimate Luxe…..seriously. Being prone to operating on nervous energy, this new discovery’s heaven! Lots of sleep & movie length dreams’ve kept me busy day & night – recently dreams WERE fairly telling – movie length sagas of constantly packing/repacking too much luggage, & not fitting everything in or finding essential / treasured items (in Sweden of all places), all recalled in meticulous detail. Or at Italian airport & successfully talking way thru check-in to obtain boarding pass sans ticket, excuse was packed ticket into already checked luggage (??) it was a dream remember….then winding thru… Read more »

Watery Libran
Watery Libran

Luggage every time.

On the ‘kids as baggage’ theme I was told long ago when I first left my ex and my boys were quite young that I’d have a hard time meeting another man being the single mother of sons because “men look at boys and all they see is the father” I’ve never quite been able to work that one out – other than my first thought that if that’s what a man sees, then he is not the man for me

mons
mons

I’ve just added Taurean alchemist’s site to my favourites so I can look at it when I’ve got more time. I’m about to head to work. The baggage remark is insensitive but I’ve never really paid much attention to it until recently, probably because i’ve heard it said so often. I’m sure most of the people who say it don’t mean any harm but jeez it’s not nice. Thank you all for your support :-).

davidl
davidl

Hi mons, when I met my wife she had a beautiful 18 month old girl. She’s now my beautiful 12 year old. I considered her the opposite of baggage. She was and is my most precious, even after having a couple of boys together. We love it when people say ” your really look like your dad”. Males need to realise that by putting extra energy and thought into these relationships the kind of love you get back is so special. It was difficult in the beginning , especially being told by a 2 year old to “go home” with… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

it’s hard enough when adults don’t like you, but grief from a little bubba really stings! I think that is a great story … good to hear other people’s positive experiences …

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

aaaaw, how lovely that you wrote her a letter 🙂

postmodscorp
postmodscorp

My dad fell in love with my mum when I was a year old, he and I never say step-dad or step-daughter, altho many around us do. He’s my day to day dad. I am lucky in that my mum and birth-father maintained a relationship as well, so I have 2 dads. And thats how I introduce them. They are my dads. And they have a wonderful relationship with each other. After 29 years, the family unit we have is unique, wonderful, and inclusive. No baggage here, personally its all nifty avante-garde designer one-of-a-kind luggage!

mons
mons

I’m starting to see that I have luggage rather than baggage. It’s more about me appraising what I have and re-labelling it if that makes sense. One example is my lovely little daughter. I’ve been a single mum basically since the day she was born and for 3 years I’ve had well-meaning family and friends (and awful boyfriends) tell me that it’ll be hard to meet someone else because I come with baggage (ie my daughter). Well I’ve decided that my daughter is definitely not baggage. She is the sweetest little blinged up pink Guess handbag that comes everywhere with… Read more »

gem le taureau
gem le taureau

TOTALLY YAY YOU Mons! Baggage my arse. She is a first class, sweet, blinged up pink Guess handbag and then some. Tell ’em to piss off. Go you!

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

My God mons, that baggage remark is so insensitive and such ROT!

Did you know the Taurean alchemist (above) is a single Mum too? Of five! Her site is a celebration of motherhood.

I’d go further and say that your little one is diamond encrusted Chanel. With bows.

gem le taureau
gem le taureau

Even the insinuation that she is less than the most perfect Universe/God/Goddess/Deity of choice given gift is horrid. Bloody bugger them. They don’t deserve her. Power to you princess.

The Leo Socialite
The Leo Socialite

And so is Mystic! And so am I now. And so was Demi Moore when she met Ashton Kutcher at a party and he chose her over all the younger women there to talk to etc. And she said something – i read this in vanity fair a while ago – about how she came with like a whole airport luggage loaders worth of baggage & he thought it was funny. Also younger men are a lot less caring of this sort of thing. Stop dating old farts – they are the ones with the baggage, of fuqed sexist boring… Read more »

prowlncat
prowlncat

“Stop dating old farts – they are the ones with the baggage, of fuqed sexist boring out-dated crap assumptions.”

YEEEEEEEEEEEAAH!!! I’m so putting that on my to-do list!

Leo Princess
Leo Princess

Couldn’t agree more, Leo Socialite. I am especially noticing the out-dated crap assumptions surfacing in our house, as my Taurus husband starts becoming his father. He doesn’t like to be challenged about it, either, but I won’t stand for it.

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

mons! Good for you on this one!! I’ve heard the same from SO many single Mamas – and I hear it all the time myself. I challenge you to ask people what they mean by labelling a child as ‘baggage’! I’ve always done so, and it helps to shift the zeitgeist just a little if we can get just one ‘well meaning’ friend or relative (or awful boyfriend) to start to see that children are an absolute blessing and enrich our lives – that ‘single’ motherhood is more than an unfortunate state and that its an IMPORTANT thing we do.… Read more »

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

oh, and I should add to ‘they enrich our lives’ that they also enrich our relationships. Any guy that comes into your life has to be WORTHY of YOU and must see that he is the luckiest guy on earth to have been so lucky to have found you and your little girl.

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

I agree, the ‘baggage’ call is quite mean. i’m on the other side there…and possibly in the minority of blog posters here. I have been seeing someone for quite a while who has a small child. I am very happy for him + his kid that his child is no. 1 to him; I would prefer that to him being a dropkick dad who didn’t care about his child. He’s a good kid but being an exuberant pre-schooler only child, not easy at all for someone like me who hasn’t every really spent a lot of time with children and… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

can i add a clarification here so people don’t think i’m evil. Part of the issue for me is mobility. I think as a result of my man’s circumstances he is tied to one location. I have plans to move round a LOT so it really puts the relationship in a tight spot. we love each other so it’s just a bit painful at the moment. also i have to agree with leo socialite, younger guys are much cooler and less wierd about their partner having kids than the old crusty blokes (read: over 33ish)! I’m a bit worried i’m… Read more »

scorpalicious robot
scorpalicious robot

i don’t think you’re a grinch at all. I would prolly feel the same in your situation

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

thanks doll x

fallen angel
fallen angel

UP, you don’t come across evil at all, at least if you do, is more sexy evil than dr. evil! And you’re only voicing what are real challenges presented by your relationship, and we all have them. With or without the children. Though I understand your concern since it is normally assumed of women to be maternal vs just being. But as far as not being a priority, well…I get that in terms of how it breaks down in real terms of time, money, mobility and attention, of course, the child would come first if he’s any kind of decent… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

thanks guys, i really appreciate your comments and insight (and FA I’m glad i don’t seem like the wrong kind of evil!). you’re a very reasonable bunch! Everything helps, I learn a lot form hearing how other people approach these situations. There’s no expectations from him, and we’re working through things. He’s still re-establishing his relationship with his child after his breakup a few years ago so there’s a lot of things to consider. what’s life without some complications!

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

that thank you note was meant to be at the bottom cos i meant it for the rest of the gang below this comment too!

davidl
davidl

I think its really hard to be the ‘other’ mum as opposed to the other Dad. In my situation the original sperm donor (thats how i refer to him) had pissed off, unable to deal with it. That was good for me, no comparisons, disagreements with the other dad, etc. I know how you feel UP, its bloody hard, and takes a lot of maturity. My tip is, be yourself, diplomatic, but yourself. Express your doubts and true feelings, its the only way to get to the bottom of the issue. What happened with us was that when our next… Read more »

xox rockstar libran publicist xox
xox rockstar libran publicist xox

similarly to David L, close gfrnd FINALLY severed 7 year non functional relationship whilst in early stages of 1st pregnancy, & bloomed. Literally. She hooked up with her current partner (now husband) at 7 months preggers…..their union now sealed by a sibling of their own. She went from out of control wildest child to inspirational mother with soul mate whom adores her.

Imagine that – meeting your ultimate partner 7 months in bloom with another’s child!!

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

I love these stories that say ‘up yours’ to the naysayers.

And go UP! I think you’re being very real. Real is my favourite colour.

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

yeah UP, I can’t see you as a grinch or the evil stepmother either… I commend you actually – for your honesty and bravery. I don’t think I would feel any differently – of course I love my own kids but I don’t always love the children of my friends. I mean I LOVE them in a general sense but I don’t always feel a connection or rapport with them. I’ve also never dated a man with a child, but I have spent many long hours listening to a dear friend who was having a hard time getting her head… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

🙂

fallen angel
fallen angel

Mons, how odd is this? I was flipping through The Week and ran across this article about a 40 yr old mum with 4 kids who had basically given up on being with anyone, I can’t for the life of me recall her name but she was a journalist and met the love of her life on an interview. And he was married at the time! On the same page was an article about the Central Park Jogger who was beaten then raped 25 yrs ago and has finally been identified, she’s now married, healing and happy. Somehow, sitting there… Read more »

unpredictable pisces
unpredictable pisces

i think some of mine got lost in transit. i would like to start trading in the other bits at the end of each journey, like a book exchange in thailand before you fly out….

pegasus
pegasus

Heard a saying once that if everyone put down their baggage for an opportunity to choose
someone elses, they would still pick up their own again.

Alchemist, my dream last night was just the opposite, i got severley dumped by the most
handsome man i was having an affair with, was trying to pack to go with him (if you leave me can i come too?) a definate NO, you can’t. Yikes.
That’s my current fear of loss of work & changes in status quo working thro’ my subconcious.

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

so true Pegasus – we mortals are very attached to our stories and our personal mythologies…

so sorry about your dream – that is the kind of dream I had the night before last (about CUB tho) and it provided a catalyst of sorts for yesterday’s resolution-making.

plutonicfemme
plutonicfemme

am trying to travel ala mascara and that’s about it. It’s a challenge, – i have interesting baggage in an ex who seems to have taken up residence in my street – but all the more motivation! (i tell myself).

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

only carry-on Mystic, I’m travelling light! It does feel as if a burden has been lifted since Saturn Direct and Venus out of Shadow (the shadow zone began at my natal Venus – which was Stationary Direct at the mo of my birth anyway – how spooky). I am out of the Victim mode I’d been feeling since CUB confessed about the impending offspring. And last night I dreamed I was trying on wedding dresses! Then I was kissing this amazing looking guy (a bit Native American Indian looking) and loving it. Today I have woken up feeling a fresh… Read more »

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

actually, LOL, I just realised I have a brand new bag as of yesterday. a large black leather tote with really BIG pockets inside and out – when the girls asked me where I got it from I looked at the label and said ‘Fossil’ – isn’t that all just so Saturn??

Über Virgo
Über Virgo

Of course you have a career, magic mutable mama! Or didn’t you think mother/alchemist/artist/writer/bibliomancer/divine divinationer(?) etc. was enough of one? And now you have a nice new briefcase to stick it all in.

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

aw Uber, I love you hunny xx

gem le taureau
gem le taureau

You need a word for the transformation of baggage to luggage. If my brain was less preoccupied with wild hypochondriacal mump symptom imaginings I would try and nut one out.

Feel like Saturn ret. has transformed my baggage to luggage. Have moved from overstuffed tatty backpack which I dragged to all corners of the globe to sleek overnight bag with pretty makeup and nice dresses in it. Metaphorically AND literally.

taurean alchemist
taurean alchemist

I think that would have to be ‘transfiguration’ gem le taureau – it has a kinda travelling feel to it, non?

gem le taureau
gem le taureau

Mai oui. Avec Saturn as your passport. I like it.

plutonicfemme
plutonicfemme

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