I never thought of myself as all that Neptunian—it’s not really an energy or paradigm that I relate to. But as time goes on and my astro- and self-knowledge improves, I’m beginning to see that this is a planet that is critical to me, and I have no idea how to make nice with it.
Point of fact: My Venus is in Pisces (trining Jupiter) and I have a long history of infidelity. Like, all of it. Every single relationship I’ve been in, no matter how beautiful or strong they’ve been, have ended in me cheating on the person I’m with, and bang-on after a year and a half of being in it has elapsed. More recently I thought I had broken that cycle, as I’m extremely compatible the person I’m currently with and really don’t think I’ve felt a love like this before…however, my less than ideal nature has reared its ugly head again and I’m finding myself in the same situation.
Desperate to get a handle on it, I searched about “infidelity” on your site and came across your Mystic Infidelity post. I was skeptical about your assertion of a “cheating astrological signature” and then checked my chart; et voila, there’s Neptune fuqing my Venus, just 2 degrees off.
I’ve (consciously) denied the Neptunian in myself for long enough now. And in some beautiful twist of irony, Neptune just edges into my 12th house in Capricorn, and it literally does feel like my House (or Planet) of Undoing. I feel like Neptune is the source of all of my weaknesses, and I have just absolutely no idea how to work it.
I’m hoping to get some advice on how to do Haute Neptune in my chart and my life, and channel the energy into something productive that works with me instead of against me. I usually can’t help but wrinkle my nose at hippie/woo/”transcendental” stuff (my usual understanding of Neptune), but at this point I’m kind of willing to try anything.
Sincerely and with Love,
The Uranian Aries Pragmatist
My Dear Uranian Aries Pragmatist,
Are you referring to the Ten Astrological Styles Of Infidelity? If so, i think you just go with the Uranian style, right? You being an Aries and all? You know, you’re not an infidel or anything so dark ages – you are a polyamourist. An omni-sexual. Yes? No?
Or okay, remember that Venus-Neptune people and many Pisceans PREFER relationships that feel magical and spiritual, that involve an element of yearning and crushing without even a HINT of bickering in the IKEA carpark with a hangover or having to do some in-laws crap/explain expenditure on aura-enhancing lip gloss, whatever.
And then this frees up the person to do funky art and spiritual activity, be free and yet feel “in love.”
It could also be, as the eminent Jungian astrologer Liz Greene suggests in this genius essay, a kind of fuqed up repeat of some dynamic with your parents. Relationship triangles are an archetypal dimension of human life, she says. We do not ever fully escape them. We also tend to handle them rather badly when they enter our lives. That is understandable, because triangles are usually evocative of very painful emotions, regardless of the point of the triangle on which we find ourselves.
So go read THAT little bit of biz and Jung out.
Other ways to get your Neptune on – Meditation, a compassion practice a la charity or restructuring your life to be more kind to less powerful creatures, developing a spiritual consciousness and bliss vibe that does not rely upon a crush to activate, Yoga, especially Yin…Trying to gently rid your romantic vibe of Love Zombie, compulsive or addictive tones.
What does everyone else think?