Full Disclosure: I have Venus opposite Uranus. It took some growing into. We have discussed Mars-Neptune Men at length here, some would say ad nauseum lol. They tend toward the heart-breaking hot addict end of the spectrum, forever seeking the next high. His female equivalent is NOT Venus-Neptune (because she can be a bit Zombie if poorly expressed) but Venus-Uranus. Yes.
Venus-Uranus women can, at first examination, seem alarmingly Lilith-like but they’re not fueled by the pure rage that often drives our Lilith. They’re more indigo, detached and electric. They’re not fighters at heart. They’re free-wheeling forces of Uranian ingenuity.
Their everyday choices in mating, dating, parenting, beauty, food and way of being create a stir but it’s not deliberate.
It’s like some jetstream of zeitgeist that Ms Venus-Uranus leaves in her wake. Immune – if not directly disdainful of many a society standard – she sets out to do/be her own thing early in life. It’s not usually white picket fence territory.
Angelina Jolie is a Exhibit Numero Uno when it comes to contemporary Venus-Uranus women. She’s made a whole series of unconventional (before she made them more mainstream) choices, solo-adopting, solo-flying, solo subverting the cliche that Hollywood actors do ‘charity’ purely for show to become a fully fledged activist for the rights of women and children in the Third World. Liz Taylor championed the rights of AIDS victims well before it became de rigeur. Ditto Princess Diana. Both Venus-Uranian women.
Historically, hooker turned artist’s patron Lady Emma Hamilton (Venus-Uranus conjunct in Aries!) scandalized continents via her love affair with England’s saviour Lord Nelson and the menage a trois that followed. She railed against the hypocrisy that allowed men to take multiple mistresses, visit brothels but punished women who strayed outside the sanctuary of monogamy. Women of the time were listening.
Venus-Uranus women are more drawn to the sex industry than most, it’s partly their detachment, need for fast decent money to fund freedom initiatives and lack of conventional bourgeois values but one could also argue kink, no? They seem to resist any firm categorization or diminution of their rep through whatever they’re doing. Think: porn starlet/indie movie actress Sasha Grey, the notorious Mayflower Madame, Sydney Biddle Barrows, Heidi Fleiss and (admittedly less successfully) Linda Lovelace.
With a few sad, failed-rebel exceptions, they do whatever the fuq they want and their choices inspire others to live their truth.
Anais Nin and her searingly honest writing on the psyche, sex, love, more sex etc was a game-changer. Not to mention the fact that she hit on the genius idea of writing erotic fiction to fund her more literary endeavors. Angelina has inspired thousands to be more free souls, Susan Sarandon (Venus quincunx Uranus) is like the Poster Woman for do-as-thou-wilt feminine Awesome. Ditto Ellen Degeneres. Quietly, urbanely and always with humor, she’s turned on a whole audience to the simple ideals of veganism, marriage equality and so on.
Are Venus-Uranus women as dodgy as Mars-Neptune men? Maybe to the people who love them. With this aspect comes a strong desire for true connection and electric rapport, charisma that flickers on and off depending on the company + a genuine adoration of solitude. Genuine feminine independence is threatening to many a person and it’s at the heart of Ms Venus-Uranus.